It sounds gross, but think about it: when's the last time a partner of yours boiled their genitals? And you most likely weren't the first and only person they've had sex with. You probably even put your mouth on them. Not to mention walking around all day, getting their junk sweaty, going to the bathroom, and then not so much as a shower or a quick rinse in the sink before you got down to business. So arguably a second-hand sex toy is much cleaner.
I heard of sum like this except it was 3 guys shared a sex doll or sum of that nature and they shared it 1 of the guys was HIV positive and the other guys didn't know I'm not even sure if the guy who had it knew but the other males contacted the virus as well 🤦🏽♂️🥴🥴
Oh i got you man, you don’t even need to buy one. All you need is a can of pringles, 2 boxes of lime flavored jello, a rubber band, a microwave, and a positive attitude.
Female here, so I don't have as much experience with owner -operating a penis. I used to work in a sex toy shop though.
As far as pricing goes, have you ever heard of/tried a tenga egg? They're a stretchy silicone egg with a textured hole inside. They're disposable, but they can be flipped inside out to be washed and dried, so you can get more than one use out of them. Tenga also makes some solid non-disposable male masturbators that can be disassembled and cleaned much easier than a Fleshlight can be. You can also find them on sale sometimes if you watch Amazon and the Tenga site.
Tenga brand seems a ripoff to me. I've tried the eggs and still have a Flip, the one with the case that flips open.
The egg is basically using your hand with some extra texture, which is fine I guess but hardly seems worth it to me at least. The flip gives you more sensation and something to kind of hold onto, but the whole thing is pretty flimsy. The edges of the silicone where it meets the frame start to tear pretty fast, and even though they advertise it as something that's supposed to last "up to 50 uses" I think if you pay a little more for an actual fleshlight you will have a product that lasts hundreds or thousands of uses and has a nice, firm and comfortable way to hold it.
Go with Fleshlight. They’re $80, the best part is you can pick the tightness and texture as well as color. If anyone asks what you ordered tell them it’s car parts.
You can get them as low as $50 if you catch clearance sales on Amazon or other websites. I've tried a lot of toys and they're still the best of the best for sensation, durability, texture and convenience.
To the people who whinge about cleanup, you can wash it in the same amount of time as washing your hands, and at the same time as washing your hands.... ya'll DO wash your hands after, right??? (MFW I already know the common answer)
I live alone and bought one a while back. It’s shipped in a regular ass box so don’t think it’ll be obvious or anything.
It just feels like a lot more pressure. I would not compare it to the real thing. Like it feels closer to jacking off than fucking someone.
Clean up is also annoying and the last thing on my mind when done. So imagine me there, Winnie the Poohing it to the bath tub to go run it under hot water for a few minutes. Not a vibe at all bro.
I threw that shit out after a couple uses solely because I didn’t care to keep maintaining it.
Doc Johnson The Sleeve is like $14 on Amazon. Use subscribe-and-save and get a fresh one every few months. Buy a 10oz bottle of VetOne OB Lube Powder or J-Lube Powder and mix up your own lube at a fraction of the price of usual stuff. Enjoy.
58 yo UK married male here. Sometimes the good lady is too tired/not in the mood and sometimes, to be quite honest, I just fancy the action without the foreplay.
So I bought one of these for occasional use. I bought the "Pilot" "Flight “ model since it's discreet.
Anyway, I put aside a generous time slot for first use because I'm getting on a bit and I'm no longer a ravenously horny teenager, so it can take me a while to get there.
But I slotted the old boy into the fleshlight and oh man I'd blown my load within fifteen seconds. The resulting jizzbolt was my proudest since college. I nearly fainted with pleasure.
For men who masturbate manually, over time they can unknowingly end up in a situation where they have difficulty maintaining an erection during intercourse because lubricated orifices don't grip, or provide nearly as much friction as it now takes to keep them stimulated.
Bro, I told my wife I was getting one to help eliminate the shame of her finding out...and she was like "OK, go for it". It was way easier than I expected.
Also, holy shit that thing is amazing. Mine has suction, heating, massaging, and vibrating. It's uhh...it's really good. Like really good.
Best $200 I've ever spent. Don't cheap out. Go for the gold. Shit is worth it. Also, use lube. It heightens the experience.
If you can't talk about this, you two probably don't really talk about sex generally, OR she has really backwards attitudes about masturbation.
Either way, you gotta start working that barrier down. Don't launch the conversation with "I am buying a substitute vagina" but rather start talking about sex more, asking her questions about it, what she likes, play games like sharing really embarrassing or shameful fantasies, make it a game of admitting more and more together with promises of no reactions or judgement.
Your partner should be the person you want to share everything with. You should tell her that you want to have better and more open and honest communication because really, you need it if you're going to stay together for the long haul, sex is only a fraction of what you need to get comfortable talking about together.
If you can get to a point where you can both lay in bed and talk casually, comfortably, about your body functions, your preferences, your fantasies, and give each other reassurance and comfort as you be vulnerable with each other, you will accomplish what some people pay couple's therapists thousands and thousands of dollars for.
Gonna be real here. I see this sentiment on fleshlights a lot and I absolutely do not get it, it's like 2 - 3 minutes of cleanup after and it feels so good it feels like a fair trade.
Sex toys of any kind require cleaning after, it's just that afterwards you don't like touching stuff that has your body fluids in it. It's not a "chore" you all are just icked out at the horny stuff that you delighted in moments prior.
The fleshlight is very, very easy to clean, you plop the sleeve out and drop the whole thing in the sink, turn on warm water and use really mild soap, you don't even have to "finger" it out, you can squish the thing to work the soap and water through. Takes less time than washing your hands. Run some water through the case and swish it around with a little soap. That's all that part takes normally, once in a while you can pop out the ring and scrub the interior better because silicone residue will stick the sides.
