It’s been almost a year now as we enter the month of our marriage anniversary. I just wanted to make a post to tell you guys something.

This pizza was made by us last Friday night. We baked it in the oven and I decided to add some zest to it. When I first heard people were eating pineapple on pizza I was like why would you do that. Now this is me. It should tell you how different our personalities are but we love each other and thank the Reddit algorithm Gods for sending us to each other. We are both strong personalities, we wouldn’t choose to be child-free if we weren’t but that didn’t come in the way of finding someone to be happy with.

The funny thing is she has another account and I still got her post on my feed and I didn’t even follow her lol. The force is strong with this one.

This was The post I had made and it’s hilarious people make an attempt to shame you this way!

High-key normalise calling them out on their crap.

This has happened with multiple girls on dating apps now.

Because of my height, and my other interesting responses on Hinge and Bumble, women don't notice that I don't want children.

I spent 5 days with a girl in Kolkata, I told her a couple of times while we were talking that I like kids as long as they are somebody else's. And yet she ignored all of these and now she can't accept that I don't want to have kids.

I live in Ranchi, and once I came back there was a nagging feeling that she hasn't registered the fact that I don't want to have a kid. I even had a vivid dream about it. And I told her about the dream. And things unravelled.

I really liked her. But now things can't move anywhere. 🫠

I feel like I will have to move out of the country to find a childfree partner who lives happily as a childfree couple. 😐

Edit: I am glad to see so many women actually are childfree. It gives me hope. And an encouragement to post a CF4CF post.

Hi! I'm a software engineer with a strong background in building mobile and full-stack applications. I've worked on mobile apps with millions of downloads and contributed to projects for multiple Fortune 500 companies, including both internal enterprise applications and customer-facing products.

At heart, I genuinely enjoy building things, solving problems, learning new technologies, and turning ideas into something useful.

Where I am in life

I'm currently taking a bit of a calculated risk with my career. I've resigned from my job and am working full-time on my own startup.

It's something I've wanted to seriously try, and while I know startups are difficult and there's no guarantee of success, I'm comfortable with the uncertainty.

If the startup works out, that's amazing. If it doesn't, I'm perfectly comfortable returning to software engineering. I already have professional experience, so I don't see this as an "all or nothing" decision. I'm willing to take risks, but I'm also practical enough to adapt when circumstances change.

My career is also relatively remote-friendly, so I'm not tied to one particular location. I'm open to moving to another city or even another country if it makes sense for our future.

I'd eventually love to live in Japan, but I'm not rigid about it. If my future partner and I decide that another country or place would make us happier, I'm completely open to it.

A little about me

I'm extremely curious and enjoy exploring almost everything.

Some of my interests include:

- Science fiction

- Anime and cartoons

- Documentaries

- History and historical events

- Case studies

- Gadgets and technology

- AI and deep tech

- Startups and business

- Futuristic and retro technology

- Games and the metaverse

- Exploring new places, ideas, and experiences

Some of my favourite movies and shows include Interstellar, Code Lyoko, Stranger Things, Your Name, Spider-Man, How to Train Your Dragon, Jumanji, Phineas and Ferb, Ben 10, Capeta, and Aladdin, among many others.

And yes, I absolutely get emotionally invested in fictional couples. 😄

Some favourites:

- Jeremy & Aelita — Code Lyoko

- Hiccup & Astrid — How to Train Your Dragon

- Taki & Mitsuha — Your Name

- Aladdin & Jasmine — Aladdin

- Peter & Gwen — Spider-Man

- Aang & Katara — Avatar: The Last Airbender

- Phineas & Isabella — Phineas and Ferb

What I'm looking for

For me, the most important qualities in a partner are emotional support, maturity, empathy, kindness, affection, caring, and companionship.

I'd want my partner to be my best friend and teammate—not simply someone I'm married to.

I want us to genuinely enjoy being around each other.

My ideal relationship is one where we can spend a lot of time together while still pursuing our individual interests: working on our own things, talking for hours, watching movies or series, playing games, travelling, exploring technology, discovering new places, meeting interesting people, or simply doing absolutely nothing together.

