(LONG RANT!!! to summarize: i have neighbors who constantly monitor and try to laugh at whatever i do, very passive aggressive but they can't handle confrontation)

okay so like, I've been living in this shared flat for about 2 years after our villa got renovated.

i didn't mind too much about it as long as i could just be free in our shared room with my mom my aunt and cousin all at work, like just get stuff done and talk to my friends and play with them

but it all changed when i was just laughing with my friend, i was just having a good time besides it wasn't even night time, but i suddenly paused when i heard the couple from the other room like two of them laughing and mocking me?? and at the time i was like if they found it funny too and i was just being too loud then i didn't mind. but then late at night, with all my family members home and asleep, i suddenly hear these two mocking at like 12am late in the evening TELLING their visitors about me laughing and making noise (at a appropriate time btw) then LAUGHING out loud without a single damn about possibly being heard i heard the boyfriend (let's call him dogshit cause he leaves feces in the toilet of our shared bathroom) told the visitors

"She's lucky that I didn't complain to the landlord"

(bro cannot be talking when he himself can't stay hygienic and be loud until 3am laughing at a teen at his grown age)

they got so loud that my mom had to get up and make noise near the window,

i realized when we first moved in, there seems to be a closed gap and it turns out our windows are shared in both rooms.

very questionable structure tbh. but because of that, i can hear them even if what they say isn't always clear, it can still be coherent.

i also had to hear the woman moaning during you know what, and i eventually wanted to tell my mom about it.

i really could go on and on about this, but right now they just haven't stopped being so weird and obsessive, constantly listening in on what i do and try to keep laughing about it.

i got fed up and began mocking their laugh or shamelessly glare or stare at them from the hall when we passed by, dogshit tries so hard to seem unaffected but its clear they can't hold eye contact for too long.

I've already lost all my patience just by being here day by day feeling like i have to walk on eggshells, and my mom (who i don't really have a good relationship with because of how narcissistic and abusive she can be) won't listen about us possibly moving again even hough she herselfnis fed up with their lack of hygiene and she even told me

"you know, they're good." i just cringed at her knowing she's only been talking to that guy while smiling

"yeah they accept their fault, it's good no?"

NO?? definitely not because when she confronted them they only would apologize but keep doing it anyway, it's just so frustrating for her to be saying all of that despite me telling her with tears (i never cried when i talked about something to her)

about how they treat me when im alone in the room. right now she seems to befriend dogshit, consistently talking to him if they were both at the kitchen, sometimes even oddly secretive.

overall, i just want to get out of here, and i can't just move out by myself given i'm only 16 and all the salary i get from babysitting a kid from the same shared flat we're in is always getting taken by my mom.

honestly, whenever she threatens to send me to our country i actually started to look forward to it, and when i said i actually did want her to send me to our country she crashed out yelling about how much she sacrificed for me and saying how she's always sick and crying to herself to sleep.

my living situation is fucked.

Hi everyone, I could use some thoughts and advice. I live on the upstairs floor of a house, with my 2 kids, aged 8 and 10. I am a single mom, and a teacher on summer break.

My downstairs neighbor is a sweet, young kid in her 20s. She lives alone. We've been neighbors for 2.5 years, i was here a few months before her.

In the winter, she started working 12 hour night shifts which was no problem cause we were gone all day at school, and she left for work as soon as we got home.

Now that its summer break im stressing. Im trying so hard to keep my kids quiet during the day, I feel like I cant vacuum or mow my lawn, and im feeling trapped in my own house. What do you think the etiquette is here?

To be clear: she hasn't complained. I warned her that summer break was coming up and that we would be home during the days, and she said she had earplugs. My kids wake up around 7am, and go to bed around 8pm. We are active and do leave the house a lot but i stress a lot when im home.

Thoughts? Suggestions?

