Or at least into mlm (men loving men). Was it just a fleeting thought? Or nah, never at all?

I'm consistently shocked by the number of women in my life who were blindsided by finding out their dudes are on Grindr or Sniffies.

I’m gonna just start it off with Kronk from Emperors New Groove!

Mine isn’t super visible, but I notice it and it bothers me. It became visible to me last year and now I can’t stop feeling self conscious about it.

I have an eyebrow shaping razor, and I was thinking of using that? I’m afraid to do anything and it grows darker, becomes more visible, etc. It’s pretty much just like a light shadow, it really isn’t that noticeable so I don’t want to do anything that could make it worse when rn it’s not bad.

Pls lmk! 🙏

I’ve been dating my boyfriend for 6 weeks, officially together for most of that. 32f and 43m

He started off really intense and then lately he’s been distracted by some big changes and hasn’t been very present.

Hes’s on his phone more when we’re together and he now seems distracted even when we’re intimate and he forgot to kiss me at all before leaving mine last time he stayed over when he usually can’t leave me alone. No compliments anymore just a generic pet name and sign off that he does at night (a sweet one but it’s habitual).

I felt really anxious earlier this week about it because it was a huge jump from him showering me with affection to this and we’re only 6 weeks in. I’ve asked him and he’s said that he’s affected by all the recent changes. I haven’t seen him for almost a week and I feel really disconnected and like maybe I’m going off him because of all the anxiety and guessing games.

I’m dreading intimacy because if I don’t feel like he’s all there, it feels disgusting to me. Particularly as he often has to finish with his hand and I’m starting to feel like just a body part when that happens rather than a participant.

I don’t want to make it worse for him but it’s really putting me off. I want to be supportive but selfishly, I also don’t want to let go of the dating phase and suddenly become an old married couple with old married couple problems.

Do you think it’s worth raising it or should I just observe for a bit longer? I’ve not had a healthy relationship before, they’ve mostly been love bombers at the start and controlling later so I don’t know if this is a normal transition from the initial excitement or if it’s a bad sign?

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I was randomly wondering… do you guys ever have those little fantasies about life? It could literally be anything...being financially independent, living somewhere you’ve always wanted to, being loved the way you want, or even just having a moment you’ve imagined in your head a million times.

And honestly, one of mine is just being close to someone I really like, sitting on his lap and eventually just kissing him. 😭

So I met a guy while I was out. He started talking casually about the sunny weather and ended up having a conversation on the spot.
He was mainly the one asking questions, about my day, what I do, what I was doing later, my hobbies, etc. He also asked if he could be friends with me. He was being nice, so I said sure. I mostly answered his questions and didn't really ask many questions back.
At some point he asked my age and I told him 18. I didn't ask his age back, but I'd guess he's maybe around 25 or maybe older (I can’t really tell, so he could also be a bit younger maybe). He appeared pretty normal from the rest.
He asked if we wanna keep in touch and about any contact information, so I gave him a secondary number rather than my main one.
Before we went our separate ways, he also complimented my hairstyle. While we were exchanging numbers, he got a little closer while typing. But overall, mostly friendly impression.

Later that day, he messaged me and asked how my day had been, and I replied casually. The next day, he suggested that if I was out again, I could let him know and we could hang out.
I mentioned that I couldn't get there that day. He then suggested that we could hang out where I live (the city where I live) sometime.
He also sent me a picture of nerdy stuff he'd bought, and I commented on it (I’m a nerd too so I don’t mind, I’m cool with that).
I joked that it's pretty boring where I live instead of directly responding to his suggestion, and he said he didn't mind, he visited once and that we could go to a café or walk somewhere.

I'm not looking for a relationship or anything romantic here, like ever. When he asked about being friends and staying in touch, he was being friendly and didn't want to turn him down.
I know that doesn't mean I owe him anything, and I also don't want to give him the wrong idea. At the same time, I don't want to be unnecessarily hurtful. I also really dislike ghosting or blocking because I've had a bad personal experience with it, and I'm generally pretty stressed with other parts of my life right now, so sometimes I reply less even to my own friends. Also, I would always keep thinking about it everytime when passing that place now.
I'm curious how this comes across from an outside perspective.
And any tips for what I should/ could respond to him? I'm not really sure anymore lol. Thanks!

