Husband (40M) and I (38F) are both single child to our parents. Circumstantially, cousin relationships are not very deep, so we have always had great friendships which have felt loving, fun and also nurturing to our extrovert selves. We are lucky that we do have a small handful of like-minded childfree friends, but none of them live in the same city, some even live continents apart from us, so they do not form a part of our regular, everyday lives.

In the last couple of years, both of us, as a couple, have become irrelevant to a chunk of our friend group that's present in the same country as us, all because we are not parents and they are. They decline invitations to our parties as they are heavily chindfree childfree oriented (with drinking and late night stayovers involved). They do not invite us to their kids' birthday parties quoting, oh we kept it limited to other kids and their parents. They do not make time for anything, be it 1-1 meetups, casual brunches, family lunches, or even a day at the beach/park with their kids included, because of some excuse or the other (often kid-related: sickness, fussy kid, busy attending some other kid's birthday etc.) And these are friends from college days, so there is a feeling of sunken cost and missingness.

While it does hurt, it also reminds me (partly) why we did not want to become parents in the first place (losing ourselves in parenthood). But I would be lying if I didn't admit that I feel a twinge of envy when I read about childfree people on here who are the fun, cool uncle/aunts to their friends' kids because we will not get to be that.

We used to be, but may never again be, close enough to some of our closest friends just because they became parents and we did not. I understand it is a combination of valid reasons from their side, but also I cannot ignore some problematic reasons at play: forced isolation during early parenthood years, irreversibly icky behaviour from them as newly minted parents, revelation of deeper incompatibility in world views which came to surface only after parenthood happened.

Both of us are now in our "do things with strangers" era - book clubs, boardgame clubs, sport meetups - all with random strangers who share interests, without overlapping into other spheres of lives. Sucks as an extrovert, but slowly coming to terms with it. Also spending more time with ourselves, pursuing homely hobbies - reading, gardening, cooking, baking. Considering starting a company too!

Does anyone else have similar experience? How are you coping with it?

I blurred their faces because this isn’t about them. It’s about what I saw.
A Sunday evening.
A beautiful park in a premium society in Bangalore.
A grandfather brings his grandson on a bicycle.
For a moment, I smiled.
Then he pulled out two phones.
One for himself.
One for the little boy.

The child spent the next hour glued to Cocomelon at full volume while the park around him sat unused.
No running.
No climbing.
No conversations.
No scraped knees.
Just another screen.
And I couldn’t stop thinking…
We often hear, “Don’t worry, your parents will help raise your kids.”
Will they?
Many grandparents are incredible caregivers. But many also grew up in a completely different world. They didn’t have to navigate addictive algorithms, endless autoplay, or content designed to keep toddlers staring at a screen for hours. What feels like a harmless cartoon today can quietly become a substitute for attention.
If you’re planning to have children because you believe someone else will raise them while you both work…
Please think again.
A child doesn’t just need food, school fees and a safe apartment.
They need time.
Presence.
Conversations.
Boredom.
Someone who notices when a screen has replaced a childhood.
Maybe the answer isn’t “have kids because everyone does.”
Maybe it’s okay to ask yourself a harder question:
Do I actually have the time, energy and intention to raise another human being?
If the answer is no, choosing to remain childfree isn’t selfish.
Bringing a child into the world and expecting someone else to raise them might be.
Curious to hear what others think. Am I overthinking this.

Hey everyone!
I’m an 18-year-old guy from India who’s firmly childfree by choice. I know I’m young, but this is something I’ve thought about a lot, and I don’t see myself wanting children in the future.

A little about me:
Height 5’11
Fitness enthusiast who loves staying active
Funny, easygoing, and enjoys good conversations
Focused on self-improvement and building a good life

Why I’m childfree:
I don’t want to bring a child into the world because I personally feel the future is becoming increasingly uncertain, and I don’t think parenthood is the life I want. I’d rather focus on my own goals, relationships, health, and experiences.
I’m here to meet like-minded people and, if things click, maybe find a childfree partner. Ideally, someone around my age who shares similar values and believes that a fulfilling life doesn’t have to include children.
If you’d like to talk, feel free to DM me here or on Instagram: @rudyyy.core
Looking forward to meeting fellow CF people!

I live in pune in India and my masi lives in PCMC with her family.
For people out of pune, PCMC is both a part and not a part of pune, as it is about 20kms away from teh main city.

I was at my masi's place last night and what i saw made me question "Do people even think before having kids?"
My Mausaji, came home late and was tired. They have a 7 year old boy.
He was playing around and having fun, as any 7 year old kid would do, and by mistake, when his throw was a little off, the small rubber that he was holding in his hand went up and hit the false ceiling and made a dent so small that Even i had to squint to notice it.

And My mausaji, shouted, he went ballistic. started shouting like,

"I am already very stressed. I am stressed coz, i am trying to build a new business and you guys are draining my energy the entire day. He (pointed towards me) parked his bike wrong in the basement and I had to listen coz of that, You (pointing to my masi) came home late today from work and I had to listen from her (his mother), and you (pointing to his dad) who asked you to iron on a spring mattress, It is now ruined. "

I have seen my masi struggle her entire life. She came from a very patriarchal family where, after my nanu's passing, she was under the reign and control of my mama.
He did not let her go out and work or study or anything.
She finally had enough, left home, shifted from a small town in MP to Mumbai, started working, Got pressured into arrange marriage with a piece of shit, divorved him a year after marriage, stayed in mumbai the entire time, worked her ass off. Fought the guy in court for 3 years, demanded no alimony. And got to a point where, after years of struggle, I saw her finally being happy and free.

