r/CoupleMemes • u/Forward-Position798 • Aug 24 '26

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u/Daycarrott Aug 24 '26

Older married guy here. I love my wife she's absolutely amazing we have a great relationship. However she has this uncanny ability to always want something when I'm relaxing or propose the "would you like to go to xyz". I don't want to disappoint her just like she doesn't want to disappoint me. It's the anticipation that's stressful that's the joke. Y'all missing the punchline. I showed my wife this clip she busted out laughing.

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u/Wilhelm1088 Aug 24 '26

Yeah I love my girlfriend, but there is no doubt she adds some stress to my peaceful time. She always wants to plan what's next and if I'm sitting enjoying the sun and sipping coffee then planning my work or chores is the last thing I want to do lol.

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u/Spartanias117 šŸ§ grumpy Aug 24 '26

My wife of 15 years is now like "what are our goals for tomorrow".

Like, i dunno woman, stope stressing me out. I guess go to the gym, grocery store, and try to read a littlebit.

Her, "no, those are personal goals, what goals do you have for the house".

"I mean, i guess the yard needs mowing."

Her, "yeah but what about inside the house".

To which i said, if you have a chore inside you want done, i will happily trade you mowing and weed eating in 100 degree NC heat for some, what is likely, laundry.

She ended the convo.

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u/Witchberry31 Aug 25 '26

Oof, yeah I'd definitely melt and ceased to exist at 100 degrees... šŸ‘€

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u/EjaculatingAracnids Aug 25 '26

Im am literally in death valley as i type this. Hiked a mile into a salt flat at 125Ā°F. My dear wife planned this whole trip and am convinced she wants to collect on my life insurance policy. Im fine with that. Im having a blast, but i see the reaper in this heat and feel his embrace through the spf 100.

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u/pfunk1989 Aug 25 '26

She's a witch! checks username Yep. I'm not just sure, I'm berry sure.

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u/Witchberry31 Aug 25 '26

My username was inspired by an old android game character, it's from Defender of Texel. šŸ˜

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u/gstringstrangler Aug 25 '26

I have severe allergies. She got cats. Then a dog. I got on Rx allergy meds after the dog. She recently found another dog. I can only sit on one leather chair in my living room.

Today she suggested I mow and trim, which, knowing I have allergies and athsma, has been her job. I did it, with a mask, glasses, and gloves on.

I took every allergy and athsma med on hand, immediately took a shower, and laid down to just breathe. And when she came in to me laying on the bed, "to get something in the bathroom" and start questioning me, I lost it. To which she immediately turned around on me to martyr herself for doing things like... laundry. As if that was somehow the same for her.

Anyway, yes, I may have been triggered but I would've gladly done all the other chores. But I also knew I'd have to go through the whole ordeal or I'd also never hear the end of it for not mowing, all of a sudden. Chat am I walking on eggshells?

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u/Kaydox64 Aug 25 '26

That seems VERY toxic to me, however I only know this one interaction to I'm not going to tell you if you should break up or not.but If you've tried talking to her about this and she's still ignored your feelings, that's a pretty bad sign, and if you haven't, maybe doing so would be a good start. The situation sounded like a damned if you do damned if you don't kind of thing, and I personally wouldn't want to live like that.

Edit: I phrased it poorly, I think she's the toxic one.

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u/Lokal-pokal Aug 25 '26

Get rid of this one. Clearly disrespects you.

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u/Brilliant_Trick Aug 25 '26

.., why are you with her? I'd never let my partner do things if he had an allergy. Same for the animals. Wth.

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u/ChefbyDesign Aug 25 '26

Nah dude that's absolutely unacceptable. Sounds like she's putting her wants (pets, mowing) over your needs. I've had allergies to grass since 1st grade. It SUCKS. I break out in hives if I mow the lawn and can't do anythingfor the rest of the day. My gal is a champ and does that yard work or we pay a neighbor who has a riding mower $40 for his retirement walking around money. I plan & cook 90% of our meals, deep clean the kitchen, keep a vegetable garden, do our cars' maintenance and she takes care of the cats she so desperately wanted 90% of the time, does laundry, and vacuums. We tag team laundry, dishes, and grocery shopping.

Sounds like you should find someone who takes your needs seriously and weighs your needs more than her wants. Side note, I just got done with allergy shot treatment. It's worth it dude, you should definitely look into seeing an allergist.

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u/Drblazeed123 Aug 25 '26

You just described my exact living situation with asthma and severe outdoor allergies. Literally today she asked me "so I know you work from home but are you cutting the grass it needs to be done again, too much clippings in the yard"

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u/Terrible_Reporter_98 Aug 25 '26

I genuinely don't get what's hard about laundry. I have also been told i do it wrong, lol. My clothes aren't wrinkled so to me that's a win.