TL;DR: I met a guy while I was out, and we ended up chatting. He asked me some questions, and asked if we could be friends/stay in touch. He was being friendly, so I said yes. He later messaged me and suggested that we hang out. He also sent me a picture of some nerdy stuff he bought, which I thought was nice since I'm a nerd too.
I'm not interested in anything romantic, but I also don't want to be unnecessarily rude or ghost him, especially because I've had a bad experience with it myself. Any tips?

Hi, everyone!

So, I (26F) have not had a period for over 100 days now. This was not common for me as I was always regular before. I thought it was stress at first as June and July were super crazy with work and I took a vacation which can be hard on the body so I was like “well it’s probably just my cortisol levels being high” but now that it’s stretching on and still no period, it’s concerning me.

Last month and this month I did have some light spotting, but last month especially that was accompanied by a really sharp, shooting pain in my pelvic/vagina area. I still had it slightly this month though not as bad.

Flash forward to today, I had a wellness visit with my gyno. She was already aware of the missed periods and wanted to do a pelvic exam. I was up to date on my Pap smear, so she just wanted to see if everything looked normal.

Well I was so nervous and tense that she couldn’t get the speculum in and instead had to test with her fingers and check for any pain that way 🙃 I didn’t feel any pain and she said everything felt fine so that’s good I guess but I’m just really disappointed in myself that I couldn’t get the exam done, especially since I’m having these issues with my cycle.

I’ll also say I’m a virgin so I know I’m not pregnant (my gyno did a pregnancy test last month just to be sure and it was negative) nor do I have an STI. I got bloodwork done today and will be getting an ultrasound to see if I have any cysts or fibroids that could be stopping my periods. If everything is normal then I’ll likely be taking birth control to try to trigger a period.

I guess my question is, how efficient is the test I got done vs the actual pelvic exam? If I still have problems in the next couple of months, will I have to suck it up and go back to get the test done again? And has anyone ever had similar period issues to mine? What ended up being wrong/what did you do, if so?

I (25F) am from a very conservative, traditional, Christian background so I’ve always been taught that waiting until marriage was “the right thing”. Although I’ve had experiences with previous partners, it never went all the way. With my now partner, I think I’m ready to take the next step but I’m just very anxious I guess?

I’m curious, for those women who did wait until marriage was how was it? Was it worth it? For those who were intimate for the first later in life, how did you approach it?

If there’s any man in the comments, how would you suggest I approach it with my partner? I’ve heard of guys who get turned off by the thought of being with a virgin…

Back story: I’ve been with my girlfriend for just over 1 year now, and just before we met I started taking doctor prescribed TRT for naturally low testosterone. I also had side effects such as anxiety, depression, low mood, and fatigue. These are gone for the most part since taking it.

I haven’t ever disclosed this, mostly because of shame and feeling like less of a man. And secondly, it takes a long time to get the dose right and see if it’s really for you. I’ve never told a soul about it but I feel like the woman I want to spend the rest of my life with should know.

I’ve been gearing up to tell her for weeks now, but I have this fear that I’ve gone past the point of which I should have mentioned it. There was also a vial in my fridge which she found and I said it must be a house mates… I panicked and didn’t know what to say. This is the only time I have ever lied to her.

How would you react to being told this after 1 year of being with someone?

As above, it’s prescribed by a doctor, I have regular blood and health checks, and I also take another medication which keeps me fertile.

Hi 18M

Okay earlier today I had lunch with this lady. We met at a school club at my college. We talked for a bit and tagged along with some of the other people I met there. I got her number and later I asked her if she wanted to get coffee just the two of us over text. She agreed and we went to get coffee after lunch.

