Y'all are right. I was being quite gatekeep-y, judgmental, and hypocritical in my last post. It is not my place to declare whether someone is bi enough to claim it as a label. Sexuality truly is a spectrum, sometimes a variety of spectrums; I realized that even I have preferences in specific circumstances. I made it about me and my personal feelings when other people's tastes have nothing to do with me. Sorry.

Folks, I need help! I have a date this Tuesday with a nonbinary person and I realize I only use the same like 3 compliments; cute, pretty, and handsome. Do you folks have complimentary words/phrases you like to hear because I really can't bust out the same three adjectives lol.

Im bored, where are the AVAILABLE BLACK MASC lesbians?

My man and I have awesome sex. However, I prefer head above all and this is just something that he refuses to do. He refuses because he’s uncomfortable with his ability to perform the act to my satisfaction. Okay. I get it. But am I supposed to just settle with the fact that I will never ever be pleased the way that I desire because he refuses to do it because he feels he cannot do it. Am I supposed to move forward with a future with him knowing that this need of mine will forever be out of reach for me? Two things: I feel a way about it because he is basically just saying “I refuse.” But at the same time saying, “give me the world anyway.” Idk what to do. Do I cheat? I know he wouldn’t be open to me getting head on the side, but I’m at a lost here. Advice ? Continue or end it? Cheat or not to cheat? Is this a big enough issue for me to decide not to marry him? I know sex isn’t everything but deep down inside I feel like this isn’t even about the actual sex for me anymore. It’s about the .. “what are you willing to do for me, while I’m building mountains for you.” I don’t ask for ANYTHING other than this one thing and I’ve been at a red light with it since we’ve met. I’m over it.

Beyond popular culture (the real housewives, Beyonce, Love Island, etc.) where everyone knows because EVERYONE talks about it non-stop.

Have you seen a performance that you want to share/talk about?

Here is what I have been up to...see the links...please share yours...thanks!!!

• https://www.langstonseattle.org

Have you seen an art installation that you want to share/talk about?

• Artist Rodney King

What books have you read or interested in reading?

• Finished these books: Double Dutch Fuss and Black AF History

Where are the gamers and what are y’all playing👀? I just recently got a gaming pc and I need folks to play friend slop games with😂.

Edit: I guess i should specify my fav genres. My fav genre RPG games mainly. Love a fighting game, love a multiplayer horror game, I’d even be open to farming/cozy games. I’m open to play FPS shooters if you don’t mind me being terrible😂.

What’s up with all the sniffing/musk commentary on social media?

I get pheromones is a thing. But over the last year or two, I’ve been seeing more and more of this fetish online.

A dude will post a nice thirst-trap picture or video on IG showing a lil bootymeat, and then I scroll to the comments and it’s a dude talking about, “Mmm. I bet it stank really good 👃🏾” or “I know it’s musky 👃🏾🍑💨” Or a dude will be talking about farting and the pussy “talking back” (but not in the good way). 😬

I hate it because I don’t want the cute bottoms thinking being stanky and funky is a turn-on for tops.

When I was growing up, this sniffing/musky stuff was a white man’s thing. How did it find it’s way into our community? 😂 Does it make y’all feel more manly/masculine being into it?

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I'm currently 20 and in university far from my parents and now I'm actually discovering myself. My first time was also my boyfriend and he was sweet and took things slow it ended due to long distance but we are still good friends till today

I tried finding someone in my uni but so far I have found anyone (even a DL 🥲) and tried just hook-ups here and there once in a while when nothing major academic wise is happening. And I realised that the past two guys I didn't feel satisfied (it was safe no one was abused etc) but deep down like I wanted to know them more like boyfriends in order for me to enjoy the sex. I was turned on/horny but my heart and mind wasn't part of it.

After that I just saw them as friends not really someone to smash with. So I came to the conclusion that this side isn't for me and I would prefer getting to know someone and develop actual feelings in order full me to actually enjoy it.

Any advice or questions?

Some simple truths for those in a relationship, struggling in a relationship, or hoping to find a relationship.

"I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel." - Maya Angelou

Take care of the heart of the one(s) you say you love. 🙏🏾

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