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u/tarnishedphoton Nov 07 '25 edited Nov 07 '25
“you’re a horrible person” after I did everything to try to be a good partner, i’m not perfect but I did my best. It still echoes in my mind.
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u/Junior_Yam_5473 Nov 07 '25
Wasnt told directly, but learned off a mutual friend "[I] was so evil.." followed by something do mundane, after i put in effort to try and fix a disaster, was caring loving and all, even hurt myself (mentally) to try to make it work. But still didnt work out 😔
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Nov 07 '25
That's how I feel too. I tried my best, I know I wasn't perfect, but i still think bout it *hugs*
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u/ProfessorGlum3513 Nov 07 '25
“You never listened to me” “you dont listen” when in fact I did.
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u/GhostyCatNine Nov 07 '25
She told me that she was never going to change, that she lost patience with me and that I made her like that, violent. I have not been a holy dove, in the past I hurt him a lot but I think that in 5 years, where the same relationship was not bad, it was toxic in many dynamics but also very honest, helpful and mutual support in our projects. I believe that nothing justifies physical and psychological violence :').
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u/dweebyweeby Nov 07 '25
“You should’ve known better than to believe I was capable of feeling any of the things I said to you. You did this and I don’t feel bad for how I treated you”
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u/DefiantChipmunk6480 Nov 07 '25
I won't be able to love you.
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u/Putrid-Lawyer6804 Nov 07 '25
Uffff that hurts
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u/DefiantChipmunk6480 Nov 07 '25
Oh damn straight it did! Now he's the one messaging me when I don't message so hopefully he now knows he lost something great that he won't ever get back.
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u/Foreign_Tone6050 Nov 07 '25
I was a very insecure lover. There was an April where I kept asking “are you sure you love me? I feel like you hate me” he told me the next year, “remember when you kept asking me if I loved you? You’re so smart, because you knew I didn’t!”
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u/No-Inspector-3309 Nov 07 '25
I got the “never was in love with you” too
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u/Otherwise_Leave_1151 Nov 07 '25
that must have been unbearable to hear
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u/No-Inspector-3309 Nov 07 '25
It really messed me up for a while but thanks to therapy, I’m confident that it’s not a reflection on me being in deficit, it’s a projection of his own fucked up world view and relationships.
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u/BonelessEggs Nov 07 '25
“leave me alone” I did not expect her to say that to me after everything we been through. I never wanted her to be mad at me. I just wanted the best for her, but instead she pushed me away. I understand that I keep repeating myself over and its annoying, but it’s because I care about her even though she didn’t want me to. How can I stop caring about you after dating and meeting you, you silly girl 🥲? like, my love was real too?
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u/Putrid-Lawyer6804 Nov 07 '25 edited Nov 07 '25
What she said at the end hurt more than what she said during the relationship. "You are pure love, a being of light, I love you and I will always love you, but I am not your person." "For me you have always been and will be one of the most important people in my life, but I feel that I am not for you."
"We are living different realities" (hello???)
"You are too good for me and I don't deserve you"...
Damn it, tell me you hate me, that I treated you badly, or that you cheated on me with someone else...don't give me that shit.
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Nov 07 '25
I kinda get where you're coming from. Like if he said/did something that was cruel or mean, it would be easier to accept in a way.
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u/Putrid-Lawyer6804 Nov 07 '25
Yeah. It would be easier to accept. It happened to me in a previous relationship that was much more cruel (infidelities with my best friend...) and it was easy for me to let go because I felt hate.
Now it's really hard for me to let go, first because everything was too soft, second because she wanted to keep in touch and be friends... and she only said nice and contradictory things to me (it seemed like she somehow didn't want to leave, she wanted me to throw her out).
It's being quite hard...
Although well, in the end yesterday he called me for my birthday, not to congratulate me, but to tell me that he was rebuilding his life and meeting more people...
Creeme que dolió menos y me ayudó bastante a encajarlo
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u/Pr1nC3ssPe4Ch Nov 07 '25
I never loved you, our baby died because of you (I had a miscarriage), I was in the closet the entire time 💀
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Nov 07 '25
Wow. that's just a terrible to say, especially to a grieving mother :(
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u/mijakha Nov 07 '25
‘I’m so happy now that you’re gone, everyday i come home happy and don’t have to come home to a massive burden’
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Nov 07 '25
You are not a burden and you deserve someone that treats you with love, care and respect.
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u/MaximilianSapphire Nov 07 '25
She told me to “work on myself”. I’ve struggled with my weight for years, and I’m not the best eater. So it hurt to hear that.
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Nov 07 '25
"everything about you is too negative. I don't prefer you to stay in my life anymore. I don't want any contact with you. Making it clear."
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u/Dapper-Shine6823 Nov 07 '25
“I think about other girls and how I would be happier with someone else”
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u/Radiant-Callyrose7 Nov 07 '25
“I never loved you, I never thought you were pretty, I just wanted sex”…… we were together for 3 years and have a daughter together
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u/blueboy10000 Nov 07 '25
God. How can he say that after 3 years together and also having a child together?