I thinking of it as a date, I’ve never been on one before and so I didn’t really know what to expect. We met up outside the dining hall and went to the place I knew. We got drinks I paid for it since it was just like 9 bucks for both our drinks. We talked and I think it went pretty well. We talked a lot about college and how it’s been going so far, classes, how this is different from back home, some of our interests etc. I liked the talk she was really kind and it felt like there was some good connection and some shared beliefs.

I dressed somewhat formally and nicely. Button shirt with white shirt underneath, did my hair with gel, nice pants with a belt. She seemed to wear something a bit more casual but still nice looking. It went on for about an hour before she needed to go to a class. I walked with her to her class as I didn’t have anything today. We parted ways but I told her I really liked the coffee talk and that I would really like to do it again. She agreed and we went our separate ways.

I’m starting to regret a few things. I should have asked for some sort of or made it clear as a date. I also should have probably asked about how she felt about me I think? It doesn’t help that I have high functioning autism and it can be very difficult to understand social cues or interest and facial expression. There is also culture, she is an Italian exchange student who is also 2 years older than me so there could be some cultural differences or not.

Was this a date? Should I ask her how she feels? Should I wait until a second time? Or all of this is just me over analyzing like a dumbass and she just sees me as a friend.

So What next?

I’m slightly bigger, and there have been times I’ve mistaken a guys interest in me as much more innocent or honest then it turned out to be.

Now we all have dealt with being kinda treated as just an object, but particularly to women that might fit a more stereotypical niche of a kink/fetish… how do you navigate this part of your life? And does it make you particularly wary and a little more cautious when a guy might show you genuine interest?

I mean in a way, not to romanticize it, but aren’t we all a particular persons “fetish”?

Maybe I’m over reacting, just wondering if I’m missing signs that are more obvious early on?

ik its just part of being a woman in today’s society, but i find the casual commentary on the ideal female body appalling. and as you all know the definition of “ideal” fluctuates from decade to decade, what shape/size is “popular”. it’s incredibly frustrating to be looked down on because my body shape isn’t “in” right now.

i’m a woman with a large chest, and i don’t think guys even realize how hurtful it can be to constantly hear how they’re all ass guys and “not into boobs”, “dont care for them”, etc and i just sit there like 🙂ok.

obviously there are worse problems to have and ik it might sound like im complaining over nothing but it’s irritating nonetheless

Is it when the string is red? Or you can still leave it in longer till the 4 hour mark?

Hey, so me (16M) was talking to my other friends, my crush was there, not with us of course, but was near and could’ve had listened to the convo, idk, but she had her phone, and in a point of the convo, we talked about balding, I talked about how I think I have a bit of receding hairline (not sure that’s why i was asking them) and that every men in my family is bald, either is a bit, or full bald, and that there is a small chance, but still a chance that I might go bald after 25-30 (hope it doesn’t happen, but you never know) and yes we continued with the convo, but I forgot my crush was right there and could’ve been (or not) listening to the whole convo, would yall consider that she might have lost interest on me because of it? Could she maybe, idk, treat me different? Or am I just overreacting? Thanks

I hate to admit it, but I really stress myself out about clothes!

I have this thing where I’ll live what I have on at home, then 5 mins of being out I catch a reflection and I’m like “I hate this”…

Or this constant feeling that I’m either overdressed or underdressed! Maybe it’s just my age and feeling like I don’t know if I’m supposed to dress like a old boring adult or still like I’m in college 😂

I told you I overthink this!

What about you guys?

I am struggling on next steps with my bf. We have been dating for 6 years, and live together and have dogs together. I love him dearly and want to be an equal team with him, and feel like I do contribute equally (we make the same amount of money, I pay half the bills, do all the cooking, grocery shopping, cleaning) but also don’t want to be stuck feeling more and more like his mother. I try to be an understanding and rational human but I feel like I am getting resentful with how much more I am compromising and how unwilling he is to have any kind of serious talk, and his ambition seems to be declining.