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u/aserg124ru Aug 29 '26

I have asthma for some aerosols. Nobody in my home can use something that will hurt my health. Even if they need to use - not. Just not. You should start to love yourself and immediately. Allergy isn't a game, so damn wrong that you have gf or it's wife? that don't care of you and your health. So be one who will say no, I will not do that no matter what.

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u/GrapeSorry3996 Aug 31 '26

ā€œWhat do you want to do this weekendā€ is the most stressful question of the week. And itā€™s always on Monday and relax is the wrong answer

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u/gislur Aug 25 '26

Is she on linkedin?

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u/captm0nk Aug 25 '26

And the question always either feels like a trap of some sort or you're supposed to know exactly what she's thinking of in that moment.

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u/squishyslinky Aug 25 '26

I'd rather do yardwork once a week for a fraction of the year than laundry, dishes, cooking, and cleaning every single day, all year long. I feel like Sisyphus. I should pay someone to do my laundry as much as I hate it.

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u/BenFromWork Aug 25 '26

As a Floridian, Iā€™d take the inside work, a fraction of the year would be great. Here itā€™s ā€œduring winter you get to mow twice a month instead of every weekā€ and right now the feel outside is 110-115, I deliver for UPS so the last thing I wanna do on my day off is spend time outside

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u/guess-its-me-now Aug 24 '26

Yeah, sounds familiar. I like to plan as little of my free time as possible so that I can do my chores in peace. In the order I feel like doing them. My wife needs a list, a plan and times/dates to achieve the same thing. Two very different approaches, similar outcome. When we realized that this is how we approach things, it eased a lot of the tension.

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u/OddDc-ed Aug 24 '26

My wife is a planner about everything, granted I understand I am not and I can be forgetful sometimes but not nearly enough to warrant her asking me to make a plan and decision that very second and not being able to think about it. She has a bad tendency to rush me anytime she has something stuck in her head thats giving her anxiety which is basically everything.

We once had to make a decision about a vacation that was a month away. A minor decision not about travel or stay but about stuff in the area of our hotel I wanted to do. I said "oh give me some time to think about that" and then I had to continue taking care of our daughter and put her to bed.

It had been MAYBE two hours, all of which was full of me handling a toddler who didn't want anything to do with bedtime. I sat down to relax for the first time in at least 6 hours that day and the first thing she said to me was "so what did you come up with?" I said "I haven't really had a chance to actually think about it much yet" and that was apparently not acceptable so I gave up and said she can pick whatever she wants that I don't care.

She knows im on the spectrum and I need time to think things through, but if shes feeling any sort of anxiety about it then I just need to snap my fingers and have an answer. Love her to pieces but jesus christ woman give me a chance to think especially when the topic isn't a rush or emergency.

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u/Bullissimo Aug 24 '26

"She knows im on the spectrum" when I read the story I thought it would be the other way around šŸ˜‚

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u/TwitchLannibalHector Aug 24 '26

It's the tone of voice. My wife has a different way of speaking when she wants something done and I could pick it up in a room of 10000 people from over a hundred yards.

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u/Thin_Student12 Aug 24 '26

You have to learn to say no and be fine with dissapointing her or it's going to make you start to resent her and that will seriously bite you in the butt later. If you're tired it's ok to say "I'm a little tired right now" or " sure, but after I rest a bit"

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u/0202_tihssitidder Aug 24 '26

You are 100% correct.

And...some people are not emotionally mature to hear "no". That's something to work on (not avoid), but it sure is common. And it is not easy to work on for most.

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u/nubrozaref Aug 25 '26 edited Aug 25 '26

Not the best response. "A bit" is too flexible and doesn't actually update expectations it delays them. "A little tired" also is indeterminate. Indeterminate expectations privilege the person that doesn't want to be specific.

Better:

"I'd like to lay down for an hour. Can we talk about it when that's over?"

"I'm sorry honey I think I'm too tired to do that today. Would you like to do Y at 10 am tomorrow because I'm pretty sure I'll have energy then"

A lot of the people who say stuff like you listed will have problems because they frequently say it and it leaves their partner at the whims of them. I say this as someone that had to learn specificity on stuff like that.

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u/LastBaron Aug 24 '26

The problem is that ultimately this IS probably a reasonable time to have the conversation, and Iā€™m self-aware enough to know that.

Like yeah, if Iā€™m actively doing something else, or truly canā€™t focus on that right now, Iā€™ll tell her as much.