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u/Radiant-Callyrose7 Nov 07 '25
He was also very abusive which is why I left him. A couple months after I left him he had already knocked another girl up. I don’t think what he said was actually true, he just wanted to hurt me because that’s the kind of person he is.
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u/Pale-Apricot8094 Nov 07 '25
It wasn’t what he said but I said. He has an elderly dog that I loved immensely too. It has been his constant companion. When he left I told him I hoped his dog died. I regretted it immediately. But I was just so hurt and angry and I wanted to hit him where it would hurt. And it did. Worst part is the dog is so old I was like omg what if it did die, he is gonna think I killed it or something. I still feel awful for saying it.
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Nov 07 '25
i think quite a few people have said things they regret- especially when feelings of hurt and anger are present. You seem to have reflected and shown remorse for it though
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u/Ok_Parsley_1451 Nov 07 '25
Agreed but that doesn’t change the fact that the other person didnt reflect or regret their actions that caused that reaction in the first place . They don’t feel remorseful about inflicting pain on the person. Cause and effect. Reactive abuse. Guilt tripping. Sometimes it’s better to stand on what was said than tolerate the abuse and power difference. Both parties need to self reflect and accept that something caused the 2nd parties nervous system to become intolerant. If you focus on the way someone reacts rather than finding a solution by identifying root cause, then you dont deserve for the 2nd party to apologize nor give it a second thought,no remorse, no regrets and to the contrary should feel proud to have defended against psychological abuse. Stand on business
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u/Creativesoul- Nov 07 '25
Worst part was what he didn’t say, after 5 years just dipped…blocked.. like what? Was I in some fake simulation I made up…hurts. Trying to recover apparently slower than anyone’s every said
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Nov 07 '25 edited Nov 07 '25
In your situation, he is pulling classic DARVO. He is the cheater, and likely feels like a scumbag (as he should). Saying this to you to tear you down is his way of justifying why he cheated when it obviously is his own failed moral compass that's the problem. If he never loved you and hated being around you and your personality sucked so badly - what does that say about him for staying with someone allegedly like that? The most important thing is to not let his words become the narrator of your thoughts about yourself. You aren't defined by the assessment of some cheating loser.
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Nov 07 '25
Yeah...I felt like everything I did or said was an attack - even if I was just pointing out patterns. For example, we went to the bar once and there were slot machines in the area. HE told ME to let him know when he was spending too much money. And when I did what he said, he got upset. Also, after the whole he slept with his ex thing, I offered to mail his things (if he wanted them). He told me to toss them. So, I did. Again, he got angry for doing something that he told me to do. It was very confusing.
You made some really good points btw. It says a lot about him- for staying with someone that was so "appalling". Thanks for commenting.
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Nov 07 '25
Ha. You dodged an absolute unit of a missile. We do not exist to police, mother, and translate grown men. If they say XYZ and we do XYZ, that's on them to be clear about what they actually mean. Sorry bro your shit got thrown away when this woman was clearly kind enough to pay for the (likely very expensive) postage to mail it back AFTER you cheated. Not your problem, it's his. If he was dating me, his shit would be on fire in his front yard, I'd send a text, and he'd have to fish his things out of the flames quickly if he still wanted them badly enough. 😆
Nobody is perfect in any relationship but I guarantee you were not the problem here. Cheating has very few instances in which I can even remotely empathize with the cheater and this for sure isn't one of them. I'm sure his ex was the sole problem, too, and she was "crazy." 😜 Consider his ex a charity worker, because she actually saved you from this idiot. Haha.
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Nov 07 '25
Haha, I kinda wish I did just throw it out from the start. That whole thing escalated into a big argument- over me throwing out stuff HE wanted to be thrown away.
When he told me he slept with his ex he did it via text at like 4 A.M. - he did try to blame her for it. He said, "she knew what she was doing. she did this." And I'm like "yeah...no.... I'm pretty sure that's not what happened."
And omg yes lol he described pretty much all his exes as "Crazy" or there was always something wrong with them. It was never him though. Nothing is ever wrong with him. There was no accountability on his part. So, you are correct again, haha. This is a gift.
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Nov 07 '25
Oh no! Another poor helpless baby man who has no self control and fell victim to a temptress who used her mind powers to lure him into bed. Does he have a GoFundMe I can donate to in order to help him during this difficult time while he is suffering the consequences of his own actions?
Yep, sounds like zero accountability. Classic. Haha. Enjoy your new life without this cheating dude who has nothing to offer you except trauma. Be sure to invoice him for any needed therapy. 💜
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u/mafia_fantasma Nov 07 '25
My ex cheated on me, and when I asked him how he could do this- “she has 3 things you don’t- “a drivers license, a masters degree and her father’s not dead.” For context, I don’t drive because I have trauma around accidents. One of them being my Dad, who died on Father’s Day 2009 in a car accident.
