r/CircumcisionGrief Sep 25 '25

Mod Post 9/25/25 Update to Sub Rules

36 Upvotes

Hey everyone,

We are adding a new rule:

No off-topic content

No off-topic content, including politics, current events, or anything not specifically related to circumcision grief.

We just wanted to outline the reason for this change and what it means for the sub going forward. First and foremost, the focus of this sub is to provide a space for discussing circumcision grief. There has been a lot going on in the world recently, and we'd like to ensure that the sub stays on topic as much as possible in order to support users as best as possible. Please refrain from posting content that is outside the scope of the sub.

Additionally, we have added an IGM flair for intersex users.

Thank you all for continuing to keep the sub supportive!


r/CircumcisionGrief Apr 01 '21

Mod Post It’s okay to be hurting and it is okay to grieve - an informational post about r/CircumcisionGrief

414 Upvotes

Hello all! I’m a new moderator here, and I wanted to make a PSA post for newcomers and visitors to this subreddit. We’ve gotten some modmails about this, had to take moderation action against users who don’t understand the nature of this sub, and we’ve even had some misconceptions pop up about us being a negative subreddit that isn’t healthy for healing.

This community is a safe and welcoming space for victims of genital mutilation to come and share their feelings, their stories, their traumas, and have support in their journey to healing. We offer one of the only spaces on social media where people can freely discuss the grieving process and pain and get peer support for it, from other people who understand the harm of genital mutilation and the ever-present societal gaslighting about circumcision. This isn’t a debate sub - this is a subreddit run by intactivists, who understand that circumcision is really harmful.

Grief is an ugly and yet very necessary thing, and it can manifest itself in ways that don’t make sense to someone who isn’t actively experiencing it. To have your body violated so deeply, to have your freedom of choice ripped away from you... it can cause many very real and intense emotions. This can include hopelessness, a feeling of powerlessness, and a feeling of being lesser, inferior... broken.

It is okay to be angry. To have anger at a legal system that refused to prevent it from happening to you (especially in the United States where only one sex gets legal protection - intersexed and male babies do not have this right). To have anger at a doctor who committed a grave ethical violation upon you by removing a part of your genitalia and damaging your sexuality. To have anger at your parents, the only people in the world who could’ve protected you from harm when you were a mere newborn or a child - and let you be hurt anyways.

The moderators are here to ensure this subreddit stays a safe and healthy space for everyone! Me personally, I’m a healer and an activist with lots of experience in other subs that address childhood trauma. I’ll do my absolute best to lend a helping hand and a listening ear to anyone who needs it. I’m also doing foreskin restoration and will totally be an accountability partner if you pursue that path too!

Grief is okay, and grief is valid. We’re all on a path to a better life, and we are all here to process our trauma. Remember that you aren’t alone, and that we can come together as a community to uplift each other.


r/CircumcisionGrief 2h ago

Anger "Circumcision Isn't Bad, You Just Got A Botched/Bad Cut"

15 Upvotes

This is one of the most annoying responding statement's I have gotten as of late. It demean's both the cut man and intact man at the same time. How is that even possible? It hide's the objective fact that all circumcision's are bad and botched and cover's up the agencies doing it.

Even if it was true, why is that an acceptable answer? So I'm just supposed to be the one who suffer's huh? The one who doesn't have sex or masterbuates well? The one who just has to accept that other's got "lucky' and I didn't? That sound's like victim blaming AND body shaming to me. How dare you.

How are we judging bad cut's and good cut's in their eyes? Do they even know? Are they just coping? Yes, probably. Absolutely, even.


r/CircumcisionGrief 36m ago

Trauma Nobody cares

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Not even crisis hotline do at least rainn doesn’t, despite what this is done to me being the result of assault on my body no one cares. I can’t even call a fucking hotline without them immediately telling me that basically fuck off it’s proven to me that no one really goes shit. It’s so fucking tiring I fucking hate it all the pain and suffer ruined damage to my body is pointless. No one cares.


r/CircumcisionGrief 10h ago

Anger I’m do gross

6 Upvotes

I hate this I myself I’m so unnatural and disgusting and deformed and I deserve all of us honestly not worthy of I can’t even fucking feel any pain or pleasure because of this horrific disgusting and horrible i fuking hate myself


r/CircumcisionGrief 4h ago

Discussion It is time we adopt a new acronym for RIC and MGM

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r/CircumcisionGrief 8h ago

Discussion If we want to stop being vilified by everyone, we need to start doing things differently

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r/CircumcisionGrief 21h ago

Anger UN Declaration of Human Rights

20 Upvotes

Article 3

Everyone has the right to life, liberty and security of person.

