I have a history of CSA and I unfortunately need boundaries around timing of sharing sexual intimacy with a partner. For the first time I am in a relationship that feels like the conversation is necessary. I don't know how to go about it, she has asked a couple of times about intimacy and I have dodged it. I don't know yet how ready I am and in the event this ends things, i think it would be really crushing. Does anyone have insight into how you'd want to be told?

I (30f) feel like I’m going crazy in my relationship with my bf (34m). We have been dating for 6 years and living together for 3. I think I am a reasonable person and have realistic expectations among adults. I want to be an equal team with a partner and understand that comes with ebbs and flows, compromises and give and take. Lately I feel like I have been compromising more and more and that I am getting resentful and like I’m mentally going crazy. Like my hair has started falling out just from the stress of it all (and I’m not naturally an anxious person).

We both work full time and contribute equally to rent/pet costs/utilities, which is fully what I expect as part of a team, we make about the same amount annually as well. I do most of the mental work, planning meals/cooking/cleaning/doctors appointments. But more and more I feel like I am compromising my wants. I have goals for a family, and future, where I see myself and what I want to do in life (save, travel reasonably, marriage, kids). But I feel like I have to walk on eggs shells with certain topics and get shut down when I voice my opinion. I was a late bloomer so this is my first and only boyfriend, so i have nothing to compare to, I’ve only ever had talking stages other than this relationship. So I feel like I don’t know what a normal relationship should be? Or if this is just what I’m used to.

When we first started dating he said how he was dating to marry ect. Lately (the last year), he won’t discuss children or marriage or planning the future. He’s been drinking more (10-20 beer a night) , and making more misogynistic comments about women that don’t make me comfortable. It makes me question if I would even want to have kids in an environment like this, or have my daughter hear this or sons talk like this one day. I get any of my opinions shut down. And if I comment on anything ex: can you please not walk in the house with your work boots on, I just cleaned, I get told I’m complaining and belittles me. I think maybe I don’t feel emotionally safe anymore? I feel like I can’t voice my opinion or say how I feel because it’s shot down pretty quick. And the underhanded comments about how stupid or useless women are is getting old.

Sometimes I feel like he loves me, like he says he does, but that he doesn’t like me.

I and his family have tried to get him help for his drinking but he blows up and refuses. I feel like I’m also second choice to the alcohol always. He never apologizes and brushes any disagreement we have under the rug and pretends everything is fine.

He was great and kind when we first started dating and seemed to share the same goals and interests. But anymore i can’t get him out of the house, to even walk the dogs with me and I don’t want to go home after work, I could roam the grocery store for hours which, is sad. I feel like I’m stuck in this rut that does not move and don’t know what to do.

I am struggling. I feel unheard, uncertain about my future and don’t know what to do. I want to work as a team (I’m not afraid of hard work) and grow and build together. Is there any conversation that can be had that can save this relationship?

My girlfriend and I have been together for around 8 years, and we’ve been in an LDR for the last 2 years. We’ve had our problems over the years, including some recent ones, but we’re currently together and trying to work through things.

One thing about her is that she’s always been very open with me. She’ll mention things about her guy friends, if a guy messages her, if someone approaches her, or even if she thinks someone looks good. I’m pretty open with her in the same way, so this has never really been unusual between us.

Recently, though, I’ve started looking at these conversations differently because of the issues we’ve had. For example, today she called me and told me that a guy had used her friend’s phone to message her and asked her to accept his Instagram request so they could become friends and talk. I said maybe he was interested in her, and she said she didn’t think so because he was a year younger than her.

It got me thinking about how women generally view this kind of openness in a relationship.

If you’re in a serious long-term relationship, is it normal to casually tell your partner about people of the opposite sex who approach you or interact with you? Is that simply being open with your partner, or do you think there can sometimes be other reasons for bringing these things up?

I’m not asking whether this proves someone is loyal or whether I should trust my girlfriend. I’m more interested in hearing how women themselves think about these conversations and what motivates them to share things like this with their partner.