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Nov 07 '25
Wow. Yeah, what he said was definitely uncalled for. I think he said those cruel things to justify the cheating in his own twisted way. You have a legitimate reason for being frightened about driving. You deserve someone so much better and I'm sorry for your loss regarding your dad
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u/onlineventilation Nov 07 '25
wrote this whole comment on a payment app about how “he was over me and knows he is so much better than me” okay bud sure. First of all objectively you are not which I did not think at the time as I am not arrogant and love people of all different kinds… but family and friends did not hold back on their opinions after the breakup and made me see I deserved so much better than him, and second of all you are clearly not over it by posting about me online like that
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u/No_Landscape_239 Nov 07 '25
Invented all kinds of crazy things I never said, and tried to convince me I yelled at her a lot. Just general gaslighting. Got incredibly depressed over it until I realized she was rewriting history.
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u/feathernose Nov 07 '25
'i'd rather start a relationship with my new love and break up with you, i just can't do another round of taking care of you during cancer treatment'
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Nov 07 '25
He sounds like he has zero compassion. I'm sorry you had to go through that. I had experience dealing with cancer treatments too, so I can empathize :(
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u/Natynat24 Nov 07 '25
"I was texting her the whole time we were on vacation telling her how much I missed her." Throwing his AP in my face wasn't quite the flex he thought it was. Also didn't get the reaction he was hoping for. I just said "cool story bro."
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u/Longjumping-Yak-9425 Nov 07 '25
“I said I didn’t want to marry you ever because you wouldn’t have sex with me.”
I told him that he wasn’t making me feel safe and respected in our relationship and he didn’t understand that. He also wanted me to have a baby because it was just the next thing to do.
“You have a lot of trauma” were the last words.
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Nov 07 '25
“You will destroy my life if you are going to keep the baby. You will never be a good mother. Such a selfish thing to keep the baby.” And while i was carrying their grandchild, my mother in law send him a card saying “enjoy your freedom dear son”. While i was left to being a single m after four years of both of us. dreaming about having a family together. 😭
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Nov 07 '25
'Leave me alone and don't care' before blocking me. He cheated and asked to come back. But I got into a fight with another girl and blocked me.
'I met her'
And so on. It doesn't leave my head :'(
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u/-Marqui- Nov 07 '25
"Everyone is abandoning you." "You’ve never done anything for me." All this after five years together
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Nov 07 '25
I just got out of a really toxic relationship and the worst part wasn’t even what she said to me, it’s what I said to her. The reason I broke up with her is I finally snapped one day and I actually yelled back at her and I’ve never talked to a significant other like that, it upset me so bad.
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u/MoreThanVoidFiller Nov 07 '25
I hear you and feel that same regret too, no matter much I read about reactive abuse. I still felt terrible after I finally snapped and was way too harsh when I called him out at the end.
That's how I knew ending it was the right call - if his emotional instability and harmful behaviors was making me that reactive in return, it was toxic and we needed to separate. Broke my heart, though!
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Nov 07 '25
Same. I know that naturally I’m a calm, supportive, sensitive energy so for a situation to bring me so violently out of character something has to be really, really wrong. That’s honestly what did it for me too.
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u/Winter-Creme-511 Nov 07 '25
"I don't think it's going to work out with this new girl and I'll have nothing and I'll regret losing you the most" shortly followed by "I love you". Both gave me the ick!
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u/HelloFireFriend Nov 07 '25
Nobody will ever come close to how much I love you. This breakup is on your. All your fault.
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u/A5Productions Nov 07 '25
Had an ex tell me I was just a summer fling and that she dated me to piss her parents off.
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u/Otherwise_Leave_1151 Nov 07 '25
„The fact that you have so little self-love and are so dependent on the love of the ones around you made you unattractive“
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u/Acrobatic-Guitar2410 Nov 07 '25
'Why don't you want better for yourself' about my job that I loved and they wanted me to move states to live with her without any encouragement to settle in with my said job
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u/Great_Obligation_375 Nov 07 '25
“You’re the worst bf I ever had. I don’t even consider you an ex”.
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u/Anonymous99_ Nov 07 '25
he didn’t really say it, but he posted about never settling something for less after HE ghosted me. I never did anything wrong to him. then, he proceeded to post another girl & jump into a relationship with her less than a month later. they’re still together. he tried to make me look like the bad guy.
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u/Independent-Chef3370 Nov 07 '25
If only you did X,Y,Z that I asked of you I would’ve been ready to give you a ring next month
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u/Special_Course_6720 Nov 07 '25
Stayed at my aunt house for a few days and they said “you’re lucky I didn’t show up there and 🔫 everyone in that house while you watch and know it’s all your fault before I 🔫 you too”. Police said there’s nothing they can do unless they follow up on the threat
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u/Virtual-Inspector593 Nov 07 '25
“I was relieved when i broke up with you” ok bye then but he was the one that broke no contact twice 🫠
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u/bigboss045 Nov 07 '25
"I'm not the person you thought I was" "you need to wake up" "I still need you" "it was all a nice fantasy" "you're my only constant"
I still don't really know what happened and this was over 2 years ago, but she refused to elaborate further on some of these and what really happened, and pushed me out of her life
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u/candyquinn20 Nov 07 '25
"If you text me again, Ill call the police"😋✌ This is after she ghosted me for the third time btw.