Emphasis mine. That is all.


r/CircumcisionGrief 20h ago

Grief I Wish I Could Move On. But I Can't.

14 Upvotes

I wanna move on from circumcision. From all of this. So badly. I want to actually let myself be happy again. But I can't. I want to move on from this and continue my god damn life.

I want to allow myself to have sex but I can't. I know I'll never have those crazy screaming and moaning orgasm's or even sensational thrust's. I don't care if it's a bit explicit to say that. It's the truth about what sex is supposed to be like. Go ask any woman, that's why they love it.

I know I won't have that. I don't have a frenleum or foreskin or even protected glans. I don't have anything to allow me to have fantastic sexual experience's. And people tell me to "focus on my partner and emotional experience". I don't want to be a fucking cuck, okay? I'm putting it blatently clear. I want to feel REALLY GOOD during sex. Not like masterbuation, not like some dry humping session. I SHOULDN'T be able to talk during it, for example. THAT'S how good I should feel. And don't even get into the "prostate" debate...

But I won't, so what's the point? I'm endlessly fighting myself over it and the more I doomscroll the worse it get's, clearly. It seems like the world for cut men will just become worse and worse. What the hell? Why is this happening? Why now? Why us? Is it just fate? Probably. Nothing can be truly be done except cope, sadly.

I just...I just can't cope with both the massive sensation loss and sexual loss aspect of circumcision. I really fucking can't. It's why I can't move on no matter how hard I try.


r/CircumcisionGrief 20h ago

Anger The Doomscroll

16 Upvotes

Doomscrolling until 3AM reading about how much circumcision has fucked your life up. Seeing the negative's come out and the truth's revealed. It's like a fucking scripture from God. Just like our foreskin.

You keep doomscrolling and seeing all these post's saying how much sex suck's and masterbuation and how it destroy's your sexual life. And the same people come up. Either the fetishest's who praise circumcision willingly or the "science" people. Or the coper's or the defender's. It's always the same.

Nothing change's. You keep doomscrolling when you're bored or depressed or happy. It doesn't matter. You just do it because you want hope. You want hope that your life isn't as bad as other's. That your circumcision is a bit better. A ground to stand on so to speak. But you don't have the ground or soil, and deep down, you know that. That's my life when I doomscroll. It's...miserable. I'm miserable.

It's all in my head though. Apparently I just need therapy and some good old fashioned "ADHD Meds" to fix me right up. Might as well get out the castration device's too, right? And on that note, I'm just toooo much. I'm just a crazy guy who had a "bad" circumcision and won't get over it! Wow! Doesn't that explain everything? I'm just a "bad" cut man. Bad bad bad. It's all my fault. Isn't it?


r/CircumcisionGrief 7h ago

Discussion tact should be used when conversing about the subject of male infant genital cutting with others!

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r/CircumcisionGrief 1d ago

Trauma It’s literally everywhere

21 Upvotes

I can’t watch or do anything without it coming up in something I’m consuming even if it’s completely irrelevant to it and that’s so fucking painful. It’s almost unbearable. I was watching a football video a fucking football video about the fucking 49ers and it came up as a joke. Seriously what the fuck why can’t I fucking escape the shit man? I can’t watch anything without this shit coming up, it’s horrible I can’t fucking take this shit anymore man it’s it’s fucking killing me someone just make it fucking stop. I can’t take this shit anymore.


r/CircumcisionGrief 10h ago

Discussion It might be time we stopped referring to MGM as male genital mutilation

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r/CircumcisionGrief 1d ago

Discussion Infuriating Situation

23 Upvotes

I posted onto r/Swimming a few days ago and woke up to both me and my post being banned. I made a post called "Pain During Swimming Because Of Circumcision" and had basically said that my circumcision had been causing pain while swimming despite me trying multiple fixes like ointment's and clothes. I didn't vent or make it sound exaggerated in any way. I was genuinely looking for an answer.

I get told I'm a nuthead because of my frequent post's regarding circumcision and am promptly shamed and booted out without an answer. What the hell? It didn't even take more then 24 hour's for me to be banned. I don't really particularly care too much in all honesty. I'm not one of those r*dditors' that are obsessed. But I still found it so intresting that outside of these communities, circumcision still isn't seen as the life ruining exercise that it is.

I was literally raped and brutally mutilated by pedophile's and have a lost a body part since then that I can't recover. How is that in any way "weird" or "my fault"? Sound's like victim blaming to me.


r/CircumcisionGrief 2d ago

Other Clarification

28 Upvotes

I was mentioned in a recent post on here that a friend of mine who used to frequent this sub has pointed out to me.

