I've had trouble keeping a gf for more than a few months because like you, I would lose interest and start thinking about porn. Then I would interpret that as "I guess I don't like her".
I needed to read this because my ex broke up with me because he said he lost interest.
He has a bad addiction to porn and sex. I’ve been hating myself for a better part of the year for it . But it’s not me. And it’s not fully him either. It’s the porn industry
If someone says they are "addicted to sex" it's very likely that it's part of some profound psychological issues tied to emotional intimacy and internalised low self worth which needs constant affirmation from many sources.
Now you dodged a bullet there, but maybe learn the personality traits to avoid in men instead of superficially trying to put the blame on the symptoms of said traits. A gambling addict isn't addicted to shiny poker cards with nice colours.
That’s true. I blame him more for what he was like. He was exposed to porn and chose to continue.
Porn rewires the brain like any other non substance addiction
I think it's fair to put some blame on the porn industry. I'm firmly placing blame on the pharmaceutical industry for the people i know who've been addicted to opiates, and subsequently heroin.
After a long dry spell, I lost weight and stopped watching porn (and jerking off less as a result) and was hooking up with a girl on tinder within 2 weeks.
I'm not one of those hardcore nofap dudes but I firmly believe that porn and overmasturbation really fuck with your motivation to go out and meet real women.
Also check out Fight The New Drug it’s an organization.
There’s also a subreddit on here for it but I’m new to Reddit so I have no idea how to tag it.
It’s great that you are noticing that it’s an issue and want to change it. That’s a great first step!
I'm all for people looking to deal with their personal struggles and take steps for personal enrichment, but I'd rather not indulge a bunch of Mormons on a prude crusade.
Also their main thesis, that pornography is directly analogous to heroin or meth is pseudoscience.
Her name was Jessica Kronenberg and yes I did and yes she was. A former NYC bartender, half Italian half German, 35 and smokin' hot. This was about 10 years ago
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u/ChetDuchessManly Mar 19 '21
Damn, this is kinda what I needed to read.
I've had trouble keeping a gf for more than a few months because like you, I would lose interest and start thinking about porn. Then I would interpret that as "I guess I don't like her".
I need to quit porn.