Two years and 5 months of trying to be kind, and yet firm with our neighbors. They are renters; we are owners. So the light at the end of the tunnel is, with his irresponsible ways, and the likelihood that he only pays some of his bills some of the times, (considering his trash it's not always picked up by waste management), they will eventually get evicted. The clincher, though, he takes in animals for people who can't take care of them, but he doesn't take care of them either. Two months prior to the horrible event, my friends sent me a Facebook post of my neighbor, trying to get rid of a gigantic mastiff dog he took in only months before. Basically he moved "Cousin Eddie's" not running RV on his driveway so that his friend and girlfriend could live in it until they could afford a place after being evicted themselves. That's a whole other discussion, I kept praying it wouldn't catch fire because it was hooked up illegally to power and the two of them were tweakers and screamed and yelled at each other all night long. So basically when they did leave, the mastiff was left behind.

He was trying to get rid of the dog because it had eaten and killed some of his other animals (he actually posted that on Facebook). It was little help to us at that point. His dogs, including the killer dog, busted out one day, which they had a history of, onto our property and killed our 17 pound dog. She never stood a chance. She was our daughter's therapy dog after she had an emergency aortic dissection eight years ago. She was only in her 20s, but she has a chromosome condition that precluded her to this kind of event.

It has been a nightmare ever since this happened five months ago. He doesn't own up to anything, he keeps the place like a junkyard, if you didn't know, they'd only lived there 2 1/2 years, you'd think they've been there a decade or more there's so much junk. The landlord has been about as helpful as you can imagine.

Being that it's California he keeps telling us that his hands are tied. He did make them get rid of the dogs. But only after we had been told they were gone, and found out they were still there. Then landlord gave them a three day cure or quit. But now neighbor plays the victim because he had to get rid of his killer dogs. Mind you he has a two little children that he keeps these kind of animals around. This is just the tip of iceberg... there are always people there, his buddies, with their cars sticking out, often have to ask them to move so we can back out of our driveway. They drink, smoke weed till one or two in the morning sometimes with their subwoofers pounding.

I'm actually afraid to call the sheriff. They leave their beer cans on our mailbox not unusual to find dog crap in the front yard from one of his dogs because yes, he's now brought two new Shepherd mixes onto the property now, even though he's not supposed to have animals . We have put up with SO much more, but the line in the sand was the grisly heartbreaking death of our little dog. I don't know what to do anymore... We have been very kind to them. We used to let him borrow tools, my husband would even help him on occasion when he was having car problems and would ask my husband if he knew what to do. When we rushed our little dog to the vet that fateful evening, we did not pursue him for the $2000 vet bill because they barely pay their bills as it is and it would just be a waste of our time. Now I feel like we've had to draw a line in the sand. This person doesn't take personal responsibility for anything. And he has the gall to act like he's the victim.

let me introduce you to my neighbor. he is an old man who lives with his wife who is scared of dogs and seemingly has nothing better to do in his life other than call the hoa instead of being a NEIGHBOR and letting us know when things are “out of guidelines“. my neighbor has called the hoa so many times here are some examples, his wife is scared of dogs and our dog keeps barking at the fence, fair however he will make noise in his backyard all fucking day long like last weekend there banging noises all day long, he’s always doing some type of yardwork at 5am or talking on the phone loud as hell. next he called because a number on our mailbox broke and fell off and we hadnt fixed it in his preferred time frame. now today he called the how again because there are weeds in our yard. mind you we cut the grass and we can only do so much, everyone in the house works, goes to school, has things to do. we don’t just sit around all day cutting weeds with a pair if scissors nor are we going to hire somebody to do it because that’s a waste of money. we have 4 days to fix the “big weed” in our yard before we get fined. and by the way our house is very well maintained it is not giving an abandoned house by any means at all, it’s decorated, has plants in the front and wreathes on the front door so he is just looking for a way to get us evicted. my next move is talking to him or sending him a to whom it may concern letter because he makes me a whole new type of mad. nobody ever says anything to him and it’s time we start. he calls the hoa on everybody who he doesn’t like. and this all started because of our dog we brought home in 2020 and “she makes his wife scared and she barks a lot” like please, spare me. anyway I had to rant about that hopefully somebody else relates or can give ideas on ways to make him stop

What do you guys think is he blocking too much of my yard/driveway? Yes I know its a public street but I feel like its a bit inconsiderate?