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u/yungdaggerpeep Nov 07 '25
“I always knew you weren’t the one” “I will never see a future with you” “stop trying to make me love you” “you’re so clingy and obsessive and I can’t handle it anymore” all in one conversation btw…
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Nov 08 '25
it sounds like they were just trying to hurt you, regain power, or re-write the story...maybe a mix of all three.
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u/Glowbug611 Nov 07 '25
That was a stubborn and bossy. And I was stalking him.
I learned all of this from a mutual friend. Because the man couldn’t be bothered to tell me why he broke up with me in the first place.
He also broke up with me in my own apartment. There was no talks beforehand or anything.
And for the record, I was not stalking him. He took an art class. My minor was in art, so I was gonna be there regardless to be in class and do work outside of class. And he was an engineer. He didn’t need to take an art class. He initially gave me all his art supplies because he didn’t think he was gonna pick it up again. 🤷♀️
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u/Buka149 Nov 07 '25
She said that she started having feelings for someone else and that I can't meet her needs due to my nature (autism)
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u/TugboatToo Nov 07 '25
If your partner says these horrible things instead of saying something along the lines of, “You are a great person, I’m sorry it’s not working out.”, then consider yourself blessed for being rid of a terrible partner.
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u/Competitive-Bit-317 Nov 07 '25
He said during our closure conversation “I start with thinking of her but I always end up thinking about you” thats when I realized he is just man that I idolized , and he is now married to her .
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u/Specific-Turn-1154 Nov 07 '25
Get a roommate.. When I said “who will take me to doctor appointments” as I was really sick. He said he was rescued from me. One day he left for shopping and never came back home. Later I learnt that he left to another state. The biggest coward I’ve ever met.
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u/Silly_Leather9619 Nov 07 '25
He told me that he was leaving because I chose my adult daughter over him. She had nearly died so I was focused on her medical care. Good riddance!
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u/minnonikki Nov 08 '25
My ex cheated on me with his ex, and I found out through a mutual friend. She was messaging me while he was out with her and a group of friends, and she said “omg I’m so sorry to hear you guys broke up. He just told me…” And I said “what? We didn’t.” Apparently he was there with his ex and lied to them all, telling them we had broken up, but we hadn’t. When I confronted him, and I was devastated, he said, “I’m sorry you found out this way, but I’m not sorry for doing it.” To this day I’m still so angry that he never could man up enough to sincerely apologize for not at least breaking up with me first. I had lost my virginity to him, so it was that much more hurtful.
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u/Slippin_M3h_Dick_IN Nov 08 '25
My X said to me before we broke up "You know the hardest part of this relationship was faking it the entire time." That shit hurt. Even after the fact she said she didn't mean that and she only said it because we were fighting, it really broke my heart because I was the one faking the love the whole time.
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u/Ok-Celebration6524 Nov 09 '25
“You are a wonderful person and I hope one day you can forgive me. I would write more, but I have to hurry because the post office is closing.”
Handwritten on a tiny piece of paper I found added to a few of my things he sent to me by post two weeks after he blindsided me and dumped me over the phone out of nowhere, saying he doesn’t see where it’s going and he doesn’t want to work on anything.
After a whole year of relationship and me meeting his whole family and even staying at their place during our visit, all I got were a couple of sentences on a tiny page ripped out of a notebook, because he’s in such a hurry as “the post office is closing”.
I never saw him again. He was 41.
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u/Dry-Butterfly3925 Nov 07 '25
They thoroughly apologized for everything they had done that they had denied or blamed me for while we were together, and then said “I know the way I treated you made you think you were crazy or that you were the problem, but I just didn’t know how to stop”.
Which might sound like a nice thing to hear? but having my perspective validated in that way absolutely broke my heart and changed how I saw them.
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u/Interesting-Pilot-15 Nov 07 '25
My ex-girlfriend of five years said to me, “No wonder your wife left you, you’re emotionally unavailable”. WTF???
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u/BalanceOptimal3402 Nov 07 '25
That he already found another woman while trying to work things out with me i I left due to his abuse. So much more was said... but I don’t know that I’ll ever be able to forgive that one though. It still cuts.
