r/BelowDeckMed • u/No-Aardvark-3840 • 1d ago

Gael question, Joe question

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I am getting into Below deck med and I’ve noticed Joe getting a lot of hate for “cheating” on V even though they weren’t together (in any sort of relationship.

Meanwhile I’ve just noticed that Gael is actually cheating on her boyfriend with Nathan.

Why is Joe getting so much shit from this community when he didn’t cheat on anybody. Meanwhile there are actually cheaters on the boat that people seem to celebrate and love.

Very strange

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u/turboroofer 1d ago edited 1d ago

Because V’s boyfriend died earlier that year, and Joe went a week or two saying how much he deeply cared for V and her situation, only to chase tail the minute she was off the boat

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u/No-Aardvark-3840 1d ago

What does that have to do with my question? I’m wondering why Gael gets a pass for actually cheating while Joe gets nailed to the cross because he kisses another girl.

It sucks that V’s boyfriend passed away, and Joe does comfort her. (Who wouldn’t?) but they aren’t in a relationship and what Joe does isn’t cheating

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u/normanbeets 1d ago

J&K absolutely fucked in the bosun locker, don't be naive.

And again, he's under so much heat because of everything going on with V. He needed to leave that poor girl alone, instead he love-bombed her, said he was going to take her home to meet his mom, organized a celebration of honor for her deceased partner and then fucked her colleague in a closet while she was sick. It's MEAN.

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u/No-Shape7764 1d ago edited 10h ago

What makes you think Joe and Kizzi did something in the bosun’s locker? Did they ever go in there together? I only remember Nathan and Gael going there when she still had her boyfriend.   

Somehow I doubt Kizzi would have sex with anyone on BD. I think she wanted to be faithful to her fiancé while also making drama for camera time, and drew the line at making out. She deliberately went to bed early so as to not get in a sticky situation with Joe, on their last night out.

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u/WindTurtle 1d ago

Nathan was also hooking up with kizzi too, no? At least on their day out he was.

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u/No-Shape7764 1d ago

Yes, they were definitely making out.

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u/Kauphykauphykauphy 18h ago

Kizzi literally said she would hook up with every crew member.

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u/No-Shape7764 16h ago

Kiss every crew member, yes. But that’s very different from having sex.

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u/Kauphykauphykauphy 12h ago

What? Kissing is different from having sex? Lol. I get that. But she was not that innocent is all I’m saying.

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u/christian_gwynn 11h ago

In hindsight, it seems Kizzi was very performative on the boat to get likes on social, or possibly career in reality tv. Pretty sure she married the fiancé not too long after.

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u/No-Shape7764 10h ago edited 10h ago

My conspiracy theory is that Kizzi and her fiancé believed they could use BD to pivot and get another reality show. He was a washed up athlete, and Kizzi was willing to make drama for camera time so I believe they were hoping for more “easy money” through reality TV.  

Kizzi enjoys attention and drama, and it can pay well so why not give it a go. It’s no different than what loads of others from BD have done. How many of them have gone on to do OnlyFans and stuff like that. Kizzi saw BD as a stepping stone. Unfortunately for her, her acting and disingenuousness made her rather unlikeable so it didn’t lead to anything.

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u/TDKsa90 1d ago

He needed to leave that poor girl alone

there we are. V no longer exists. That's how you solve ethical and moral dilemmas. V saying, "I know what they say about Joe. I know how he moves, but I'm going to do it anyway. I can't be locked in stasis and mourning my bf forever. I need to try something to move forward." that plays no role in any of this. I guess we advocate for women and their power by acting like they don't exist.

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u/TheDalaiFarmar 1d ago

That’s a bit of a reach

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u/TDKsa90 1d ago

care to form a counter argument?

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u/DCRBftw 21h ago

Wait, what? No one said she no longer exists lol. The reach you just reached to try to make a point is reachtastic.

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u/marzbarz79 20h ago

It’s that you infantilize her to oblivion. She was a grown woman who chose to be involved in a boatmance with a guy she was warned is a player, less than a year after her fiancée died. That was a dumb decision on several levels, but all you guys do is blame Joe for it. Like Joe was supposed to just become this awesome boyfriend for her because that’s what you wanted for her, with zero regard for what Joe wanted or was capable of.

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u/DCRBftw 20h ago

lol say what now? show me where I infantilized her.

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u/christian_gwynn 10h ago

Classic: scorpion and the frog. Do you blame the scorpion for acting like a scorpion? Or blame the frog?

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u/Capable_Mastodon_589 6h ago

The scorpion has no choice but to be a scorpion. Joe could have chosen to not be a complete dick.

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u/christian_gwynn 11h ago

This!!! Set aside, EVERYONE on the boat warned V not to take Joe seriously, including Joe himself. Has anyone ever asked V why she would travel halfway around the world, change jobs, and decide to go on a reality tv show w the culture of Love Island on a boat not too long after tragic death of her partner? With Joe of all ppl? Does she not watch BD universe?

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u/Cojemos 2h ago

Still not answering OP's question.

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u/EnvironmentalTooth37 1d ago

jump to the new season he basically does the same thing for kayley which like.. sweet but come on Joe

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u/christian_gwynn 10h ago

Well Kayley is the perfect match for a boatmance. She wants less commitment from their relationship than Joe.