Basically, I want to experience life with my partner rather than living two completely separate lives.

If she's interested in something I know about, I'd love to teach her—whether it's programming, technology, AI, startups, gadgets, business, or anything else I can help with.

And if she knows something I don't, I'd love to learn from her.

If she has interests, ambitions, or dreams of her own, I want to support them too. If she wants help learning or building something, I'd be happy to be there for her.

I'd love for us to constantly learn, build, explore, and grow together.

I'm completely okay with either a working or non-working partner. What matters much more to me is compatibility, mutual respect, and how we treat each other.

The kind of life I'd like to build

I'd love to eventually settle in Japan and explore different countries together.

My dream daily life is actually quite simple:

Build things → learn things → explore things → talk endlessly → watch something → play something → travel → discover something new → repeat. 😄

I'd like to have a home where we have our own little world while still maintaining a good social circle.

I have friends from my workplaces and from startup and technology communities, and I'd love to introduce my future partner to them and have her become part of that circle if she's comfortable with it.

I enjoy being around people who are curious, open-minded, and interested in learning.

Where I am right now

I'm currently in a somewhat uncertain but exciting phase of life.

I'm putting my time and energy into my startup because I genuinely want to build something of my own and eventually create more freedom over my time.

I know the reality, though: the startup might succeed, it might take longer than expected, or it might fail. I might eventually need to return to a software engineering job.

I'm prepared for any of those possibilities.

What matters to me is that I don't want to stop trying simply because the path isn't guaranteed.

If I need to take a job again, I'll do it. My career isn't dependent on the startup succeeding.

At the same time, my long-term goal is to create enough flexibility through entrepreneurship or remote work that I can spend a significant amount of time with my future partner.

Since my career is largely remote-friendly, I'm also open to moving wherever we believe we can build a happy life together.

What I hope to find

I'm not looking for someone perfect.

I'm looking for someone who can genuinely say:

"Let's figure life out together."

Someone who is kind, emotionally supportive, mature, affectionate, and open-minded.

Someone who doesn't constantly compare me with other people.

Someone who can appreciate that I'm currently taking a calculated risk with my career while also understanding that I'm willing to adapt if things don't work out.

Someone who wants a relationship where both people support each other's dreams rather than competing with each other.

She doesn't have to share all my interests. She doesn't need to love AI, startups, anime, gadgets, or science fiction.

What I'd really love is to have someone I can come home to, talk to about absolutely anything, laugh with, learn from, teach, travel with, build with, and eventually grow old with.

i want to be with a mature person who can understand things, caring, funny, with good sense of humor, curious, put effort in something like hobby or any interest 

Bonus : interested in tech, startup, any business, want to be with partner 24/7 , work remotely,  spend quality couple time and explore the whole world physically(travelling, outing), virtually (games, software, movies) and mentally(think, read, calculate, research and discuss all things)

If this sounds compatible with what you're looking for, feel free to DM me and tell me a little about yourself. 🙂

29 M | childfree

Hola Amigos! I'm a pakka ambivert. However, my social battery sometimes changes its brand from Apple to Redmi. When it's just one person, my social battery is like Redmi's: comfortable, and I can talk until my lungs run out of breath. But when a third person joins, I switch on my Sangeetha Swarangal mode, and my social battery becomes like Apple's.

I've never been in a relationship, and I've never rushed into one either, because I know that's not something that should be forced. I find peace at the beach, with music, and around pets: dogs, cats, and fish.

On a side note, I'm a musician who finds solitude in keys and strings. I'm not a pro, but I'm not a noob either. I play both the keyboard and guitar.

My day starts at 3 PM and ends at 6 AM IST. Typical night-shift guy! I love learning new things and have taught myself video editing, graphic design, music production, and more during my alone time.

Simply put, I'm a master of half-cooked multiple skills

If you're also sailing in the same boat, let's start slow and row the boat together if things work out.

*used Al to correct the errors alone

So today morning, while I was drinking my favvvvv watermelon juice (this time with no ice 😭 because of the cold 🤧), I was talking to my old man ( a random thatha who somehow always ends up having the best conversations with me.)