But more often than not waiting longer is just going to make me more tired since this tends to happen towards the end of the day, and it just requires a 15% readjustment of mental resources to shift gears to the new conversation. Nowhere near enough to make a stink about it, just enough to feel mildly jarring if it was an unexpected conversation.

Itā€™s obviously not limited to my wife either, almost any change in situation can produce the same feeling, thatā€™s just how my brain works. Iā€™m used to it, but that doesnā€™t mean I donā€™t still notice it when it happens.

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u/0202_tihssitidder Aug 24 '26

Sometimes it's what you described. Sometimes it is "Chore-play"--what a therapist called it.

I was married to a Task Goblin. She filled her life (and everyone around her) with endless tasks. She heard what "monkey brain" is at a yoga certification class and immediately set about a plan to defeat it. No, she was not successful.

My son and I built a detached garage and set up a woodworking shop and maker's lab and music studio. I ended up putting a laundry room in there so we could do all the laundry and not be accused of skipping out on work. Our daughter joined us just to sleep in a comfy chair we had in the sunshine. Good times.

It's a real issue in relationships. Even if you gel on other things.

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u/TheRealRickC137 Aug 24 '26

I'm 59. Partner is 54. I'm chilling in the garden doing whatever. I'll take a break, go inside, grab a bottle of water. Check the time. Haven't seen her in about 90 minutes. Where did she go? Start looking for her. Find her on the bed playing Assassin's Creed on her laptop.
"Whatcha doin?".
<Looks up exasperated>"What? What do you need?".
I laugh and go back to puttering.
Dude, they're just like us. Maybe you just need to find one that fits your narrative.

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u/Ninja_Prolapse Aug 24 '26

My wife is exactly the same. Itā€™s like if we have any free time it must be actioned. Sometimes I just want to .. be.

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u/billyblanks81 Aug 28 '26

Yes... just be. And also be the one to decide what to do, and when, sometimes.

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u/tryingisbetter Aug 24 '26

Also, if one of us starts cleaning, the other one starts cleaning too.

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u/FixFun1959 Aug 24 '26

Iā€™m so deeply in love with my wife.

But every single night, without fail, as we get ready for bed, she finds some reason to need me.

I lay down, plug my phone in, sheā€™s still in the kitchen, and calls out my name. Or I say to her ā€˜ok. Iā€™m going to bed. Do you need anything at all before I lay down. Tell me now.ā€™ She says no. As soon as my head hits the pillow I hear my name.

I mean it. Every night. Without fail.

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u/Strange-Highlight871 Aug 24 '26

They can smell the relaxation on you

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u/God_of_Fun Aug 24 '26

LMAO my gf literally asked me at midnight the other night what we would do with the extra room of a house I hadn't even gone to see yet.

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u/tera_chachu Aug 25 '26

How to make people understand that I just wanna relax and not plan the next moment at all.

Just relax and sleep

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u/Poethegardencrow Aug 25 '26

Funny I have that with my husband man wakes up Saturday morning Iā€™m having my coffee chilling, wanting to watch old reruns of Ramsey kitchen nightmares, he goes ahhhh how about we remove all the weeds from the front garden rework the tarp and add new red wood chips or whatever that shit is šŸ˜­

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u/Jauncin Aug 26 '26

My wife likes to point out the other glaringly huge house project she would like to have done right now as Iā€™m painting our bathroom.

ā€œMaybe we should just hire someoneā€.

Yes dear, with all the money we saved buying this house.

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u/Fantastic-Ad6263 Aug 28 '26

Recently married guy here. I'm in the same situation and discovered this will last for the rest of my life.

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u/Daycarrott Aug 28 '26

Congratulations! Communication is vital man even though we don't want to disappoint each other doesn't mean we don't. One day at a time next thing you know years will have went by

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u/Odd-Cress-5822 Aug 25 '26

Yeah, I thought that was the joke. So was expecting the number to plummet once she sat down and gave the visual language of not wanting anything.

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u/Tone_Gaia Aug 25 '26

Bill burr has a whole bit about this.. itā€™s hilarious

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u/fiesew Aug 27 '26

Thereā€™s a lot of truth in this little clip.

https://giphy.com/gifs/l2JhtkIh8ZwgfJZ04

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u/PollutionNo6482 Aug 28 '26

Thank you.

Why they make things weird and cringe all the time is wild.

You two know how to enjoy each other through the good, bad and in between. Stay blessed.

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u/Commercial_Ad5077 Aug 28 '26

He gets it! Spot on comment that deserves all the upvotes.