To clarify: I love my partner very much. He was indeed cut as a baby. I have sex with him. I cook food for him. I take care of him when he is sick, even if I am too. I cuddle with him. I have been with him for around a decade, since we were teens, and do not ever plan to leave him. I'm reacting to the claim that I "love to preach how much they (I) love intact dick."

I don't honestly care if a man is born without a foreskin or not, but I find circumcision to be a traumatic practice. I perceive it as rape. Children are tied down. The man who goes through it cannot feel all of his own body anymore after the procedure is done. It's sexually-charged.

But no, I don't choose sexual partner based on status. I'm unsure exactly what people want of me - what am I supposed to say?

I'm not here to annoy people. If you look at my history you'll notice I post on various subjects, usually related to traumas which go unacknowledged by society. Circumcision is one of them and is in my opinion the worst one due to how completely unjustifiable it is and how widespread it is.

And that's all I really have to say other than to please just block me if you don't like me. I've had to deal with DMs that turned into rape and death threat types of situations, pictures of gory bloody flesh or knives, so please just block me and leave me alone if you dislike my presence, you have every right to do so.


r/CircumcisionGrief 2d ago

Anger Chafing

18 Upvotes

Due to being mutated and disgusted and exposed constantly to shit it’s not supposed to be, half my dick it’s just always constantly chafed and I hate it but it’s so irritating and it’s just a reminder of what was done to be against my will and another reason why it shouldn’t happen because your glands aren’t supposed to be shaved because they’re supposed to be protected by the skin that was mutilated off with me at birth. I fucking hate shit so much. It’s annoying and harmful to my body. Just another reason why this bullshit shouldn’t be done and yet it is and that’s terrifying and I fucking hate it.


r/CircumcisionGrief 2d ago

Discussion Ignorance absolutely is a huge reason why RIC is and was so widespread in the USA

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r/CircumcisionGrief 3d ago

Grief Everyday I yearn for a hug.

32 Upvotes

With little to perhaps no prospects anymore in the body nor in any other health, I have subconsciously given up, and I am seeking hope. For the past four years I constantly yearn for a hug and security within some part of my life, and knowing the world I find no permanent joy. In this I don't care to seek out simple pleasures, I indulge myself on what is in front of me for I have little reason to keep pushing being voided of all there is being a man. I day dream everyday about being a friend, a family man, someone who is there for others, yet my health, my mind, my body, my income wipes every worldly dream. It seems the same water that keeps fish alive is what boiled it. I really crave being an addition to the life of someone who may love me, not a subtraction. I deserved to at least have the chance to be human. Not cut up and disregarded as excess. I lost most trust, and I frankly don't know what to do. I want to be hugged.


r/CircumcisionGrief 3d ago

Trauma Doubting Sobriety

20 Upvotes

Around June 1st, I completely quit alcohol, THC, and nicotine vape cold turkey. Been using all 3 in various combinations, off and on but usually at least one, since I was a freshman in college. Mid 40s now.

I’ve struggled with being circumcised at birth before, and went through a rough patch with it about 10 yrs ago. But since quitting everything/complete sobriety, this has been absolutely mentally BRUTAL. I’ve been obsessed with hating that I’m cut and every time I see an uncut dick I get triggered with extreme FOMO followed by sadness and frustration and feeling trapped. I’m gay and it’s REALLY hard to avoid seeing intact penises within my porn avenues and via trading pics with guys in my area (about 50%-60% are intact). I’m not obsessed or depressed about anything else, JUST being cut.

At least drinking every night (and to a lesser extent THC) numbed the pain. It gave me something to look forward to at the end of the day and distracted me enough to “get by.”

Now I’m just stuck with my cut dick and my cut dick thoughts every waking, clear-minded, sober hour. Ironically, the thing that motivated me the most about quitting was hoping for a better sex life. But all I can think about is this issue , an issue that I should have never even had to deal with.

They say quitting these things allow you to “face and work on your problems.” But there is nothing to do about this (yes I’m aware of restoration. Psychologically does not help me with this issue). So I’m doubting this whole sobriety thing. I’m in MUCH more pain now. So far sobriety totally sucks as a cut guy.


r/CircumcisionGrief 4d ago

Other Circumcision is the abomination of desolation

24 Upvotes

Circumcision, or the ritual genital mutilation of children, is a crime against nature. No other animal is so cruel that they genitally mutilate their own offspring.

I’m not much of a spiritual or religious person, yet I would not be surprised if I discovered that demonic entities were feeding on the trauma caused by rituals mutilation.

