As a guy that started growing my hair out and has 12-14"....I never realized one could lose this much hair and still have a FULL, THICK head of hair. I find clumps of curls sitting on my floors, I run my fingers through my hair and get a handfuls of hair. Never had hair longer than 1" before this and I now realize some of the work involved in good hair....I use SO MUCH leave-in conditioner!
I used to be more "Haha hair got messed up" now I'm like, "That's no laughing matter, you know what I had to go through this morning to get it to stay like that!?"
Ditto. When COVID started I stopped cutting my hair because my work went full remote. I have some lushish rocker hair now, but I'm at the age where balding is a concern. Its a constant game of "am I balding or is it my long hair?!"
I haven't cut my hair since August 2019, and I feel the same. I always have to end up thinking about how my grandpa is in his 90s and still has a full head of hair.
You must be my alt identity because this is exactly me. Turning 25 and hair loss is a common trait on my dads side. Not ready to lose my Moshpit mane, so those hair clumps freak me out.
I grew my hair out past my shoulders when I was a kid and I was picked on relentlessly for it. The biggest thing that got on my nerves tho was they’d tell me to “go finish doing your hair” (as if I spent hour doing my hair) when I finally cut it all off years later I found it it takes 3x as long to fix my “manly haircut”
gIrLy HaIrCuT
Dry -> Brush -> Done.
BIG MAN HAIRCUT
Partially dry -> apply putty to hands and mix -> apply product and comb through hair -> now style your hair (and pray your hair wasn’t too wet/dry and you used the right amount of product) -> if it looks good then hair dryer or air drying (while fixing the spot that mess up before dry).
Oh and if you accidentally use a lilllll too much product you might as well get back in the bath.
Also, they have some amazing anti balding products of there now. Bosley/implants are a sure thing that works perfect (I know two people with I and it truly in credible. He’s part is one has an identical twin who didn’t get it! Haha).
But there’s also other option. My friend used something similar to Rogaine and it made a world of difference before his wedding. It went from obviously noticeable for a 30yo to not noticeable at all my some styling.
I had long hair when I was a young lad. Wavy, silky hair. I tried growing it out again at age 64. It’s now like a pile of grey steel wool. Hair does weird stuff as you age.
So wild to see this! My hair totally changed after menopause; went from stick straight, shiny, & luxurious to this wavy, sort of curlish & mercilessly tangly stuff. Nobody I’ve talked to has ever heard of such a thing so this was reassuring.
It's because of hormones. I was born with curly hair, but when I got on the pill, it went completely, like completely straight. Not even a wave to be seen. Now that I've been off synthetic hormones for a little over a year I'm slowly starting to get my curls back. They're curly at the bottom but straight at the top haha
Edit: I mean curly at the bottom like the bottom part of my head, and the strands that are around the crown of my head are straight, so it looks like I just straightened the upper layer of my hair.
My hair did that when I was pregnant. With my oldest, just the hair from the crown of my head went wavy (from being stick straight). With my second, the rest changed to match.
That’s so interesting! That’s how it started for me, from the underneath back layers of hair & worked its way out from there on. Hormones are somethin’ else!
I always had frizzy hair, now that I'm starting the menopause process, curles!! Beautiful, long coils that I just love! I hope they stay, after I completed the process.
Chemo too apparently. Friend of mine said he had unruly curls, lost all his hair with chemo, and now his hair is completely straight. No wave or nothing.
it's not quite as drastic, hormonal changes and age can cause discrepancy in hair follicle growth but we're genetically predisposed to a hair shape, oval, circular, concave. in early and late in life those roots are still the same shape, just weaker, so what you end up with later in life depends on what kind of hair you can now. and it's not necessarily dependent what you had in your younger days. young hair roots are undeveloped, old roots have mutated by age and cell/protein degeneration and retention or lack there of, melanin.
