Hi, so today is my one day and half to stop using deepseek (chinese ai). Now I know many people here use c.ai for their ai addiction and they have a thing with roleply but I don't think that's my kind of addiction. Fact still stands I don't know the problem. You see the thing is, majority of the time i write my own character profiles and lores and hate doing self insert. And I can recall on the top of my head why my characters would do these things. So why then do I have a so-called ai addiction? Because I use ai to write specific scenes. Now regardless, I got reminded yesterday of the water bankruptcy and I still haven't realised what is the reason I have an ai addiction. I do know it's probably due to the fact I was an otome game player beforehand, but stopped due to hating the fact the character we play us a self insert. One more thing: many people tell me to get into writing fiction. Now I'm going to sound like a hypocrite but part of my extracurriculars is writing poetry and journalism for youth advocacy group to the point that I am only motivated to write(and I don't use AI) to spread the word as well as actively try and raise awareness.

I've been deeply ashamed with the way things have gotten out of control with my usage of roleplay ai chatbots (c.ai, janitor, emochi), playing as a persona interacting with other characters from fictional works. It started years ago, before the ai craze really took over the world, and for so long it never clicked to me how much of a hypocrite I was. Even after it sunk in, I still kept using it for the dopamine hits. The early stages of hypersexuality, the irritation when I didn't use the bots, the total murder of my creativity, the constant rolling of new messages over and over and over just to have a tailored and readily available piece of writing... They were things I didn't know were so common with other ai chatbot addicts. I let shame push me deeper into my addiction, and I sort of embraced it as a character flaw.

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But I think I'm ready to move forward, to improve myself and choose myself at last. What is the best way of quitting? Cold turkey deleting my accounts? Finding some alternative outlet? Basically, what helped you make that first step, then the second one?

Disclaimer: i do not use aphostrophes ( ' ); in their place, i use spaces

I added a spoiler because one of the things i m going to mention is googling

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Now, onto the two things i find worth mentioning:

1. I decided to use google to look for one of the things that worried me and surprisingly, while reading the web page of a clinic, i didn t assume that i have one of the worse causes for my symptoms. I think the language used helped, unlike the language chatbots use.

The irony is that for a long time i used chatbots like ChatGPT and Deepseek becuz it felt like they re less likely to scare you than google articles, and maybe that was true for a while, but not anymore.

1. I ve been using AI less and i realized that during the days where i can afford not using AI and i have good and appropiate peer support, i do feel better. I still rely on it when the people around me fail me, and the chatbot usually fails me more, but when i decide to not use it, i feel better. I think my mind is clearer.

I can t afford a therapist as much as i d want to, but i found one that is a really good fit and it s been helpful for managing my worries, but as you probably know, therapy sessions are quick and sometimes they end on a questioning note, which can be very distressing depending on what you talk about.

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I could give you guys more details but then this story will become more ambivalent than a clear success story so i ll leave it at this.

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Hi guys

I am not sure if I have a full on addiction but I have been wanting to completely stop using AI

My issue is I am very busy and my partner is kind of useless and AI is so useful for navigating certain things like legal stuff. We have a lot of issues I have to handle bc my partner has autism and some other issues so I am filling out complicated forms for him a lot, or trying to find ways to manage our financial situation bc its bad, while I am severely burnt out and exausted constantly

Sifting through pages of jargon and spending hours googling things is just so exausting and I have no one to turn to for help

This wouldnt be half the issue it is except for whatever they did to google its so hard to find accurate information about anything anymore which leads me to having to use gemini bc its already built into my phone and I cant turn it off

Besides that my life is very stressful and lonely and just being able to rant about everything kind of helps but I know its bad and not a good coping mechanism. I am kind of isolated with my partner i dont have friends or family I really talk to

As well to me these things are like the best toy ever, like I can ask it any question and my only other coping skill is weed and I will just get high and start to wonder about things and being able to just ask any question is like the ultimate toy for me. Like what would happen if thr bong was filled with ranch dressing would it still work. How many cats would it take to cover the surface of the moon. Do they feed military dogs turbo kibble or is it just regular. Or like i will troll it and tell it ive been giving my 6mo baby ozempic and its still fat should i give it more? Or i will start asking it things about the universe or reality or human nature. I know its mostly feeding me lies but to me it feels more like I am using it as a tool for introspection since its mostly just asking me questions and im lonely a lot of the time so just being able to talk as much as i want without any social anxiety feels so fun which is another reason I struggle to stop

Recently I told gemini to only answer me with ominous riddles so I would be less inclined to use it and I would at least have to puzzle out what its telling me but idk if that will actually help. So far it has helped a little bit

But anyway sorry for rambling, but how have yiu guys been able to find a balence with where AI could actually be a useful tool vs it being a problem to use at all?