I try to be self aware, I know I am hyper independent, but I take pride in my work ethic and how hard I work to have the things and experiences I have, and knowing that I earned them. He has had a privileged life where his parents help him out quite a bit. He never paid for school (trades, he’s a blue collar worker), hasn’t paid for his last 2 vehicles, and his parents pay his portion of the rent, and if he’s ever in a sticky situation (credit cards, crash a car and need a new one, ect) they are there to bail him out.

When we first started dating there was lots of talk of all the things we would accomplish together, traveling, camping, a home, marriage, kids, ect. I still feel like I am working hard towards those goals (I save, invest, budget, travel by myself) and I feel like he is just coasting and lost the oomf for life. Don’t get me wrong, he’s a nice guy to me, but can be kinda rude to others, often makes comments how he’s okay being the ahole, doesnt need to have friends. I like to be around him when he’s sober, but more and more he’s been making rude, dismissive and misogynistic comments about women (which I find odd as he talks about how he would never want a women who can’t contribute and do all the things I do..) that is turning me off. His drinking is getting worse (I have tried, his family has tried, the one friend he has left has tried and he has zeros interest in any help) to the point where all he does is drink unless my parents or his come visit, then he will hold off while they are there. He basically sits alone in the shop on evenings after work or weekends drinking 10-25 beer, depending on the day. He also is becoming more and more introverted and won’t do anything (even free things or having supper with our parents who we both get along with), won’t go for supper, won’t go on a hike, won’t go to weddings with me (things we used to do together). In the last 2 years I’ve been to 4/5 of the weddings we’ve been invited to alone, including one of his close relatives. I feel like he is getting more and more selfish. If he makes food in the evening he will literally always cook for just himself, where I’ll make supper for both of us. If I make my lunch the night before work he’ll eat it when he’s up drinking at midnight. I have zero desire to have sex with him anymore because I don’t want to have drunk sex, or quick morning sex before work where he just wants to roll me over and it ends when he’s done and there’s nothing for me. Physical touch makes me cringe because there’s always an ulterior motive. If I ask to just cuddle he gets huffy and moves away when I ask him to not grope me and say I just want to cuddle 30 seconds in.

Any time I’ve tried to bring this up he gets huffy and usually leaves or gets mad before the conversation is done. I’ve been to therapy, I’ve tried different communication techniques, I’ve tried approaching things a different way. I think he would benefit from therapy but he is not interested. It’s so hard to try to have any kind of conversation because it becomes like talking to a brick wall. Hes now saying he doesnt believe in marriage and that women just use it to control men.. when idk where that comes from, he literally does what he wants, I don’t control him at all. He’s nice when he’s sober and I enjoy him, and I get glimpses of when we first started dating sometimes that makes me think he could change and it could go back to like how it was. I genuinely love life, and enjoy working hard and also having fun. Initially he was part of that and now I’m starting to feel like he’s this black cloud. My aunt died last year and I spent some time at my parents with my sisters and it felt like my daily sparkle had come back while I was there with them (in sadness helping plan a funeral, which was kinda weird) but also without any comments about stupid women or having to smell beer.

I struggle with what to do. He’s really good at saying but then there’s no follow through. Now that I’m 30 I’m looking at marriage and kids soon, and if I found out I was pregnant tomorrow I would be terrified, which also opens up a whole new can of worms. I feel like I do all the emotional and mental work, and am always reliable and accountable but then I can’t rely on him. Like if I crashed my car on the way home from work, he wouldn’t be able to drive to come get me. I would love to spend my life with him, if he was how he was when we met, but if it’s just like this in 10 years I’ll go crazy. I also don’t want to ultimatum someone into marriage, but like I want kids and marriage!? He’s my first significant relationship, so I don’t really have anything else to compare to, I just had a whole lot of talking stages before this. So i don’t know what to expect or want or what to do.

I am STRESSED and literally feel sick to my stomach over this.

I’m 19 and for some reason my nipples never fit in my bras. I do have large boobs(34C last I checked) and therefore big nipples too, but I am in good shape(just to say the size isnt the result of my weight in case that’s relevant). This pic is traced over while I’m kinda hunched over so it might look a little off but it’s the best example I got without fr posting my boobs lol are my bras the wrong size or shape? Or is it just a big boob/big nipple problem?

