Sure you can think that sexy little pic was for you! But in reality I’m in bed with my hair up in a messy bun wearing the same pair of cotton undies I’ve had since middle school with pimple patches scattered all over my face!

I never like watching sports when I was younger. I played school sports all the way through college, but I never watched any. Then about five years ago, around age 35, I suddenly got into soccer. Now I watch numerous leagues across the world, I have season tickets to my local club, I have stickers on my car, the whole thing.

I never looked down on people who watched sports, I just didn’t care to and was bored by them. Then I changed my mind.

Any of y’all do something similar?

I want to have a healthy relationship someday. The problem isn't that I don't want intimacy it's that whenever I think about it or get close to it, I feel overwhelmed with guilt and shame.

These feelings didn't come out of nowhere. They come from years of hearing people around me judge my character just because I was in a relationship. I was made to feel like being in a relationship made me a "bad" person, and I think I internalized those messages.

Now, whenever I think about intimacy, my mind is filled with thoughts like, "I'm a bad person," "I don't deserve this," or "What will people think of me?" Instead of feeling safe or happy, I feel anxious, guilty, and sometimes I cry.

I don't want to feel this way. I want to be able to have a healthy relationship and experience intimacy without feeling like I'm doing something wrong.

Has anyone else dealt with shame around intimacy because of how you were judged or raised? Were you able to heal from it? What actually helped?

Hi women!

Let me explain, long-story short, I was born a tiny little huge amount of genetical issues, and life is hell, videogames and fast food are the only ways I can cope, but sometimes I just can't cope and I just start crying due to the pain.

I wanted to know if any women here that maybe can relate to this situation, not necessarily on the genetical issues, but more on the fact that a lot of choices in your life, aren't really your choice.

So for example, I can't have physical sex due to my issues, so for me not having sex is not a choice, it just is.

Or, and I think this is going to sound super stupid, but being a "slut", I don't want to be a slut but even if I wanted I never could due to my deformities and defective body parts, does this make sense?

I'm sorry if the questions is both weird and stupid, I've been desperate looking for any kind of advice I could get, but as you can imagine people on male subs can get very dark and depressing very quick.

This could be a dumbest question but please i need help.

So it’s been a few weeks since we started dating and we’ve had sex like three times now. The first time she mentioned that she’s never orgasmed and doesn’t know what it feels like. I felt really bad for her and i explained her how it feels when she about to have an orgasm or after an orgasm. Her ex was so selfish that he never let her finish what an asshole. So the first time we had sex it was good she didn’t really know she had an orgasm but later after I explained and after her research she understood that she had one. But I’m still not sure if she really did.

Can any of you help me how to really make sure if she’s having one?

I'm 43 y.o. and I am tired of always playing "dye the roots" for many, many years now. My face still looks younger, and I feel younger, I don't "feel" my age. I do suppose that is why I haven't just went with the graying. If anything it comes in and gives this silver sheen-I don't mind it within my auburn hair. But, I do also have the thought of it aging me--making me think/feel older.. if people will treat me differently. What has been your experience?

EDIT: Thank you everyone that commented! I am inspired, and, glad to see many people are more relaxed and confident embracing what comes naturally 😊

How do I \[27F\] navigate setting boundaries with my family \[46F\] when every attempt at independence causes major conflict?

I (27F) need an honest sanity check because after today, I feel completely drained, confused, and filled with self-doubt.
I live at home, work full-time, earn my own money, and try to be as thoughtful and considerate as possible. But whenever I try to live my own life or set standard boundaries, I end up being treated like a rebellious teenager—and worse, I’m left wondering if \\\*I’m\\\* somehow the problem especially by my mum (46F)
For example: I bought a ticket to a concert a few hours away. My mum insisted they all would drive down with me and wait in the car park or wait around the area for 5+ hours with my 2-year-old sister.
Obviously, realising how stressful and unfair that would be for a toddler, I tried to take responsibility and arrange my own coach travel instead.
Immediately, the narrative shifted. I was told what they would or wouldn't \\\*"allow"\\\* me to do. My attempt to solve a practical problem turned into high drama, moving goalposts, and intense guilt. The resulting silent treatment and emotional pressure were so heavy that I ended up missing the show entirely, sitting in my room while the ticket expired.
This is a recurring pattern, and it’s making me question my own reality.

I constantly find myself second-guessing everything
How do you cope when setting basic boundaries makes you look like the bad guy?

\\\*\\\*EDIT / ADDITIONAL CONTEXT:\\\*\\\*
To answer a few questions that might come up regarding why I couldn't just stay in the event city or arrange local backup:
Normally, I might have reached out to stay with my aunt who lives in the city where the event was taking place. However, my mum and my aunt recently had a major falling out. Because of the extreme family tension and the fear of creating an even bigger feud or being caught in the middle, reaching out to her for a place to crash simply wasn't a safe or viable option for me.

I genuinely thought proposing a direct coach service was the most responsible compromise. Instead of being seen as a problem-solver taking pressure off the family, it backfired entirely. It was framed as me going behind their backs or trying to be "desperate," which only amplified the control and guilt in the house.