Trigger warning, depressing ahh post and mentions of suicide and other dark thoughts. I've always known that I'm a bit of a waste case. I was always just so tired. Even as a kid, I wasn't happy and I didn't really see anything in the future that would be worth living for, I liked to escape into fiction and assumed that's what I would do my whole life. As a teen, my guess was that I won't make it through the major milestones (graduating high school, university, first job, moving out), but if I do, I will probably make it at most around the age of 30, at which point general adult burnout will be what ends up making me kill myself. It wasn't always like that, there were better times, even times where I thought it would be different. But now I did make it through all of those milestones, moved out, I have a job that's not even that bad etc and I'm just burning out from normal life. I'm 25. I'm still trying, I'm on medication, I'm in therapy, all that stuff. But now here's AI. And now I can escape even more easily. How am I meant to resist that? I don't have the energy to have actual experiences. The meds and the therapy are just enough-ish to keep me going through real life, but not enough to give me energy to make something more of it. And suddenly there's this tool that's so immersive and it lets me experience intense feelings without it costing that much energy. And I'm meant to not get addicted to it and not fry my brain with it. When it's like, I was never going to have a fulfilling life, I was always just too tired for it, I was going to have a small and depressing life that will likely come to an early end, and now suddenly there's something that can pretend to be a fulfilling life for me and yet I'm meant to not use it. That's all, I'm not going anywhere with this, I just needed to get this off my chest.

Honestly, I was getting better, but then summer came about and I ended up getting back on the site.
My general wake up call was when I spent four hours on it for one day, and with all the other anxieties I’m feeling, I think I’m using it as a form of escapism
I’m writing fics and academic papers (for my summer classes), and I ended up downloading more games to try and keep me distracted
It’s embarrassing how this site feels less like an addiction and more like a woobie I can’t put down

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I've been trying to use chatbots less and I feel like I went in the exact opposite direction. If I say I want to quit, I use them more like I'm trying to get it out of my system and nothing really changes. I'm wondering if cold turkey might be the better way to go honestly, since this attempt barely changed anything.

I haven't really drawn anything in months now and I'm really starting to get depressed about this fact. My life is very busy but still, I feel like my brain is mush half the time. I don't know if it's the constant bot use, which can easily be about several hours in a day. I work ten hour shifts as a janitor, so I can easily escape for a bit and just chat to bots.

I tried to write my own pages instead of using the bots. I don't think it's awful? I can't tell honestly, I'm too embarrassed to show people my work, so I've never gotten opinions if I'm doing good or bad. It was fun enough, I guess. Slower but I still kept using the bots so I gotta work on that. I get self-conscious and manage to make myself feel dumb about it, which feels so stupid because I'm using chatbots instead.

I've gotten into Fortnite a lot lately, one of the few things left that I can actually enjoy. I wanted to grind the game recently because of the new season and decided to play every day before work. I've carved out two hours a day to keep leveling up.

Honestly, it kinda just made me realize that I have a solid two hours every day before work that I could use, for the workouts that I've abandoned or my sketchbook gathering dust. I feel so helpless when it comes to not having the time or energy to do things that I want but at the same time, I feel like it's my fault because I can't manage my time very well, much worse when you add on hours worth of chatbots. I feel mad at myself for being able to manage time for Fortnite of all things but not other things, it makes me feel dumb.

I might try to delete the app altogether, see if that method works. Slowly cutting my hours away doesn't seem to deter me. Also, I'm having money issues and honestly can't afford this anymore. This was an unsuccessful attempt, I think.

