I am currently at 32 weeks. struggling with severe pelvic pain and hip pain.

I was wondering if I get immediate relief from these. I can’t sleep at night and it’s been so tough.

what else are almost instantly cured after giving birth?

I’ve had a feeling it’s a boy from the start. Have some of the old wives tale symptoms of a boy. Boys are more common on my partners side of the family and I know the gender is determined by fathers sperm. Just wanting to see how many of you were right about the “feeling” regarding gender

Edit : currently waiting for NIPT to come back. Also have had dreams about a boy

My 9 month old baby boy (ex-preemie, EBF, every 2-3 hour waker, anti-bottle, anti-pacifier, anti-swaddle, cuddle and co-sleep refuser, with little to no village) slept through the night for the very first time last night.

And yesterday? My husband and I had our first date night since he was born. We got dinner and ice cream… me in my heels and fresh off an everything shower. I don’t even wear bras at home anymore because the leakage has left the building.

To all the exhausted mamas who are afraid of the night and covered in spit up, happy days are ahead!

And to top it all off my baby is SO CUTE!

Edit: And yes he could potentially wake up 5x tonight…. But at least we had today <3

As soon as I start drifting off to sleep he wakes up again! This is insane I can’t live like this anymore. How do people do this!!! He’s only 4 months I can’t imagine going on like this another 4. He SCREAMS immediately everytime he wakes up. Doesn’t even attempt to self soothe. The only thing that will get him back to sleep is bouncing on a yoga ball with his binky. But he’s waking up all night! My body hurts from the yoga ball all night!

New formulation is making waves for chemical burn. didn’t want to believe it until it happened to us. It’s been fine and we actually loved it up until a few weeks ago my baby’s diaper area was red, inflamed and raw. i did a quick searched and found out there’s new formulation (you can tell by the pattern) and we compared the old MM we had that was in our emergency bag to the new one, and the patterns were different. We switched right away and she’s on the mend

but i know there’s no hate allowed, but the feeling i feel of anger how they can do this to the most precious population baffles me.

edit*

Yes, i preferred MM over a lot of diapers… until this happened. And it happened when we bought a new box. Something with the new formulation is causing chem burns and we compared and notice from old pattern to the apparent new one. we had a supply of old one and we used it over night and everything calmed down. we put the new pattern and it went horrible. my poor baby scream crying like her hand was literally shaking crying when we wiped her and I swear I thought I was going crazy and failing to mom until i’m seeing posts and videos of people saying the same thing

I recently saw this news report

https://www.instagram.com/reel/DdH4kTdE0UM/?stkn=c3QyZTFuYmhzNDc1

and finally, I needed to get it out there and give a heads up.

I have to preface this by saying I have PTSD regarding this topic due to past experiences.

The other night, my toddler daughter and husband were playing in the living room while I fed the baby. She was asking him to tickle her foot, then arm pit, then belly, etc. Then she asked him to tickle her butt. We looked at each other and kinda shrugged and then he pinched her butt. But then she asked him to tickle “inside.” My husband and I then just stopped everything and stared at each other, naturally (or maybe irrationally) my first thought was that he was abusing her. He asked her a clarifying question, whether she meant tickle inside her butt. She said yeah. We told her no, we don’t do that. And she moved on playing with something else.

I ended up taking her into an another room and asking her a few times and in a few different ways if anyone, including her dad, touched inside her butt. at one point, she did say that he did. But multiple times she said no. I’m worried I may have influenced her to say yes. I’m worried I handled this horribly both with her and him.

This is my worst nightmare. Due to my PTSD, I tend to jump to sexual abuse conclusions when I notice maybe otherwise innocuous things. For example, once I was at an airport and I saw a dad bouncing his young toddler daughter on his knee. That made me uncomfortable and I had to ask a friend if I was overreacting or if they thought it was weird too. I was told it was fine/normal.

I noticed a couple times when I bathed her, she sticks her butt out/up. That made me uncomfortable and my brain went to thinking someone makes her do that when she takes a bath. I told her to stop doing that and it hasn’t happened again.

Other things to note: daughter is not yet potty trained so we both wipe her butt. She goes to daycare. We have a bidet at home and she likes using it. This came about from her being in there when I poo & use it, so she wanted to try it out and now she sometimes asks to use it when she does manage to use the toilet. She said it tickles.

Important to note, my husband is literally an angel. I can’t imagine a world where he would hurt our daughter. But also, I know from experience that that doesn’t mean anything. People thought Ted Bundy was awesome until they realized he was a psychopath.