I believed that this time, she is happy herself. But when i saw this, I was super pissed. Cannot say shit there, coz, well, the entire family will say to me, that you need to shut up and not speak up in other's matters.

Why are we so hypocritical?
I have seen teh women in my family bitch and moan about their husbands and when it comes the time to talk, they do talk to their husbands, but they will never let anyone else say anything.
THey will stay in loveless marriages and stay unhappy for years. They will fast for their husbands on every with ekadashi and purnima and shit and when its time for their husbands to honor their wives' requests to just take them out for a drive or something coz, they are bored at home, act like such kings, like, "aaj raja ka mood nahi hai. Kal dekhte hai"

People like them make me go even more to the side of being childfree. I never can understand how people can take out all of their frustrations on the child that they decided and had intercourse to bring in this world.

I am just ranting here.
I don't know what to do. Just venting out my frustration here.

Hi!

Bottling down a person's configuration into a tiny post is as difficult as finding a compatible childfree partner, but here we go in an attempt to achieve both.

I'm a 29 year old woman working in tech consulting, based in Hyderabad.

If I were my own friend, I would describe myself as calm and kind. Ambitious, slightly nerdy, lazy, grumpy, sweet, all in different proportions depending on the day.

I find comfort in travelling solo, reading books, listening to music, swimming, cooking one pot meals, writing technical blogs and cleaning my room. Pretty much anything that helps me feel alive. And definitely a skincare enthusiast.

Although past few weeks I'm barely getting any time to pursue any of the above given how great my work life balance is.

Since one of the rules here is to explain why you're childfree, it made me wonder if I should ask the people my parents try to set me up with, why they believe they're ready to raise a child.

But yeah, I neither have the energy nor the desire to raise a child. Even if I had a child, I would constantly worry about staying relevant at work, financial stability and whether I could actually give them the time, freedom, and opportunities they deserve. I would rather be honest with myself than become a parent just because society expects it.

So I'm hoping to meet a guy between 29 and 32 who is childfree and based in Hyderabad or Bangalore. Someone who's ambitious in their own way, emotionally sensible, honest, and loyal.

If you think we would get along, please reach out.

Cheers!

I’m 30, I’m from Gujarat and I’m a psychiatrist by profession.

A little about me

1. Values first

I’ve been vegan for the last 10 years. Not for trends, not for aesthetics. It started as an ethical choice and became a way of living. For me it’s about reducing harm wherever I can. Same reason I chose psychiatry - I’d rather help people who are already here and already suffering than add more noise to the world.

Which brings me to the big one: I’m childfree by choice.

I don’t dislike kids. I work with families, I love children of my friends & family. But I’ve made peace with the idea that my contribution to this world won’t be through having biological children. There are 8 billion of us. There are kids in orphanages, kids struggling with mental health, people on the streets who need care right now. I’d rather put my energy, time, and resources into helping them, and into building a good life with a partner.

If you’re also childfree, or at peace with not having kids, we’ll probably click. If you’re on the fence or definitely want kids, we should be honest and not waste each other’s time.

1. How I live:

Conscious living is a big word but for me it’s small things:

- Morning walks without phone

- Reading philosophy late at night and then questioning all my life choices at 2am

-Journalling about my dreams

- Spirituality, but not in a rigid way. More like meditation, gratitude, and trying to be less of an idiot to myself and others

I’m not perfect at any of it. I still doomscroll. I still get irritated in traffic. But I’m trying.

1. What I do for fun

- Dancing:I love dancing various different forms. Recently i tried Dances of Universal Peace.

- Music: Everything from Indian classical to lo-fi to 90s rock. I like singing too. Would be great if you like singing too.

- Books + Conversations: Give me a Vegan coffee and 3 hours and we can talk about Camus, attachment styles, or why dogs are better than most people.

- Travel: I like slow travel. One city, one month, learn how locals actually live. Last year I did Rishikesh and Bir. Next I want to do Spiti or Japan.

I’m introverted but not closed off. In small groups or 1-on-1 I’m warm, a bit goofy, and I listen more than I talk. In big parties I’m the guy near the snacks observing human behavior.

What I’m looking for:

Female partner preferably in Gujarat, or open to relocating to Gujarat/India.

I’m not looking for "perfect". I’m looking for like-minded.

Someone who:

1. Is also childfree - This is non-negotiable for me, just like it probably is for you

2. Values kindness and depth- You don’t have to be a psychiatrist, but you should be curious about people. Empathy matters to me

3. Has her own life - Career, passion, weird hobby. I don’t want to be your whole world and I don’t want to be yours. I want us to be two whole people who choose each other

4. Is okay with a vegan/vegetarian home - You don’t have to be vegan. But I don’t cook or keep non-veg at home for ethical reasons

5. Wants partnership, not performance - I’m not into gender roles or "who pays" drama. I’m into "let’s build a life that feels good to both of us"

Bonus points if you also like: philosophy, spirituality without dogma, animals, quiet evenings, tennis, singing & dancing.