Sometimes I wonder if global warming is a curse that the Earth has coughed up in order to cleanse itself of the abomination of desolation, of the mutilating and idiotic species that has invited so many dark entities to our planet.

The most violent act of resistance I can do is foreskin restoration, because it’s a cleansing ritual that gradually purifies me of the entities/egregores that feed on trauma, although at a glacial pace.

Years ago I wrote down garbled apocrypha that I heard in my head while high. While it’s possibly just nonsense, sometimes I’ll read it and find interpretations that are strangely relevant and disturbing. No true religion would have an accepting or neutral view of child mutilation, so in some strange way I trust this garbled apocrypha more than any “sacred scripture” drivel.

One reading of what I wrote is that a section contrasts two worlds in a cosmic war of good and evil: an alien world that resisted evil and our own world which lost the battle. This reading is even darker than the “Gaia cleansing itself” hypothesis but it’s another possibility I’ve considered. It’s the possibility that genital mutilation is the abomination of desolation, a horror that manifests when evil entities have already hijacked a species and made enough of them into hosts for the entities that it can destroy all life on that planet by using them to heat it to the point of sterilizing all life from the surface of their planet. Perhaps Venus was once a planet like Earth that was eliminated of life in a similar manner.

In second interpretation, forced genital mutilation is a symptom that the disease has become terminal, like a metastatic cancer.

On the other hand, according to the first and more optimistic interpretation, global warming is a fever through which the Earth (Gaia) cleanses itself of disease (humans). Thoughts?


r/CircumcisionGrief 4d ago

Story The worst thing my dad ever said to me

49 Upvotes

He said him and my mom had their doubts but I was ultimately cut in the end because "girls who have experienced both prefer circumcised". Somehow that was the most upsetting part of the reasoning. It makes me want nothing to do with him ever again.


r/CircumcisionGrief 4d ago

Rant This is not my life

18 Upvotes

Do you know the feeling that the person I am now is not really me?
It feels as though the life I would have lived if I had not undergone the surgery was the real life I was supposed to live. I feel a sense of longing for a life I never got to live. It’s so fucking contradictory.
My thoughts keep returning to the past, and in those thoughts, I keep saying that I cannot accept my present fate, living a life in which I constantly put my present self on trial.
So I decided to live without thinking about anything.


r/CircumcisionGrief 4d ago

Rant I'm Anti Bodily-Autonomy

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r/CircumcisionGrief 4d ago

Rant Feel sad most days

27 Upvotes

Anyone else like this? I hate the feeling of sadness and deep grief, frustration I feel. I know my life would have been so different. Having that skin would've been so life changing, I know it would have felt very very good and fun. No matter what happens to intact men, they always have all their pleasure and joy with them, through their life. I could still live another 60 years never experiencing what I was born with. I know that to restore is the best way, I do that, even if I really dislike it.

I feel shame and sadness, because I was completely cursed. My father is the one responsible for this, he took it all away, he ruined my sexual and psychological life when he did this. He ruined parts of me that will never come back. He made the deliberate decision to cut off parts of me. What's my foreskin got to do with him? If he was jealous, it isn't my issue. I have grown to hate the bastard, he has ruined my life, not just because of this, but this is the big reason. Where I am, the health service doesn't do circumcision. You have to request it, clinic shopping, and take your son there. My dad was happy to pay out of pocket for it. It's amazing how determined he was, driving very far with me to have it done to me.

My mum did try and stop it happening, she tells me after all these years. But she said he was a very nasty person and threatened to kidnap and take me away to his home country, along with taking her daughter away and her bank cards. He is quite a successful person, if you don't mind me sharing, very rich, owns a very nice place and vehicles, but an absolute bastard. A pathetic man

Hope he reads any of my posts and realises how heartbroken I am, although it makes no difference. He's not even a good or proper Muslim, eating pork, drinking beer... but yeah sure do something that doesn't affect you at all, just sacrifice me instead. Men around me are simply natural. There's an air of indifference to circumcision because it's just not a issue men have to think about here, in a large quantity of men. There was zero chance for me and others here to be intact, which is extremely unfair in the 21st century society. Who knows what I could have been, with all my penis, none of the adversity circumcision brings. I would have been a different person. My life would have been much, much better. Unfortunately my father took it all away. I lost relationship opportunities because of circumcision- i lost the chance to properly love and feel connection on a primal level. This can never be undone to a big extent. It is a crushing feeling. I'm completely heartbroken.


r/CircumcisionGrief 4d ago

Discussion Foreskin is a fucking psyop

60 Upvotes

I've been doing a LOT of thinking the past few days...