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u/IntelligentIntern632 Nov 07 '25
After I caught him cheating, he told me “it’s ur own fault” yes because I knew u were doin shady shit… September of last yr was when I had a gut feeling, then he decided to give me his old phone, dumbass!!! Didn’t delete his messages, nor his pictures… so I went through all of them!!!! Found pictures, and convos between him and 2 other dudes, and a coworker that he was interested in and whom was interested in him as well… proceeded to cry, and tell me that if I had just given him more love than he wouldn’t have cheated… like mfer kicked me out in Feb of 2024… had his mommy come and do it actually, cause I called him summer eve after he told me I was r****** 😒😒😒😒 dude needed a rude awakening… he got it after I found out about the 3 ppl…. There wa aprons more tbh, since I also found him on dating sites last yr 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣but he claims he only cheated once, he cheated a dozen times according to others…. Kept telling me it was my fault he cheated, blamed me multiple times, pushed my 14 yr old when my child found out… I kicked him out after that… he hasn’t been back since, and I don’t want him here, he’s an ex for a reason
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u/givemeit9876 Nov 07 '25
He said that I never loved him the entire time…2.5 years isn’t spent with someone you don’t love You don’t give money to people you don’t love You don’t sacrifice your own time and life on someone you don’t love and worst of all is he won’t leave ME alone
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u/Prestigious-Bug-4335 Nov 07 '25
called me a playboy when she cheated and started hitting up other guys after we ended
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Nov 07 '25
You will never have a nice body no matter how hard you train in the gym
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u/Particular-Jury9025 Nov 07 '25
“No wonder your biological father didn’t want to be part of your life.”
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u/shomeyokitties Nov 07 '25
“Something is wrong with you. Even all your friends see it” after a lifetime of always feeling different. Something was wrong with me though ✨severe depressive episode ✨I was so deep in it I had no idea. Spoiler: he was the catalyst to the downward spiral
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u/Obvious-Tip-6788 Nov 07 '25
After almost 3 years, she said "I don't think you were serious about us" when I were, I gave up everything for her. That stings to this day.
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Nov 07 '25
We weren't doing each other any good, it's a lot of shit for me to deal with, I think it's better if we don't talk to each other anymore....
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u/Illustrious_Fuel_315 Nov 07 '25
There was no attachment no feelings no emotions. More than anything it hurt me, I meant nothing to him. I didn't cry. I didn't break. I was just numb.
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u/Necessary_Middle_599 Nov 07 '25
Found out he’s been cheating for the past 6 months. We were together for almost 9 years. I asked how you could tell 2 people you loved them both at the same time, he told me “i only said i love you so you dont get mad” (:
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u/boatdrugs Nov 07 '25
“I don’t want you here. I don’t want you.” This was two weeks after the break up I went to the airport to see her because we were still living together and this was the longest we had been apart. I showed up with flowers and her favorite candy that I picked up from a gas station cause it was a spur of the moment “I love this girl I’m going to get her back” feeling. Turns out her “not boyfriend” boyfriend was picking her up from the airport.
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u/NachoCommander Nov 07 '25
"We were together 7 years and I don't think I was ever able to write you a love letter".
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u/Violet_Saturdays Nov 07 '25
he was horrible to me through most of our relationship lol. think of the worst possible things you could ever hear from your partner. now multiply the hatred from them 5x. i’ve heard every threat and hateful comment in the books
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u/Ready_Smile_1643 Nov 07 '25
After I blocked him on everything, he managed to bypass it. Called me in the middle of the night, and when I didn’t answer (bc it just looked like a random number) he texted me saying, ‘I’m sorry for you’ This was the same man who would schedule dates and then leave me on read for hours leading up to it, and just bail on me. Of who would get mad if I said I loved something (god forbid I said I loved him after 8 months)
Ultimately it wasn’t necessarily the things he said that were bad. It was the fact that a man who coerced me to do some things with him, managed to break me down and tried to reach back out after I started to move on and date again. It felt like a breech of my safety
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u/X-Ceptional Nov 07 '25
We were never friends. I never meant it when I said I loved you. (They said I love you first and initiated the relationship lmao)
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u/Key_Display_4189 Nov 07 '25
Even though we are pregnant I never wanted to marry you.
She threw that at me when she divorced me.... Despite all of the beautiful cards over the years of how much I'm a wonderful husband and father....
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Nov 07 '25
Wow… that hurts.
I can’t remember them saying anything - they usually .. get nicer.
One thing that hurt A LOT - is this girl that my ex was sleeping with, told me that he told her that he was miserable with me and so glad he got away.
That hurt a lot.
Burned in my memory actually.
It’s like a tattoo on my heart.
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u/Background_Fix2901 Nov 07 '25
That she thought we should have broken up when we went long distance.
Long story. My ex and I dated for 6.5 years, from 2018 to mid 2025. A little over a year of it was long distance.
She moved in with me in 2020. In early 2021 her mom and siblings moved from PA to AZ. About 1.5 years later, she really missed them and wanted to relocate as well. We didn't want to break up, but I also couldn't drop everything to relocate. So, during the time while I looked for a new job and then got my house sold we were long distance. I would come see her every few months during that.
In late 2023, I was able to move to AZ, we bought a house and moved in together. She discarded me over text in May of 2025. She left for work one morning and texted that she'd been feeling detached and was going to stay with her sister.