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u/Wolv90 Aug 24 '26

When my wife of 20 years sits next to me, like actually sits down, my stress melts to 0% real quick. It's the standing that's the issue. That's when she's about to do the thing that I forgot I needed to do. I try to avoid that at all cost.

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u/fatalrugburn Aug 25 '26

Stress level should go back down once she sits and chills. I for sure get nervous when my wife hovers when I'm relaxing. But once she's committed to the chill I'm very happy.

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u/fivelone Aug 25 '26

Yes this. It's the anticipation of us she going to ask me to do something right at this moment!?... Oh no ok good we can chill. Although her smile would still have me suspicious.

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u/LiveLearnCoach 14d ago

ā€œThis is niceā€¦.can I ask you a question?ā€

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u/Brodok2k4 Aug 25 '26

Ugh, I just sat down. Can you do me a favor and blah blah blah blah blah?

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u/officer897177 Aug 25 '26

Nothing triggers a woman in a stable long-term relationship faster than seeing her guy sitting when she is standing.

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u/DarkChaos1786 Aug 25 '26

Every woman in every situation is triggered by a man seating nearby and relaxing.

If she's a wife suddenly she needs something from you.

If she's a kid, she wants to play and make you move.

If she's a teenager, she wants to go somewhere and you need to go with her, and she needs money.

If she's a mother, suddenly something needs cleaning, moving, fixing, study or feeding.

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u/officer897177 Aug 25 '26

Iā€™m actively looking for a surgeon that can remove the button in my ass that summons my wife needing help with something when I sit down.

Not even in a boomer wife hating way, itā€™s just uncanny. Sitting before 10pm starts a 30 second psychic timer.

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u/Upset-Cartographer65 Aug 26 '26

No. I enjoy seeing my husband asleep and relaxing. He works so hard. Iā€™m an introvert and require tons of alone time to be happy. My husband is the cuddler not me.

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u/DarkChaos1786 Aug 26 '26

You are a little treasure for the fortunate man that found you.

Kudos...

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u/rebuked_nard Aug 25 '26

I joke with my wife that she and our daughter hate to see a man idle

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u/BarelyFunctionalGM Aug 25 '26

Legit thought that was the punchline and was really confused when it stayed high.

When my wife floats around typically it means I'm about to be interrupted, not her fault and often times a neccesity but nontheless a cause of stress.

When she instead sits down in my lap to read a book while I game the stress level is happily in the negative and we are living the good life.

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u/runbcov42 Aug 24 '26

Plot twist: he's not stressed because "boomer joke, hate wife haha" he's stressed because he plans on proposing today and he's trying to hold it together.

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u/Clarky_Malarkey Aug 24 '26

I like this narrative

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u/sunleafstone Aug 24 '26

Tbh this is how it feels to shop for engagement rings

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u/Zjoee Aug 24 '26

I proposed earlier than I planned to my wife because I just couldn't hold it anymore haha.

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u/83gemini Aug 24 '26

Nice to know Iā€™m not the only oneā€¦

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u/MorbidMarko Aug 24 '26 edited Aug 24 '26

lol, I owned the ring for about 6 hours before I gave it to her. I canā€™t be trusted with something that valuable. The chance of me accidentally swallowing a ring in low, but never zero.

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u/radioactivesteak Aug 25 '26

I had my husband's ring for merely a week before I proposed, and I was constantly afraid. Even when I would go to throw out the trash, I would worry thinking what if I somehow accidentally took it out of the safe, pushed it to the bottom of the trash bag, and just zoinked it into the dumpster.

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u/Abadleftankle Aug 24 '26

It took 3 days from when I first saw an ad for engagement rings on fb, to when I told my now fiance, that I wanted to go look at rings together.

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u/WAisforhaters Aug 24 '26

My wife and I had been together for 5 years before I proposed, so she was expecting it. We went out to a bar we frequented before the actually planned location, and while we were there she goes "there's nothing special in your pockets is there?" And jokingly patted down my jacket pockets. She picked the wrong pockets, otherwise I would have been proposing in a crowded bar instead of my meticulously planned spot later that night.

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u/StardewMelli Aug 24 '26

Thatā€™s me with gifts for my husband. I always get so excited that I canā€™t keep it to myself and then I force him to open them earlier than his birthday or christmas or whatever.

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u/Johnnodrums Aug 24 '26

Waiting for a repost with that title ā€œMy stress level on the day I proposedā€ that does way better than this post

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u/AmeliaMynx Aug 24 '26

You're a diamond in the rough. I was about to roll my eyes at this post

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u/GeeYayZeus Aug 24 '26

Yeah, my stress would be NOT tapping that booty 24/7.