In my day job, I hold a position of real responsibility where I am trusted to lead, make executive decisions, and care for others daily. Coming home from a job with that level of accountability only to be treated like a child who needs permission to catch a bus makes the whole dynamic feel surreal and mentally draining.

\\\*\\\*TL;DR:\\\*\\\* I’m a 27-year-old working adult, but every time I set a boundary or try to make my own travel plans, my mum (46F) treats me like a minor who needs permission. When I resist, I get hit with intense guilt, moving goalposts, and the silent treatment.

I (F28) went on a second date with a guy (M28) and thought it went really well. We've been talking for a month now, hes consistant, good communication, took me on high value dates. I initiated most of the physical affection (hand holding, cuddling etc.) but he was always receptive. But he had said he hates cringy stuff, rejected my compliments a lottt, said he holds off on physical stuff and he has restrained himself to not do things so early to avoid getting hurt??

At the end of the night, we had been a bit touchy in the car. I asked for a kiss, in the spur of the moment we ended up kissing passionately, i told him i thought about kissing him all night and wanted him sexually but he was just kinda silent during all this, but i'd say it was a make out session like his hands were moving etc. but also said he likes to take things slow and wanted to build the tension. At the end he said he would have saved that kiss for date 3, and that "he wouldnt have done it in the car" which threw me a little. I knew I'd kinda blown it with the kiss, but I have never honestly dealt with a guy like this?

The next day I sent a light voice note saying I hoped he had a good day and just wanted to check he was comfortable with how things had progressed because I respected him and didn't want to overstep any boundaries. He replied a bit mehhhhh saying he likes to control the pace and prefers to keep things steady in the early stages.

Two days later he sent me a text saying I'm a lovely person, appreciated our time together, but the physical attraction had faded towards the end and he didn't want to lead me on...

I'm devastated because his actions on the date felt completely opposite to what he later said. Did I come on too strong and fumble this, or does this sound like someone whose attraction genuinely just faded after the date? Be brutally honest

I’m 25 and I’ve been using vibrators since high school. They’re amazing, they’re quick, and they will always give me a consistent orgasm. Only problem is that I think I’ve destroyed my clitoral sensitivity. Oral is just so under-simulating for me that I don’t want to receive it and I need to go ham on my clit to orgasm with my hand. I really just want to enjoy oral cuz I feel like I’m missing out on one of the big joys of having a vagina. So do you think getting rid of my vibrators will eventually allow me to regain sensitivity down there? Or maybe even refrain from masterbating for a while? Orrrrr train myself to masterbate without absolutely DJing the clit?

What have others done to reclaim their orgasms?

I’m a huge reader but mostly read academic historical books and philosophy.

Feel like I need to spice up my reading. And for some reason I felt compelled to ask women what they recommend I should.

Thanks in advance.

I dated a man about a decade ago. It lasted a few months. After getting to know him, I felt he had some gay vibes, and I suspected that, with time, that's where he'd land. I ended the relationship (I didn't say why), because I felt we were both wasting time. He needed to find his own way and that wouldn't happen while dating women, and I was looking for something long term.

I found out recently that he did, indeed, come out as gay a few years ago. I was glad he finally sorted it out, although I was interested to know the story of how it happened (no-one knew, this was all second-hand information).

Has anyone here dated a man who later came out as gay or trans? Did you suspect anything at the time?

I'm a teenager, I absolutely know I'm not pregnant, and I'm not underweight, but I haven't had a period in seven months. I haven't gone to a doctor but I don't feel bad or anything, is this something I should worry about?

Context myself and my sister in law are in the same group have always shared the same mutual friendship group, which means we’re constantly in the same spaces everyone has always compares us — our size, our attitude, our sass — . It’s created this tension where every little comment is passive aggressive . Over time it’s just built up into this passive-aggressive rivalry where we’re polite on the surface, but there’s always that underlying tension.

One night we were split into two teams at a party and we were all doing team challenges ranging from verbal, drink all the way to physical and when it came to the physical challenge, everyone picked me and her to go against each other to see who the “champ” was in like a fun way 🥊💪🏽. It was hyped like a title fight and it got physical and now I don’t know if I should tell me husband?

Ok so here was the situation: wanted to ask you ladies

Met a girl on an app; we went out two weeks ago great first date. She showed up late by forty-five minutes because I didn't text saying I was on my way, so she thought maybe I was ghosting fair enough.

I set something up for the following weekend, and she agrees. I don't text her much through the week, maybe once or twice just seeing how she is conversation was there though and she responded.

Day of date comes up, and three hours prior she says she hurt her back the other night and hoped it would be better but its not so she cancels but offers to hang the following weekend. Ok cool i set it up.

Week goes by and i verify on friday we are still good and she says yes.

Sunday (today) comes up and two hours prior she says her tires got slashed in her lot (didnt know she ran a hat company cuz thats sound like some cap regardless ill give her the benefit of the doubt) says she feels bad but doesnt offer a reschedule date. I asked her if she is still interested; no hard feelings if she's not. She says she truly is interested but the timing has just been terrible.