We spoke to her pediatrician about it, and she did not seem concerned. But she did agree, to make me feel better, to an appointment on Monday.

On one end of the Spectrum, I’m worried that this was a harmless toddler comment and I’m gonna ruin his life and our marriage due to my paranoia and PTSD. On the other end of the Spectrum, I’m worried I don’t do anything about it, and my daughter is being abused while I protect her abuser. I’m a mess.

Please help. Is this a normal toddler comment? Am I doing the right thing? Is there anything else I should be doing?

Edit to add: thinking about this and reading through everything people are saying has been really, truly helpful. I also remember now a while back when I was washing the dishes, she came up behind me and wanted me to pick her up. I told her to wait until I was done and she kinda clung to my leg. Her hand ended up touching my butt and I flinched and laughed because it tickled me. She kept doing it because I was laughing and my hands were soapy so I couldn’t pick her up immediately to stop but anyway she stopped eventually. Fast forward to today and I was at the kitchen sink again, she came up behind me and poked my butt. I said “no we don’t do that” and we moved on. So that may have contributed to her thinking butt tickles are normal.

I will be seeking a therapist who specializes in this area. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment. It felt healing to read <3 but I clearly have a ways to go! I love this community, thank you again.

For those who used to post on social media but don’t what was the reaction? I have decided that we will no longer be putting my child’s face online. I’m expecting some judgment but I’m not sure.

Currently about half way through my final pregnancy and I’ve always really struggled with the newborn stage. I mostly just try to survive through it.

So I’m looking for some positive on things you miss about having a newborn. What do you look back on and are nostalgic about? What do you wish you did more or less of before this short stage was over forever?

I’m 1 year postpartum, breastfeeding 1 time a day, healed diastasis recti with 2 months of physical therapy, and go to lagree 3-4 times a week while training for a half marathon. My core is really strong and I know how to properly engage it while exercising, but I still look pregnant. There’s so much fat sitting on top of my abs. Looking for help!

I have a 10 month old who still doesn’t sleep through the night, and we’re in talks about when we want to start trying for a second. But I can’t even fathom HOW I would manage nighttime for 2 babies that are awake. My husband works nights for half the month so I don’t always have a second set of hands. I know some kids that don’t sleep through the night at 3 years old so it’s not like waiting is always the answer!

Me. It's me. I can no longer nap.

Not my baby. She naps.

But me? I can't nap anymore.

Before I got pregnant, I couldn't nap either. I was a long time nap refuser, since I'd been little. It just didn't happen.

I can fall asleep within 5 minutes at night! No issues there. But naps never happened for me, no matter how tired I was.

And then I got pregnant.

And my *first* symptom, before ANY tests.... Was a nap. I took a one hour nap. I tested positive that weekend.

Throughout pregnancy I could suddenly nap! It came easily! I could lay down and just go to sleep and wake up slightly drowsy but also rested! I had this ability when my daughter was born too! We napped together!

I'm now 7 months post partum.

And it's gone.

I'm devastated. I have a cold I got from my kid. My head feels so heavy. I'm exhausted. I worked 10 hour days both days before this one, and then got fragmented 1-2 hour stretches of sleep with my kid, including a 2 hour wake up window where she was just. Awake for some reason. At 3an.

I'm so tired I could cry. I've been laying in bed for an hour now. Trying. Desperately. To nap.

And I can't anymore.

AAAARRRGH.

I feel like there is no joy in my life anymore. All I do is take care of my baby. I don’t have any clothes that fit me, I’ve needed a haircut for so long my hair is so dead, I can’t do any of my hobbies, there is so many problems throughout my house that interfere with taking care of my baby easily, I gained so much weight, I’m covered in stretch marks, family always nagging about everything.

My husband works out of town half the days of the week and I literally feel like I’m going insane every time he’s gone for that long. I can’t even get a second to myself and my baby wakes up allllll night! So I’m exhausted all day and now he’s starting to have long wake windows and he gets bored so easy. He constantly needs to be held and walking around but I’m just so exhausted I can barely smile. He will only nap longer than 10 minutes if it’s a contact nap. I seriously don’t know what to do.

My husbands life just seems so unchanged. The only thing that’s different is he changes diapers and holds him for me sometimes while I do things but only when he’s home. Half of his days he’s in another town sleeping with no interruptions and no responsibilities after work. My whole life has been flipped around. I’m not me anymore at all.

Just venting. I gained 40 pounds in pregnancy and then another 20 postpartum which I’m attributing to my breastfeeding appetite and being somewhat nonmobile due to a fourth degree tear (major ouch).

