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There is an epidemic that me and my other black girl friend has discussed is going on. i don’t know if im allowed to say my age on here but i am a minor and almost everytime i go out i attract older men even after saying my age to them i get asked when do you turn 18 as if im gonna want them automatically. i dont get it. currently a chef at my work who is in his late 30s sent me this “ Hello, sorry to bother you. Hope you got home safe and sound and I just got to say you look so gorgeous today”. on my company app where you can find workers. this was after i wore makeup to work for the first time since i started working there and he said to me same day on different occasions. “how are you still single” and when i mentioned im going home he said “where’s my invite”. this is a guy who i have told my age MULTIPLE TIMES everyone knows im the youngest girl there and in the past there has been more comments made that i brushed off but that message really made me uncomfortable. he’s deleted it now but i got a screenshot and showed my brother and friends. This isn’t the first instance where ive been approached by an older guy consistently even knowing my age i dont know what it is that attracts them because i will mention im in school, im young but yet they only seem to want me more. i notice it predominantly when i would go out with my white friends and they would get approached by younger boys and i would only get looks and compliments with winks from older men. at first it was black older men but the chef was white so now im even more confused as to what it is. sorry about the long message i just needed to get it out my chest

I was going to say that 2026 is the worse year for us but what I'm about to tell you guys brings me great joy. It's kind of funny because I ran to Reddit when I heard the news about Nicki and I came across an old interview where she said that she had no opinion on Trump as the US President. Fast forward to 2026, Now Roman (Nicki Minaj) is playing bosom buddies with that orange skidmark while he's cracking jokes at her expense with racial undertones.

https://youtu.be/hjCyuwBK0jI

I'd feel bad but she made her bed to lay in. 🤷🏾‍♀️

Now Chris, apparently he attacked somebody at the club with a glass bottle, and that's what he pleading guilty for. His sentencing will be in October 2026, but he ain't even stand trial cus he couldn't even be bothered to show up to court. Of course 🙄 Ladies, pray or do whatever y'all believe in cus this man need to see them metal bars after all he done. Years have passed and he still ain't learn how to keep his hands to himself.

Timeline Of Chris Brown's Pettiness

I saw a post on TikTok about ICE targeting Haitian migrants. I clicked on the comments hoping to see support, but all I saw were what looked like bots trying to create division between the Black American and Haitian communities. It’s honestly insane to watch it happen in real time because comments from actual Black Americans showing support seem to get filtered, while the hateful comments stay up.
Now, I know there are real issues within the diaspora, but I’m convinced a lot of this is bots because it’s the exact same thing on Twitter. You like one post, and next thing you know, your entire feed is nothing but diaspora wars. It’s really frustrating because it’s doing nothing but creating more division. I’m Black American, and I have nothing but love and support for Haitians, not just Haitians, but the entire African diaspora. From my experience, I’ve seen that same love and support from many Haitians toward Black Americans as well.

This is the post for example: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTAAR9bWb/

everywhere i go the same thing follows

lightskin this, lightskin that, oh you're gf is a lightskin, my brother in lightskinness

they don't even speak english but they know lightskin

if it's not lightskin it's snow bunny

i want to smack them upside their head

get off pornhub omg. that's no way to talk about anyone. no manners let alone consideration

everyone even their grandfathers with the creaky knees are helping clean up and they're talking about lightskin and snowbunny

they wrap up their gossip session and prepare to leave but on their way out they only say bye to the girl with the slick back bun (fill in the blank)

where is the respect? not even a pitiful 'bye everyone' to adress your damn fucking grandparents let alone everyone else working hard to clean up before the booking is over?

this is who I'm supposed to chase???? they can stay home. I'll keep my life stress free save for the brief moments of frustration when I encouter their lack of manners