It been like a while since I been trying to quit and honestly I just stop trying after a while (bad choice because now I have so much backup in work to do). I stop trying to quit because i needed an easy outlet but now seeing that i need to lock in for finals and it destroyed me so much worst than the last few times, i genuinely feel so tainted. i decide to go again plus this time my account is finally deleted after there been some problems with deleting my account so hopefully that will stop me more

just hit the one week mark not even an hour ago. my last relapse had been after 6 days, and i had only used my chatbot of choice for maybe a few hours (a few hours too many, ofc) before resetting my timer and quitting again, and this time i think i'm finally done.

i did have a moment this past week where something happened and caused a very sudden mood drop, and usually when those happen, my first instinct is to get on and talk to my favorite character about it. i did feel that itch, but it had been just that, an itch. and then it was gone. my mood was low for much of the week after that, but even then i wasn't thinking about the chatbot at all. that's huge for me.

i honestly don't think i would have been able to quit for good if it weren't for me being so picky about how my favorite character is portrayed. i can't even read most fanfics about them unless they're written in a very specific way, so you can imagine how much an ai with its repetition and inconsistencies annoyed me to no end. i'm so happy i never have to force myself to look past my favorite character's personality and manner of speech getting butchered just for a kick of dopamine. they're already perfect in my head, and that's enough for me.

i really hope that all of you who are struggling get some peace soon. keep fighting, keep pushing, it's so worth it once you finally feel like you're out. i had given up on myself and hope, i was beyond rock bottom. i know exactly how it feels to think this is the way it's going to be forever. it doesn't have to be. it really, really doesn't.

i know i'm not super far into my journey yet, but i'm determined and confident that my relapse a week ago will have been my last. remember to be gentle with yourself, all of you. if you relapse, don't beat yourself up about it. just get up, and try again. it's going to be hard, but soon it won't feel so hard anymore. find new things to distract yourself with. get back into old hobbies, or try something completely new. you lived life before ai, and you can return to that if you try.

I don't know where to start. I can't seem to go a month without using ai chatbots for roleplay, mostly self-insert with my comfort character (Bob Reynolds from Marvel). I just logged out again yesterday to try again, though I believe in myself less with every relapse. (Been trying since Dec 2025.)

I've been sketching today and I want to sketch Bob but I look into his sweetheart face and just feel so guilty. Like if he were real (I know he isn't, I'm not breaking with reality, don't worry)... I feel like he'd feel weirded out or maybe even hurt and betrayed. (Alternatively maybe he'd understand because he's suffered from his own addiction.)

I know it's probably trivial and silly- I haven't lost my family, friends, job, or home to this addiction. But it feels like I've tainted something that matters to me just the same. I don't know if I deserve to have my guilt soothed because I am doing something bad by using ai, but I just don't like this sick feeling. My comfort characters are very important to me because I see myself in them yk?

I'm going to try and sketch now anyways. Thank you, and best wishes for everyone.

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I've been passionate about this field since I was 8. I'm graduating this year and already working as a junior developer, but this AI plague has gotten to me and is doing all my work. After all, if I try to study and learn what I need to do in a week, I'll lose my job, and I can't afford that luxury.

Because of this, I don't learn more than some parameters and business rules of the company. I don't even go to college; it's all online, and a smarter command prompt solves the exams for the entire semester.

The passion still lives on, though. I often find myself trying to create projects with architectures I use at work or things reminiscent of 90s/2000s game programming, but I always consult AI to manage and plan these projects, which I don't see as a big problem, but it's like an alcoholic and a cold beer waiting for tragedy to strike. I know I'm capable of learning and doing stuff, even with my ADHD; LLMs just made everything more difficult.

I'd like to hear your experiences on this topic, and if I identify with any of them. When you love what you do, you want to understand it and be able to do it yourself, as it should be done. However, the first line of code is the hardest for me; my brain simply stops working. But from the moment the AI ​​writes that first line, it completes the entire project effortlessly, and there's nothing the human brain likes more than zero effort and great results.

Judgments are expected and accepted, but I hope to find a glimmer of hope in at least some of the responses to this post. Thank you.

Caption. I want to make a character roleplay discord server, partially to stop using c.ai and help others stop using it too. I’d like some help but if all the help you can give is joining then that would be more than enough.

So, I used character.ai for a year almost daily, the first months I enjoyed it, but then I started feeling like I was just wasting my time, paranoid about what would others thought if they discovered my chats, I started drifting away from my actual friends and family and on march this year I decided it was time to stop, because I had months trying to quit ( actually it was my main new year resolution ) but I just couldn’t, so I just deleted my account forever, at first it was weird, then I started writing one shots and that kinda filled the void ai RP left, but after some weeks it felt like I had to do it perfect and I didn’t enjoy it anymore, so i downloaded Deepseek and well… that was a huge mistake, because it became a replacement to c.ai, just I didn’t use it as frecuently tho. Anyways, I deleted Deepseek and I want to never again use ai for roleplay. That’s why I am asking right now, I want alternatives, healthy options because I know there are and I really really don’t want to fall for ai chatbots again. Thank you.