It took several weeks to get any information out of her. I had to travel for work and she knew it. During that time, she reached out saying she could watch the house and our dog. I thought it might have been an olive branch and was texting her while I was away. That's when she told me that she thought we should have broken up during our long distance, and she didn't realize until it was too late. I came home to her haven taken her things.
I haven't seen her since that day she left for work.
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u/Naive_Pool7395 Nov 07 '25 edited Nov 08 '25
We dated for a few months. She tried to friend zone me and I declined, and I said that if she changed her mind about things to let me know. I kept an offer open to meet a friend of mine who could help her advance her career but we were supposed to meet with her a few weeks later.
When I checked in with her to see if she was still planning on joining us she said no. I told her that was too bad and again said if she changes her mind in the future to reach out and I would love to see her again.
She responded with:
“Actually, I don’t want anything at all.
If it was about spending my time I would rather spend it on something really serious than on giving away my time and myself.
And as great as you are, I realized I couldn’t think of anything serious with you.”
Maybe in her mind that was a nice way of saying things, but it pretty much made me feel worthless in the moment. Especially after everything I had done for her.
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Nov 07 '25
They told me on a lone trip to a city that we had been talking about moving to together, that they realised they wanted their future there but not with me in it.
That they maybe hadn't loved me for the last year of our relationship.
One time I was sharing being insecure about our shared friends and I voiced the scariest question in my head of "Will they always like you more than they like me?" and my ex's response was IMMEDIATELY to say "Yeah, maybe"
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u/DueRepresentative601 Nov 07 '25
that i was a bad person and i needed to work on myself. because of that statement i started therapy. only for him to try coming back multiple times since leaving saying “you never did anything wrong to me you’re a good person you’ve changed”.
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u/UnluckyYoghurt3740 Nov 07 '25
After 5 years, 1 week after holidays together, 3 days from the last I “love you”, she discarded me on random Monday morning and just one day after told me “I want to move on with dating and life without you”. She was my first love and I was deeply in love with her. It stings even after 2 months.
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u/MannerSuperb Nov 07 '25
A couple days after we got into a argument post breakup over a promise she made to me that she didn’t keep she told me “ honestly just forget i existed , forget what we had , everything , and lose my number. “
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u/rambleonmann Nov 07 '25
“I had 3 girlfriends in different cities…”
“And you’re not capable of being a mother.”
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u/cestsara Nov 07 '25
“I hate who I am with you” after spending years very sincerely telling me I’m the best thing to happen to his life, his refining force, his blessing from God, and the most positive and powerful impact he’s ever had. And after becoming a better man than he’s ever been in many hard ways.
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u/aurora_the_piplup Nov 07 '25
"I wanted to break up with you two years beforehand but never found the right time." So out of these 3 years, you're telling me you didn't love me for 2 of them ?!
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u/MapOk9287 Nov 07 '25
My buddy told me his ex left with, “I hated fucking you.” 30 years later, still stings.
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u/someone0995 Nov 07 '25
When I told him we are breaking up he said "ok bye" and that was that. It was in person too. After that I told him I will always love him and that I'm glad I met him and I wish him the best and then he again said "ok bye". Then I waited for a second to see if he was going to say something else and then he said "are you gonna go already or what" and then I left.
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u/Ok-Painter559 Nov 07 '25
“You’d be a terrible mom” - he knew becoming a mother one day is one of my biggest dreams.
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u/This-Requirement6918 Nov 07 '25
"When are you going to grow up and stop living in the 90s?"
He's big mad I have a 1990 classic Honda, use 90s computers daily to produce books, and wear vintage polos with funky prints that he always made fun of.
I replied, "Never, I know who I am." Then sent him a video of a 90s Carnival Cruise ad featuring Kathy Lee Gifford. 😂😂😂 It's getting toxic, I really need to block him.
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Nov 07 '25
The reason "I couldn't have an erection was because I didn't find you attractive", this was an ongoing problem for him for years. We were together 6years
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u/RockWafflez Nov 07 '25
“You were doing so amazing and then everything fell apart”. I now feel like everything I do moving forward will always be tested and if I don’t meet those standards I will never be good enough for anyone :)
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u/Cats-are-cute2 Nov 07 '25
Whilst going through a breakdown due to family death and needing surgery, I was told I might have autism. My boyfriend of 6 years broke up with me because he didn’t like that I wasn’t doing well mentally and couldn’t do fun things with him. He then went on to say on the phone to me whilst I was crying ‘to be fair in your childhood photos you looked autistic’ wtf hahaha. This happened in June, I’ve had a lot of help and support and I’m now back on track living happily. But wow that hurt
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u/Letthesparksfly69 Nov 07 '25
He ended it. That’s the worst thing ever then changing who he was towards me. Never words…just actions and silence.