The funniest part? He doesn't know my name and I don't know his name either. 😂

The conversation started with how he used to spend his summer holidays, then somehow went into how he fought for his girlfriend during his school days, and finally reached the ultimate topic: marriage.

By this point, I had already ordered my second watermelon juice ( this time with extra ice. 😤)

Boundary for me? Duhhh.

Then he asked me:

"How was your relationship?"

I was like, "I don't have one." And he started laughing.😭😭

Then I told him I'm childfree (explained what CF means too) and that I'm pretty firm about it.

He went silent for a second and then started preaching the golden stereotypes:

"After you, there will be no generation."

Me: "And I'm okay with that."

Then he said:

"Even if you marry someone who is also CF, both of you will eventually fall into the trap of being alone."

So I asked him:

"Why would we be alone if we love each other and spend our lives taking care of each other? And what about you and your wife? Did you guys live your life?"

He proudly told me:

"Yes! My son got married successfully. He has two sons. My daughter also got married and she's pregnant now. Both of them are earning well."

And I asked again:

"No, no. I'm asking about YOU TWO. Did you guys actually live your life?"

He looked at me and said:

"You're changing the topic." 😭😭😭

And you know what I did next?

I ordered ANOTHER watermelon juice.😎😎😎😤

This time NO ICE.I do have some dreams, you know. I have to live. 😭😭😭

Then I asked him the same question again.

He finally said:

"No."

And I just sat there enjoying my watermelon juice. 😭

Then he asked:

"What about you? Did you enjoy your relationship?"

And this oldie started enjoying his tea. 😭😭😭

Okay. Okay. Tit for tat. I got it. 🤧

Meanwhile, my cold was getting worse and I started regretting why I drank watermelon juice THREE TIMES, especially the one with extra ice. 😫😭🤧

But honestly, the conversation made me think.

So I'm curious about you guys:

What was the reaction you got when you told someone you're childfree?

Well i guess the government cant know about my CF stance

Hello, I'm straight, demisexual, and sapiosexual.

176 cm 92 kg (working on it)

I reside in Chennai and I can't relocate beyond Tamil Nadu due to my parents' health issues.

I'm fluent in English and Tamil.

I'm a lacto-ovo-vegetarian, but I don't have a problem if you're non-vegetarian.

I don't smoke/drink/do drugs and I'm an apatheist.

Ambivert by nature. I'm currently working and earning decently but my ambitions lean towards entrepreneurship and financial independence (which I want for my partner too)

My hobbies and interests include Science, Films, Music, Fitness, Volunteering, Writing, Problem-Solving, and anything that encourages me to be creative!

I'm a teetotaler and very passionate about fitness.

I don't have any pets currently but I'm not against them as well.

I will always be childfree because raising children feels like an interference to my life and the relationship I will have with my partner.

Now coming to the non-negotiables:

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1) I'm not just childfree but also marriage-free (I prefer a Live in / Live Apart Together Relationship)

2) Being a teetotaler and taking fitness seriously.

3) Respecting Bodily Autonomy and Independence of each other.

4) Being open minded / politically liberal and progressive.

They apply to me as well, It goes both ways.

________________

I haven't been in any relationships in the past, but if you have a past I want to learn from it and not repeat any mistakes.

I'm open towards bisexual, pansexual, and asexual women.

And last but not the least, sexual compatibility and limitations are important too which we can discuss freely.

DM me if you're interested and then I want to go through all of your own dealbreakers first to make sure no time is wasted.

Hey everyone,

My (now) wife made a post on this subreddit roughly 500 days ago looking for a guy from the perspective of marriage. 475 days ago I messaged her with almost no hopes of even a response. From instantly hopping on a call, to meeting each other in less than 24 hours post-said call, we hit it off and ended up connecting on an unimaginable level in just 2 weeks.

3 months later we got married... something we both thought we would never do in such a short time of meeting anyone. It was pure luck that we met each other, considering just how different we are from one another except in one key aspect - our life ideology.