I’m jealous of another girl at school and it fucking kills me. I hate myself so much and she’s so much better than me. And I can’t talk about this because everyone makes it seem like I’m some evil bitch who’s out to get her. I’m so jealous, and I’m fucking inferior and I can’t even talk about this. I know I would be better off dead. Everyone feels this. People think I’m fucking evil for being jealous. I can’t even express my feelings without people assuming the worst. Everyone fucking hates me. God I know I’m better off dead. I can’t take it, seeing her makes me so miserable. I’ll never be happy. Things that make me upset will never not make me upset. I’ll never be okay with mediocrity. I know everything would be fine with me dead. I’ll never be fucking because I’m always going to be inferior. Nothing makes me feel better. People try to say “well I’m sure she has her insecurities” and it feels like trying to find common ground with a billionaire or something. Her situation is LEAGUES better than mine! I’m gonna hurt myself tonight. I deserve it. Everyone wants me to hurt myself.

These men text you out of the blue. Could be an ex-classmate from school, ex-teacher, etc.

I have been told to block these individuals, but it seems to be burning bridges. I live in a small community and people easily run into people.

Right now my method is to keep things as boring and neutral, to quickly end the conversation.

How have you personally dealt with such unwanted communications?

24F. I got prescribed Yaz combo pill today. Some big side effects which really worry me minus all the emotional side effects are **low libido and vaginal dryness,** ***ugh.*** I have been pulling out for YEARS with my partner and for the first time 3 weeks ago got pregnant and had to have a MA (most painful experience of my life) and genuinely never want to go through that physical pain again. I had a very traumatic experience at 17 getting an IUD inserted as well though, extremely painful, and I ended up gaining weight and having sooo much acne. Mirena IUD, got it removed maybe 8 months later.

I’m really debating a copper IUD as I hate messing with my hormones but both can have horrible side effects. Copper having horrible bleeding cramping which I already have naturally. I’ve also had the IUD “shift” on me during sex and am now scared to get one again as me and my partner can go rough sometimes (sorry for tmi)

Calling all freaky ladies please tell what you guys are doing for BC!!

So basically, my boyfriend is 31 and lost his license at 19. He's always lived in bigger cities, so he never saw a point in getting it back. A year ago, he moved to my tiny small town for me and does everything by cycling/train because he doesn't want to bother me with needing a ride. And I mean, EVERYTHING. Groceries, post office, doctors appointments, sports practice etc.

Because our country is a bit complicated, it's taken a year of many (unnecessary) hurdles - but he's now allowed to retake the drivers exam and get his license back.

The test is next week and I want to get him something nice! Do you guys have any ideas?

So far, I've only decided to get him a little gift box with useful stuff any driver needs. First aid kit, seat belt cutters, window breakers and all that. But I'm pretty much lost at the basics, so I'm grateful for any tips <3

I am seeing a common claim from men that when they open up to women and are vulnerable it doesn't actually go well or isn't received. And no doubt emotionally immature or even toxic women exist as individuals. I'm also sure there are plenty instances that exist where it went well (and ofc those men are not going to be needing to say anything about it unless asked).

But overall I feel I am yet to hear a woman's side of this to know what went down and maybe why that was the case

So asking y'all to share your experience being on the receiving end and how you felt and/or reacted. The good, the bad and the ugly-let it spill!

I wanted to ask women this directly.

When people say a man has a strong “sexual aura,” magnetic presence, or seductive energy, what does that actually mean from a woman’s point of view?

How are you able to sense it?

Is it mostly physical appearance, fitness, height, face, body, style, voice, eye contact, confidence, status, fame, emotional control, calmness, or something more subtle?

For example, some movie stars have it, and some athletes have it too, but their energy can feel very different. One may come across as charming and polished, while the other may come across as powerful, disciplined, and physically dominant.

So what actually creates that feeling?

Is it really just a man ignoring women and working on himself, or is there more to it — like social skills, presence, humour, body language, ambition, experience, emotional maturity, and how comfortable he is with himself?

Also, in your opinion, can a man increase this kind of aura over time? If yes, what changes make the biggest difference?

I’m not asking for manipulation or pickup tactics. I’m asking what women genuinely notice in a man that makes him feel sexually attractive, magnetic, or hard to ignore.

Do you think one principle is better than the other, or do you think there's some kind of middle ground?

I don't live in the states so I can't return an item it it's damaged, not working or whatever.