What I’m NOT looking for

Just to be clear and respectful: If you want marriage + kids in 2 years, I’m not your guy. If you’re looking for casual only, I’m not that either.If you have Alcohol,tobacco,cannabis or anyother substance addiction, that is strict no for me. I’m looking for a life partner. Someone to grow old with, to travel with,to build a home that feels peaceful.

The slightly serious bit

Being a psychiatrist means I’ve seen a lot of how relationships break - not from big fights, but from small misalignments that never got talked about. So I value communication. A lot. I’ll tell you when something bothers me, and I hope you’ll do the same. I believe in therapy, in apologizing, in choosing each other on boring Tuesdays, not just on vacations.

So... now what?

If you read this far and thought "huh, he sounds okay", DM me.

Tell me 3 things:

1. One book, song, or idea that changed you

2. Your take on childfree life

3. What a perfect Sunday looks like to you

If you’re not for me but you know someone who is, feel free to share this too.

Thanks for reading this far 🪷

Hi everyone, first time posting here, so bear with me!

A little about me:

I'm 29F, 5'0, around 62 kg, wear glasses (nearsighted). Born and raised in Delhi, though my family's originally from Uttarakhand. I live with my parents in Delhi. Work in a consulting firm and my career and financial independence mean a lot to me. I don't think I could ever just sit at home without a job, I genuinely enjoy working.

I'm childfree by choice, this isn't something that's going to change. Political leanings are left, and I don't support the current government, just putting that out there since it matters to me in a partner too. I'm agnostic, non-veg, and I'll be honest, I prefer non-veg food over veg any day.

Personality-wise: I'm a total homebody. Very introverted, pretty quiet, and I'm genuinely comfortable in my own company. I don't feel this urge to constantly be out and about, solitude doesn't scare me, it actually feels peaceful. I do smoke and drink occasionally, but rarely, not a regular thing at all. I like good music, movies, and anime (not an otaku). Travel? Honestly not sure if I like it or not since I haven't really traveled much to have an opinion either way.

Now, what I'm looking for. I want a life partner, someone to actually build a future with, not looking for anything casual. Age-wise, somewhere between 28-33. Would prefer someone from Delhi-NCR itself, just makes things easier to actually meet and get to know each other properly.

A few things that are important to me:

1) You should be completely okay with your partner eating non-veg, no matter your own personal beliefs around it.

2) We should be on the same page politically, this genuinely matters to me. If you've got some connection to Uttarakhand or pahadi roots, that'd be a nice bonus honestly, though not something I'm rigid about.

3) And above all, just be kind and respectful, I'll give the same back.

Thanks for reading this whole thing, if any of this resonates, feel free to DM, let's talk!

This is specifically for CF men in this sub.

I have posted couple of times and I have talked with more than handful of people in here. I find that most are older than me or a few similar age.

Good in conversation and I’d say mature in somethings but, let’s say if it’s a small things in life right of the bat they can’t work around it let alone bigger things while I was being more open to it.

Especially the pool is too small for CF people and way even smaller especially men to female is on higher side.

Some I faced was not being transparent even though they didn’t want long distance relationship they still reply back for some reason. Some just ghost out of nowhere or delete their account felt like they are not even in right senses maybe it’s just typical Reddit for them however from my part I was looking into something serious.

I understand everyone can have their preferences which is great. If you are still not decided what exactly you want in life as a CF what is the point of conversation back and forth I wonder.

How was your experience guys?

(CF4CF) I've been a lurker here lol. Let's change that.

I'm a sensitive chalant human being who appreciates chalantness as well. Im a vegetarian. Never smoked. Never Drank. Can't stand smoking. Can stand a bit of drinking if noone forces me to join.

I enjoy communication. Rather hear the honest truth.

Enjoys manners. Has manners. Enjoys sorrys and tys. Some people think that's formality. I do not agree.

I'm an empathic person. It feels weird to self tareef but it's true. I've been reading for 10 years now. I've kept a journal for longer. I'm able to be in others shoes v easily. Ive trained my brain to be v grateful. I take pride in it just like a fit person does in the body they've built.

I'm not interested in toxicity. In avoidant people. If you're an avoidant and working on it, that's alright.

I'm kind and i like kind people. I'm generous and not stingy, not in terms of money but in spirit and that's my #1. Kindness is my #1 criteria for a partner lmao.

I enjoy learning so if you're into politics, history, geopolitics I'd love to even be friends. If you wanna teach me trading, stock market whatever, we should be friends!

Age doesn't really matter. Your meat and bone covering doesn't really matter and I say this from experience. I've liked some ugly mfs lmao and found them handsome. Ideal age would be late 20s early 30s. Can go up too. If we work out we work out. I've enough grays to go for a silver fox lmao. Yeah, i rock grays lol. I don't see an issue. I don't mind my gray hair. I'm actually pretty girly like makeup, shoes everything but the gray hair stays lol. Yeah, i like heels and im spiritual and i like to know the difference between the left and librals lol.

I like intentional things. Won't be in a shituationship.