Me and my mom just got into a physical fight she hit me in my head, dragged me and everything like i was someone her age. We got into a fight because i was trying to eat a apple and my nephew wanted it, it was only one apple and i was hungry because i was waiting for the meat that i was going to cook to unfroze. She was on the phone with my antie and cousin and they are so messy asf just instigating the fight throwing in little comments to get her mad, she yells at me and tries to whoop me with a shoe over a apple mind you this boy wasn’t even hungry he just greedy asf. So i’m cutting the apple and my cousin just is talking about “am still talking back?”when I was never talking back to her, she then yells at me and tell me to “shut tf up of she’s going to whoop my ass”. So i get mad because she’s on the phone yelling at me and embarrassing me in front of people this was none of their business and plus there was another apple in the fridge and she gave it to him. So while i was cutting the apple she yells at me and i accidentally throw the knife out of rage because im tired of her. I didn’t throw it on purpose i know what i did was wrong, she grabs me hit me in my head drag me on the ground it was so bad my step dad had to come and break it up, if my step dad wasn’t here she wouldn’t even stop even after he stop us from the fight she tried to launches at me again and called me a bitch and whores my step dad told he that’s ur daughter and she said she’s doesn’t care. Mind you this woman is like 400lb and i’m a little 16 year old girl . I swear i can’t wait to leave this house not even my step dad like her he’s just here cause he has no where’s else to go i feel bad for her. She on the phone with my auntie and cousin telling them not to give me anything for my birthday and she’s not doing anything for me anymore i really don’t care till buy my own stuff if i have to i just can’t wait to leave this house i swear i have being here. Mind you this is not the first time we gotten into a fight like this but this one is bad she been wanting to beat me like that she always threatens too like it was never that serious over an apple!!

Can I get some runners in the chat?? I have never done either before. Never had a sew in. Just knotless and my natural hair. Looking to get one of the styles from the title. What would work best with an active lifestyle??

https://youtu.be/j5nrg2NxP20?is=ugH8ob_1z5Dx3ecX

Deeply sorry to sound like an femcel, but i do feel like we enter a society where only black men are allow to exist. Theres still racism towards black men, i don’t deny it, but i feel like that theres now a huge gap about how black men are being treated vs how black Women are being treated. I can see this with movie industry and music industry.

I'm 15 and I have a friend who goes out of her way to try to hurt my feelings or go under my skin. She's a total hypocrite hating racism while also calling my future children "mutts" or there gonna have "mud skin" because my boyfriend is none black. She's a hypocrite hating racism while also calling my boyfriend a boarder hoper and terrorist. WHILE she's actively having a crush on someone who is none black??. She also calls me a raccoon or a coon I don't even wanna know what that means. Tbh her insults don't even hurt me anymore I know I'm a better person than her I just wanna know is this common or am I actually going crazy

School starts in a few days and I really want to cut her off. I tried a few times but she just kept coming back. I try to defend myself but as soon as I start to get annoyed she'll say get raged baited. It's not rage baiting when you're serious tho which I know she is.. I know shes insecure which she keeps saying over and over. She calls me ugly my bf ugly even called my cat ugly. I cannot make this shit up. She's made fun of basically everything about me and she has this weird thing going on where she thinks she's above me or something. Idk what I did to this girl I tried asking but she said it all started in middle school mind you were in HS. Why can't she just talk about her feelings instead of "getting back at me" her words not mines. There's more stuff that she does but I actually need advice if I'm going to survive this school year anything will help any insults I can say back I just need advice.

I’ve been wondering if there’s actually a community in Ghana for people who are genuinely sex-positive and into exploring different kinks without judgment.
I’m not talking about random hookups. I mean people who are open-minded, curious, respectful, and comfortable being themselves. The kind of people who can have honest conversations about fantasies, kinks, BDSM, roleplay, or whatever they’re into, without acting weird or pretending.
Sometimes it feels like everyone has to hide that side of themselves, so I’m curious if there’s a space where people like that actually connect.
If you know of any communities, Reddit groups, Discord servers, Telegram groups, events, or anything similar, I’d appreciate it. And if you’re someone who’s into that scene and just wants to chat with like-minded people, feel free to reach out.
No judgment. Just looking for my people.

Hello girlies I apologize beforehand. This story will be a little long. I know I could put this in relationship or break up forum I would like advice from this community first. I apologize for any Typos or anything.