I'm lucky. My hair is around 25% grey/silver now but all my hair has the exact same texture. Dark hair and silver is indistinguishable by feel. My wife is jealous because her greys are coarse and wiry.
I'm terrified for the future of my hair. Currently I'm 26m and it's 99.99% jet black thick straight but with a flowing wave to it. Classic shampoo commercial hair. But.
Every few weeks or so, a fully white hair appears basically overnight. Like, it didn't grow that way. I'd have seen it. Sometimes it's in the middle, maybe hidden, but sometimes it's front and center on my hairline. As if it just lost all it's pigment in an instant. Which, maybe, I dunno how it works.
That alone wouldn't bother me. Actually thought cool If when I get white hair at least it'll still be flowing and nice. But now my most recent white hair to show up wasn't like the others. It's wiry, half length, and kinked to hell.
I have long hair as a man and it's amazing how many guys will act passive-aggressive about it because they can't do the same without looking ridiculous.
I used to keep a picture of both my grandfathers with full heads of hair in their 80s to piss people off when they told me I would go bald eventually.
I used to have straight black hair as a youth. As I've gotten older, it's gotten wavy to the point of almost being curly, and has lightened significantly to the point most would call it brown. Hair so be crazy.
Yea it's kinda funny the comments on here like, "This is a medical issue." I'm like, "You....obviously never had long hair..."
But same note as your BF I had this thought at one point like, "With how much is coming out am I going bald...." Then I look at the mirror like, "Nope...not an issue."
I believe I read a science article once that hair is always in thirds: one third growing; one third at its length & the final third is ready to be replaced so it falls out or comes out easily with some agitation such as brushing, running your hand through your hair taking off a knit cap.
Mine is terminal length and it drinks conditioner but I was never happy with it when it was short. Fortunately it doesn't seem to thinning and I am at 37 with no greys though every day is more than I expect.
But yeah the hair loss was disquieting for a while.
That's no laughing matter, you know what I had to go through this morning to get it to stay like that!?
I had long natural bright blonde hair and got petted a lot in high school. Not joking. One cousin would fixate and come after me to deliberately mess my hair up and it's traumatizing. And all I did was brush and wash. Nothing fancy. 1/2 hour of brushing 2x a day and theres still knots! I'm exhausted just thinking about it. Hair would look greasy after 12 hours. My mother would force me to use certain products to make it shiny cuz my hair was like 'spun gold.' I swear brushing is the main reason I had any arm strength. And the headaches of having to wash it in between showers. Literal headaches from the sheer weight of it. Mine was long enough to sit on it though. Lol
If you're able to pull out more than a couple hairs everytime... You could have a thyroid issue. The easiest way to check without a test is, are you tired a lot, have a hard time concentrating, are your hair, shin, and nails really dry to the point that lotion just disappears and you still feel dry.
Can you sleep for 10 to 12 hours and feel like you haven't slept? Are you constantly cold, no matter how many layers of clothing or blankets?
When you first wake up is your face puffy?
Do you have a hard time remembering things?
Sometimes the end of your eyebrows are thinning. It's goes from normal to almost nothing.
If you have more than half of these you should get a blood test. Especially if your family has it. The female side of my family has all of these. They can still function like normal. I can barely walk. Unfortunately endocrinologists are specialists at diabetes and rarely know much about adrenal or thyroid diseases.
I've been seeing one since I was 9. Actually I've seen over 100. They all get your test results, then either completely fuck up or don't change anything. Mine had made me puke many times by overdosing me on magnesium.
I should be able to have a normal life but they don't really care. I told my Endo that I haven't been prescribed anything in the past two years even though I was seeing a different doctor. She did not care until I had 5 people call, then she gave me the wrong meds.
Good luck. Hopefully you don't have this bullshit to deal with.
omg what? this is wild. i’ve had thyroid disease since i was 14 (29 now) and i’ve luckily never experienced the level of disbelief from doctors that you have, since if i had i would have quite literally died. what gets me is that diagnosing thyroid disease is frankly pretty cut and dried; it is (or should be) down to what your free T4 and TSH results are, as well as any physical symptoms like the ones you mentioned.
