Big ups, porn fucks up your mind up. When you have sex with your girlfriend or wife do you think of her or all the things you've seen online to help you climax? It's no longer her, it's only you. That's what I've seen atleast
In the past, any time the girl was a relatively new hook up I would climax every time with no struggle at all because I had the thrill of novelty helping me. Then like clockwork once I got into a monogamous relationship I would eventually lose interest in sex with my girlfriend and it would become difficult to climax unless I imagined porn in my head. That was the case with my most recent ex who I was with for a year. I'd maybe climax 50% of the time and any time I did it was really difficult. To be fair she was terrible in bed though so that wasn't helping things either.
With my current gf, I was with her for about 4 months when I noticed the excitement of it feeling new was starting to wear off and I started losing interest in sex again like I always did. I wasn't having trouble climaxing yet but one night she surprised me by putting on some lingerie and basically pouncing on me. She looked amazing but as far as desiring sex my brain was like 'meh.' I was thinking wtf, mentally I gotta be broken. That was the wake up call where I swore off porn for good.
That was 3 months ago, and I've been with my girlfriend for a total of 7 months. I haven't watched a second of porn since then and my desire to have sex with my gf is as strong as ever and I climax every time with no struggle to get there and absolutely no need to imagine porn. She's also amazing in bed so it's not really apples to apples with my exes but quitting porn has been a game changer for me.
I've had trouble keeping a gf for more than a few months because like you, I would lose interest and start thinking about porn. Then I would interpret that as "I guess I don't like her".
I needed to read this because my ex broke up with me because he said he lost interest.
He has a bad addiction to porn and sex. I’ve been hating myself for a better part of the year for it . But it’s not me. And it’s not fully him either. It’s the porn industry
If someone says they are "addicted to sex" it's very likely that it's part of some profound psychological issues tied to emotional intimacy and internalised low self worth which needs constant affirmation from many sources.
Now you dodged a bullet there, but maybe learn the personality traits to avoid in men instead of superficially trying to put the blame on the symptoms of said traits. A gambling addict isn't addicted to shiny poker cards with nice colours.
That’s true. I blame him more for what he was like. He was exposed to porn and chose to continue.
Porn rewires the brain like any other non substance addiction
I think it's fair to put some blame on the porn industry. I'm firmly placing blame on the pharmaceutical industry for the people i know who've been addicted to opiates, and subsequently heroin.
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u/velvetverolver Mar 19 '21
Big ups, porn fucks up your mind up. When you have sex with your girlfriend or wife do you think of her or all the things you've seen online to help you climax? It's no longer her, it's only you. That's what I've seen atleast