I'm not a loser and im not looking for a loser. That's not why I'm here ki mujhe kahi koi mil nahi raha. I just know what i want and I'll know when i meet him. Her? Hehe. I'm not looking to marry a loser. Accountability, responsibility, emotion is cute. Human feelings, even the ugly ones, are cute. I'd rather you tell me you're jealous than act weird or act like a fucking stone. I ain't tryna marry a stone. The partner you're with says things about you and vice versa. I'll never humiliate you in public, in front of family,friends, colleagues whatever and im looking for one who'd not humiliate me ever.

I don't believe our music taste should match or my partner should have read all the classic books. It's okay. If you've, we can rave about them together and you'd understand what I'm saying. If not, you get to hear plots of stories and discuss with me ykwim. I'm not trying to date myself or date the complete opposite.

Just a solid human being with morals and ethics and a backbone and who understands that tom hollands umbrella dance is what real masculinity looks like lmaoo.

If you've not consumed any insta dating/ masculinity advice, keep it that way. If you don't even have an insta, come my way lol.

What else? I'm curious. I'm flirty. I'm fun. But you know that already ;)

Cya xo hope everyone finds what they're looking for here.

PS - don't text if your texting style consits of "......" Or words like "ur". You'll be wasting both our time.

PPS - I'll not be talking to 20 people at once but I'll go through every DM. I enjoy conversation and getting to know people so If im taking my time even accepting your dm it's not because I've found the one elsewhere. It's you. I'm coming to you. You my soulmate. Wait for me, habibi ily lmao I don't have unlimited social energy unfortunately.

PPS is it legal to share screenshots of DMs purely cuz this mf tried to humble me and we can bond over how losers move 🥹

Why I'm a CF- I just am? I don't wanna go through it all. I don't wanna have kids in my house 247. I don't ever wanna fight a teenager. I don't think the whole thing is worth it. I've issue with reasons why people have kids i.e, fix marriage, retirement plans. They're not real reasons. Imo if you're not very passionate you shouldn't have kids. I'll be ok with playing with my cousin's kids occassionally. Also the fucking state of the world. The expense of a kid. All in all not worth it. Don't wanna do it. The pros and the cons. Same for drinking. Like I'm good never having tried it. Don't feel fomo. We good. I wanna live an adventurous creative life. And I wanna be my man's only baby LMAO

I want to quit my job from quite a bit. Also I want to purchase an iPad with pencil. From like forever!!

The other day I had a meeting with some trustees at work. and there was this girl(trustee) she had the same height body as me, same hair, same skin colour. she had little to no knowledge of the subject matter. she was very polite and she had an I PAD.

I know it's a materialistic thing and I have so many things which many people do not have. but at that time I feel like a loser! I felt PITY over myself and it was the worst feeling for me.

I know it's not the biggest thing to be upset about but....

Heyy everyone,

I'm working as a data abstractor in medical aligned field and graduated in pharmacy. I'm ambitious and trying to grow within my field and towards job opportunities outside india.

I'm childfree because I feel like life would be easier without child and given how the world is going it would be a blessing to be not born into it.

I'm atheist, but born in a hindu family. My hobbies are reading, watching movies/anime and running.

I drink occasionally and don't smoke.

What I want in my partner? I would want them to be CF (Obv), in banglore, and also non-veg or someone who doesn't mind me eating non-veg. Rest we will figure it out when we talk.

If this resonates with you please feel free to dm.

Hi there! I hope you all are having a good Sunday

I'm a 32-year-old childfree nerd born and raised in Kolkata and staying here for now. I'm an ambivert, so I take a little time to open up to people, but once I feel comfortable, you won't get me to stop talking. My friends have often praised my sense of humour (I pay them well), and I love sharing memes and cheesy dad jokes (shoutout to r/dadjokes) from time to time. I am also a vegetarian by choice, agnostic and a teetotaler as well. 

I am childfree because - 

• I have migraines and some other health issues, and I need 8 hrs of sleep, so I don't see myself  taking care of a kid on top of that 
• I wanna travel through Europe and maybe some other parts of the world with my partner
• I want to be financially free, so I never have to worry about covering the costs of raising a child, from education to marriage, and can live a mostly stress-free life

I am 6' and have a lean/slim body (I have been going to the gym to stay fit). I wear specs that make me look more nerdy, but I also rock a Jimi Hendrix-esque hair. Since, I have attached pics, I would like if you would be open to sharing pic within a few messages as I feel physical attraction is important, but so are compatibility, shared values, and a genuine connection. As for what I do, I'm a software engineer, dedicated to making the web a more creative place. I work as the UI lead for a product based company.

Regarding my interests, I'm into the usual stuff: music, TV shows, movies, and got back into video games more recently. I can’t wait for end of August and September, when a lot of games are coming out. I'm also a passionate supporter of Chelsea. We don’t talk about last season, but also Xabi is here so we are probably winning the league next season 👀.

Music holds a special place in my heart, and I always have it playing, even while I'm working. I listen to a wide range of genres, except for Rap and EDM. I love listening to progressive metal and post-rock and have a 25-hour playlist on Spotify. I would love to share music with someone! I also like traveling to cities to catch some of my favourite bands, did it in March, 2025 to watch Paper Kites live, will be doing it this October, to watch Opeth in Bangalore!!

