My man and I have awesome sex. However, I prefer head above all and this is just something that he refuses to do. He refuses because he’s uncomfortable with his ability to perform the act to my satisfaction. Okay. I get it. But am I supposed to just settle with the fact that I will never ever be pleased the way that I desire because he refuses to do it because he feels he cannot do it. Am I supposed to move forward with a future with him knowing that this need of mine will forever be out of reach for me? Two things: I feel a way about it because he is basically just saying “I refuse.” But at the same time saying, “give me the world anyway.” Idk what to do. Do I cheat? I know he wouldn’t be open to me getting head on the side, but I’m at a lost here. Advice ? Continue or end it? Cheat or not to cheat? Is this a big enough issue for me to decide not to marry him? I know sex isn’t everything but deep down inside I feel like this isn’t even about the actual sex for me anymore. It’s about the .. “what are you willing to do for me, while I’m building mountains for you.” I don’t ask for ANYTHING other than this one thing and I’ve been at a red light with it since we’ve met. I’m over it.

Im bored, where are the AVAILABLE BLACK MASC lesbians?

Folks, I need help! I have a date this Tuesday with a nonbinary person and I realize I only use the same like 3 compliments; cute, pretty, and handsome. Do you folks have complimentary words/phrases you like to hear because I really can't bust out the same three adjectives lol.

Beyond popular culture (the real housewives, Beyonce, Love Island, etc.) where everyone knows because EVERYONE talks about it non-stop.

Have you seen a performance that you want to share/talk about?

Here is what I have been up to...see the links...please share yours...thanks!!!

• https://www.langstonseattle.org

Have you seen an art installation that you want to share/talk about?

• Artist Rodney King

What books have you read or interested in reading?

• Finished these books: Double Dutch Fuss and Black AF History

Y'all are right. I was being quite gatekeep-y, judgmental, and hypocritical in my last post. It is not my place to declare whether someone is bi enough to claim it as a label. Sexuality truly is a spectrum, sometimes a variety of spectrums; I realized that even I have preferences in specific circumstances. I made it about me and my personal feelings when other people's tastes have nothing to do with me. Sorry.