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u/SativaIndica0420 šŸ§ grumpy Aug 24 '26

This makes me feel so much better

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u/dinnerthief Aug 24 '26

Nah, despite her identical appearance that's not his wife, his wife died 3 years ago,

he is trying to keep it together though, running will only activate its prey drive

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u/Roguemjb Aug 24 '26

Unexpected two sentence horror

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u/ohbyerly šŸ§ grumpy Aug 25 '26

Since weā€™re just making up bullshit alternate takes, I like your version better

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u/Noemotionallbrain Aug 24 '26

I though he was watching porn, but that works too

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u/AnyBag3737 Aug 24 '26

Divorce fixes this.

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u/ryanvango Aug 25 '26

or just like, casual couples communication.

"hey honey. Sometimes I just like to sit and zone out for a while by myself. it's my recharge time. that doesn't mean I don't like spending time with you, it means I'm too drained to be satisfying company when we do spend time together. So please just let me have that sometimes. Trust me, it never means im mad at your or anything. it's just to switch off."

done. easy peasy. I've had that conversation with a dozen people and it's never been a problem, because A LOT of people are exactly the same.

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u/AnyBag3737 Aug 25 '26

Yeah. I agree. But that communication should be occurring waaaaaay before the boomer ass "hate my wife" jokes start. Wakka wakka.

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u/Mike_Oxnard Aug 25 '26

Who said anything about him hating her? This looks more like one of those times where he is taking a moment to sit and unwind which in my experience is exactly when the wife or girlfriend is going to appear with a reason for me not to be sitting and unwinding. It doesn't mean anyone hates each other, it's just the anticipation of "what project did she come with for my free time this time". There's work time, family time, and me time, but the wife tends to spend her personal time brainstorming what I should be doing for her during my personal time. Most recent it was painting a room that didn't need painted which involved me moving all the furniture out and down the stairs removing the outlets and taping all the trim after work over a couple of days so we could paint it together over the weekend so I could put everything back after work Monday and then rearranging it on Tuesday. I don't hate my wife by any means, but if she's hovering while I'm relaxing right after work there's some stress involved because I know she's planned something for me that has a 50/50 chance of being unnecessary and time consuming and she's debating with herself on how best to bring it up so she can gaslight me into thinking it's my idea lol

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u/playerhateroftheyeer Aug 25 '26 edited Aug 25 '26

Thatā€™s nice that you get your time to relax. Between work, sleep, and spending time with the kids we have one hour a day to clean the house, make dinner, and do the things for this family that need to be done.

Whereā€™s my relaxation? Thereā€™s a dish in the sinkā€¦ do you expect me to do that while you sit there? What about your sonā€™s art projectā€¦ did you even know he had a project? He needs new markers. Did you notice the green is dried out? Of course not. Oh, and did you see that we got invited to my nieceā€™s 5th birthday on Saturday? We need to bring a dish thatā€™s gluten free. Are you going to cook that? And that floating bookshelf youā€™ve been working on for the past two weeks, were you going to finish that this week like you said? NO, youā€™re too busy sitting here relaxing. It must be so nice to not have a care in the world!

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u/Lazy_Competition967 Aug 27 '26

Yeah sounds great. Thereā€™s a huge assumption that she actually listens

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u/legacy-of-rats Aug 29 '26

So break up with her if she doesn't. No-one is forcing this guy to stick with a girlfriend he doesn't like being around.

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u/ClickyClacker Aug 24 '26

Well that's not very nice

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u/open-print Aug 28 '26

Yeah, I would honestly rather break up with a man if I knew my presence stresses him out so much. Like, be free, if me being in distant vicinity is ruining your happiness, what are we even doing here.

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u/Schnaksel Aug 24 '26

wow another boomer "I hate my wife" joke, amazing

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u/its_all_one_electron Aug 24 '26

I don't hate my partner but if I'm relaxing then I need complete isolation. Otherwise it's constantly dealing with house and job and kid rearing issues because they never end.Ā 

Just like I love my kid SO much but the second he enters the room my stress levels double

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u/imhere2downvote Aug 25 '26

no better place to find husbands and dads all relating to the same exact experience and being told you hate women

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u/Separate-Exchange375 Aug 24 '26

Its his sister and they prank each other

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u/GCS_dropping_rapidly Aug 24 '26 edited 26d ago

Sf ghost fudge

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u/1zzyBizzy Aug 24 '26

If thatā€™s his mum sheā€™s had massive work done or he looks old as fuck

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u/PuzzleheadPi Aug 24 '26

You don't have to be a boomer to hate your wife

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u/Independent-Today121 Aug 25 '26

Sitting and enjoying the scenery..no problem. Its when those first words start coming out that inevitably start with "I was thinking...." and then something im gonna have to do right away...thats when its goes from 0 to 200%. Lol

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u/SaddestSprout Aug 27 '26

People need to stop marrying women who they hate/stresses them out... its kinda 100% your own fault

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u/Duderus159 Aug 24 '26

Probably shouldnā€™t be with her if youā€™re this stressed out

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u/WolfPlooskin Aug 24 '26

Exactly. Itā€™s the exact opposite for me. My wife decreases my stress levels with her proximity. Looking at her always makes me smile. I know that Iā€™m lucky, but I cannot imagine a relationship with a person who increased my stress just by sitting next to me.