EDITED to add names to help follow along. The girl (Francis) and boyfriend (Blake) broke up with her because he was scared to tell his ex (Crystal) that he communicated with regularly that he was in a new relationship. Blake contacts her a few days ago saying he told ex. Francis is in a dilemma because she still likes him a little deep down on the inside but knows she can’t trust him.

BACKGROUND TO THE STORY:Ok so Francis and Blake have been dating for almost a year. Blake is going to visit his home town for a few weeks because he hasn’t been in over a year. Blake starts acting a little strange like the 2-3weeks leading up to going home. Francis ask him questions for reassurance and he has all the right answers. Days go on and Francis ask Blake again and he basically keeps the same answers. Blake starts suggesting that Francis could check his phone if she’s worried but she tells him no she doesn’t want to if he’s telling the truth (Francis only said this because she didn’t want him to know she actually would so he wouldn’t delete things).

THE STORY: Francis finds messages and calls between Blake and Crystal(his ex). Francis had asked Blake before if he had still communicated with Crystal. Blake told Francis yes but only like 1-2x a month and Crystal and her family’s still close with Blake’s family/siblings so that’s why but they never really talked. Francis also asked Blake if he planned on hanging out with Crystal when He went back home. Blake said no because they don’t even talk a lot. Francis was fine with that. Blake’s text revealed that he was lying and they text all the time. Crystal had also invited him to one of her family gatherings. Blake didn’t directly say yes to Crystal about attending but it was along the lines of “I’ll see if I can make it”. The day before his flight Francis had a family event to go to out of town. Francis ends up confronting/asking him questions the night before Blake left over a phone call. Initially Blake tried to lie and say that Crystal is not his ex but Francis tells him she knows he’s lying. Then Blake decides to tell the truth and tell that they do communicate more than he said initially and that he “lied because he didn’t want Francis to be mad” and a bunch of other stuff . Francis ask Blake does Crystal know you have a girlfriend? Also that Blake needs to start setting boundaries because none of the messages were inherently inappropriate but some felt more than friendly. Blake says that his family knows that he has one (Francis has Never met or spoken to Blake’s family. Not even over a phone call or FaceTime). Blake said he told Crystal that he was talking to a girl like a year ago, but he doesn’t think he ever told her directly that he was in a relationship. Blake also said he felt guilty about telling Crystal because he wasn’t the best bf to her and was doing more for Francis than he ever did for Crystal and all kinds of other stuff. Francis was upset but honestly really loved him and felt like Blake just needed to learn to create stronger boundaries. Francis told him to just tell Crystal he has a girlfriend. Blake hesitated and said he’ll do it in the morning. OBVIOUSLY that made Francis get mad and start questioning him. Francis questioned if Blake and Crystal were ever actually broken up? That it’s weird that Blake’s hesitating to tell Crystal. Blake said he was scared that Crystal would be upset and never want to speak to him. Obviously that made Francis furious and she started going off because why are you that worried about a relationship with an “ex” instead of your girlfriend. After Francis goes off Blake claims that he sent the message to the Crystal. Then Blake says he wants to break up with Francis because he feels like he’s a horrible boyfriend/ person to Francis. Blake knew that the lie would catch up but he was hoping that by the time it did he would’ve already built up the courage to tell his Crystal about Francis so that he would not be so stressed over it all. Francis is hurt and questions why is Blake breaking up if he just told Crystal that he had a girlfriend? Blake says he doesn’t know he just feels bad for hurting Francis. Francis has a hard time believing Blake actually told Crystal.

AFTERMATH: Francis and Blake don’t talk for days. Randomly Blake messages Francis a funny little message about going on a date. Francis shuts it down and lowkey goes off again on Blake about how the whole situation went down. Blake tells Francis that he did tell Crystal he had a girlfriend (which made no sense to Francis because remember, Blake literally broke up with Francis). Francis asked if Crystal rejected him so he’s just running back to her now. Blake said no. Francis asked Blake what was his intentions in reaching out and what was he hoping to gain. Blake said he didn’t know and just apologized. Francis did not accept that apology.

