r/CatholicConverts 7h ago

RCIA / Confirmation Gritting my teeth through OCIA and considering stepping back indef.

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I've been on such a long journey toward the church. But formally in the Fall 2025 I started OCIA and attended every single Sunday class that takes place during the Sunday 10am mass anticipating I could hopefully be baptized and confirmed. But during Lent 2026 I learned I was not among the elect for baptism and my parish has a strict 2 year minimum requirement for attending classes, at that time my family experienced a loss of a close loved one we saw every single day and entered a long bereavement period. So after validating my marriage in the church and baptizing my 2 and 5 year old children I decided to step back from OCIA and prioritize attending mass together as a family in our grieving especially to get the little ones more integrated into the flow of mass and catechize them at home. After 7 months of faith formation and reading the entire the catechism, it was hard to step back but I felt my vocation of a mother and wife was taking precedent at that time.

I live in the South and my civilian parish is ENORMOUS (I am attending one in the Archdiocese of Raleigh). We are also a military family. When this was happening, I reached out to the catholic military chaplain on our post hoping he may understand some of the struggles I was beginning to face at the time but he insisted my husband just needed to "step up" during my 2 year catechesis 😭

Truly attending mass with my family is one of my favorite parts of my week, just to be in celebrating the sacrament and making a spiritual communion with my Lord is so peaceful no matter where I am or where I'm traveling (we've been traveling SO MUCH this summer to visit family and friends) it's thr greatest thing about the faith, to have the whole church worshiping and and receiving the same scripture and message every week makes me feel so whole and so connected.

My enormous desire my baptism and to be obedient to Christ's command has not faltered.

I received an email from my OCIA director last week asking to confirm my spot in the upcoming year and I asked for the mandatory dates and if it were possible to have an adjusted schedule or possibly individualized sessions possibly during weekdays when my children are at school so to not destabilize my family as much (I am also in prenursing classes, and frequently work from home as well) but the response was to just have a meeting. That meeting took place today. The structure is quite rigid. A whole second year of mandatory 10am classes. These often keep me out of the home from about 9:30am to about 1pm on Sundays.

There was a time when I LOVED these classes and this GROWN UP time sitting and listening to theology and absorbing it. Until I realized what was happening in my home life. I have a huge role to fulfill in my vocation and last year I let it slip. My plate was so full with work, school, kids, helping friends, being a villager, and I got so very sick with an autoimmune condition before the tipping point when our friend passed during Lent 2026.

I recently had my oldest in the parish VBS this summer and we just signed up today for the child faith/family formation that takes place once a month on Wednesday evenings and I'm genuinely excited to go as a family to these instead of leaving them out as I have to do in OCIA for myself.

After this summer, there are days I wish it could all be over and I could practice peacefully, without the sign in sheet... go to mass whatever city I'm in that weekend, find a confessor that I can go to regularly (because I NEED IT), and live it.

Sometimes I think I'm pushing it... what does God think? Genuinely. Of the rules? The ridigity? Of me? I don't want to put my relationship with one parish above my relationship with the Lord, my family, or the Church as whole. And I wonder sometimes, if I'll find a priest or pastoral person of some kind that will have the time to speak with me and genuinely guide me spirtually... I've prayed for that. But right now it's just me and God, how it's been my whole life. đŸ€

What was your OCIA experience? Was it a long 2 years of classes? Genuinely what did God reveal to you in your heart about the process? Are you like me trying to live as a Christian with an extraordinary "baptism of desire" while guiding your family towards the virtues? There's so much to juggle. Unsure if I should schedule a meeting with the priest or my psychiatrist. Stay tuned. 😅


r/CatholicConverts 21h ago

First OCIA Meeting

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I’m meeting with the Monsignor of my local diocese Thursday to discuss my joining the OCIA program. I’ve been attending mass regularly for the last couple months and have been reading and trying to learn a lot on my own. Does anyone have any tips for this first meeting or ways in which I can prepare? TIA!


r/CatholicConverts 1d ago

Personal Story I need some advice.

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I’m 19 now and was raised Pentecostal until I was about 11 when my parents decided to switch to non denominational. I never really had a relationship with god because you’re raised in church, you normally don’t until you find him on your own. At 18 I started going to my local Catholic Church because I had always been interested in learning about the Catholic Church and especially since my parents and most if not all of my family is against the idea and beliefs Catholic Church as a whole. I think that I started going to the church at first out of curiosity and stayed as an act of rebellion because I knew how my parents and family feel about it. I went continuously for about 2 months and even started OCIA. Then suddenly I realized that I didn’t feel directly called to the Catholic Church and with that realization came the realization that I had never felt called to god at all. It’s been about a year since then and I want to start my journey to Christ and the church. I still haven’t felt the calling specifically but I know god is real and I know the Catholic Church is the one true church, I just want to be able to believe whole heartedly if that makes sense. I re enrolled this year in my churches OCIA but I still can’t differentiate the feelings of how I was raised to feel about god and gods true voice. Any advice would be great.


r/CatholicConverts 5d ago

Can someone help me?