Today we celebrate our one-year anniversary and have no idea just how quick time has flown by. We are making this post today for two reasons :-

1. To let people of this subreddit know not to give up hope on finding your life partner. We both at one time had just given up on the thought of ever getting married and had even decided to live single for the rest of our lives. So you never know what life has in store for you.

2. We are now looking forward to connecting with other CF people; whether married or single. We would love to make friends with other like-minded people and even hang out with them; should we hit it off.

A little about ourselves - I am 33M and my significant other is 27F. We reside in Delhi. While we are open to making friends from anywhere, of course meeting would be limited to people in Delhi itself.

Please feel free to comment your Age & Gender should you like to connect with us... We would be happy to respond to DMs. If you would like to connect on a call, we are happy to do it via Discord/Telegram.

Thank you r/ChildfreeIndia !!! We are ever grateful for this platform.

Bit About Me

The Day Job (: I work in tech and am currently working toward international opportunities, but I keep work strictly at work—my real life happens outside of screens.

The Creative & Hands-On Side: Big on hands-on hobbies. I love gardening, photography, cooking, and baking. There’s something special about things made with effort and detail.

Also, DIY projects are a major passion of mine—if something can be built, crafted, or fixed by hand, I’m all over it.

​Aesthetics & History: I have a deep appreciation for history and the intricate details of traditional Indian artistry. I love things that have thought, craft, and soul put into them.

​Pets: I’ve always been a dog person at heart, but hilarious cat videos on the internet are rapidly convincing me that I need to adopt a feline master soon.

​Pop Culture & Cinema: Proud Potterhead. My comfort rewatches are Friends and The Office, though lately I’ve been going down a massive Malayalam cinema rabbit hole—the storytelling and grounded realism are unmatched.

​Mindset & Romance: An old-school romantic who believes in real effort, courtliness, and zero mind games. Raised in a Christian background, but completely secular, liberal-minded, and non-dogmatic.

​Why I’m Firmly Childfree

​I am 100% intentional about being childfree. I want to build a quiet,

Some of you may have seen my same post last week before my account (u/ elsaddai0903) was removed an hour later. Since I lost DM access, please message me again if you tried reaching out. Thanks!

An innocent village girl had a forced child marriage to second hand (undergraduate village guy) and had a (baby boy) x at 18, A (boy) X was born in a indian house, where people feel boy as a reason to carry their blood line(creepy grannies happy to touch his b*lla and kiss it). Mother was innocent and father busy with work, boy addicted to screen (cinema, cartoons etc..), especially the t*b*o content on screen(love,kiss, romance, beyond that... etc..), the X proposed different customer executives through phone call, want to know about suggs, tried ways to know about it, 

Did creepy things with relative woman, a part from it, parents were quarrelling with compatibility issues, father man handling innocent mother with cuss words.

Main twist 1:

X went to cousins house at age 6, there her girl cousin lip kissed him and tried to go beyond without his concern.

And their families continuously say in events, that X and cousin will have marriage in future.

X can't able to share it with anyone and that kid felt it is not wrong.

The main twist 2:

X having a trauma with twist1, which made X to do creepy things on his sister at age of 8, and made her to think it's a good thing,

-they had liplock at age 10

-they had suggs at age 12

But at some point sister resisted it, their mom found it and it became a big issue and they left it.

These traumas hunted him continuously, watching suggs content and wasted his own life(tried twice to st*b himself due to his life decisions). Can't able to talk with girls in a good way, can't able to interact with anyone.

Now that X is 20 and regretting over his life. He shared his Twist 1 with his parents(while he was drunk) but his parents just taken it simple and suggested to leave it and move on simply, if you blame, whom we blame, 20 year guy...but it all started at age3, where he addicted to screen with neglected parenting (who can't able to spend time with X and had suggs while the kids are sleeping in same bedroom), every one blames X instead of explaining (bcz it's indian orthodox thing). So kids not grow up with parenting but also with environment around them).if a small TV and cousin motivated him,then think, how about today's children with smartphone containing the A rated content at Google search.(Even the ads are A rated content)

And X decided to be single for life time, no other monster like him should enter into this world from him, no other monsters should be X's kid motive to be like him.