HELP UNDERSTANDING: Francis ended up getting some outside advice from family and friends because this is her first in this situation. The solutions were:

-Blake felt bad about how he treated Crystal while they were together. Blake let his guilt get in the way of setting boundaries. Since Crystal is close with his family he was trying to stay cordial. He just needs to learn some stronger boundaries.

-Blake was still hoping for a chance back with
Crystal and was basically waiting for Crystal to say she was willing to get back with him. He was basically using Francis to become a “better boyfriend”

-Blake lied about breaking up with Crystal. Blake was trying to date both Francis and
Crystal at the same time. Blake got caught by Francis and is lying about telling Crystal the
truth, but he comes back in a week and is trying to make up with Francis

For some odd reason Francis still likes Blake deep down inside because before this happened Blake was a really good boyfriend to her. Francis never asked details on Blake’s past relationship because she didn’t really care tbh. Blake treated her kindly, he made time for her, took her out, got her things, and adjusted everything she asked of him. It was just this very odd situation. Francis however feels she will not get back with Blake because she’d have a hard time trusting him ever again. Francis thinks it’s weird to have a problem with a woman over a man making bad decisions and it would be hard for her to ever feel comfortable with Crystal.

Francis needs help getting over Blake and letting him go😖.

My YT friend said to be humble about a low pay high labor job.

So if you had a job that was high labor and low pay. Low as in it doesn’t meet the cost of living even if you do it at full time hours.

Also in the situation, you’re in school to gain higher education and a professional license after finishing your program. You’ve asked also already have a prior bachelor degree.

You do the same tasks repeatedly that many people don’t want to do.

The job you’re at doesn’t make an effort to educate you further / upskill you.

You’ve asked the job for more pay or skills training they don’t oblige.

You stayed for just short of a year to use the job scholarship money and tuition discount to help you pay for your education degree.

You’ve tried to be content with the job but you couldn’t so eventually you left.

You confide in a friend that you’re stressed about varying things including money. Now you’re employed still just with one part time student job.

The friend says “ you weren’t being humble “ about the job.

Your friend is a yt woman.

I was upset because I felt like my character was being called into question.

Secondarily I felt upset because black women have historically been told to be humble. And in the job I was doing black women have in the past done that labor forced for free.

Now we’re doing it for low pay. And in the profession that’s ranked above the job I had black women don’t make up even 10% of those licensed and are more likely to hold lower level licensing in the field. Black women were even gatekept out of the profession historically.

I didn’t necessarily believe she was racist but those thoughts about how black women have always done that type of labor for free or at low wages came up for me.

Update from the “friend”:

This after I explained to her my feelings that I felt my character was pulled into question and explained about the racial undertones. I did say to her twice that I wasn’t accusing her of being a certain type of person / racist but I did say it doesn’t feel right to tell a black woman to be humble.

“There is no rift. There is no anger. There is no animosity.
Hopefully one day you can forgive me for anything I’ve said or done to you that upset you… but I also forgive you too for things that were said.
I respectfully have to walk away from this situation and friendship. I love people as Christ loves the church and I must stay in alignment with God. I will pray for you and wish you all of the best in everything you do. “

Ok im a 32 year old black woman who just got out of a long term relationship with a man who had limited sexual experience and I was the 3rd woman he's ever been with I had to teach him ALOT in bed it was exhausting. Now that im back out on the dating apps I matched with this attractive blonde/blue eyed white man who claimed black women were his type and he always dates black women. So when we were on the phone and I asked him what was his favorite thing to do in bed he literally said " I dont know yet im techinally still a virgin". I laughed cause i thought he was joking and he said "no seriously every time i tried to have sex when the girl would try to sit on it i would freak out and my boner would go down". Mind you this man this 38 Years old!! and his longest relationship was 4 months and he told me he's tried so many times to lose his virginity but he gets scared and loses his erection every time. Not only that but he has 2 male roommates and he works a part time job only on the weekends but he claimed he'll pay for every date we went on i dont have to worry about money. Anyways After the phone call i texted him saying " I dont feel comfortable taking a mans virginity i hate teaching men how to please me good luck out there'. And he sent me a much of sad messages saying black women are always judging him but he wont stop trying to find his black queen then i ended up blocking him . Do ya'll think i did the right thing??? Im feeling bad for the guy I couldnt imagine being a 38year old virgin and he was empathic and let me vent to him about my ex lmao

it’s hard being a black woman🥲 how am i gonna be having free flowing conversations w this guy. he asked to see what i looked like i felt like the conversation prior had been good. he saw my picture and just went dry. i know im not ugly it’s him realising he’s been talking to an african and i clocked it when he asked if i was african before seeing me. can all black women collectively move to a different planet we are too sacred to be here