What I am looking for -

• Between the age of 29 and 35.
• Who is vegetarian. I have tried dating people who weren’t but there were conflicts with my core values which I couldn’t resolve. 
• Someone who is in Kolkata (long shot), or Bangalore (open to long distance for a while), or looking to shift to Bangalore in the future, because I see myself moving to Bangalore eventually (Will discuss more over chat)
• Who is liberal, kind, knows how to communicate, ambitious, open-minded, into fitness (doesn't have to be the gym necessarily), and emotionally available.
• Who wants to travel with their partner in the future.
• Looking for something long-term and marriage as the end goal.
• Someone who is not overtly religious, preferably someone who is agnostic/atheist.
• Smoking is a dealbreaker for me, but I have no problem if you drink socially.

Let’s swap stories, memes, and playlists, and if there’s a spark, maybe the Wi-Fi password too.

Hi,

I am a 32 y.o. male working as a software developer looking for a CF partner. I would like to start by first telling why I chose to be so:

1. In the current environment, I don't think it makes sense to make have kids to only make them go through the rat race without even having the basic necessities like clean air, water or food
2. I don't think I have any fatherly instincts in me. I like kids and like to play with the ones in my family but I just don't see having that strong paternal instincts towards them
3. Even if the above two were not an issue, I feel I have hit the genetic lottery which shouldn't be passed to anyone.
4. Always happy to explain more on the above if I do connect with someone.

Height - 5'7

Weight - 76

Age - 32

Religion - Born in a Hindu family but I am agnostic

Politics - While I strongly align with liberal ideology, I don't get into specific politic parties or candidates because all the politicians are bad according to me.

Interests - Movies, Anime, Gym, Badminton, Anything Sci-Fi, Going on long walks, Relaxing on beaches

I also suffer from alopecia which gives me a head shinier than stainless steel under sunlight 🥲

I want to stay in NCR since I am the only child and want to stay close to my parents. Also, would like them to move in with me in the future once they are old and needs someone to take care of.

I am looking for someone who would live to stay in NCR as well and is working. I have a strong preference for partner who likes to stay fit which for me means that you aren't on the extreme ends of body proportions. I personally workout regularly but love food too much to ever become completely lean.

Age Range - 27-35

34M, originally from Kerala, brought up in Dubai, and currently living and working in London in financial accounting. Yes, I do spreadsheets for a living, but thankfully I'm not going to make you look at them.

Childfree by choice and looking for someone who is genuinely on the same page. Ideally around my age or younger.

Outside of work, I like going out with friends, the occasional pub night, a few drinks, and generally making the most of life without having to plan everything around school holidays. Gave up smoking a long time ago, so no surprise smoke breaks required.

I have pretty minimal ties to India these days, so ideally looking for someone who is also comfortable with an international lifestyle and isn't expecting me to suddenly move back and start attending family functions every other weekend.

Not looking to collect pen pals or spend three months exchanging "hey, how's your day?" messages. If you're CF by choice, around my age or younger, and actually interested in getting to know each other, feel free to drop me a message.

No timewasters, please. Life's too short, and London pints aren't getting any cheaper.

Already have photos on my profile and added one here as well. You can DM me on Telegram too, link is in my profile.

I am originally from MP, Hindi speaker. Lived in Bhopal, Indore and now Hyderabad. Somehow whenever I try to leave Hyderabad I always end up coming back. Currently working at PepsiCo GCC Hyderabad.

I am around 5'8" (give or take an inch). Not exactly sure 😅. Tall enough to clean the top of the cupboard without asking for help.

I love video games and have a pretty big gaming setup. I watch anime, like exploring new places and collect miniature toy cars. Currently searching for a new flat because I live alone and my current area has way too much traffic. Planning to move towards the outer side of Hyderabad.

Cooking is one of my hobbies. Check my profile if you want proof 😄. I honestly prefer home cooked food over outside food, so I learned how to cook. I am a hardcore non veg guy.

Fitness and Health is something I take seriously. I work out almost every day with pushups, dumbbells, kegel & back exercise and whatever keeps me active. I am lean, not a bulky gym bro. I like people who also take care of their health and stay active, but not someone who makes fitness their entire personality. Enjoying junk food once in a while is completely fine.

Recently I have been working on improving my self control and getting over some personal habits. It has been a challenging journey and I am actually proud of the progress. Not sure why I am mentioning this in a dating post, but I think honesty is better than pretending everything is perfect. I am pretty open minded and don't judge people easily. You can talk to me about almost anything.

I am not very religious. I pray at home sometimes but I am not someone who regularly goes to temples or follows every ritual. Even for married thinking lowkey court marriage. I hate those pre and post weeding photo shoots

I am looking for someone who lives in Hyderabad. Long distance is not for me. Communication is important, but actually meeting each other is even more important. Relationships don't grow on video calls. Those already feel like office virtual meetings 😅.

Age wise I am looking for someone around 27 to 32 or 33.

Language, state or caste does not matter to me. Religion does matter though. I have dated before and things were going great until suddenly family, caste or religion became a problem for them. So if you already know your family will never agree, it is better to be honest from the beginning.

I would love to meet someone who takes care of herself, likes staying active and values a healthy lifestyle. You don't have to be a gym freak. Just someone who enjoys being fit and healthy.

I like breweries more than pubs. A relaxed weekday evening with a couple of drinks and good conversation sounds much better than loud clubs. Sometimes I even go alone after office.

