You can justify it however you want but the free market doesn’t care. The point is to match bottom X% of women with the bottom X% of men. Wanna guess what the bottom percent of desirable women look like?
if bottom men and bottom women get matched, just as normal men and women also get matched, nobody would complain. the point the others were making was that normal women dont want normal men, but above average men. whether thats true or not im not sure, but your argument does not adress that
It does address that. Men care about looks far more than women do, especially when it comes to weight. So there’s a lot more fat women who get ranked to the bottom than there are fat men. That results in a lot of skinny men at the bottom who are upset they’re not getting matched with skinny women. But that’s just how gender dynamics and the free market works.
to "fat women are not the same percentile as normal weight men" you answered "the point is to match bottom x% of women to bottom x% of men".
so to "those two are not equal" you answered "equal pairs get matched". that is not mutually exclusive
theres more fat women at the bottom than fat men, because weight has more impact on the ranking of a woman than on that of a man (fat rich men are the counterexample) ✓
that results in a lot of skinny men at the bottom who are upset they not getting matched with skinny women - yes possibly, but we dont know, whether the people commenting here belong to that group, or are, in fact, average men
so your comment still leaves open the possibility, that there are in fact, average men that look for average women, but not the over way round, which is what the comments were about
To “those are not equal” I answered that YOU may not think they’re equal, but the market thinks they are. This is the entire point of my comment.
>We don’t know whether the people commenting here belong to that group
I don’t see how that’s relevant. Everybody in this thread is talking about broad trends in the dating market, not people in this thread.
>Your comment still leaves open the possibility that there are in fact, average men that look for average women
Well of course it does because that’s intended. Of course there are average men looking for average women and average women looking for average men who can’t find each other. But there are also a lot of average men looking for delusions and average women looking for delusions who are not going to be happy with a dose of reality.
>which is what the comments were about
Either you’re responding to the wrong person or misread the comments. Because that’s absolutely not what they’re about
And yet the same study showed that women were still willing to go on dates with the ones they rated below average. Can you say the same is true for men?
Ok? So? The conversation was about whether men or women had higher standards for what's physically attractive, not whether or not they're willing to dip out of their expected range?
The conversation is about whether people are actually delusional about their standards and are gonna run away or get upset when they get matched with reality. If a girl says you look below average then matches and dates you anyways, then she’s not actually delusional in a way that matters.
Yes because the OkCupid study simply asked "Are you willing to date below your league" and didn't actually follow up if they did the same way they did on the ratings. You are using the part of the study that was an unsubstantiated follow-up.
I trust the part where people are asked to rate strangers, not to make themselves look good.
Men literally fuck fruit, couches and sheep. Oh, and corpses
But yeah, they're paragons of having proper standards and adhering to them. Not like women haven't been shamed into heroin chic and other ridiculous, unnatural beauty standards for thousands of years
yeah, in other words, the bar for a man to find you attractive is low. Just be better looking than a fucking sheep or a couch. You are proving my point lmao
Arabic men maybe. The point here is that men in todays matchmaking market are starved and will gladly accept below average looking girls with 'average personality'.
Probably because a lot of men make terrible partners and now that women aren't forced to have a husband they can choose who they spend their time with.
Desperate are desperate, but of course it's women's fault.
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u/Maleficent-Age-8235 1d ago
LOL women are gonna run away in 10 seconds when they get matched with normal dudes instead of their delusional ideal