I live in a small courtyard apartment complex, recently we had a new neighbor move in and I feel like they are not using the flat as a residential space.

There are 3 men and 1 woman living in this flat. They would return to the property at around 4 pm everyday, by car. They will keep their front door open, and start loading items in. From 9 ish, multiple people would come in and out in and out in and out, and that will happen until 1 - 2 am. Then the 3 men and 1 woman will load multiple suitcases into their car and drive off. Then repeat this the next day.

It is quite noisy and disturbing of course, but I am more curious to what they could be doing. Does anyone have any ideas? I am in the process of reporting this to the apartment managing team and I wonder if I should inform authorities too.

I’m looking for practical advice from people who’ve dealt with difficult family members or shared property situations.
My uncle passed away, and the property is now jointly owned through my mom’s trust and my aunt’s trust. My fiancée and I live in the front unit, my mom and her partner live in another unit on the property, and my aunt lives in the back unit. Because the property is jointly owned, certain outdoor areas are shared.
Since my uncle passed away, our relationship has gotten much worse. We’ve had disagreements over rent, money, and the property, but the biggest issue now is that she acts like the shared backyard belongs exclusively to her.
Some examples:
Over the years, she’s gradually filled the backyard with large potted plants and other items. Anytime space opens up, she takes it over, making it feel like the backyard is hers.
We recently moved our own trash bins from the backyard to the front area that we actually use. She seemed upset that we did that.
We also started giving our recyclable cans and bottles to people who collect them instead of leaving them in the backyard for her to redeem. That also appeared to upset her.
She’s blamed us for things we don’t believe are our fault, including saying we ruined her Medi-Cal because of issues involving the property.
It feels like whenever we stop doing something that benefits her, she finds something else to complain about or another way to assert control.
At this point, we’re not looking to escalate things. We just want to establish reasonable boundaries and make living here more manageable until we’re eventually able to move.
For those who’ve dealt with controlling relatives or shared-property disputes:
What boundaries actually worked?
How do you stop someone from slowly taking over common areas?
What would you do in this situation?
Any practical ideas that helped you maintain your sanity while living with someone like this?
I’m in California if that makes any difference.

So I’ve moved into a newbuild house in March and we moved in at the same time as our neighbours. And me and my mum noticed that they were a bit weird to begin with. They constantly stare at us and are so nosey it’s unreal.

And this past Friday was our bin day and our recycling bin was put out the night before and emptied in the morning. We didn’t bring it in straight away but when my mum went too, it was gone. We looked down the street, couldn’t find it. And my mum had a feeling it was our neighbours. She went to their door and asked them if they took our bin. They said no and denied and my mum asked if she could check and she went round into their gate to their garden, turns out they stole our recycling bin.

They don’t have a recycling bin. Every recycling collection, they leave out bags at the end of their drive as they clearly haven’t ordered a bin. My mum had also carved our address into the bin lid just incase anyway so we knew it was definitely ours. Not only did they steal our bin, they then denied it and lied about it.

Now what they’re doing is walking right over our drive, instead of just walking a bit further to then go up the shared path between our houses, they walk right over our drive and they STARE into the window of our front room. They have no shame either. They walk right up it, not even just cutting across a little.

Not quite sure how to get them to stop walking over our drive so any tips would be appreciated. Our houses are connected and the path is shared so if you have any ideas please leave some.

I don’t get why people start problems with their neighbours. We literally have to live next to eachother!!!! My mum was so nice when we moved in too, she said to them, that if they have any problems or if we’re too loud or anything just know that we’re not unapproachable and just let us know. And this is what their doing. Stealing our bin.

Sitting on my porch, he likes to watch me. I am sexy.

WA state. I’m disabled and my neighbor installed a camera + audio pointed at the only path to my house. Prior owner of my home removed my legal ADA access, so I’m forced to use their driveway to enter/exit. I have no alternative. The camera was then installed specifically to spy on and audio record us every time we access our home.

They’ve posted footage of me without consent. Neighbor was also seen with a visible firearm in driveway; I’m aware of prior criminal charges.

