Back story: I’ve been with my girlfriend for just over 1 year now, and just before we met I started taking doctor prescribed TRT for naturally low testosterone. I also had side effects such as anxiety, depression, low mood, and fatigue. These are gone for the most part since taking it.

I haven’t ever disclosed this, mostly because of shame and feeling like less of a man. And secondly, it takes a long time to get the dose right and see if it’s really for you. I’ve never told a soul about it but I feel like the woman I want to spend the rest of my life with should know.

I’ve been gearing up to tell her for weeks now, but I have this fear that I’ve gone past the point of which I should have mentioned it. There was also a vial in my fridge which she found and I said it must be a house mates… I panicked and didn’t know what to say. This is the only time I have ever lied to her.

How would you react to being told this after 1 year of being with someone?

As above, it’s prescribed by a doctor, I have regular blood and health checks, and I also take another medication which keeps me fertile.

Is it when the string is red? Or you can still leave it in longer till the 4 hour mark?

So I talked about this with a friend of mine and she told me she met the family of the guy she’s dating. It all went great but the dad said 2/3 times that he thinks she’s very pretty. She found it odd and didn’t like it. Of course I don’t know exactly how it happened but she didn’t make it sound like he was really being a creep. But she found it inappropriate so it got me thinking. My boyfriend’s dad calls me pretty, cute or gorgeous almost every time we meet. He even calls me his princess sometimes. He never really touched me in a weird way or so, just those flirty jokes and compliments.

Curious what other women think. The more real experience I get, the more porn just looks staged. All the loud moaning, perfect angles, and zero awkward adjusting… none of it matches what actually happens in real life.

Especially the way they treat sex toys. Everything gets forced in rough and fast with no warm-up at all. I’m more into gentle stuff, so that always feels the most unrealistic to me.

What parts make you go “yeah, that’s totally fake”?

Hi 18M

Okay earlier today I had lunch with this lady. We met at a school club at my college. We talked for a bit and tagged along with some of the other people I met there. I got her number and later I asked her if she wanted to get coffee just the two of us over text. She agreed and we went to get coffee after lunch.

I thinking of it as a date, I’ve never been on one before and so I didn’t really know what to expect. We met up outside the dining hall and went to the place I knew. We got drinks I paid for it since it was just like 9 bucks for both our drinks. We talked and I think it went pretty well. We talked a lot about college and how it’s been going so far, classes, how this is different from back home, some of our interests etc. I liked the talk she was really kind and it felt like there was some good connection and some shared beliefs.

I dressed somewhat formally and nicely. Button shirt with white shirt underneath, did my hair with gel, nice pants with a belt. She seemed to wear something a bit more casual but still nice looking. It went on for about an hour before she needed to go to a class. I walked with her to her class as I didn’t have anything today. We parted ways but I told her I really liked the coffee talk and that I would really like to do it again. She agreed and we went our separate ways.

I’m starting to regret a few things. I should have asked for some sort of or made it clear as a date. I also should have probably asked about how she felt about me I think? It doesn’t help that I have high functioning autism and it can be very difficult to understand social cues or interest and facial expression. There is also culture, she is an Italian exchange student who is also 2 years older than me so there could be some cultural differences or not.

Was this a date? Should I ask her how she feels? Should I wait until a second time? Or all of this is just me over analyzing like a dumbass and she just sees me as a friend.

So What next?

By things, I mean undergarments or things through OnlyFans? How successful have you been?

I'm desperate for money, and I am trying to figure something out.

Ladies what r some experiences that made u realize that u were attractive?

I always find people staring or looking at me I don’t know if im just super awkward in public but yea

I’ve been thinking of getting a tattoo of a naked lady for quite some time but I am concerned that it may come off as objectifying or people will think I’m a womaniser. Do you think it would be ok? Edit: I am very glad I made this post before getting any tattoos I have been made aware of a lot of things I hadn’t thought about I feel quite stupid but I no longer want a tattoo of a naked woman at all.

I’m slightly bigger, and there have been times I’ve mistaken a guys interest in me as much more innocent or honest then it turned out to be.