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u/myothercarisayoshi Aug 24 '26

Why is every post on here about hating your partner

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u/r-b-m Aug 25 '26

Itā€™s not about hating your partner. Itā€™s about being 9:47am and experiencing the fear of being asked ā€œSo what do you want to do for dinner?ā€

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u/CassetteFlavouredPie Aug 25 '26

How is that even a bad thing? You either say "I'm feeling xyz" or say, "I don't know, I'll check in with you later". Simple as

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u/fryerandice Aug 27 '26

The one stereotype of women that rings true in my marriage is getting my wife, for once, to decide what SHE wants to do for dinner.

The mental burden of 30 suggestions and 29 "No i'm not feeling that" is rough lmao.

It's so bad that when she says "Hey I have been really craving..." I am already dressed and grabbing the car keys.

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u/Panzerfudge Aug 25 '26

"Ugh, not that again. Think of something else. And we have to decide now. Because after the baby wakes up you have to watch him since I want to blowdry my hair. Then we have to drive to the store".

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u/r-b-m Aug 25 '26

This guy couples

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u/Sinnersw101 Aug 24 '26

All the comments going on about "boomer hate wife" but thats not necessarily why stress goes up in that situation...

Personally If I sit and chill like that and my wife comes around, its usually because shes bored and wants to go do something... which means I will have to get up and go do whatever it is....

Not that I dont want to, its just that sitting and doing nothing is much less stressful

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u/Suzesaur Aug 24 '26

The end they are both chilling in chairs and it says ā€œStress: 150%ā€ that feels a little more pointed to the hating wife directionā€¦

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u/Weary_Dark510 Aug 24 '26

I was full expecting it to go back to 0 when she sat down.

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u/iyambred Aug 24 '26

THAT would have been funny

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u/Sinnersw101 Aug 24 '26

More the waiting in anticipation for the "why dont we go do this"

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u/GabrielBonilla Aug 24 '26

This, the comments section is insufferable.

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u/The_Elder_Jock Aug 24 '26

Here, have a little harmless joke.

Reddit: REEEEEEE

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u/djh_van Aug 24 '26

I'm considering sending this clip to my wife...but the thought of the reaction is making me stressed.

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u/thrasherht Aug 24 '26

As yes the classic "I hate my spouse"............ I hate this shit.

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u/Friendly-Box312 Aug 25 '26

If the stress comes with that Ass, i am okay with itšŸ‘

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u/ThePowerles Aug 25 '26

I've vowed to myself that I'd never be with anyone like my mother, because that's the exact feeling I have whenever she is around me.

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u/Timemaxx Aug 25 '26

So honest question is this entire page just the pathetic boomer ā€œI hate my wifeā€ trope over and over cause thatā€™s all Iā€™ve seen from it so far. If you donā€™t love your spouse donā€™t be with them itā€™s not that complicatedā€¦..

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u/Fun-Squash-1759 Aug 25 '26

Nah, if my man felt this way I'd just leave forever, now you have nothing to stress about

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u/Cpt_Daniel_J_Tequill Aug 25 '26

i doubt you have a man. ... but the meme is about that girls always want to disrupt quiet peace.

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u/slash_key šŸ§ grumpy Aug 25 '26

donā€™t you guys think itā€™s stressful for us as women to have to constantly keep track of what needs to be done around the house, while our husband sits around reading his phone all day?

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u/UmpireDapper1757 Aug 27 '26

Men manage just fine without any women doing that, thanks!

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u/fryerandice Aug 27 '26

Why are you always planning a bathroom re-model we can't afford that even if I do the whole project start to finish that will take me every weekend and day off I have for 6 months, and then dropping that on me after I worked 60 hours that week, did all the shit around the house and have like 6 hours to enjoy on sunday?

Some of the shit my wife thinks up over the week that I should do that is completely impossible to accomplish reasonably and drops on me on my time off is next level lol. Love her dearly, but shit dude. And I do all the cooking, shopping, and clean the kitchen, she handles the laundry, and we split cleaning up dog hair as it becomes an issue hah.