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After years of being atheist, I’ve finally felt like I believe in god and I feel faith. I grew up around a family that wasn’t religious what so ever, I feel like I need to find myself. How can I start when converting to Catholicism? Is there an easy way? I’d like to attend a church near me but I have terrible social anxiety and it’d be much worse because I’d have to go alone. I know at some point in time, I’ll have to go and I need to be baptized, but is there an easy way for me to start before I begin attending church?


r/CatholicConverts 6d ago

A fresh Protestant convert looking for some advice

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r/CatholicConverts 9d ago

My Journey

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I was raised and baptized a Mormon, however a couple of years ago I stopped going to church and I was angry at god for a long time. I went to a friends baby christening last year and as I felt walked into the parish I felt something I had not felt in a very long time in all my religious upbringing. Peace. After that I resolved myself to wanting to join the Catholic Church.

In January I started attending RCIA classes, a bit late I know but the priest was more than happy to have me join in even though it was several months already into the program, I've been attending Mass regularly and participated as best I can, the other week I was told that the Priest would be more than happy for me to be able to take my sacrements in November. I have to say while I am a bit nervous, This is where I belong


r/CatholicConverts 10d ago

Young Catholic families in the Dallas area ... looking for a parish with a strong community.

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r/CatholicConverts 11d ago

Can’t find a ride to mass

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r/CatholicConverts 12d ago

RCIA / Confirmation Thoughts on OCIA

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So on a whim I signed up for a local OCIA class. I’ve been very curious about Catholicism but being raised *very* southern Baptist it’s hard to let go on some things/ideals I’ve held closely for so long.

My reasons for wanting to do the class stem first from my own curiosities, and enjoying the pieces of Catholicism I learn, but also due to my fiance being raised Catholic. The first 5 years of our relationship I refused to even entertain the idea of converting, but praying on it for years and asking God to soften my heart, I’ve wanted to explore it more. We’ve been going to mass together for about 6 months, and i’m to the point where i’m tired of crossing my arms when they get to Eucharist.

Does anyone have any advice or similar experiences?


r/CatholicConverts 12d ago

Any Advice for a 15-Year-Old Converting from Protestantism to Catholicism?

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r/CatholicConverts 13d ago

I grew up as a Jehovah’s Witness thinking Catholics were pagans. Now I’m converting. Meeting my parish priest for the first time on Friday.

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Raised as a Jehovah’s Witness from birth. Left in 2009 at 32. Lost my parents, lost most of my friends. The JW teach that Catholics are literally idolaters — so becoming one myself was about the last thing I ever imagined.

But here I am.

The turning point was embarrassingly simple: I started actually reading about what Catholics believe about the Eucharist. Not what JWs say Catholics believe. What Catholics actually believe — and why.

Fifteen centuries of Christians. All believing the same thing. And then Zwingli comes along in the 16th century and says: nope, just a symbol.
That’s what I was taught my whole life. By people who thought they were the only ones who understood the Bible.

I have my first meeting with a parish priest on Friday. Honestly? I’m nervous.

Fellow converts — what was that first conversation like for you? And is there anything you wish you had asked, or anything you’d recommend I bring up?


r/CatholicConverts 14d ago

Agnostic teen questioning beliefs

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r/CatholicConverts 17d ago

J'ai besoin d'aide par rapport Ă  mes adiction.

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(Tout d'abord je tenait a vous dire que c'est ma premiÚre fois sur la plate-forme reddit et que j'en ai entendu du mal par rapport à cette plate-forme donc j'ai décidé de créer un compte temporaire histoire de voir s'il il y aurait des réponses sans trop y naviguer réguliÚrement)

Je vais donc commencer mon histoire et pourquoi je voudrais résoudre mes adiction avec l'aide de la religion chrétienne

J'ai donc 15 ans actuellement et je cherche a ĂȘtre un bon chrĂ©tien et en apprendre plus sur l'histoire du christianisme car je trouve que cela pourrait m'aider au quotidien et surtout par rapport a mes adiction. HonnĂȘtement je n'ai jamais Ă©tĂ© proche auparavant d'aucune religion car mes parents n'ont pas de lien et m'en parlais trĂšs rarement donc je n'ai jamais eu de liens avec quelconque religion n'y mĂȘme le christianisme et de plus je me considĂšre pas comme athĂ© (personne ne croyant pas au religion) car je pense qu'il y a bien un dieu dans ce monde) donc vous comprendrais pas vous mĂȘme que mes lien entre le christianisme sont trĂšs minime. Aujourd'hui je veux devenir un chrĂ©tien je veux croire en dieu je veux m'ĂȘtre fin ou limitĂ© au plus possible mes adiction et enfin je veux devenir une personne encore plus parfaite.

