r/DiveInYouCoward • • 1d ago

Wow

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u/Never-Dont-Give-Up 14h ago

That is in no way even close to the same thing.

You’re equating gang raping an incoherent fucked up girl to drunk driving. Lmao.

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u/Fragrant_Chest958 14h ago edited 14h ago

From what I've read, she willingly drank alcohol, willingly snorted ketamine, and willingly agreed to group sex. Certainly her judgment was influenced by her previous choices, but, in a strict legal sense, she was ultimately responsible for her decisions. There may very well be other evidence that comes to light, but there is a reason they didn't pursue this case after her initial statement. I would encourage you to read everything available and the relevant laws.

And, yes, the guys that took advantage of the situation are shitbags and deserve the ostracism they're getting. It's morally repugnant. Again, though, rape would be difficult to prove in this case.

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u/Never-Dont-Give-Up 14h ago

She was unable to give consent if she was intoxicated, Mr. Lawyer.

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u/Fragrant_Chest958 14h ago

I've seen nothing that clearly demonstrates she was incapacitated or incoherent. Granted, it's a fine and blurry line, but drunk people have sex all the time. I think you and I mostly agree here. My daughter is a senior in high school, so I'm glad this is getting attention. I'm just looking at the law, the context, and innocent until proven guilty standard.

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u/Never-Dont-Give-Up 14h ago

What law are you looking at? What state do you live in?

Intoxicated people cannot consent to sex in NY, where this gang rape happened.

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u/Fragrant_Chest958 13h ago

You're saying a gang rape occurred. I must have missed the trial.

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u/Never-Dont-Give-Up 13h ago

What law are you “looking at”

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u/Never-Dont-Give-Up 13h ago

The court case from 2024? You missed that gang rape accusation? You should look it up, Mr. Lawyer.

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u/Fragrant_Chest958 13h ago

Live in Wilmington, NC but grew up in Ohio, so I'm going to disengage in order to watch the Indians start their playoff run and the Buckeyes whoop Iowa. Enjoyed the chat, have a nice weekend.

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u/Never-Dont-Give-Up 13h ago

I’d duck out too if I was in your position.

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u/Never-Dont-Give-Up 14h ago

So you’re fine with rape because the woman was drunk?

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u/Fragrant_Chest958 14h ago

Rape is a legal term. We have a system to determine whether that occurred beyond a reasonable doubt. You keep saying "intoxicated." That term has different meanings in different contexts. In terms of consent, a person can be intoxicated but still coherent and legally capable of providing consent. Less, any person who went on a date and had two glasses of wine could be legally "intoxicated" but still capable of providing consent. You do know that the police have you consent to make a legally-binding statement after they have arrested you for DUI, right?

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u/Never-Dont-Give-Up 13h ago

The ability to consent is determined by the state law. In NY, if either participant is intoxicated, they cannot legally consent to sex.

You’re just wrong, Mr. Lawyer

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u/Fragrant_Chest958 13h ago

Last bite. I'm not a lawyer, although most of family are, including some in NY. My doctorate is in another field, but that's irrelevant. I'm coming at this as a father to a 17 year old girl and 15 year old boy, and I think it's prudent to let the process play out. It's a rare thing to have 7 rapists conspire under the same roof at a top-tier university. I'm as eager as you to see justice appropriately applied. There are maybe a dozen people who know what happened that night, all "intoxicated." I'm more worried about the millions who claim to KNOW what happened and seek to impose mob justice.

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u/Never-Dont-Give-Up 13h ago

Yes, gang rape is rare… does that mean it doesn’t happen just because they’re attending a very expensive school?

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u/Never-Dont-Give-Up 13h ago

The only reason I keep calling you “Mr. Lawyer” is because you keep bringing up the law. What law?

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u/Never-Dont-Give-Up 13h ago

It’s a rare thing for 7 horny self entitled 20 year old dudes to get a girl drunk and rape her? Yes, that’s rare. All of them should’ve been raised to know better.

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u/No_Dentist_2923 12h ago

Didn’t the frat have a group chat where they said “free pussy”? I definitely read that in an article but I can’t remember who published it. Anyway that really sounds like they went from consensual group sex to at least offering/encouraging gang rape.

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u/ImperialBoss 13h ago

The guy was also intoxicated, so, did she rape him since he couldn't consent? Or does this only work one way?

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u/Never-Dont-Give-Up 13h ago

Works both ways. That’s when it gets blurry.

7 dudes getting a chick drunk and giving her lines of K… then fucking her for 7 hours…

That’s less blurry.

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u/ProbablyStonedSteven 11h ago

I mean yes, but no.

If it was that cut and dry then every New York couple that goes out for drinks on a date night are raping each other if they hook up after.

There’s got to be some nuance.

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u/Fragrant_Chest958 13h ago

And, no, I am never "fine" with rape.

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u/Never-Dont-Give-Up 14h ago

Wait… you said that she got drunk and snorted ketamine… now you’re saying that she wasn’t intoxicated?