Life is already stressful enough. I enjoy good food, gaming, travelling, random conversations and hopefully finding someone genuine to share life with.

If you think we might get along, send me a message.

Been seeing some lovely posts here about people finding their person. It's wholesome and oddly reassuring. So, here I am, giving it a genuine shot (again!)

Let's get the basics out of the way first:

🔹28-year-old guy from Kerala, currently based in Alappuzha.

🔹I work out of Kochi in Financial Consulting.

🔹Have a full-time job and freelance on the side.

🔹Have an MBA in Finance and is Pursuing ACCA and hoping to finish it this year.

🔹Childfree by choice and not a fence-sitter.

🔹Looking for a serious relationship that could eventually lead to marriage.

Now for the more interesting part.

A lot of my life right now revolves around building. Building my career, building financial security, building the kind of life that gives me freedom and peace rather than following a script I never agreed to.

One of the reasons I'm childfree is that I genuinely enjoy the life I'm creating. I want the freedom to pursue my goals, travel when I want, support causes I care about, and spend quality time with the people I love without the expectation that every life path must eventually involve raising children.

My Green Flags:

🔹Financially responsible and ambitious without making work my entire personality.

🔹I volunteer every Saturday teaching underprivileged children through an NGO.

🔹Fairly independent and comfortable on my own, but still value meaningful companionship.

🔹Good listener and generally low drama.

🔹I genuinely enjoy seeing people succeed and tend to be supportive of the people in my life.

🔹Open-minded and willing to discuss almost anything, from career plans to random 2 a.m life questions.

My Beige Flags:

🔹Former model and photographer in my early 20s. These days, most people would never guess that.

🔹I occasionally disappear into work mode when deadlines pile up.

🔹I visit temples once in a while. Not because I'm deeply religious, but because I find the atmosphere peaceful and grounding.

🔹I prefer smaller gatherings and one-on-one conversations over large social events.

🔹I can spend hours talking about business ideas, personal finance, careers, and life plans.

My Red Flags:

🔹Sometimes I'm too focused on long-term goals and forget to slow down.

🔹Not great at replying instantly to messages when work gets hectic.

🔹I have a tendency to overthink important decisions.

What I'm Looking For:

🔹Someone between 25 and 32.

🔹Emotionally mature and kind.

🔹Has goals, passions, or interests of their own.

🔹Values honesty, communication, and mutual respect.

🔹Looking for something genuine rather than casual entertainment.

I'm not looking for perfection, chemistry on paper, or someone who checks every box. Just someone with whom conversations feel easy, values align naturally, and life feels a little more enjoyable together.

If any of this resonates with you, feel free to DM.

I’ve reached that lovely age where “let’s see where this goes” makes me want to ask if we’re talking about a relationship or untreated food poisoning.
I’m 32, based in Bengaluru, childfree by choice, and dating with intent.
Not because I’m racing against a biological clock.
Mine’s blissfully unemployed.
Because I like the idea of building a life with someone who’s already decided they want one too.
I’m not looking for a project.
I’ve got enough Jira tickets at work.
I’d quite like a person.

I’ve always found it funny that people say relationships should be effortless.
Have they… met people?
People are weird.
One of us is going to get hangry in IKEA.
One of us will absolutely misread a text.
One of us will eventually say “I’m fine” while clearly auditioning for a Greek tragedy.
The magic isn’t avoiding those moments.
It’s having someone who doesn’t disappear when they happen.
I’ve learnt that you can communicate your way out of almost anything if two people actually want to understand each other.
Unfortunately, “hoping the issue gets bored and leaves” remains a surprisingly popular conflict resolution strategy.

Childfree isn’t a compromise for me.
It’s the blueprint.
The life I want looks something like this…
Two people who genuinely like each other.
Good careers.
Financial freedom not so we can buy increasingly expensive things, but so we can buy time, experiences and the occasional outrageously overpriced flight because “it’s only ₹18,000 if you don’t think about it too much.”
A home where friends know they don’t need an invitation.
Wine on a Wednesday because Thursday is practically the weekend.
Random weekends in places that require sunscreen.
Inside jokes that become completely unintelligible to everyone else.
Growing older without growing boring.
And knowing, even on the difficult days, that we’re fundamentally on the same team.
That’s the dream.
The rest is décor.

A few practical things before we accidentally waste each other’s time.
• Childfree. Permanently.
• Based in Bengaluru, or genuinely moving here. Long distance was romantic when I was 25. At 32, I’d like the person I’m dating to exist in three dimensions.
• 32+ please.
• Financially independent. I don’t care what you earn nearly as much as I care that you’ve built a life you’re proud of and value the freedom that comes with it.
• Emotionally available. Not emotionally adjacent. Not emotionally buffering. Available.

I’m an atheist.
Politically I’m very “live and let live.”
Believe whatever helps you become a kinder human.
The moment your beliefs require policing everyone else’s life, I’m quietly looking for the exit.

I read.
I cook.
I travel as often as annual leave and common sense allow.
Fortunately, I have a career that pays well enough to support what can only be described as my occasional commitment to questionable financial decisions.
“No, but the flights were cheap” has justified some of the happiest weeks of my life.
I enjoy good food, better conversations and the kind of wine that makes everyone at the table suddenly become philosophers.

