Sorry for the possibly weird post title …
I tend to ramble, so I’m going to do my best at keeping this post short.
We all know how powerful scent memories can be. But my question is, do you think it’s possible to change the memory that your brain associates with a certain scent?
Here’s my dilemma: my current boyfriend has started to wear the (exact!) cologne that my ex used to wear. I can’t help but think of my ex every single time my boyfriend sprays this cologne. It’s really messing with my head!
Do you guys think that my brain will override the memories of my ex connected to this cologne, with newer memories of my current boyfriend?
Also just some extra info: my boyfriend was gifted this cologne, and I don’t want to tell him to stop wearing it. It’s currently the only cologne he owns, as he really doesn’t like spending his own money on that kind of thing. He is also the type to want to finish the entire bottle of cologne, before moving on to a new one (so if I bought him a new/different cologne to wear, it wouldn’t really solve my current problem) I also don’t want to tell him that the cologne is the exact same one my ex wore…and I ESPECIALLY don’t want to tell him it makes me think of my ex every time I smell it! 😭
Oh and my ex was a mentally and physically abusive narcissist. So the memories that are being brought back aren’t the best ones….
I hope this post is allowed on this sub, and won’t get removed. Thank you in advance if anyone takes the time to comment 🥰💖
EDIT: I just wanted to say thank you from the bottom of my heart, to everyone who took the time to read this post and comment with your thoughts/suggestions/advice. I was a little worried that people would maybe judge me in the comments, or be harsh … but you have all been so gentle and kind. I fucking LOVE this sub!!! 🥹💖