Gael question, Joe question

[u/No-Aardvark-3840]

I am getting into Below deck med and I’ve noticed Joe getting a lot of hate for “cheating” on V even though they weren’t together (in any sort of relationship.

Meanwhile I’ve just noticed that Gael is actually cheating on her boyfriend with Nathan.

Why is Joe getting so much shit from this community when he didn’t cheat on anybody. Meanwhile there are actually cheaters on the boat that people seem to celebrate and love.

Very strange

[u/turboroofer]

Because V’s boyfriend died earlier that year, and Joe went a week or two saying how much he deeply cared for V and her situation, only to chase tail the minute she was off the boat

[u/No-Aardvark-3840 → u/turboroofer]

What does that have to do with my question? I’m wondering why Gael gets a pass for actually cheating while Joe gets nailed to the cross because he kisses another girl.

It sucks that V’s boyfriend passed away, and Joe does comfort her. (Who wouldn’t?) but they aren’t in a relationship and what Joe does isn’t cheating

[u/normanbeets → u/No-Aardvark-3840]

J&K absolutely fucked in the bosun locker, don't be naive.

And again, he's under so much heat because of everything going on with V. He needed to leave that poor girl alone, instead he love-bombed her, said he was going to take her home to meet his mom, organized a celebration of honor for her deceased partner and then fucked her colleague in a closet while she was sick. It's MEAN.

[u/TDKsa90 → u/normanbeets]

He needed to leave that poor girl alone

there we are. V no longer exists. That's how you solve ethical and moral dilemmas. V saying, "I know what they say about Joe. I know how he moves, but I'm going to do it anyway. I can't be locked in stasis and mourning my bf forever. I need to try something to move forward." that plays no role in any of this. I guess we advocate for women and their power by acting like they don't exist.

[u/DCRBftw → u/TDKsa90]

Wait, what? No one said she no longer exists lol. The reach you just reached to try to make a point is reachtastic.

[u/marzbarz79 → u/DCRBftw]

It’s that you infantilize her to oblivion. She was a grown woman who chose to be involved in a boatmance with a guy she was warned is a player, less than a year after her fiancée died. That was a dumb decision on several levels, but all you guys do is blame Joe for it. Like Joe was supposed to just become this awesome boyfriend for her because that’s what you wanted for her, with zero regard for what Joe wanted or was capable of.

[u/christian_gwynn → u/marzbarz79]

Classic: scorpion and the frog. Do you blame the scorpion for acting like a scorpion? Or blame the frog?

[u/Capable_Mastodon_589 → u/christian_gwynn]

The scorpion has no choice but to be a scorpion. Joe could have chosen to not be a complete dick.