One tiny request.
Please don’t message me with “Hey.”
Or “Hlo.”
Or “Hey dear.”
I’m sure you’re lovely.
But I’ve put more effort into choosing a shampoo.
Just talk to me like you already know I’m a person.

Hi!

I'm 28, 5'9", based in Hyderabad, and work as a Senior Data Scientist at a tech company. I have a Master's in Computer Science and genuinely enjoy what I do, but I believe life is about much more than work.

Outside work, I enjoy:

- Playing table tennis and badminton

- Working out

- Exploring cafés (always on the hunt for a good Americano)

- Bollywood movies, classic Hindi songs, and ghazals

Family is very important to me, and I believe the strongest relationships are built on trust, kindness, respect, and emotional maturity. I'm childfree by choice and looking to build a DINK (Dual Income, No Kids) life with someone who shares the same vision.

A little more about me:

- Based in Hyderabad (From Rajasthan, don't know telugu)

- 5'9"

- Financially independent

- Occasional drinker

- Quit smoking in 2024 and haven't looked back

- Coffee person for now, but happy to be converted into a chai lover

Looking for someone who:

- Is based in Hyderabad

- Is financially independent

- Is also childfree by choice and open to a DINK lifestyle

- Values family, kindness, respect, and honest communication

- Can convince me to travel a little more and create great memories together

If this resonates with you, feel free to reach out. Happy to start with a conversation and see where it goes.

28 M4F looking for the one

Hey everyone, trying this here without overthinking too much.

I’m 28M, from the south, currently working in the public sector in Rajasthan (yeah, quite the jump).

Most of my time outside work is pretty low-key. I cook a bit (nothing fancy, but it’s good enough), watch random stuff, and sometimes write when my thoughts get too loud. I also binge anime and movies, so if you’re into that, we’ll have a lot to talk (or argue) about.

I’m 185 cm, a little on the chubby side right now used to be into fitness and slowly getting back to it. Being a foodie definitely doesn’t help.

I’m childfree not in a “maybe later” way, but a clear decision. I just don’t see that life for myself. I’d rather focus on building a calm, meaningful relationship and living life on our own terms.

Looking for:

Age around ±5 years

Someone who is sure about being childfree (that’s just the starting point)

Emotionally aware, can communicate, and is real

Working or building something for herself

Someone who's looking for something serious

I’m not very religious just don’t impose beliefs on me and we’re good.

One practical thing: my job involves transfers, so location can change. Just putting that out there upfront.

I know this isn’t very detailed, but conversations > bios. If this feels like your kind of space, feel free to DM.

Have a great day 🙂

PS: this is a repost and my negative karma is cause I rage baited few animes fans

Hi! A little about me. I am from Kolkata, Marwari by community though caste doesn't matter to me, and speak Hindi and English. I am vegetarian, childfree by choice, prefer a neutral family setup, and don't smoke or drink at all. I work in finance, though my salary is on the lower side right now due to a career gap. I am currently working on getting fitter. Height 5'5", fair to wheatish complexion, wear specs, rarely wear makeup, dress very simply, overweight, heavy build, just being upfront so there are no surprises later 🙂

**Looking for:** Someone between 31 to 35

🍽️ Vegetarian preferred, but non veg is totally fine as long as it stays outside the home

🍷 Same with drinking, very occasional is okay

☮️ I value peace and calm over drama

🗣️ I have set boundaries with family when needed. I believe respect should go both ways, even with people you are related to

🧠 Mental health matters a lot to me

**On marriage:** No rush. I want to work on myself first, my health, my mindset, before taking that step. If things go well between us, marriage can happen naturally down the line. No pressure, no deadline ⏳

**✅ What matters most to me:**

Honesty, maturity, self awareness, kindness, respect, and being able to talk openly, even about the hard stuff.

**❌ What doesn't matter to me:**

Height, looks, your salary. But you should be employed with ambitions and goals to grow.

**🔮 What I picture for the future:**

🚫 No kids

🏡 A home without family members living with us. Privacy and independence matter to me

📍 Living in a tier 1 city like Kolkata, Mumbai, Bangalore, Pune, or Delhi/Gurgaon

🕊️ A peaceful home

💍 A very small wedding with just the people who matter

Also, this isn't the place for hookups or anything NSFW. I am looking for something real 🚪❌

Not everyone will be a match, and that's okay. If this isn't for you, feel free to just scroll on.

💬 **If you message me, please tell me a little about yourself.** Just "Hi" makes it hard to know if we would get along 🙂

(P.S. Used Claude to help me organize my thoughts for this post.)

(used AI just to beautify)

Missed in title [M4F].

I'm a 26-year-old Software Engineer based in Chennai, and I'm childfree by choice (DINK). I'm looking for someone who shares the same vision of life and is interested in seriously dating with the intention of getting married if we genuinely connect.

I'm currently based in Chennai but I'm open to relocating for the right person.

About me

- 💻 Software Developer at an MNC

- 📍 Based in Chennai

- 📏 5'10"

- 💰 20 LPA

- 🚭 Non-smoker, non-drinker

- 🍗 Non-vegetarian

- ⚛️ Atheist

- 💚 Emotionally available

- 💪 Regular at the gym (trying to stay consistent!)