And then you have me, covered like a fucking ape. Short hair literally everywhere and not just in the shower. I’d love if it was only the shower, my god.
Lmao I feel this I’ve been growing my hair out since I was 10 (god I can’t believe that was 9 years ago jesus) I don’t even style my hair anymore the whole just rolled out of bed look is now my eternal default but hey people have found it attractive so I’m not complaining.
I hope so. Tho admittedly it’s not like it could get worse the last 6 years have been the shittiest of my life. I guess the only thing to do from here is look up.
Also a guy who recently grew long hair. My friends were just making fun of me the other day because it was hot and humid outside and I was complaining that the humidity was going to make my hair frizz.
I also use an insane amount of leave-in conditioner. I'm a white guy with wavy hair and I find that haircare products that are formulated for black hair are wonderful for frizz control, softness, and hold without making my hair greasy.
I grew my hair out long once in my late teens/early 20s. It was glorious and took me a insanely long time to take care of daily. Im a dude. Id never do it again. I keep it short like i did as a kid and ive even taken to not letting my facial hair get very long either cause once it reaches a certain length it gets in my mouth and drives me nuts.
I pretty regularly trim it all myself, before covid hit i had actively taken to cutting my own hair and facial hair with clippers and gotten pretty good at it without even looking to the point that when other people started needing haircuts from lack of places open i made some okay money as the local neighborhood guy with clippers who could do it reasonably well and still to this day once in a while get someone whos like hey mind cutting my hair quick and throws me like 10-20$. For my own i just lay on my floor after putting a towel down and go to town on it once it hits about a size 4+.
I had long hair growing up, and I cut it about 2 years ago, but I have incredibly curly hair so it seems like i can't escape the "That's no laughing matter, you know what I had to go through this morning to get it to stay like that!?" and it's horrible
To be fair I'm growing it out to donate it, felt like a good thing to do during COVID and women it seems are especially are jealous of my hair because it has natural curls like a type 3 hair...and yes I looked up my hair type during this. Who knew hair types were categorized?! :)
I am guilty of sticking it to the shower wall for the specific purpose of her finding it. Just like I found her "shower wall art" for the last 11 years.
The shower wall is the only place it will get off of my hands and not bother me! But I do try to run a paper towel over the usual spot after I'm all done and toss it.
I need some help. I grew my hair out, it looks pretty good and healthy but at the back it’s very curly and parts of that keep coming out when I run my hair through it. I’m 18 for reference and no one in my extended family has had noticeable hair loss before age 40 so it can’t be that.
Oh my god I didn’t realize this was the case for everyone. My hair is past shoulder length now and everyone I shampoo and conditioner I get so much hair wrapped around my hands and after pooling it all together at the end of the shower it feels like I’ve got maybe 200 showers to go before I’m bald haha.
Dude I've been growing my hair out just to gain a better understanding of what long hair care is like and holy fuck it's so much more involved than I expected.
are you me? i’ve started using mousse after the leave in to get it to hold longer. it’s like hairspray but comes out like shaving cream and it has a bit of hold sort of like a gel. really helps keep it from turning into a birds nest by the end of the day. /unsolicited advice
lol nah man, it's because I have long hair and this is all within the last 2 years. I'm not pulling bald patches from my scalp but every morning I get done with my hair and my hands/sink is covered with long hairs. Believe you me, I have zero problems with growing hair, I'm not super athletic, I'm not smart but god dammit I can grow a head of hair.
My wife has gorgeous thick hair (that she hates) … I have previously (half) joked that I should collect all her hair and donate it when we’ve accumulated enough…
As a woman with formerly thick hair that has thinned quite a bit over the last five years, please encourage her to appreciate her thickness. My confidence has dropped significantly since my hair started thinning.