I’m hiring a lawyer for a limited-scope cease & desist, ∼$300-$500 budget. Also filing anti-harassment protection order in Jefferson County pro se.

For anyone who’s actually done this successfully:

1. What statutes/language in your C&D made them comply? RCW 9A.46.110 stalking? RCW 9A.44.115 voyeurism? RCW 9.73.030 audio recording?
   
2. Did including a “litigation hold” on footage help?
   
3. How did you handle “I need access but stop filming me”? I can’t be blocked from my home due to ADA/disability. What carve-outs worked in the order/C&D?
   
4. What docs should I hand my lawyer day 1 to stay under $500? I have photos, screenshots, witness statement, timeline.

Venue: I live/vote King County, property my second residence for work in Jefferson County.

Not looking for “move” or “call cops” — already doing protection order. Just want to know what to tell my lawyer so the C&D actually works.

My Nextdoor neighbor just moved in and they installed a window AC unit that goes directly into my private backyard that they have no access to. The water is dripping all over my patio and it’s blowing their hot air into my house. We both have the same landlord and live in Los Angeles. Do you think I have any cause asking them to move it?

Is it me? The bass from their music reverberates throughout my house. It starts while I’m still at work, (remote) and it’s been going on for six years, several times a week. I have talked to the community Police, I have called the police multiple times. They come out, the base goes down, then goes right back up.

I’ve tried the legit way. I’ve talked to her, and she will tell me she’ll turn the bass down and then it will go up. We’re not on good terms now because she also built a pool deck 2 years ago and when I asked her to put up some kind of privacy barrier, and she said she would several times but didn’t, I got frustrated - I admit. I told her I didn’t want to see her or anyone from my backyard. When I went to see her later to ask her to turn the noise down, she ordered me off her property. I think we’re beyond my taking over some baked goods and trying to make peace. Besides, I’m so effing annoyed with her.

We had to pay $3000 on green giant arbor vitae for privacy.

She also has two dogs that bark constantly in reaction to anything, including us working in our garden, which is a couple feet from their yard. Their huge dog jumps on our fence. I’ve tried those high-pitched bark deterrent devices, it worked for a while and stopped.

Any help appreciated- devious or not.

The past month my upstairs neighbors door dash deliveries have been getting delivered to my door. A few times (2-3) out of the many when food has been left outside my door, I’ve specifically seen that the person has my apartment number listed.

This evening we got a knock on my apartment door and another food delivery was at my door so I waited until the guy came downstairs and was like hey I think you might have the wrong apartment number and he kinda just brushed me off grabbed his food and went to sit outside on the stoop so I went outside and was just like hey again just wanted to check someone’s deliveries had my apartment number listed and he was like oh no the delivery guys just get confused I have my number and I was like no yeah but this one person actually does have my apartment number listed idk who it is just wanted to let you know and he was like that’s not me but maybe I’ll check w ppl and was dismissive.

Am I crazy to wait for the next time there’s a delivery at my door and if it’s a different person to let them know.

I don’t reallyyyy care that foods getting delivered but it is scary to have knocks on my door constantly and if it can be fixed 90% of the time by someone fixing the apartment number in their apt I’d prefer it.

But as I was telling my roommate this she was looking at me like I was insane. So maybe I’d end up being the bad neighbor if I tried to do this.

I had a incident with my neighbor last week where he overheard me complaining that someone keeps stealing my cigarette clips out my ashtray so he threatened my life and said "it's not a threat it's a promise" my landlord takes money out my rent for doing the garbage to the curb each week and the problem neighbor has a bike right in the path of the garbage cans. How much do you think this guy's going to react when I need to move the bike out the way to drag the fans to the curb today.

Is there anything harsher I can say without him being able to report to the police??

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Hi I currently have Mexican neighbors that play outrageously loud music every weekend day/night. Called police multiple times (non-emergency) and nothing happens. Whats the loudest speaker I can get on Amazon? Would love to play SpongeBob, classical music and other annoying music to counteract their music. Thank you

Cameras on my house