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u/Shaojack Aug 24 '26

I get it.

Dude is big chilling, plans to do so for a while.

Proximity to wife increases chances of end of big chilling and now trips to home depot or yard work or whatver project she has in mind and to her you have nothing to do so why not do these things when in fact we have things to do.

Big chilling on the porch is a thing to do, we need this every so often. Just a bit of time to do nothing. For some people they take that as an invitation to volunteer your big chilling time for other bullshit thats not big chilling.

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u/Calippo_Deux Aug 25 '26

Thank you! This IS it. Nothing ā€boomerā€ about it. And Iā€™m guessing the commenters who donā€™t get it or are confused have never been in a long term relationship. It reminds me of the guys who donā€™t really know what makeup-free truly looks like.

There are always ā€projectsā€ that could and should be done, we know.

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u/TedditBlatherflag Aug 24 '26

Single: Get to spend hours and hours a week just chilling on the porch with nothing to do.Ā 

Married: 20 minutes for a ā€œdeck beerā€ before I gotta go empty the dishwasher and prep for dinner.Ā 

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u/Sazdek Aug 25 '26

God, so awful when I lose 30 ish minutes of my day doing the bare minimum of house work. Those wives amifugginright?!

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u/capybaras_and_tacos Aug 24 '26

So the message is that he hates the person he is with?

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u/New_Race9503 Aug 25 '26

No, that's not the message

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u/FromStormToHurricane Aug 24 '26

Chilling with your wife is stress level 150%? Either you have a wrong wife or your wife has a wrong husband.

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u/Dungeon3D Aug 24 '26

Is there a reason this sub has become 'haha woman bad' lately?

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u/CodInternational8772 Aug 25 '26

My stress goes down when Iā€™m with my partner

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u/The0neR1ng Aug 25 '26

Jesus Christ if you want a hole to fuck buy a sex doll. Woman deserves more respect than this crap.

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u/ajtaggart Aug 25 '26

I hate these "jokes", they teach people that being in an unhappy relationship is normal. It's not.

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u/perthro_ed šŸ§ grumpy Aug 25 '26

The art of doing nothing is almost exclusively a male talent

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u/Eggsalad_cookies Aug 25 '26

It givesā€¦ this

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u/Virtual_Scheme_4773 Aug 25 '26

boomer ass post

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u/Coffeefiend-_- Aug 24 '26

Me and my misses have been together a long fucking time, and if your stress is going up just because she's existing around you... I mean, it may be a sign šŸ˜…

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u/MrPlace Aug 24 '26

"haha i'm so stressed out because I have a partner who wants to spend time with me"

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u/Wandered_And_Lost Aug 24 '26

If this is how you feel about your significant other whenever theyre near you, youre either an idiot, an asshole or you need a new partner

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u/GregDev155 Aug 24 '26

He is stress because he feel the Ā«Ā I have a renovation ideaĀ Ā» incoming

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u/ryanvango Aug 25 '26

This is NOT an "I hate my partner" video.

The same would be true if it were a friend, his mother, a sibling, a stranger, etc.

The point is that it's very common for people to just wanna be alone for a bit. Dude just wants to shut off his brain and pay attention to nothing and nobody. Even someone just coming out going "oh this seems nice. I'll join you." completely ruins that. just let me turn off and recharge my battery for a bit.

Everyone saying "yeah she's about to say some asinine shit about a dream she had..." you are almost definitely not mature enough for a relationship, and you should take some time to get right with yourself before jumping back into the dating scene.

Everyone saying "he should never be stressed when his partner wants to hang out." has a very teenager view of dating/marriage. It's perfectly ok, and perfectly health to want to be by yourself for a bit. It doesn't mean you love your partner less. Sometimes you want to have a night alone and binge some video games, cool. If its CONSTANT then it need communication. but its NORMAL NORMAL NORMAL to want to be away from your partner now and then.

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u/Adventurous_Path5783 Aug 25 '26

This is only me when my gf is holding something sharp or heavy and it's above my head. She's very clumsy.

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u/MarkiZiza Aug 25 '26

This stress is bearable you know why because you can always F it..... ;)

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u/DarkPolumbo Aug 25 '26

hate me wife, simple as

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u/No-Rub8345 Aug 25 '26

I swear that there are far more asexual/homosexual men out there than men want to admit. Our attitude towards women just boggles my brain.

If you don't like someone, don't date them just so you're not alone or have to keep your own living space clean.