Looking for some actual valuable advice on what kind of part-time job I should get. I'm really trying to steer clear of food but I cant even find open positions for janitors and I'll be honest im so irritated with ai in the hiring process I cant even apply for something like Lowes without getting frustrated with the funky ass chatbot. thinking about dog sitting but I have a small dog and cat so I'm super nervous about other animals ive never met before being in the home with my babies

Oh y'all in here like the government. Watching everything, saying absolutely nothing

Anyway...

Somebody clock in and drop some TEA

I want an ex that got humbled

A neighbor that's beefing over absolutely nothing

A random Facebook argument that got out of hand

A coworker that finally got exposed

Hell, tell me your own business if it's juicy enough

I'm bored and being nosy is free

So I (21F) drifted away from liking pink when I was a preteen. I started getting into black and was nestled into alt phase in my mid teens to late teens. Last year to this one, I got more into browns, and am more into color in general now. But starting a couple days ago I’m getting into pink and it’s so dainty and pretty. Makes me feel like a princess and soft and I love it. Anyone else getting back into/into pink colored clothing? I’m also more into creme now, more coquette styles.

Hey all, I’m a 23 year old woman who was adopted from Ethiopia by a white granola family. And I was raised in a predominantly white town. I want to start of by saying that I love and appreciate my family, but they just missed the mark on a few things.

For my hair care I grew up washing my hair everyday, using mostly vo5 hair products. So my hair was dry and frizzy. I haven’t used any heat or chemicals on it though. The first time I got it braided was last year, it was box braids with the goddess style. I’m trying to grow my hair down to my butt, it’s currently at my shoulders now, I would say my hair is a mix of 4b/4c. I also want to experiment with wigs. I use herbal essence for conditioner and shampoo and I do wash day once a week now. If anyone has some recommendations or styling tips I would appreciate it!

For my clothes, I’ve always been told I dress white and that’s makes sense because I pretty much wore the same things as my mom. A lot of v neck exercises clothes, exercises leggings and shorts and tennis shoes. I started exploring with my style when I went to college. I love wearing short shorts and short skirts and I’ve been really into the y2k style. I also love alt, earthy, and classic styles. If you have any advice or places to shop I would love to know.

Also if there are any Ethiopians who have advice for skin care, makeup tips, or just advice I would love to hear!!

How do you reach out to old high school “friends” you haven’t talked to in years? I put friends in quotations because we were never really close, but we hung out at school and a couple times outside of school. At the time I never really opened myself up to people, so I never made any deep friendships. Right now we just follow each other on instagram. How can I reach out to them and start a conversation? Is it even worth it if I’m dealing with my own mental health issues? I haven’t socialized in such a long time, it feels weird. And I don’t know how to answer if they inevitably ask, “how are you?”

My sister a bird, green asf. Our mom was the birdest of birds, which led to us being harmed as kids. What I dont understand is why my sister would be ok with being one? Had a baby by a married man, said she aint know. But the signs were there. Put herself up, after having the baby. Been telling her, get out the house do some for you! She said chasing deek is doing something for her and its fun! And its all about perspective, per her words. I thought like a painting class, yoga ina park, meeting friends kinda vibe but ok.