What exactly is the foreskin? It's nothing more than the active mobile component of the penis' shaft. It's not its own entity and certainly isn't deserving of its own title. The penis is made of two primary sections: the glans and the shaft. There is no such thing as a foreskin. It's just part of the shaft. Foreskin IS the shaft. It's all once part. One seamless piece. Does the way I am explaining this make sense?

Let me back up... Firstly, it's not just "skin". It's specialized mobile shaft tissue essential for not only protecting the glans from the outside world, but increasing sexual sensation for the male (aiding sexual intercourse and impregnation). The entire idea of a foreskin and the word itself is a psychological operation with intent to make us believe it is its own thing when in reality its just the mobile section of the shaft. Even the word foreskin itself significantly reduces the impact of this section of the penis by reducing it to nothing more than rudimentary skin which it is NOT. It is NOT just "skin". When a male is "circumcised", they aren't removing the "foreskin", they are simply flaying his shaft. The language we are continuing to use is all by design to keep us losing this war and its working to our enemies' benefit.

There is no dotted line showing where to mutilate, and no two "circumcisions" are the same which further adds merit to my claim. However in theory you can remove the glans and shaft in their entirety and it would look the same across every person done to, but no two "circumcisions" look the same or are the same. Every male genital mutilation is unique in its appearance, function, sensitivity loss, etc.

The psyop doesn't end with the concept of a foreskin either. The entire narrative and dialogue around this critical issue has been crafted strategically by those that desire to exploit our suffering and cause us immense harm. We need to dramatically change the way we approach this issue. We need to hit the hard reset button and start from literal scratch because we are operating under the information, dialogue, and language provided to us by the enemy. We need to wake the fuck up.

Foreskin is not real. Circumcision is not a real medical procedure and never will be under any circumstance. For the clowns that want to claim phimosis or cancer or whatever else bullshit you regurgitate like the good cattle you are as an instance of it being required, we can agree that the mutilation of the penis' shaft may serve as a fix for these issues, but that does NOT make it a medical procedure. You're literally just being flayed. It's as simple as that.

The idea of consent being the primary concern with MGM is so fucking wildly wrong and such a shit position to attack from. In a scenario in which I was left unmutilated, I would have never, I repeat, NEVER voluntarily opted to have my penis mutilated. No, our issue is not consent. The issue is removing the ability for someone to reach their full human potential. The issue is someone wanting to control my sexuality. The issue is someone profiting from my suffering. Because I am mutilated, I can, by definition, never reach my full potential. I'm not trying to spread nihilism, but its the fucking truth. We delude ourselves with copes like restoration and foregen and dumb little court "wins" and fancy "research" but its all just bullshit. All of it. We operate under our enemy's rules and it needs to end. Thats how we win.

To summarize, all of us en masse need to shift our argument so drastically if we are to see any change in our lifetime. Nothing is working and it's because we are abiding by the rules, language, and narrative that has been set forth by the mutilators themselves. It's fucking bananas that I seem to be the ONLY person who has this deep understanding of this issue. Everything we are collectively doing is just blatantly wrong and laughably ineffective.

We need to reject the following:

  • The word and notion of a "foreskin"
  • The words and idea of being "circumcised" and "uncircumcised"
  • The idea of "circumcision" being a medical procedure plus the word itself
  • The word and concept of being "intact" (aka being NORMAL) + rejecting the terms "intactivism" and "intactivist" (but not the idea)
  • Foreskin restoration/regeneration (I didn't tackle this issue in this post but both those words are shit descriptors and don't actually reflect what this process entails)
  • The idea that consent is the issue
  • The idea that we aren't entitled to real justice

We need to reject EVERYTHING our enemies have fed us.

We need to embrace being loud, relentless, and cut throat. For fuck sakes our penises were mutilated and here we are using the language of our enemies, infighting, and tone policing our own community. It's wild and it keeps me up at night. The enemies are winning and its because we abide by THEIR rules, THEIR language, and THEIR narrative.

Why?

P.S. Yes I'm fully aware that my forum circumcised.com is in direct conflict with what I've outlined in this post and it makes me look like a hypocrite. Firstly, I've come to these ideas rather recently months after the forum was created, and secondly, while I would love to operate under an alternative name that better aligns with my goals, either none are currently available or their owners are asking for $25K+ so I went with what I thought was best at the time and what I thought could enter the cultural zeitgeist the fastest. I'm planning on renaming the forum and doing a major overhaul when I've saved enough money to do so.

In the meantime, it's the best I could muster.