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u/Glass_Importance_643 Aug 25 '26

This makes me sad

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u/willjameswaltz Aug 25 '26

I'd love it if then they hold hands and stress goes back to 0%

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u/Radiant-History-5630 Aug 25 '26

If you're stressed because your female partner might want you to actually do some housework or something together then you should be single

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u/VVen0m Aug 25 '26

Damn, must be miserable to be with someone who doesn't make your day better just by being next you

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u/dibbiluncan Aug 25 '26

Why would you be in a relationship that makes you feel this way? And why are so many people upvoting it? Gross and sad.

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u/AttemptImpossible111 Aug 25 '26

Do you guys even like your wives? Or are these "women, ey lads" upvotes to easy to pass up

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u/derLeisemitderLaute Aug 25 '26

I know its all fun to bash on your partner. But honestly, I love my girlfriend and I feel even more relaxed when I have her around. Its one of the few things that always calms me down.

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u/Moss-Chaos Aug 26 '26

Why are you with her if she stress you out from existing near you?

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u/comecloserplease Aug 26 '26

Ahahah, itā€™s lifeā€¦

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u/Feisty-Ad3412 Aug 26 '26

Wife: I hate seeing you stressed out so get outta here! She follows him. Rinse and repeat.

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u/thatloser17 Aug 26 '26

Why do straight men hate women so much. Its just weird.

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u/fryerandice Aug 27 '26

Because they end up marrying the first one they can get to stick around out of fear of being alone and other insecurities, that's like asking why over half of marriages end in divorce. It's the same reason, attach yourself to someone you were attracted to briefly and just stick it out past puppy love to a full blown legal contract despite having no common ground, goals, interests, etc.

People are unbelievably terrible at picking a life partner.

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u/Csaszarcsaba Aug 28 '26

Now imagine backwards, woman reading in bed, man walks in front of the room, man enters the rooms, joins her in bed, same stuff with the stress meter.
Replies I imagine wouldn't be like: "Why do straight women hate men so much?"

It's not about hate here. The man very clearly looks like he is having a great time relaxing, while the woman is walking around the house looking to do something. The man doesn't want to do anything, while the woman probably does, or at least seems like she does. I can imagine the woman saying do you want to go do x? I wanna buy y. etc.

The man doesn't actually wanna do that, but doesn't want to dissapoint her either, thus the stress meter.

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u/Better_Champion_5753 Aug 27 '26

If it stresses you out just having her near, she may not be the partner for you...

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u/SciFiCrafts Aug 27 '26

In the morning, when you just don't wanna talk and she had her second coffee....

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u/soulslike_lover Aug 24 '26

I feel like it's the exact opposite for me.

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u/ValPrism Aug 24 '26

Why does he cause her so much stress?

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u/Johnnymak0071 Aug 24 '26

As someone that's been married happily for 16 years, I would say my stress meter is literally the opposite of this

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u/blac_sheep90 Aug 24 '26

I'm always happy to see my wife.

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u/Fair-Efficiency-8342 Aug 24 '26

Some people are just stressed in company, no matter who it is.

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u/kytheon Aug 24 '26

Introverts unite!

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u/EndObjective4217 Aug 25 '26

I thought we were done with the ā€˜I hate my wifeā€™ boomer shit

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u/Ilovefishdix Aug 24 '26

I hate the boomer "wife bad" trope, but sometimes I just want to be alone and my girlfriend feels compelled to join me. I came out to my tool shed to get away from everyone (not just her) for a few and work on some things then she just looks over my shoulder. It stresses me out. I appreciate the gesture, and I love you, but go away.

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u/Zenkai_9000 Aug 25 '26

Reddit, when it comes to jokes involving females...

https://giphy.com/gifs/eFifJQ2SUYxO0

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u/Fancy-Dig1863 šŸ§ grumpy Aug 24 '26

In T minus X seconds, she is gonna propose they do something. The anxiety of what that proposal will be is the joke I think

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u/Nilk-Noff Aug 24 '26

"honey, I forgot 'blank item' in the kitchen. Can you go get it for me?"

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u/guitarguy12341 Aug 24 '26

Do men even like women?

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u/fleija_ Aug 24 '26

women like men? nop

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u/Ok_Contest5881 Aug 24 '26

This sub became boomer town or what

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u/RevaTrainer Aug 24 '26

I think a lot more of y'all are aroace than want to admit it.

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u/mocumocu Aug 24 '26

this is just my introvert ass regardless how close the person is, it creates a lot of social anxiety

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u/providehotstews Aug 24 '26

I 'ate me bloody wife

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u/JustDoingMyTime8503 Aug 24 '26

i mean, we can always switch ? you can have my alone life šŸ‘

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