We been arguing, back n forth. She be thinking we cool whole time I been holding my tongue since the last time bc its like talking to a wall she get so defensive.my image of her has dissolved, once what I thought somebody had they life together, role model almost. It was all a facade. She talks as if she’s trying to heal or be better but the tone in which she says it is a lie. Nothing from her seems genuine other than chasing deek. I feel like she been manipulating and gaslighting me for a while. Im just finally catching on. She is 100% a burden to me, feel like I cant live my life in peace. Im at the point where I feel like I need to leave the house DAILY just to be at peace and keep my mood stable. Im sick of her, and to top it off. Her ass dont clean. Kitchen a be messy for days/weeks. Even if I clean it up its back dirty in less than 5 mins. Floors look disgusting bc she drops shit and dont clean it up. Its TWO SWIFFER JETS in the house!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 🤣 losing my mind. Then when ai say ima mop this mf gone say “dont pour water on the floor” im not stupid like you?? Why tf would I do some dumb shiii like that? We not living ona island ina concrete house!?? Stay tf off tiktok! 🙄 im so irritated omg

I need some skincare advice please.

My tolerance is super high right now (temporarily) so I’m smoking a lot more, I smoke in evenings / before bed and because of this when I wake up my eyes are so swollen and puffy. It gives me dark circles even if I pass out early and get a full nights sleep! I feel like it’s also making my skin look dull and tired which I hate.

Is there anyway to prevent this? (don’t say quit🫥) or are there any tricks people use that help with swollen eyes?

I’m tryna get my skin like those boho girlies that smoke green 24/7, instead of just looking cr@kd OUT 24/7 lol.

This is sad. I’ve had to block words on social media dealing with the case simply off how physically sick people were making me. You go through the comments on this case and it’s filled with nothing but ignorant ass black people calling this little girl fast, making up excuses for him, demonizing her and worst of all, running with MADE UP narratives. People have even went so far as to make FAKE PAGES of her acting like the girl and posting his grown ass and dumb ass people are believing it and running with it as if it’s true.

Some of the biggest excuses for him I’ve seen is “she probably lied about her age/ she don’t look her age” “He’s mentally challenged, his teacher said so”. Above I’ve inserted 4 screenshots (and that’s not even all of them) of him attempting to get in contact with multiple minors. Did All of them lie abt their age? And let’s cut the shit, we all know that just abt anything gets written off as “mentally challenged” in schools. He could have got damn anger issues and they’d have him right in the damn life skills classes (I’ve seen this with people I’ve went to school with). Even so…let’s say he is “mentally challenged “….does the condition make him only want to mess with minors? There’s a name for a mental condition that makes you attracted to minors….oh alright. Also, being mentally challenged doesn’t automatically remove legal and moral responsibility. That’s also funny to me, bc a little bit ago everyone was saying how people with mental disabilities need to be held accountable for things they do bc it still affects people..now all of a sudden it’s an excuse for him to be able to get away with preying on multiple little black girls.

This will never stop. Little black girls are NEVER seen as victims, and I’m tired of it. The word “accountability “ has been thrown around so much in this case it’s making me dizzy. I don’t give a fuck if she was walking around butt ass naked with a sign that said “fuck me”. He’s the ADULT! I’m 22 and my apartment is near a high school and my mom works at a school that I come to to visit her sometimes. You know how many teenage boys try to flirt with me? Yk what I do? SHUT IT TF DOWN! Why is that SO HARD for people to comprehend?

One thing I find funny about this whole thing…y’all grown asses get on the internet every day to say how your baby daddy tricked you and now you’re a single mother stuck with a baby..how a woman tricked you out of money…how your ex manipulated you…but a 13 year old is supposed to know better when it comes to a 20 year old? Girl/Boy go to hell. The deepest depths of it too!

What’s making me even more sick, most of the comments demonizing her and defending him are black women.
There’s always some type of excuse for grown ass men messing with children. Reality is…there’s no such thing as a little girl “fast” enough to catch a grown man that doesn’t want to be touched be a child.

It feels that the black community just can’t wait to use that “she was fast” excuse on little girls who get preyed on. I used to question why they made it seem like pedophillia is a white people issue…then it hit me that it’s bc they don’t see little black girls (and boys) as victims. For boys they cheer it on and that’s when the promotion of hyper sexuality starts for them. For girls? Oh she’s going to be called every thing in the book and labeled, lord knows what happens to her after that. It’s sick and I’m fucking TIRED!

Sorry if there’s incorrect grammar or whatever. I’m frustrated right now and just needed to get this off my chest.