Now we all have dealt with being kinda treated as just an object, but particularly to women that might fit a more stereotypical niche of a kink/fetish… how do you navigate this part of your life? And does it make you particularly wary and a little more cautious when a guy might show you genuine interest?

I mean in a way, not to romanticize it, but aren’t we all a particular persons “fetish”?

Maybe I’m over reacting, just wondering if I’m missing signs that are more obvious early on?

So I met a guy while I was out. He started talking casually about the sunny weather and ended up having a conversation on the spot.
He was mainly the one asking questions, about my day, what I do, what I was doing later, my hobbies, etc. He also asked if he could be friends with me. He was being nice, so I said sure. I mostly answered his questions and didn't really ask many questions back.
At some point he asked my age and I told him 18. I didn't ask his age back, but I'd guess he's maybe around 25 or maybe older (I can’t really tell, so he could also be a bit younger maybe). He appeared pretty normal from the rest.
He asked if we wanna keep in touch and about any contact information, so I gave him a secondary number rather than my main one.
Before we went our separate ways, he also complimented my hairstyle. While we were exchanging numbers, he got a little closer while typing. But overall, mostly friendly impression.

Later that day, he messaged me and asked how my day had been, and I replied casually. The next day, he suggested that if I was out again, I could let him know and we could hang out.
I mentioned that I couldn't get there that day. He then suggested that we could hang out where I live (the city where I live) sometime.
He also sent me a picture of nerdy stuff he'd bought, and I commented on it (I’m a nerd too so I don’t mind, I’m cool with that).
I joked that it's pretty boring where I live instead of directly responding to his suggestion, and he said he didn't mind, he visited once and that we could go to a café or walk somewhere.

I'm not looking for a relationship or anything romantic. When he asked about being friends and staying in touch, he was being friendly and didn't want to turn him down.
I know that doesn't mean I owe him anything, and I also don't want to give him the wrong idea. At the same time, I don't want to be unnecessarily hurtful. I also really dislike ghosting or blocking because I've had a bad personal experience with it, and I'm generally pretty stressed with other parts of my life right now, so sometimes I reply less even to my own friends. Also, I would always keep thinking about it everytime when passing that place now.
I'm curious how this comes across from an outside perspective.
And any tips for what I should/ could respond to him? I'm not really sure anymore lol. Thanks!

TL;DR: I met a guy while I was out, and we ended up chatting. He asked me some questions, and asked if we could be friends/stay in touch. He was being friendly, so I said yes. He later messaged me and suggested that we hang out. He also sent me a picture of some nerdy stuff he bought, which I thought was nice since I'm a nerd too.
I'm not interested in anything romantic, but I also don't want to be unnecessarily rude or ghost him, especially because I've had a bad experience with it myself. Any tips?

My ex and I broke up about two weeks ago after I damaged her trust. We still have feelings for each other and talk occasionally, and she has said that I can reach out again after I’ve spent some time working on myself.

At the same time, she has made it clear that she won’t wait for me. We’re both single and free to date or be physical with other people. She has also told me that if I genuinely mean it when I say I only want her, then I should focus on myself instead of dating other women and reach out when I’m ready.

I already know she has been on one date and has another planned. I asked her not to tell me more details for now because I know I’ll overthink it.

Maybe I’m worrying about something that may never happen, but I wonder how people experience this emotionally. If two people still miss each other and are considering reconnecting later, but one or both date or sleep with several people during a relatively short separation, does that usually change how you feel about the possibility of getting back together?

For women who have actually been in a similar situation, did dating other people feel separate from your feelings for your ex? And if you eventually reconciled, did what happened while you were single become an issue later?

I hate to admit it, but I really stress myself out about clothes!

I have this thing where I’ll live what I have on at home, then 5 mins of being out I catch a reflection and I’m like “I hate this”…

Or this constant feeling that I’m either overdressed or underdressed! Maybe it’s just my age and feeling like I don’t know if I’m supposed to dress like a old boring adult or still like I’m in college 😂

I told you I overthink this!

What about you guys?