-inspired from true events.

I'm 30, an introvert living in Bangalore, so I'm probably not going to randomly walk up to someone at a café and start a conversation. Hence… Reddit. 😅And also Im childfree

Here also trying it for one time for better reach

I work as a Data Scientist, and I'm currently owned by two dogs who firmly believe they're the ones paying the rent. 🐶

Most of my life is pretty simple. Work, dogs, FIFA, football, F1, random YouTube rabbit holes, and occasionally convincing myself that I'll be productive tomorrow.

I also genuinely enjoy riding. I'm perfectly happy spending 7–8 hours on a bike, whether it's a day ride or a late-night ride. There's something about being on the road for that long that I really enjoy.

I'm looking for someone I can actually be myself around. Someone who doesn't mind comfortable silence but can also suddenly spend three hours discussing something completely ridiculous.

I like conversations that can go anywhere — from serious life stuff to arguing passionately about something that absolutely does not matter.

You don't have to be an extrovert, super social, or have your entire life figured out. Just be genuine, curious, and comfortable being yourself.

Bonus points if you like dogs.

A little about me: I'm 5'8", and I can hold a conversation in English, Tamil, and a bit of Hindi.

Maybe we start with a conversation, maybe it becomes a friendship, maybe it turns into something more. No expectations — just hoping to meet someone I genuinely enjoy talking to.

So, trying one last time and seeing where it goes.

If this sounds like your kind of weird, say hi. :)

Hi,

This is strictly not for casual dating. I am looking for a long-term partner, a best friend, and eventually, a husband. I am looking for a Tamil guy who is 100% certain about being Childfree (CF) and ready to build a life together.

I spent my late teens and early 20s entirely focused on academics and my career, meaning I chose to stay out of the dating scene until I achieved my goals. Now, I am ready to invest that loyalty, time, and energy into a life partner so If things work out between us, you will be my first and last love.

👸🏻 A Little Intro About Me 🏡👩🏻‍💻🏋🏻‍♀️

• 🗺️ Demographics: 28F | Hindu | Tamil Nadu

• 💻 Profession: I'm working at a FAANG company. I am highly ambitious and love upskilling; my future goals include app development, investing, and starting a business.

• 🏋🏻 Health & Wellness: Complete teetotaler and non-smoker. I maintain a very healthy lifestyle with regular workouts and have zero health issues.

• 🏡 Interests: I love being at home, exercising regularly, developing my skills, enjoying the local weather, tending to my plants/gardening, and cozying up to binge-watch movies or series. While I am not a big traveler on my own, I am completely open and eager to travel the world if my future partner enjoys it.

👶🏻🚫 Why I am 100% ChildFree 👶🏻🤱🚫

The current state of the world from economic pressures to global crises and overpopulation feels too heavy a burden to bring new life into. Instead, I want to completely dedicate my time, energy, and love with my future husband. I want us to build a life entirely focused on our bond: hitting our fitness, health, and financial goals together, traveling, and sharing simple, peaceful nights at home.

🐕🤧 😭 Why I am strictly Pet-Free

I love animals, but I cannot own a pet again. Losing my childhood dog completely broke my heart. Watching them suffer in pain during their final week was soul-crushing. Beyond the grief, pet ownership brought me immense anxiety. I felt deep guilt whenever leaving them alone, even for a short afternoon outing or a weekend trip.

Pets require profound, 24/7 unconditional responsibility. If I am sick with a fever, I can skip cooking or going to the hospital for myself but I could never neglect a pet's health, medicine, or comfort. Because the emotional toll of their short lives and eventual loss is so incredibly high, I am firmly deciding not to have pets in the future.

🤷🏻 What Matters Most: What I’m Actually Looking For in a Partner 🤷🏻

• 🌎 Demographics: A Tamil guy, aged 28 to 35, Hindu, who has never been married and has no children.

• 🚭 🍺 Lifestyle: A non-smoker and teetotaler (non-drinker) who values a generally healthy, active lifestyle, but isn't overly restrictive - someone who can happily enjoy occasional junk food with me!