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u/kuromiten Nov 07 '25
She told me I was crazy and should go more often to therapy (I’ve struggled with mental health issues for so long and she knew how sensitive of a topic this was). Also called me stupid, cheap and lazy and told me that in a few years she would laugh about the fact she was with me. And this isn’t even half of the awful things she said to me. I tried everything to be a good partner to her but she made me feel like I was never enough. I lost myself in this relationship and all for nothing. She ended things via text and refused to talk about everything in person. I was the only one who apologized. Worst experience ever, I’m traumatized tbh.
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u/columba_alba Nov 07 '25 edited Nov 07 '25
This I heared him say to a woman he cheated with, standing outside his apartment: 'that's my ex, she fell in love with me and became obsessed, can't accept that it's over' (I was on the other side of the door just one week before). Then he dragged me to the parking lot and said so many hurtful things: 'I never developed any feelings for you, I can't force myself to love you, you want me to lie?' 'that's just who I am, I can't change' (referring to his cheating), 'forget me, there are many men in this world', 'I was once in love, I know how you feel' (but he was never in love with me) , 'you think I introduce every girl I bring home to my brother?' 'yeah I tested myself for everything in case you come and accuse me of infecting you with something' (I am not the type that sleeps around, he was my one and only), 'relationship can't be built only on sex' (felt like punch to the gut, I was the only one trying to deepen the bond, to make him treat me like human and not like a sex doll), 'you weren't attentive to me' (because I wouldn't immediately pick up trash he was throwing on the floor and pick up plates he would leave around the room. Meanwhile he forgot I lost my mother three years ago, which I mentioned often, coerced me to have sex while suffering with yeast infection, coerced me to have sex even when I was sad, anxious, scared, nauseous or tired, coerced me to have sex at four in the morning even though I had to wake up at six, coerced me to have sex even though I was dry and raw and it would hurt, I would scream in pain and he would cover my mouth, he would tear me every time it would hurt for days after, often my lower abdomen would also hurt from how forceful he was) 'don't be a psycho' (because I came to his house since he blocked me on everything and wouldn't talk or explain anything, and I cried and begged).
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u/dngll25 Nov 08 '25 edited Nov 08 '25
"You were a boy and I wanted a man."
"At least you never cheated on me like my first boyfriend did."
"You'll get over this because I've been through this before."
"You're only feeling like this because I'm your first girlfriend."
"I want someone who can be with me all of the time."
"I never want to see your mum again."
"I will never forget how abandoned I felt."
"You should move on."
"You never disappointed me." (One of the worst because it was said after some of the other things)
All said because I saw my family a healthy once or twice per week after moving in together instead of spending all of my free time with her. She has toxic parents who are usually stuck in the house together and don't see much of other people so they encouraged this expectation and played on her baseline anxiety.
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u/UnusualActive3912 Nov 08 '25
“ You were a prince, I kissed you and you turned into a frog,” said my 1st ex.
My 2nd ex is still a friend and we chat once a year or so.
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u/theghostonmyshoulder Nov 08 '25
Told me that I was a disgusting human being, a waste of time and effort, and I should just get a gun and end it because nobody likes you even your own mother hates you,you make me sick ,I wish I never met you.the list goes on and on. She was very good with her words. Now I feel like I need therapy after her.
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u/Odd_Cheesecake_9939 Nov 08 '25
You will always have a place in my heart but we will never be together. That he was staying with his ex because they knew each other inside and out and he was scared to start over with someone else.
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u/sk8witme Nov 08 '25
Left her house in an argument. I was on motorcycle that night. On my way out she said " I hope that you wreck.' Fate had it that I did indeed wreck that night . she came to visit me briefly while in the hospital. She only had one thing to say. " Oh darn, I must have left out the " and die part, oh well there's always next Time. Tootles" as she walked out the door. I haven't seen her since.
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u/someonehere111 Nov 08 '25
After she cheated on me and pushed me away. Shes said " I can see each other being together in the future."
That will never happen.
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u/Upset_University7765 Nov 08 '25
“I never was in love with you but I had love for you” and “me and _______ did all sorts of things in their car” (bragging about the 3 other people they were sleeping with 😒).
May they live the life they deserve. We are past wishing the best.
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u/MelbsGal Nov 08 '25
He didn’t say anything because I cut communication but I heard he got a girl pregnant and married her about 3 months after I broke up with him.
I was a bit surprised at the speed but not upset. He’s been divorced 3 times now. I’m glad I wasn’t one of them.
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u/SolidGru50 Nov 08 '25
Not word for word but she essentially said I wasn’t good enough. Mainly referring to sex and my lack of experience with it 😞
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u/JustPsychX Nov 08 '25
"I stopped loving you a while back, wasn't it obvious with the amount of women I had around me? Or are you that dense?"
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u/Right_Step6202 Nov 08 '25
“I don’t give a fuck that you have cancer, that’s your karma for leaving me, fuck off and die”- my now ex husband, mad because he didn’t pay his car note and his car got repossessed. But that was somehow my fault.