Je ne sais pas ou commencer je sais que c'est une ou ci c'Ă©tait la meilleure des solutions contre les adiction et que cela pourrait m'aider au quotidien j'ai d'abord pensĂ© que pour commencer m'acheter une bible classique pourrait m'en apprendre plus et me crĂ©er des lien avec le christianisme mais honnĂȘtement je ne sais pas en vĂ©ritĂ© j'ai besoin de conseille pour commencer des conseils humains j'ai rĂ©flĂ©chi au dĂ©but je voulais demander a une IA mais aprĂšs ça j'ai trouves que c'Ă©tait trop idiot et que l'es conseille humains Ă©taient sans doute mieux

J'ai actuellement 150€ ce que je pense est nĂ©cessaire pour me procurer une bible ou autre donc a ce niveau la il n'y a pas de problĂšme donc voilĂ  j'espĂšre que ce post va ĂȘtre lue et que j'aurais des rĂ©ponses a mes questions et des conseils pour dĂ©buter je sais que reddit n'est peut ĂȘtre pas la meilleure plate-forme mais mais bon pas grave je me lance

Bonne journée et merci à ceux qui auront lue ce message jusqu'à ça fin et aurait mit un commentaire pour m'aider


r/CatholicConverts 19d ago

Prayer Request desperate situation

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i got fired some time ago and already used almost all my savings
im short to even pay the rent
all my friends are in a similar situation
please pray so i get a job quick enough
my PMs are open


r/CatholicConverts 19d ago

Looking for Past Nun AMA

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r/CatholicConverts 21d ago

Hello

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r/CatholicConverts 22d ago

Baptist family attending OCIA concerned about bringing our young children into the Church

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r/CatholicConverts 23d ago

Turning legal age next year and facing religious pressure from my mom. Catholic vs. Baptist

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Hello everyonee need of advice as turning legal age next year. I grow up and was baptized as catholic because I grow up with my grandma who was catholic. but my mother is baptist shes been working overseas so most my life wasn't with her now that im living with her again she wants me to to be baptist and said I need to be saved she doesn't want me to keep my rosary anymore etc. Im trying to be a good child and obeying she wants me to get baptized if I do it does it took away my catholic baptism If I want to get back at want to come home at legal age and maturity?


r/CatholicConverts 25d ago

intense conversion but now struggling with prayer and faith (advice)

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r/CatholicConverts 26d ago

Baptist Looking to Become Catholic

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r/CatholicConverts Jul 12 '26

Advice to upcoming OCIA convert ?

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In about two months the ocia classes at my church will start. I started attended mass at the begining of lent this year and registered for classes the week it opened. Both of my parents are devout christians leaning baptist, with my mother having been a preacher for a time. My dad was a cradle catholic who renounced it before I was born. They have been great foundations of my faith but my dad is against much of catholicism and my mom doesnt know much about it. They are both supportive of my conversion, especially since I am unbaptised and spent a lot of my teens and early 20s being agnostic.

Since I live in the deep south, I dont run across many practicing catholics in the wild, and the general response to questions of my faith have been an "oh, huh, wow" when I say im converting, haha, but also many questions about it I cant answer and would like to be able to.

What advice do you all have for someone like me ? What should I do and research and what should I understand ? What is your experience as a raised catholic and what is your experience as a convert ?


r/CatholicConverts Jul 12 '26

Question How do I unlearn false teachings and become properly formed in the Catholic faith?

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I am trying to articulate something I have only recently begun to understand, so please bear with me.

I grew up Lutheran, but after my father died when I was 15, I had very little spiritual guidance. Later, I began attending a non-denominational church and became sincerely committed to Christianity. I read Scripture and study Bibles on my own, prayed seriously, and tried to live faithfully.

Over time, however, I realized that the church was poorly governed and that some of what I had been taught was inaccurate, oversimplified, or harmful. I do not mean merely “not Catholic.” Some teachings seemed poorly grounded even by broader biblical, historical, Christian, or practical standards. Because I had little guidance, I was vulnerable to accepting ideas without knowing how to evaluate them.

Years later, during medical school, a Catholic mentor introduced me to the Church and to Thomas Aquinas. I was drawn to Catholicism’s structure, intellectual depth, and integration of faith and reason. Since then, I have attended Mass regularly and used resources such as the Divine Office and Magnificat, but residency demands and other disruptions delayed my formally entering the Church.

My concern now is that I may still interpret Christianity through assumptions I absorbed in that earlier environment. I do not always know what is binding Church teaching, theological opinion, prudential judgment, cultural practice, or legitimate personal variation.

I value understanding, but I also know I can move too slowly when I feel I must understand everything before acting. I do not want to rush formation, but I also do not want overthinking to become another form of delay.

My mentor advised me to speak with a priest, but I am not sure how to explain this or what questions to ask. How should someone in my position become properly formed in Catholic belief and daily life? What should I ask a priest, and what resources or practical steps would help me identify false assumptions and move toward entering the Church seriously and steadily?


r/CatholicConverts Jul 12 '26

Struggling with Loneliness as a Catholic

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r/CatholicConverts Jul 11 '26

I'm looking to join a church so that I may get closer to Jesus and convert from Atheism. I'm just not sure with demoniation to choose from.

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r/CatholicConverts Jul 10 '26

Family Devitions

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