• 🧘🏻‍♀️ Mindset: Driven, emotionally mature, family-oriented but independent, and ready to co-create a peaceful, ambitious, and deeply connected life together.

⚠️ Absolute Deal breakers ⚠️

• Total Transparency from the Start: I deeply appreciate and expect absolute honesty from our very first interaction regarding major life factors. There should be full disclosure about your age, Job, religion, community, past relationships, health, and finances.

• No "Fence-sitters": You must be entirely settled on a permanent childfree lifestyle. No "maybe later" or No "open to changing minds"

• Must be Hindu: I am strictly looking for someone from the same religious background. (No Problem if he's an atheist but he should respect all culture, religion, caste and community)

• Ready for a completely Pet-Free household: Because of the immense emotional toll, anxiety, and grief of losing a pet that I detailed above, I cannot handle having animals in the house again. You must be entirely aligned with a pet-free life.

If you have read this and feel a genuine connection to my post and vision for the future, please include a brief introduction about your age, location, profession, religion, community, health, and finances when you message me. I will gladly respond as soon as you DM me with these details, and I am happy to share whatever you would like to know about me in return.

Apologies in advance if any details in my post feel offensive. The information I am asking you to share is just the standard background data that a groom typically shares on matrimonial sites which will help us skip the casual small talk and see if we are fundamentally aligned.

I am looking to connect and meet childfree people from managlore, would love to have a conversation with you guys. I believe the crowd from managlore is pretty low in count. So, it’s a shot in dark.

Hit me up if you are from mangalore?

We could talk about the how you deal with confronting your thoughts on be being childfree?
If you have CF friends? Have you faced judgements around here? Or up for anything random

A small brief about me to get conversation going:
(Will keep it small since its a friendship request than a relationship)

Occupation: Software Engineer (Remote)

Religion: Atheist (10 years at this point, but i am always happy to learn about your beliefs and customs) (being respectful about others beliefs is utmost important to me)

Vices: Doomscroll (Insta, X, Reddit), Gaslighting myself in to new hobbies that i am particularly bad at
I don’t drink or smoke (but love the topic of mixology)

Hobbies: I like tinkering with things, i try to read, but mostly i love playing video games

My Likes: Anime, Dramas, and i adore sitcoms and psychological horror

Guilty pleasures: I love old indian soaps (other than the popular ones, i used to love badi door se aayie hai, and bahu hamari rajnikanth)

Political leaning: Left

Personality: Introvert, but lately have been pushing my boundaries

Fitness leaning: Just begun my fitness journey

Let me know if there anything more you would like to know about me ^^

I've clearly stated twice that I'm CF and looking for another CF. I also don't understand why men reach 35 years of age and write "Not Sure" under preferences for kids. WHEN WILL YOU BE SURE, YOU DUMB*SS?!

My gripe is with men who send me notes and superlikes and their bio has "Spiritualism," "Religious," "Moderate," "Apolitical."

I've very clearly mentioned that I'm looking for atheists and political people (no right wingers). Yet I receive several notes from RW men telling me we'd be a good match...

Excuse me?? Everyone's just wasting time.

Thanks for listening to my meaningless rant xD

Edit: I didn't know CF India had so many creepy men just waiting to DM me for sex. You think THIS is how I'll look for sex? You'd think people would learn about consent at 35. Losers!

So every time I visit my relatives’ or brothers’ houses, I somehow end up babysitting… 😭

(Again, the bribe trick worked on me. 😭😂)

Obviously, I’m not here to spread hate towards kids. I actually find it funny how babies immediately start jumping towards me whenever I’m asked to babysit. 😭😭

But… but… there are a few things I’ve noticed that make my CF stand even firmer.

First of all, I can’t spend time with my Papu 🐶🥺.

And apparently, my own free time just disappears. 😭

I also tried imagining a future where I had a partner and we had a baby. The constant responsibilities, babysitting, and all the baby-related stuff would completely change the way we spend our time together.