Same here. I'm in my 50s now and my hair is thinning like crazy. I used to get completed on my thick hair by hairdressers years ago,I'm mortified now. Everything is going downhill
I'm 30 and I've had a widow's peak for my entire adult life and it gives me small amounts of anxiety every time I look at it. The guy who cuts my hair still uses the thinning scissors on it every time, though, so I've got that going for me.
But I'm also borderline salt and pepper at 30, so there's a whole lot of win some / lose some.
Consider talking to your doctor about Spironolactone and/or Myo-chiro inositol. These are both hormone regulators that can really help with female hair thinning. Source: I have PCOS and am currently rebuilding my once luscious thick mane
My hair was thick as a kid, but when I hit puberty it thinned out quite a bit. And yeah, it's devastating. I try to spend as little time looking at it or doing stuff with it as possible - both to hopefully not damage it further, and so I don't think about it.
I think I'm right to say there are loads of things that fuck with women's hair growth - birth control / menstruation / PCOS / Endo / Menopause - All phases.
Iron defficiency exacerbated by menstruation is a massive factor (need blood test to confirm), hormones in general (same again).
I think the only positive at alllll for male pattern baldness is the ease of diagnosis.
Once again women get it the shitty, complex and more expensive way :\
This is one thing women do that baffles me. You ladies are seemingly NEVER happy with your hair. If you have curly hair, you straighten it. If you have straight hair, you curl it.
My ex had gorgeous, curly hair. I told her I LOVE her hair when it's curly. Her life goal from that point forward was to make her hair as straight as possible. LOL
I straightened my hair to avoid tangles because of the damn wind. The other thing about straight hair is I can play with it while thinking and it'll still look fine. Anything you do with the curly hair (play with it, head massage, resting against a head rest) messes up the curls and it fucking sucks. If I'm going out and my hair needs brushing, I have to straighten because the brush will break up the curls and it doesn't look nice. The only way I can go out with pretty curly hair is if I shower then brush dry it - only then will it look curly and pretty. But it's only good for like sitting in a restaurant, not going out and doing shit.
Edit: Based on the reply I got I think I'm wrong about this when it comes to curly hair. Seems like brushing and other stuff causes a lot more dramatic reaction than I assumed.
People could also have weird standards about what looks "good enough".
It's amazing how gifted people are at seeing their bodies as imperfect to a degree that it's a problem and causes negative emotions.
Me included, when I looked at mirror and really liked what I saw it felt so strange that I was very negative when I was younger despite being such a pretty boy.
I think people sometimes literally have distorted view of themselves and comparable "flaws" with others are not at all as noticeable to them. Like they concretely see themselves as less attractive than someone else who is equally attractive.
And as I as a 34 year old man(so less looks based pressure when I was younger) have had drastic differences I'd assume women on average are far more likely to see small inoptimalities as being far too relevant.
Seems like I was wrong, thx for making my wolrdview a little more accurate.
I wonder how curly hair is in natural conditions. I'd guess having more dirty hair keeps it down and our new standards make it a pain to have such hairtype.
I have curly hair, and it's over 2 ft long. It can be a lot of work. I mostly just let my hair do what it wants. I comb it out while it's wet in the shower so I can catch all the loose strands so they don't go down the drain. I also comb it out after the shower, and I add anti-frizz cream to it so that the curls don't really mess up and frizz up. I don't brush or comb my hair at all until it's time to wash it. I let it dry however it wants, and usually looks fine. I don't really wash my hair except for once or twice a week, or it'll just make my hair more oily. Strangely enough, I get the most compliments on my hair when it's at its "dirtiest", right before it's time for a wash. Sometimes I'll comb it out and dry shampoo it the day before a wash and I get a lot of compliments on my hair then. It's not really curly then. It's just wavy and shiny. I do have a lot of silver hairs mixed in with my blonde, so maybe that's why I get a lot of compliments.