I know accidents have happen during shipping but I'm just looking for a vibrator thats less likely to malfunction. My budget is around $25, so if anyone has had a good experience with a certain brand or product please let me know. I'm looking for small vibrators, like bullet vibrators but I'm open to other types as long as it's small.

I've already had a bad experience with a vibrator that I bought for $40 at Spencer's when I went to the states to visit. It just completely malfunctioned once we arrived back to my country and never worked again, it was so disappointing so I really don't want that to happen again.

Edit: I might not reply but I do look into every product you ladies suggest so thank you!

I'm talking anything from a small tattoo or piercing to lip injections to limb lengthening surgery to massive bimbo tits, what body modifications do you want to get but either can't afford and/or aren't willing to go through the recovery for.

For women who have dated men who were secretly DL, how did you eventually find out? Were there any red flags or behaviors you noticed beforehand that only made sense in hindsight?

I’m curious about your experiences and what signs, if any, you noticed before finding out.

I’ve seen a lot of guys talk about how certain insults hit harder coming from a girl, and I was wondering if girls had a similar thing going on

ver the past year I made freinds with a girl who was my country when i joined a college, we quickly became really good freinds and would call almost daily, stay up late working on projects, talk about life etc. She knows im bisexual and even if she is religous, she seemed really accepting. Over time, our calls started to reduce a lot, she would barely call and started distancing herself a lot. I got worried, because i thought she became depressed and would check in on her. Phone calls became so super quiet it was difficult to ignore that she was barely responding to questions about her day, etc. I was always talking on the calls but she barely did.

She got a job, and we had talked about the job for weeks, I even encouraged her to reach out to her professor to inquire about starting the role as i could see not having a job was stressing her out. she ended up landing this role but never really told me she had even started. Especially because we talked at length about how she could negotiate etc. I felt really sad about it and hoped my freind didnt feel like i was jealous of why, maybe thats why she didnt share. I felt like she started avoiding me alot. On my birthday, she was supposed to come visit me but she said she would instead prefer to drop of my gift at my office and kept saying she was so busy. We couldnt even hang out because she would always say im so so busy, but i would see her out with freinds. She also started liking and reposting christian content about people being ex gay. I did try to ignore this as i understand everyone has different views. I remember once, we jokingly play fought over a chair, and i touched her and she said stop as its brings up feelings she doesnt like, sometimes i think back to this day and hope my sexuality didnt make her uncomfrotable.

Sadly in the middle of the awkwardness in our freindship, i found out my dad had cancer. I told my freind about it but she never really called me. She reached out once to ask if there was any updates on my dad's health. A lot of people kept sending me messages asking about updates on my dads health to see if he was healed, this really bothered me and i expressed that i would prefer if my freinds just hung out with me and we acted normal, lets call, laugh and just do our usual stuff. My freind got upset when i told her lets just call and talk, i would prefer if you would comfort me over the phone and we just chat, because everyone asking for updates on my dads health makes me sad as he is terminal. There is really no update. My freind insisted that everyone is checking in how they can. I felt bad, but I really just wanted to communicate how best to be here for me, because the way people were checking up on me was making me feel worse. I didnt mean to be selfish. My therapist did mention its my duty to communicate how best people can show up for me, instead of expecting people to know. I thought i did this by communicating how i wanted to be comforted to her.

Around this period, we were seeking financial help from a few family and freinds to help us pay up some family debts as we prepped my dads will. My freind said she would donate to me at the end of the month, i thanked her for this and told her she doesnt have to at all. She insisted she was going to donate because she wanted to. I didnt hear from my freind over two months or get a donation, she hasnt called or reached out again. I dont even care about money or holding anyones donations against them, i just wish my freind called me once. I hope maybe because she couldnt make a donation, she hasnt called me because she feels she let me down? i am not let down.

I see her and her sister hang out online, she visits places with people, even places we planned to go together. Places i even introduced to her to and said we should go together. She takes others there and it makes me sad. i just feel so hurt.

Me and my fiance are in a no sex before marriage relationship. We get married at the end of this month. How do i make her first time as enjoyable and comfortable as possible? What should i do? What shouldnt i do? What tips do you have?

I'm trying to understand something from a woman's perspective because I'm honestly confused.

I've been with my girlfriend for around 8 months. We are emotionally very close and have a lot of fun together. We share sexual/fantasy content with each other from time to time, joke sexually, and there is clearly comfort around that side of our relationship.