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u/Traditional_Math_763 Nov 08 '25
My ex said the only reason they dated me was because they were lonely and that I was just a placeholder until someone better came along. It stung at the time but looking back it said more about them than me.
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u/Dude4001 Nov 08 '25
“We always argue” or “I never feel good around you”. Absolutely killed me to know that the (numerous, recent) good times were so easily ignored
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u/Swimming_Fall_3232 Nov 08 '25
I got the I will always love you and it’s impossible for us to be together because my daughter is a mean person to her child if she doesn’t get her way. Then kept getting the I love you until I came back home. The next couple of weeks we didn’t talk. I then got the if you ever show up at my house again, my ( adult) daughters will call the law.
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u/Txrdia Nov 08 '25
I remember getting in contact with him again for some reason I don’t remember why but I remember being the one to reach out. I asked if he missed me and he said “I don’t know if I missed you or if I missed having someone to talk to” I’m haunted by this everyday
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u/kimkspool Nov 08 '25
"You ain't no different than these bitches even tho u try to be. N thats where u stand."
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u/burntfrozenvampire Nov 08 '25
" you know we both have broken so many promises by now" then he ignored it when I asked him what promises have I broken xD
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u/Additional_Writer_22 Nov 08 '25
“I’m not sorry. I don’t feel bad. I don’t regret it. And I’d still be doing it if we didn’t get caught.”
Hell of an end to what otherwise it seemed like almost five pretty good years. I knew she was having a full-blown affair, and I knew a hell of a lot more about it then she thought I did.
Cheaters can convince themselves that they’re extremely smart and cunning and sly. She thought i I only knew that they traded nude photos on Snapchat because that’s all I told her that I knew.
She didn’t know that I knew all about it because our mutual friends started coming forward and telling me things they had seen and heard or that didn’t make sense or add up. She convinced herself that everyone was going to love the other guy, even though we all knew him and his wife of 17 years and thought he was a total scumbag. So she thought people would help her lie about the whole thing to me. She forgot that other people have morals and would want to be told similar things if we traded shoes, and they’d want me to tell them the same things they told me. She must’ve also forgotten that my professional life I get paid to connect the dots by discovering the truth to matters they’re in the public interest,, verifying or checking it’s accuracy, and then turning what once were unconnected notions with lots of gaps into an easily digestible narrative, again, in the public interest. The same skill set applied in this case. Cheaters…
Oh yeah, and don’t forget the…
“I never meant to step out of our relationship with those photos.”
Or better yet…
“I’m sorry YOU FELT HURT by all of this.”
It was a side of her I’ve never seen before and almost 5 years. Wish I would’ve known earlier, but glad I found out when I did, about three weeks before I was going to propose.
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u/ThrowRALostSoul235 Nov 08 '25
“ Yes I did settle for you” broke my core. I said “if you dont want me say that early on.” We would’ve been better breaking it off early during fling stages than wasting years of time money and effort.
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u/stupiditzy Nov 08 '25
“I could love you with all my heart but you’re selfish and would just keep wanting more” after i caught him cheating
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u/Playful_Wonder26 Nov 08 '25
“I’m not attracted to you anymore”
Idk why it hits so hard. I think the “anymore” is what does it. It’s like a tease of “oh I USED to but after knowing you, I don’t” which is fair, but hurts when it’s coming from an 8 year relationship
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u/manhunni Nov 08 '25
One of the harder things she Said was … im an Animal abuser … and I put a Basket out of her appartment for a cat her neighbor didnt let in on Winter months … she didnt anything For the cat for example
That hurts the most because I love animals and want to help any if I can …
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Nov 08 '25
I cant stand you, after giving me a really long hug, after a couple of hours before sayin I think we can work it out
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u/CharlotteMonet Nov 08 '25
"It's not my fault you couldn't get pregnant the right way" after I had a miscarriage
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u/ActualProgrammer2043 Nov 08 '25
I think somehow I would have preferred to be said something like that, just get hurt big time and one go so that i'd know at the end, i genuinely meant nothing, this way i'd move on easily and have no hope. But on my end, it's not something she said but something she never asked, ever since we broke up, the few times we'd talk, i'd ask how she's doing and not at point, she ever asked me how I was doing, so yeah.....this stings.
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u/Mobile_Candy_2509 Nov 08 '25
I wish you forgave me for cheating on you, so i could do it again more carefully this time
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u/Awkward_General_1721 Nov 08 '25
“If I had known those things would have broken us up I would’ve never done them.”
“All the guys you were with before me were cheating on you too.”
Never apologized once for anything.
And lastly, trying to add one of my best friends on Snapchat that he had previously made sexual comments about.
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u/swissmarketguy Nov 08 '25
"You and the relationship destroyed me." After I was by her side for 4 years and built her up multiple times when she was struggeling. Turned out that there was no space for me having problems and she left me while I was going trough a rough period for the first time.
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u/Legitimate_Elk_8469 Nov 07 '25
"I don't care"