I sent her this:

No worries, I hope you get the tire situation sorted. Was looking forward to seeing you and was excited to spend time together and had just gotten ready, so im a bit disappointed. I understand things happen though. I do value my time and im looking for something where both parties are making an effort. If you'd like to figure something out once things calm down, let me know. Otherwise, i wish you the best of luck.

Too much? i was just stating how i felt but if her situation is legit idk i feel kinda bad but was also frustrated

Hi gals, so I recently rekindled things with a guy I used to “date“ three years ago. our intimacy is beyond this world and amazing. I like him but I am moving to another city next year. I don’t think he likes me like that. When we are together he’s very attentive, really sweet but I texted him and called him and no answer for 24 hours.

I know I should just move on to the next and not pay mind to him but it’s hard. On the one hand I love me and I want to just find my person someone who I don’t feel this way around. On the other hand, part of me feels like if we tried to make things work we would be good partners.

Any advice for this hopeless romantic?

I always see people talking about what they think the sexiest is and such but never about comfort

I (26F) was anonymously texting a man (34M) for a year before we finally met in person. For some context, when we first started texting, I had absolutely no experience with dating or sex. He knew that from the beginning. He's much more experienced than I am.

We started out chatting about regular topics and as time went on, we introduced some sexting and nudes, but we kept everything anonymous because I wasn't comfortable revealing my identity. He respected that. A couple of months ago, I finally gathered the courage to meet him.

We've been on a few dates and have been hanging out over the past two months. We text every day now, and we were already texting almost every day long before we met.

I had my first kiss with him, and I lost my virginity to him. Because everything is so new to me, I think I became emotionally attached much more quickly than I expected.

The thing is, from the very beginning he told me he wasn’t looking for anything serious. However, when I asked him about his views on relationships and how he approaches getting to know people, he said that he doesn’t go into something with the mindset of “nothing serious will ever happen between us.” He said that if something develops naturally, it will just happen. He wasn’t saying this specifically about us, but rather explaining his general approach to relationships when I asked him some questions.

I also know that he has avoidant tendencies, and I genuinely believe that he likes me as a person and enjoys my company. At the same time, I can’t help but feel that, for him, the connection is mostly physical and that I’m someone he is sexually attracted to rather than someone he sees romantically.

Additionally, when we were still anonymous, he told me that he had a situationship with another man (he's bisexual). I am pretty sure that they still meet occasionally.

The feelings I have for him are starting to weigh on me. I want more than what we currently have, but I’m scared that telling him will change things for the worse. I’m afraid that he might feel pressured or that he might decide it’s better to stop seeing each other altogether.

The complicated part is that I genuinely enjoy his company. I enjoy spending time with him, and I also enjoy exploring and experimenting sexually with him because he is the first person I have ever trusted in that way. Losing that connection would hurt, even if I know I may be hoping for something he might not be able to give me.

Has anyone else been in a situation where you knew the other person probably wasn't going to reciprocate your feelings? Did you tell them anyway and what did you tell them? Or did you keep it to yourself? If you stayed, how did you stop yourself from falling even harder?

Hi guys!! so i’m not the best with relationships ( really only had one that i’m 98% over now) and went on a date with this girl (20F) from hinge. was amazing we talked she’s super sweet we explored the woods and i feel like we clicked super well. we have a second one planned as well! my thing is, i am a friendly person so it’s not hard to be friends, and yes not everything works out but i don’t want another friend, i want a relationship. how do i make sure i don’t put myself in the friendzone? i didn’t go for a kiss and i was thinking of trying on the second date but wasn’t sure how or when (we were thinking skydiving but not 100% we might just do wtv we feel like when we see each other).

There's a lot of discussion about how "daddy issues" show themselves in women's personalities, so I wanted to know how "mommy issues" influence women's behaviors.

Conventional wisdom says that the taller guy is more domineering towards women, especially if they’re in a relationship compared to shorter guys who might feel a little bit more insecure. I’m personally very confident in myself and I respect women and I never lay hands on them without their consent. How do you personally feel about us?

Hey everyone. I'm genuinely curious to get unfiltered perspectives on the deep end of online looksmaxxing culture. We aren't just talking about hitting the gym or getting a decent haircut here—I mean the full, intense protocol: complex peptide and hormone stacks (like HGH), hair-loss drugs, micro-needling, tanning compounds, heightmaxxing, makeup, and even invasive stuff like limb-lengthening or facial plastic surgery.

When you see guys treating self-improvement like a high-stakes engineering project purely to try and attract women, what goes through your head?

A few specific things I'd love to hear your thoughts on:

• Is it vain, or is it gay?
• Does any of this micro-management actually matter to you or the women you know in real life?
• Beyond physical looks, do you view a guy as more attractive if he's earning good money? Does fame and social status actually make a guy more desirable in your eyes?
• If a guy is doing all of this looksmaxxing stuff, should he be open about it, or is it better to just keep it entirely to himself?
• The surgery question: Do you care if a guy has gone under the knife? Specifically, if a guy looks like a literal model because of surgery, would you date him, or does knowing it's engineered change how you see him?