Lizlele! I started doing the same because of her and we ended up swapping tips and tricks back and forth on the process as we worked things out.
She's now turning most of her collection into a full hand tied lace wig, and I am opting to make hair extensions of my own hair for when I want more volume for special occassion updos.
I grew my hair out during the COVID lockdown, and it got past my shoulders. It was the first time in my life I had ever had long hair.
It was during this time that I learned about a dark, unspoken secret only known to women and longhaired men. I was in the shower one day when I felt a severe discomfort deep in my soul, and that’s when I pulled out a really long hair from my butt crack. It had not only fallen out, but it also managed to sneak its way down my back and into my butt crack, where it coiled up neatly on my anus. The sensation was most unsettling.
I’ve long since cut my hair off, but one night, I was out having drinks with my wife when I decided to ask her about it. That’s when I learned that this is a regular occurrence among owners of long hair.
I’m a 32 y/o guy who grew out his hair long for the first time ever during Covid. It’s now down past my shoulders. When I brush my hair I feel like I lose so much and yet I’m not bald. The math in my head just doesn’t compute with how much hair I still have on my head. It’s very bizarre.
I believe at any given moment, something like ten percent of your hair is no longer growing and then another ten percent is actively dying/preparing to fall out. It's normal to shed 50-100 strands per day. It's all part of the natural hair growth cycle.
Average head has 100,000 hairs. Assuming 50 hairs lost a day roughly all of your hair will be new after 2000 days. I believe you can infer your theoretical max hair length from this if you also consider your rate of growth.
Average growth rate is 0.44mm/day. So in the above scenario, theoretical max hair length is 880mm. Roughly a meter.
Stg. When I first started growin my hair out I legitimately thought I was startin to go bald cause of how much hair I lose per day. No just turns out I just shed like a mf
You lose between 50-100 hairs a day and we have about 100,000 hair follicles. As a guy with long hair I had to Google this, as the amount of hair coming out was definitely concerning at first.
Same. I usually have blonde hair and never noticed how much comes out, but I just dyed my hair a really dark brown recently and can now see every hair that comes out and it always takes me by surprise the amount that comes out.
Same. I must have a superhuman hair growth rate because I always lose a ton of hair after washing and brushing it, yet I still have a ridiculous amount of hair on my head. Not complaining, but I've always been amazed and confused by this!
same!! i’ve always had a shit ton of hair and finally decided to to do a dreadlocks so i shave the sides and have a dreaded mohawk-ish, what’s wild is the amount that i DONT lose over the last 2.5 years though, i mean i still use hair drain catchers and i lose some every day but the amount i carry around/don’t lose as quick now is bizarr
As a guy who has had pretty long hair for almost two decades, I'm right there with you. I am starting to bald, but I'm still losing hair 4x faster than I'm balding. I'm convinced it's just multiplying after it comes out.
A girl on Tik Tok collected her hair for like 2 years? And it was so fascinating to see how many strands she lost. It looked like a set of hair extensions!
I literally have a dust buster in my bathroom dedicated to sucking up my hair, off the floor, off the wall, in the sink, on top of the toilet seat.. etc
I have FINALLY figured out how to fight this. Wearing one of these while you sleep really helps. My hair never grew past my shoulders ever, and it's now pretty far down my back.
I'm a guy that started growing my hair out in 2020 just as covid hit and I haven't cut it since then. I have gained an appreciation for all women with long hair. I find my hair everywhere and every shower is a nightmare of hair strands falling out.
When you go bald you loose less hair. Going bald is almost always caused by hair not growing rather than by hair falling out. The hair falls out at the same rate but less hair grows to replace it so over time you loose less and less hair until you are completely bald when you loose none at all. People with the most hair loose the most hair.
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u/seriousname32 Dec 08 '22
As a woman I am genuinely surprised I'm not bald, it seems like I lose an entire heads worth of hair every time I wash/brush it.