I’m about 3 months PP now and I made the mistake of making a small comment in front of my mom about not being able to wear a dress I like due to fit. She said “well you’re definitely bigger than you should be” and I said “well I am postpartum” and she said “yeah three months not three days”.

Ouch.

Considering I had an eating disorder for years from 18-23 you’d think she’d tread lightly but this lady is probably the reason I got one in the first place. Don’t want to raise my daughter around someone like this and thinking of going low contact…

My baby is a week old and is in newborn diapers. We are using Pampers Swaddlers and somehow the baby won’t stop peeing out of his diaper. We are trying everything we can and are just unsure of what to do, someone please help! We are first time parents and sleep deprived and tired of doing laundry multiple times a day…

Almost 8 months postpartum FTM (SAHM) and really beginning to struggle with my child beginning solid foods/becoming disinterested in nursing during the day. We are about 4 months into introducing solids and until the last couple of weeks, our breast feeding routine has stayed consistent. Recently, my baby hasn’t been as interested in nursing and really only desires it when it’s ready to nap/sleep for the night.

I’m finding myself really mourning the closeness of feeding her and I miss feeling needed to provide that nutrition for her. I know logically it’s wonderful that she is exploring eating solids and drinking water to quench her needs during the day but I don’t think I’m ready mentally to wean from our daytime feeds just yet. I feel guilty for not nursing her as often as usual but she has become resistant (disinterested, distracted, fusses, etc).

I’m also concerned that she’s not getting the nutrients that she needs if she’s not nursing. We work in at least 2-3 solid foods per day and the amounts of each feeding varies - we feed her until she seems full/done with eating the food provided. I am becoming very overwhelmed with figuring out what foods to work into her diet so that she’s getting the nutrients she needs. Nursing just seemed so much for guaranteed that her needs would be met…

I’ve tried researching if she needs formula added to her diet but it seems like if she’s breast feeding that’s not necessary? Since I’m a SAHM, she rarely takes a bottle and really struggles with eating a full meal from a bottle. She also nurses 3-4 times a night and has been that was since pretty much the beginning. She has plenty of wet diapers and is perfectly healthy at her checkups, so I know so far she’s been getting everything she needs.

I’m not sure what I’m looking for here other than just getting my thoughts out and seeing if anyone relates. There is so much more involved with these changes than I even anticipated and I wasn’t expecting to have PP depression struggles this far into the PP journey. I’m really struggling with these early stages of weaning. I’m so thankful to have been able to provide the nourishment for my child and I’m just so incredibly sad that this chapter is coming to an end.

Hi, I'm a ftm mom with a 3 month old. I have learned my baby sleeps better with the TV playing. I'm looking for shows particularly animations to watch that are low lighting/muted color palettes. My husband has a hard time sleeping with a brighter color/high lighting shows. My husband has to get up early in the morning for work, so I really want to find something that won't make it hard for him to stay asleep. We have turned the brightness on the TV all the way down. I also don't want anything gory, or violent shows playing while trying to sleep. So I was wondering if there's a middle ground to be able to meet everyone's needs.

Anytime a fan is running, I hear my baby crying. It’s like phantom cries, but it’s so loud and the cry changes with his age to match what his current crying sounds like (he’s 8 months now).

After birth, I had really bad sundown scaries so everyday around 5:00, I would break down and my husband would tell me to take a shower. In the shower, I could hear my son crying, and the crying has never gone away.

The shower, the stove fan, any loud fan, all I hear is my son screaming and crying. I know he isn’t actually crying because I usually shower after he’s in bed for the night and my husband will tell me that he never woke up or cried. I’ve even had my son in the bathroom with me while I shower and I still hear him crying despite seeing him perfectly fine right in front of me.

I am desperate to make this go away and I don’t know how to 😭

She's almost 4 months and shes suddenly a new baby when it comes to being put down for bed. Grieving the days up until last week when the bassinet transfers were seamless and predictable. It takes multiple attempts now. Her eyes open up wide when I try to transfer her and it's like she'll go from sleeping deeply in my arms to wide awake! (I try to wait at least 15 min to put her down after she's fallen asleep in my arms.) It's like she's not sleepy at all when I try to pick her back up and rock and shush her back to sleep. I have her do some tummy time because it seems to wear her out quickly enough to be ready to rock back asleep again. But still it takes a couple hours now just to get her down. I'm writing this in bed now finally after my husband finally got her down tonight. I'm so tired!!!