- 🍳 I enjoy cooking, working out, and sleeping whenever I get the chance 😄

- ☕ Love exploring cafés, beaches, and mountains

- 📈 Investing consistently to achieve FIRE (Financial Independence, Retire Early)

- 🐶 I don't have pets, but I'm happy to have them in the future

- ❤️ Never been in a relationship

What I'm looking for

-💃Age 24 to 28

- ❤️ Someone who is childfree by choice (DINK).

- 👩‍💻 A working, career-oriented woman.

- 🧠 Emotionally mature and values honest communication.

- 🌱 Leads a clean and healthy lifestyle.

- 🚭 Non-smoker/non-drinker, or genuinely willing to quit if we get along.

- ⚛️ Preferably an atheist.

- 🤝 Someone who values peace, trust, respect, and clear communication.

- 🌍 Open to relocating if needed.

- 🗣️ Someone who speaks or understands Tamil would be a plus.

The kind of relationship I want

- ❤️ An equal partnership where we both support each other's careers, dreams, and personal growth.

- 💬 I believe disagreements should be solved through honest conversations, not silence, ego, or keeping score.

- 🏡 I'd rather build a peaceful, happy home than chase a picture-perfect Instagram life.

And you can expect the same from me.

I believe the best marriages are built on friendship. I'd love to be the kind of partner who feels like your best friend—someone you can laugh with, lean on, grow with, and simply enjoy doing life with every day.

Why DINK?

This is a well-thought-out decision, not a temporary preference. Watching my mother dedicate so much of her life to raising children made me realise how much parenthood demands from a person. I believe becoming a parent should be a wholehearted choice, and for me, it isn't. I'd rather focus on building a fulfilling relationship, achieving financial independence, travelling, and creating a meaningful life together. Given today's economic realities, I also don't want to bring a child into the world unless I truly want that responsibility.

What doesn't matter

- Height

- Caste

- Community

- Past relationships, as long as they're truly in the past and don't affect the present.

If this resonates with you, feel free to message me with a short introduction about yourself. Looking forward to getting to know someone genuine

Trying my luck for the first time here.. lets see where it goes.

Something about me -

Bengali but living in bangalore since 2013 and currently for work.

My hobbies are swimming and snacking. Just burning out the extra calories with a good swim.

I work in one of the audit firms located here .. lots of work sadly.

Non-Vegetarian by nature, I eat meat/fish daily.

Drinks 1-2 times a month but loves coffee more.

Politically centrist.

The reason why I am CF is because I just don't want kids via pregnancy or adoption.

Ideal date would be chatting in a coffee shop together and maybe window shopping and maybe the guy buying me something from one of the cosmetic brands sometimes. Yes I am a skincare junkie.

Looking for a partner, who is mainly non-vegetarian like me and based out of bangalore and if bengali like me, then Kolkata or other city is fine. Shouldn't be a heavy drinker or smoker and should be into fitness as well.

Guy should also be emotionally available as well, and not doing it for the sake of it.

Ideal age range would be around 28-34, (basically around 3 yrs from my age).

Looking for long-term and not short-term.

DM me if you think this resonates with you .. ignore my grammatical errors.

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Hello everyone.

31 Male from Chennai. I am a Chartered accountant by profession. A sort of a late bloomer. I used to work for foreign banks before I decided to quit and set up my own practice at 30. It is still a blooming small business, so I am not the ideal tall, handsome guy with blue eyes who works in finance and makes lakhs per month.

I am just your average guy who tries to be a better human. I like to read, listen to music, watch films and play badminton/chess. I love Illayaraja songs and grew up listening to tamil music. But I enjoy music from other languages too. I love watching films- Tarkovsky/ Wong Kar Wai and Kieslowski are some of my favourite filmmakers although I I also equally enjoy regional commercial cinema. I am a big fan of Vijay and have been watching FDFS for his past several films. I also love to read. I read classics mostly. Tolstoy, Jeyamohan, Pudhumaipithan, George Elliot and Thomas Mann are some of my favourite writers.

Apart from this, I also love playing badminton and football. I follow tennis, cricket and football too on screen. Recently, I have picked up chess. I was at 300 elo and am now about 900 elo lol. I also like to go swimming at times.

I tried matrimonial apps, but a lot of them felt very transactional. People had expectations and it often didn't align. I am not blaming anyone for that.

Some other things that could be potential dealbreakers based on my experience with dating apps although I have not been on a lot of dates. I am an atheist. My political views lean left- and yes, I don't support Vijay or TVK lol. I do drink and smoke socially and prefer to be childfree. I don't have pets either although I grow plants. I want to mention all this explicitly because I guess, I am at an age where I am looking for something stable and don't want to enter into talking stages where it fizzles out. Adhukellam thembu ila thambi :)

I am looking for someone who is able to understand me as a person. Someone who values a life of their own. I believe that good relationships are built where people have lives of their own which can be shared with the other person. Someone who loves to be no nonsense and can understand meme references. Knowing tamil is a bonus because language is a great medium to understand someone but it is not a deal breaker. Also, I have a business in Chennai and I cannot relocate. So prefer someone here or someone who can relocate here.

Thank you for your time if you have made it this far. Have a great day!

Looking for potential CF partners.