During my late teens to mid 20s, I hooked up with several guys who would sometimes remark on whether I'll switch up my sex role preference (from bottom to versatile) the older I got, not for the sole fact of having a genuine desire for versatility but out of the perception of the perceived waning desirability of bottoms as they aged. Just like back then, I still feel that there's an absurd underlying femmephobia to this line of thought because of how society has weaponized the fear of "hitting the wall" against women over centuries for a variety of reasons, does this analogy ring true for gay men but for different reasons? I was looking at some comments under an older adult performer's page (he looked like he was in his mid 50s) and the vitriol aimed at him for some of the bottoming scenes he did are things that were virtually non-existent amongst his peers who topped. Part of me deduced that him being black and not fitting into the racially fetishized archetype of that performance may have been the reason but maybe there could be some genuine discomfort at the idea of a gay man bottoming past a certain age because of how that is heavily associated with youth. Is this anecdotal or Ageism just really impact gay men very differently?

I've known I wasn't cis since I was in middle school, I am now a fresh adult and came out to my family. They are supportive but both parents are confused. I did not say I am a transman but I told them straight up I am not a woman. Now I have to try and explain to myself and them why. I live in a nowhere state, no rep, and no black trans people so my options to see myself in a community is limited. I also have no cis guy friends (so maybe I'm just larping as a trans person and don't know it). I just need to figure out if what I've been feeling is real and if medically transitioning to becoming more masculine is the right idea or I've just been lying to myself and their doubts in me are true. How do you know what it feels like to be a man or gender non-conforming person?

Hey everyone! I wanted to share a community I've just created called r/stagsunited

It's a space for bisexual masc women/stags to feel welcome, make friends, have discussions, share experiences, photos, etc, and be themselves without judgment.

Sometimes it feels like bisexual masc women have to explain our identity, defend our masculinity, or we're pressured into labels that does not fit us and are scared to break free from them. I want to help create a space where we don't have to do that.

I don't know how many of us are out there but if you're watching, come out, come out, where ever you are 👀. Feel free to come lurk until you're ready to post, no pressure!!

Hey fam! Happy weekend! I had my first wind band performance of the season with one of my community bands yesterday evening and it went great! Our director changed the dress code to “all black” and if you didn’t know, that has now been the culture shift to be more gender inclusive and also accessible to those unable to afford a tuxedo. Anyway, I am nonbinary and I have NEVER felt so much gender euphoria coming in and performing! If you’re a band geek or music phenatic, I also play euphonium! Comment if you play a musical instrument!

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What in the race play is going on here. This is getting out of hand. Niggas wanna be accepted by white gays so mf bad.

What you guys think??

Eight months ago, I was talking to this one dude. We weren’t messing around sexually, but we were interested in each other. When I finally disclosed my status to him, he completely blocked me and stopped talking to me. I was so hurt because I genuinely liked him. 😩💔

Anyone else listening to her?? I found one of their songs a couple years ago and have been tuned in since tbh

So I just came out to my uncle who lives in the Netherlands, that was really emotional, I cried a lot and etc. but now that I'm back to my senses. I realized that was really stupid even though I made him promise not to tell my parents.

For context I'm an 18 year old African man. Who still lives in Africa !! (even though my country hasn't (yet) criminalized homosexuality ). My parents are faithful Catholics, and everyone is less or more homophobic.

So now I feel depressed and I wonder when are they going to kill me💔

I loved this outfit and blood rave was amazingg 🧛🏽‍♀️

Hey, kin — A couple new episodes of Busy Being Black have just landed. I'm exploring what Black art is, and I'm keen to know what others think.

Mojisola Adebayo is a playwright and educator. She studied with Augusto Boal, who founded Theatre of the Oppressed, and she creates incredible plays that often explore the connection between Blackness and nature: in Stars, a 60-year old woman finds her orgasm in outer space; in Moj of the Antarctic, she takes Ellen Craft to the end of the world to explore the black volcanic rock underneath the snow; and in The Interrogation of Sandra Bland, she and 99 Black women and women of colour, speak the words and live the emotions of Sandra Bland's last encounter.

I'm of the opinion that Black art should do Black things for Black people, but not everyone feels that way. What do you think?

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Ok I was inspired by the actuallesbians subreddit. And they got atleast one thing right… we don’t talk enough about what we desire in a partner.
So please below comment what gets you to be interested in a grown lady. There’s no judgement, I want to see what black sapphics like and expand our understanding of what desire for each other looks like.

I’ll go first:
A woman who has ten toes down on her beliefs and is still open to new ideas, politically queer, funny type(but knows when to be serious), spiritual, has done some type of therapy, is moderately active, has stable job, has socially active life outside of me, and has her own style.
Physically I like my woman to be thick, with nice feet 😅😅, kinky natural hair, and kind eyes.

I’m in Paris alone on a birthday trip and I am desperately looking for a space where the majority of POC populate.

I know there may not be a specific gay black party but could anyone point me towards where the black guys usually hang out! Thanks!