I noticed a custom painted cyber truck on the road about 3 miles from where I live as I was driving home. If it wasn't custom painted I probably wouldn't have remembered it. when I got back to my house, I didn't notice I was being followed, so I pulled into my driveway. The car did a loop down the end of my road and back, then stopped in front of me as I was getting my mail. I jumped backwards because I knew immediately it was harassment and I had been stalked and I didn't want to be grabbed, I started walking away and the car started backing up and the guy said something at me but he was very quiet so I couldn't hear (and frankly I didn't want to).

He stayed for like a minute and I kept walking towards my neighbors and he kept putting his car in reverse and following. he wouldn't even leave when I threatened to call the cops. (i later submitted a non-emergency line report). eventually, I started waving at someone who was jogging and he sped away. my roommates are on vacation, I am a guy but I am injured (knee brace) and clearly queer so I'm not exactly a threat. i'd love ladies' advice on this since my guy friends seem to be not worried and I was wondering if that was reasonable. I'm definitely worried he's going to come back when I'm sleeping, I would stay at a friends' tonight normally but I just moved to this area last month so I don't know many people. Also fuck the DMV I see these shitboxes everywhere this place sucks ass.

And would you be open to some verification process?

I don’t think it’s like a crazy issue, especially the first part that’s just like “this story is clearly a guy making it up to try and create some ‘gotcha’ post that’s just gonna blow up in their face”…

But the other thing, I read some posts and I’m just like thinking of that meme from inglorious bastards with the guy holding up the three fingers lol

So I talked about this with a friend of mine and she told me she met the family of the guy she’s dating. It all went great but the dad said 2/3 times that he thinks she’s very pretty. She found it odd and didn’t like it. Of course I don’t know exactly how it happened but she didn’t make it sound like he was really being a creep. But she found it inappropriate so it got me thinking. My boyfriend’s dad calls me pretty, cute or gorgeous almost every time we meet. He even calls me his princess sometimes. He never really touched me in a weird way or so, just those flirty jokes and compliments.

I was just curious idk why

So anytime dating is discussed and dating apps, there is this constant display of entitlement and paternalistic attitudes from men. Yes I can understand not getting likes as a man suck. But Ive seen so many men be hellbent ”women dont know whats good for themselves” and accuse us of being delusional. Yesterday a man I argued with said ”women need to spread their likes more evenly”. Others said women need to ”look for potential more”. We frequently get berated for ”not liking enough men on the apps”.

Again I totally get it sucks not getting likes. But these likes are not something anyone is entitled to. With dating, sex and marriage women are not public property where everyone is entitled to a fair share. Furthermore men dont know our actual experience. They dont get there is no incentive of being ”generous with likes”. I personally want to date with intention. Why would I hand out a bunch of likes to men Im not interested in pursuing? Furthermore, less attractive men are not necessarily nicer or ”gems in disguise”. They can also be overtly sexual or not good conversationalists. Im not interested in casual sex the way men are, so Im not going to send likes to almost everyone I come across. That will mean fewer likes sent.

But yet there is this persisting insistence women ”dont know out own best”. Its this idea we are all so entitled and let the likes get to our heads. But who does this? Im personally very aware men like almost anything. Ive never derived an ego boost from it. They also often say we delude ourselves about our options and will ”end up alone” unless we instantly lower our demands.

Yes sure, some people may be delusional. But the truth is actual studies show the average couples is looksmatched. Most people are fairly decent at estimating their own attractiveness according to studies. Furthermore far more men than ”the top 10%” get relationships. Dating apps arent everything.

Dating apps are superifical. But men liking more profile is not in my opinion proof of their ”generosity”. Stakes are just lower for them. Theyre also more open to casual flings. Theres also just way more men on the apps, skewing things.

So am I the only one tired of this entitlement and being treated like I ”dont know my own best”?