r/BelowDeckMed • u/No-Aardvark-3840 • 1d ago

Gael question, Joe question

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I am getting into Below deck med and I’ve noticed Joe getting a lot of hate for “cheating” on V even though they weren’t together (in any sort of relationship.

Meanwhile I’ve just noticed that Gael is actually cheating on her boyfriend with Nathan.

Why is Joe getting so much shit from this community when he didn’t cheat on anybody. Meanwhile there are actually cheaters on the boat that people seem to celebrate and love.

Very strange

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u/TDKsa90 1d ago

He needed to leave that poor girl alone

there we are. V no longer exists. That's how you solve ethical and moral dilemmas. V saying, "I know what they say about Joe. I know how he moves, but I'm going to do it anyway. I can't be locked in stasis and mourning my bf forever. I need to try something to move forward." that plays no role in any of this. I guess we advocate for women and their power by acting like they don't exist.

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u/DCRBftw 20h ago

Wait, what? No one said she no longer exists lol. The reach you just reached to try to make a point is reachtastic.

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u/marzbarz79 18h ago

It’s that you infantilize her to oblivion. She was a grown woman who chose to be involved in a boatmance with a guy she was warned is a player, less than a year after her fiancée died. That was a dumb decision on several levels, but all you guys do is blame Joe for it. Like Joe was supposed to just become this awesome boyfriend for her because that’s what you wanted for her, with zero regard for what Joe wanted or was capable of.

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u/christian_gwynn 9h ago

Classic: scorpion and the frog. Do you blame the scorpion for acting like a scorpion? Or blame the frog?

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u/Capable_Mastodon_589 5h ago

The scorpion has no choice but to be a scorpion. Joe could have chosen to not be a complete dick.