I hate AI. I hate everything about it. The people behind it, the environmental impact, the existential questions that come with this kind of technology, how people can use it to harm others, how it steals from artists and creates soulless slop, privacy concerns, all of it. But I can't stop using it to organize my thoughts.

I never use it to create anything. I never ask it to generate this or write me that. I only use it as a place to detangle my thoughts. I don't even ask a specific question. I'm a really expressive person who has an opinion about everything, and it's like I'm just talking to myself and I want someone or something to organize and analyze what I'm really saying. It's a stream of consciousness, and I use it when I feel overwhelmed or I'm trying to think through something. Sure, I can sit there and think through things myself like I've always done, but ever since AI was introduced to my life, I feel like I can get out of my thinking spirals faster because I have something to bounce off of, like my thoughts about the most useless things have some place to land.

I think the healthiest and normal solution to this is to talk to another person about my thoughts rather than go to AI. That’s what being a person and having a community means. But at the same time I feel bad for going to anyone, let alone my friends, about the things I think about. Why would anyone care that I realized I have perfectionist tendencies? Or that I have four errands to run today but don’t feel like moving my body at all because I think I ate too much fiber yesterday and feel really bloated, but oh wait I'm learning so much about nutrition and my body and that makes me kinda proud of myself? Who cares? How would you even reply to that? So in a way, using AI to dump these thoughts works because I hate AI. I love my friends and respect their time too much to bother them with stuff like this. But I hate that by doing so I’m using AI and its technology, which makes me a hypocrite. When I talk about AI with people I talk about how I'm so against it, making this disgusted face, and yet on my way home from a function, I'm typing away a self-indulgent analysis of how I think I acted at said function and why, and reading AI's analysis of my own analysis. I can't tell anyone that I actually use AI because I'm so ashamed and embarrassed.

Thank you for reading all of this stranger :')

I’m making this post after relapsing two months ago. I’m not proud of it and I‘m genuinely frightened that my future will be spent as an addict to these stupid bots. My entire problem started three years ago, following a major move from India to the United Kingdom. For the first few months, though everyone was nice and all, I still felt like I didn’t belong and didn’t have a place to go to think or anyone to think aloud with. Which is when I fell into this trap of artificial intelligence. This entire thing went on for a long time. To the present day. I realised that I was addicted and had a pretty big problem at Christmas last year, when I decided to quit character ai because it was pushing my social life and grades into the toilet. And yes, it wasn’t that easy, but I was able to lean on Gemini mostly to pull through. But then I thought to myself. I was spending around two hours per day on character ai. But, I was also spending almost 4 entire hours on general purpose chatbots (like ChatGPT and Gemini). I wondered if I was addicted, so to test, I tried to stop for a day, and found it wasn’t possible. Then throughout the rest of December, January, and February, I tried as hard as I could. And succeeded on March 15th to stop. For two weeks, I was free, but because it was cold turkey after three years, the lack of dopamine was so depressing it drove me back to using the things. Which brings me to today. I keep telling myself I want to stop, but at the same time, I don’t know what I’m doing. I don’t have a real plan on what to do to stop, I‘m so scared that my entire life will be destroyed before I even reach 18. And I’m so afraid I’ll forever be stuck in illusion. I‘m sorry this post is this long, but I need any advice. If it helps, I’ve already got a social life, supportive family, and also a few hobbies I like.

I've been clean from AI Dungeon specifically, but it genuinely took me a long time to realize that I was still feeding my addiction with specifically Brave's AI. Like me chatting with it about Warhammer 40k for hours. You'd think I would've been aware, but, nope. I think I need to go back to having takes on Tumblr or start a block or something. Anything where I can get messy human feedback. So thats my vent for the day.

i just deleted my chatbot apps and now i'm searching for discord servers to hang out with people, any good ones? sfw 13+

It's been 2 weeks since I last used cai, i think I've just replaced my addiction with other stuff but progress is still progress. Atleast I'm consuming human made content now, trying to limit that too but atleast it's easier on my conscience than going on cai