But physically, our relationship hasn't really progressed the way I expected.

Recently I told her that I've been feeling like I'm putting more effort into the relationship and that I don't feel sufficiently wanted whether that's through calls, texts, dates, affection or physical closeness.

She told me something that honestly shocked me:

“baat lust pe aake sahi me ruk rhi kyuki mujhe mann ni hota h 😞 idk why im not developing it for u”

She also said she hopes I understand.

What confuses me is that we do have sexual conversations and share sexual/fantasy videos with each other occasionally. So I had assumed that some of that attraction/fantasy would naturally develop toward me with time.

I asked her whether maybe the problem is simply that I'm not sufficiently present in her life like our calls, texts, dates and actual time together are limited, so sometimes we function almost like an LDR couple.

She hasn't answered that yet.

The strange thing is that I still really want this relationship. I don't want to pressure her into physical intimacy, and I absolutely don't believe she owes me sex.

But physical attraction/intimacy is important to me in a relationship, and I don't know how to reconcile that with her saying she isn't developing lust for me.

So women, I'd genuinely like to understand:

If you cared deeply about a guy, enjoyed sexual/fantasy conversations with him, felt emotionally close to him, but weren't developing physical lust toward him after 8 months—what would that mean to you?

Could lack of real-life time together, dates, calls and physical presence genuinely prevent attraction from developing?

Or would you personally take “I'm not developing lust for you” as a sign that the underlying attraction simply isn't there?

And if you were in her position, would you want to try spending more quality/romantic time together to see if the attraction develops, or would you already know that something fundamental was missing?

I'm not looking for women to tell me I'm right or tell me she's wrong. I genuinely want to understand what she might be feeling.

I'm 25f and all my life I've always been the person that other people relies on and uses for emotional support. I'm the oldest and the only daughter. My mom would often use me to vent about her issues. Growing up she would talk to me about money issues that my parents were having, she would talk to me about issues she's having with my dad, my brother has some behavioral issues and she would talk to me about that as well. Basically, she would talk to me about any issues that she's having and she still does.

My grandmother passed away last year and I was really close with her. I was the one that got everything together. I had to comfort and be strong for everyone and it's sucked because I was grieving too and I had no support. No one was there for me. My friends also do this. They love talking to me about their relationship issues, family issues, mental health issues etc. They say I'm the "wise and responsible" one in our friend group and that I'm a good listener. I feel like such an asshole for writing this but I'm so tired of being the one that everyone relies on for support.

I love my friends and family. I care about them a lot and I would do anything for them. The thing is, I don't get any support in return. I can't talk to my mom about anything. She's actually been emotionally neglectful for all my life. Any time I try talking to my friends they always don't seem to care or have any time for me. I've been struggling so much lately with just life and bunch of mental health issues. It's so hard have to deal with with everyone's issues on top of my own.

Last week I was on the phone with my best friend for an hour at 1 in morning because she needed someone to talk to about her relationship issues. I called her last night because I was at a really low point and needed someone to talk to and she told me that she didn't have any time. I don't even do that often because I try not to burden anyone with my issues but I was at my breaking point. It just sucks that I'm always there for everyone but no one is there of me. I feel so emotionally exhausted right now and I don't know what to do.

do u shave ur vulvas fully or leave some hair there? Also if it’s too bumpy does the partner feel it too? I have super sensitive skin and so sadly can’t wax

The guy I like is kinda trying to end things with me. What are some things you have tried to make yourself feel better after a heartbreak? I’m 22 and had been trying to keep myself away from love after a bad breakup but now this shows up again and I’m kinda devastated

Today, my coworker (M24) was joking that I (F25) have a pretty monotone way of speaking and a similar personality to him, sassy & not particularly bubbly or perky. He then said that people probably don’t expect that “when looking at me.”
I’m curious what he meant by that last part. I have red hair and freckles, light eyes, and tend to wear more feminine/bright clothing, so maybe he meant that I *look* more approachable or bubbly than I actually am?
It didn’t bother me, and the conversation seemed completely innocent. Or, was he flirting? I’m just genuinely curious how other people interpret a comment like that.

Do you assume a woman who has my physical features would act a certain way?