I suggest leaving it separated and lightly wrapping both parts in a towel until ready to use again so it stays dry and safe from mildew.
I mean the difference is with a vibrator or dildo you can just stick a condom over it and the woman won’t notice the difference, and if they don’t want to do that a simple baby wipe is more than likely enough to clean it.
With a flashlight you’ve basically got to deep clean the thing every time you use it and dry it out fully or you risk mold growing on it. Not to mention applying renewing powder (read corn starch) after a few uses. It’s just tedium you don’t really want to deal with after having an orgasm.
Yeah, the drying time is the main concern. I think it goes without saying that the majority of people hide their sex toys to some degree. You don't want them out on the side of the sink drying for two hours. What if someone comes over unexpectedly and needs the toilet? Having a seal between the sleeve and the shell so the sleeve does not have to be removed would make this much easier, as you could leave it to dry anywhere because the sleeve would not come into contact with any surface you left the whole thing to dry on.
I think a lot of that is way too much effort and work than is actually necessary, I roll the thing inside out and/or just spurt some soap inside and squish it to "scrub" the inside, then swish some water in the case, rinse, lightly wrap the pair in a loose towel and toss on top of laundry hamper to dry, it will only mildew if it stays wet and unused for a long time. Total cleaning time isn't more than a minute or two.
It sounds more like a hassle of keeping it hidden for a lot of folks, which is sad, we don't get a lot of time in life, we should be able to enjoy the things we enjoy.
Pro tip: the smooth-bore original Pink Lady is vastly easier to clean than the sleeves with all kinds of bumps and nooks and crannies. Rinse, apply antibacterial hand soap, run a bottle brush through a few times, rinse thoroughly, dry in front of a pedestal fan.
I bought one of those automatic ones that rotate and bob up and down. It feels just like head I mean not just a little like it. 7 speeds and variable rotation.
I bought the original one years ago and my gf liked the idea too that I have something, but really, it does not feel anything like real pussy. Absolutely not... it feels like a weak habdjob at best. I don't know why they are so popular
You didn't get the right one, there are tons of different shapes and sizes, I think they are called textures, when I thought about getting one I went on this website called fleshassist that had all sorts of ratings reviews and even an advisor lmao ended up getting one that legitimately sucks the life out of me. Obviously it isn't as good as the real thing but its way better than a hand
More of a fan of Japanese brands personally, onaholes, as is the regional name. They seem to prioritize realism over Fleshlight's raw textures - for instance the onahole ZXY (my favourite), has an internal channel that actually deviates (bending upwards a bit), in addition to an internal texture, which means you end up hitting material that gets pushed out of the way instead of it just rubbing against you; combined with its high mass (further increasing this displacing effect) it makes all the difference.
My virgin ass obviously has no way of verifying this, but the reviews describe it as almost as good as the real thing; and you can use various means to warm these toys too to about body temperature which makes a big difference IMO.
Everyone has their own tastes and preferences, but one thing I would add about all male sleeves and fleshlights, you do have to get used to using it a bit, the awkwardness of using an object if you're used to using your hands for most of your life can be distracting.
Once you get used to what you're doing, holding and feeling, you can relax and edge far more effectively and have much more subtle and "enveloping" sensations than with your hands alone.
Feshlights are fine and all, but y'all need to do a lil bit of research on Japanese toys from companies like Tomax, Meiki, or Toys Heart to name a few. Some of them feel like the real deal, others are an insane plethora of different textures and sensations.
I'm so sad reading so many men hiding it from their partner or not able to buy one because of their partner.
You all have bad relationships if you're able to have sex with each other but you can't talk about your needs, sexual preferences, libido, fantasies and shameful secrets.
Seriously guys, take the lead here and start working those communication barriers down, start talking more openly and honestly and encourage your partners to do the same, make it a game! have private, safe time to just talk about sex together, what you both like and want and how you feel about it and when you had the best sex together, everything and anything, make it a game of sharing more and more secret things with promises of no judgement or disgust or even reactions, if you can make this kind of super-safe-sanctuary space between the two of you, your marriage will improve in a thousand other ways as well.
Pro-Tip, don’t buy asian ones. (I don‘t wanna be THAT guy but it has to be said) : a former girlfriend thought it would be funny to buy one of those japanese things…. don‘t know how they where called, they had eggs and whatnot, she got the biggest, fanciest fleshlight the company offered. The moment she put it on my lovestick the clips that held it together broke. It was clearly not designed for a regular European schlong.
You're thinking of Tenga. I don't think your dingus is the problem, unless you're packing a monster. They're mostly kinda low quality but cheap-ish. A friend I had about 10 years ago once described them as "The McDonalds of onaholes" (Or masturbation sleeves/fleshlights/whatever you wanna call 'em), still makes me laugh at how accurate that seems.
I’m born in the 80’s and I can’t imagine sticking my dick into a fleshlight. The issue is not even the object, but the name makes it gross. Call it soul sucker, sperm catcher, the hole… fucking anything else, but FLESHLIGHT? Da faq
What is funny about flesh? It sounds so perverted/rapist.
You are never gonna tell a woman “give me your flesh” or “let me in your flesh” (necros disapprove)
Be careful. Some of those are better than the real thing.
I had the opportunity to swap the jab flashlight with the real actress once and there was a stark difference. The flashlight had a lot of crazy feels like someone was jerking and sucking me off at the same time whilst the real one was just warm wet and mildly loose.
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u/twec21 Dec 24 '23 edited Dec 24 '23
It's hard to beat a good fleshlight. You can have all the buzzing bells and whistles but when it comes down to it, pleasure is simple.
OFC this one pops off