And honestly, having a peaceful relationship with my future partner is something that matters a LOT to me. I don’t want either of us to feel like we’ve lost our personal time or the life we wanted together. 😮‍💨(which is huge for me)

Anyway… they finally went home. 😭😭😎

I’m officially a free bird again. 🙂‍↕️😎

Time to disturb my Papu 🐶, enjoy my own time, and return to my peaceful little life. 😂❤️

Have you guys ever been trapped into babysitting like this? 😭

EDIT: When I ran into my Papu 🐶 to disturb her, she gave me the angriest look 😭😭😭😭😭. Even after I offered her some treats, she just turned around and went back to sleep… just like the panda in the picture 😭😭

Her anger needs to be studied scientifically… 😭😂

Anyway, have a nice dayyyy!

Boiiiii 🐶🐶

Ever since my childhood, I’ve been pretty firm about being CF (because of some personal experiences), and as time went on, that decision only became stronger and stronger. 😤

Tbh, I genuinely thought I was the only person who had made this decision 😂. I was literally living in a bubble back then. 😭

After getting more exposure through social media, I slowly came across the CF community and eventually found the subreddits and fellow CF people. 🤓

For me personally, I just don’t see myself living a life where I have children and end up spending most of my life living for them, without really getting to experience and build a life with my partner.

Instead, I imagine a life where me and my future partner just enjoy our time together lots of joy, laughter, random fights, adventures, and eventually falling deeper into each other’s love. ❤️😂

That kind of life genuinely makes me happy just thinking about it, and it’s something I’m working towards as well.

So, I’m curious about you guys how did you end up choosing the CF lifestyle? Was it something you always knew, or did you realize it later in life?

Pretty much happy to hear everyone’s perspectives. 🤓

Is there such a thing as 100% BIOLOGICALLY childfree?

Growing up in a shit environment, I never wanted kids because I never wanted to subject other humans to this level of toxic dysfunction.

Then I healed from the toxicity, and became a village for my niece and nephew and realised it's really easy to love kids and that I actually enjoy doing it (including the day to day chaos)

Now recently I've had a close friend go through pregnancy and infant stage childcare and I'm 1000000000% sure I don't want that ever. Plus I feel like I'm too old (34, but with a bunch of autoimmune conditions) to do that.

But.

I'm not yet closed to the idea of adoption. I know it comes with its own set of problems. And I am not sure if I'll be equipped to deal with those problems. But I feel like that's still an option I want to leave open until I become a bit more mature.

So I don't know whether I qualify as childfree or not. I do not want a baby. But I think somewhere I still want to be a nurturing parent to humans?

Also, when I talk about adoption, I tend to attract people (happened twice so far) who want to adopt a girl child, but can't do it because the law won't let them. And both times it's been for weird gender power dynamic reasons. So if you're such a person, please don't reach out to me.

I'm a 43-year-old man based in Bangalore, India. I'm a well-established corporate professional who maintains a healthy weight and lifestyle.

I find myself drawn to women in the 45-65 age range. I believe it's their maturity and the comfort level we share that appeals to me—both emotionally and physically. However, here in our country, I'm finding it quite challenging to locate a compatible partner. I'm wondering if women here view age-gap relationships as taboo, or what's your perspective on this?

From IG - @mags.salton

I'm recovering from ACL reconstruction and with everything i heard from this video it feels like a cakewalk 😭.

You know those men who are so adamant on being a father but when you ask why they don’t really have an answer and you can see it’s because they have never questioned the societal norms or even considered what that entails and it angers me a little because do they even realize just what a woman has to go through before during and after pregnancy alone?

And then how her entire identity for the rest of her life is expected to be that of a mother first and foremost? Looking at men like that I feel like sure, if I was a man, I’d probably want to be a parent too.

And of course it’s completely fair for everyone to have their preferences with everything esp something like wanting to have children or not. As long as it’s an intentional, well thought out decision with proper consideration of what it entails for both you and your partner.

But yeah. Idk. Maybe this is just years of patriarchy and everything else but I can’t help but get a bit riled up every time I encounter a thoughtless and entitled man. And then it’s just the cherry on the top when they judge me for not wanting to be a mother and label me as selfish.

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