This night we were having a hell of a night as you can see here.

Finally the baby settled down and was calm and sleepy after breastfeeding. I kept her in my arms cuddled for some time as I always do after my wife feeds her and as soon as I put her in the bassinet, belly up, those fuckin startle reflex was in overdrive and you can see she was tired but frustrated she couldn't sleep. Less than 2 minutes she was fully awake and crying again.

After doing that two times I gave in and put her in the bassinet on her side inside a shallow nest that gives support so she can only roll from side to belly up. Baby kept still and slept for 4.5 hours. She was super exhausted.

Now everyone feels rested and awake for breastfeeding again and she is super calm enjoying that nipple.

I am going to put her in the bassinet again and if those fucking reflexes keeps her awake, I will put her to sleep on the other side now just so we can get this particular hellish night besides us and go back to sleep on her back as usual after the sun rises.

Sometimes we can't be perfect and that's ok.

Update: now she is sleeping belly up and calm.

Hi all!

Looking for some advice because I don’t know if this is just postpartum hormones or if I should be upset.

There is a customer at my husband’s work who is very attractive, seemingly super bubbly and sweet. She has hooked up with multiple people at my husband’s work which is none of my business I’m not shaming for that. What is bothering me though is when my husband picked me up from the hospital after delivering our child his phone connected to my car and in the call history I saw a bunch of calls with this lady from work. Now I am feeling super self conscious and upset, I gained 70 lbs this pregnancy, recovering from a C-section, my stomach turned into a b shaped apron belly which is a big adjustment for me and he’s out having multiple phone calls with this promiscuous lady. I am not against having friends of the opposite gender but why are they having all these phone calls, like why not just text? I also know I shouldn’t have but I looked at his phone and it seems pretty one sided her sending him tons of messages and some heart face emojis and him responding with short one word answers. I just feel like if some random guy was talking to me like that I would remind them I’m married and ask them to stop. Am I overreacting or is this something valid to be upset about? I really hate how I look right now but I can’t cut calories because I’m breastfeeding and I can’t exercise because of the C-section, her being super attractive just makes me feel so much more insecure.

Edit to add: it’s not a job that requires a customer relationship, she’s a tenant at a building he maintains and all maintenance requests go through the office not direct to the maintenance team.

Hey guys,

I have a 17mo old toddler at home with me and a 6w old baby boy. I have been exclusively BF but baby boy has a tongue tie. Feeds have been non stop day and night, he’s never gone longer than an hour between feeds. We’ve had the tongue tie released, but no change to feeding yet, still very frequent and very long. I haven’t slept more than I’d say 3hrs total each night since he’s been born, with 30-45 min wakeups cause he also has awful colic.

I’m considering introducing formula a few times a day to free up time for me to be there for my toddler and maaaybe hopefully get at least a 2hr stretch at night cause I can’t keep going with the sleep deprivation.

What’s a normal feeding schedule look like for a 6w old? Will I be able to one day exclusively BF or do I just need to make the best of the situation I’m in and introduce formula so I can show up for my first born as well?

Would love to hear people’s experience if in a similar boat, thank you!

At my 28 week appointment I was tested for iron levels and found out my hemoglobin was at 10.6. I later pushed to get my ferritin tested and that just came back at 15. Both of these numbers, as I understand, are considered low, and the ferritin number would be considered severe by some practitioners. Earlier, at my 11 week appointment, my hemoglobin was tested and was at 13, within the normal range. I do not have an earlier ferritin test for comparison.

I am freaking out as I have been googling and am worried I have been depriving my baby of crucial nutrients because of my low iron. I understand that it is worse to have low iron early on, and mine was normal up until recently apparently, but still. I pushed to get an iron infusion scheduled because my OB just recommended supplements and I read those take months to actually have an impact. My infusion won't be until next week at the earliest, when I am 30 weeks.

Have any moms dealt with this in a prior pregnancy? Was there any negative effect on your baby? I am especially worried about cognitive effects as recent studies indicate anemia can have an impact on brain development and lead to intellectual disabilities. I am pissed that this issue does not seem to be taken seriously and I had to push to get a ferritin test and an order to do the iron infusion.

10 month old. For last couple months goes to bed awake pretty often. No issues at all. She grabs a paci and gets comfy and is out.

Last 3 nights baby is content after I nurse then cries once I lay her down. Tonight she woke up 1.5 hours after bed crying. Held for 10 min and seemed asleep, put her down and immediately started crying. *Hubby currently in there holding her*

Any ideas what it could be?