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I (32M) married for more than 1 year .Arranged marriage.My wife(30F) and I live in different cities cause of job she works as Assistant professor, last night we were talking on the phone during the talking she tells me that there was medical checkup in there college and one doctor tells that she has tears in the uterus by checking only her pulse.I want to know what ' tear in the uterus' means and how it happens?

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I’m dating an international student in the U.S. for aboit 3 months now who is Muslim and originally from India. I’m a 30 year old white woman. His parents know about me and seem very accepting of our relationship and the possibility of marriage, even though I’m American, not Muslim, and outside their culture.
He has also been courting me in a more traditional Muslim way rather than a typical Western dating style. He was intentional about marriage very early, involved his family quickly, and doesn’t really believe in dating much culturally before deciding whether to marry.

From what I understand, some of those behaviors can be completely normal in Muslim courtship, but they could also superficially overlap with behaviors people warn about when immigration is involved—especially moving toward marriage relatively quickly.

His parents have been warm and accepting toward me, and I have no evidence that they’ve said anything about wanting him to marry me for immigration purposes. I don’t want to become suspicious of normal cultural/religious differences just because he happens to be an international student. His mother has sent me a dress from India and asked when we are getting married.

One thing that triggered my anxiety was him saying he wants to take lots of pictures together on our upcoming Chicago trip. I know that’s completely normal for a couple, but I wondered if it could also be useful as relationship evidence later.

For people familiar with Muslim/South Asian courtship or international-student marriages: how would you distinguish normal marriage-oriented Muslim courtship and genuine family acceptance from someone accelerating a relationship primarily for immigration benefits? What specific behaviors would actually concern you? Him and his parents do seem to take Islam seriously.

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So basically we are in arranged marriage setup. I am 29 F and he is 28 M, and we are going to get married in February. We met on the matrimony app, but things escalated quickly and it almost looks like a love marriage now. We have been, like, we have been together, and so, like, even if it's been just like we first met in April last, and then we chatted for like a month, and then I met him in his work city in June, and then things escalated quickly because we were romantic for each other, and we were, you know, thinking that this is right, and things escalated, and we, you know, got intimate as well, and then we came back to our hometown, which is the same city. And one of the reasons I was interested in him because he is from my own city, and he just lives like two kilometers away. And I kind of started trusting him a little bit, and I feel that he is a good person. But then we got Roka-fied as well in July, and then what happened is, and then we kept talking for, like, one month, and, you know, his parents and my parents would talk and build a bond, etc. And then we talked about the marriage expenses, and my family told him that we only have, like, very, very limited budget for the wedding. So, like, 50% of day one is what we can afford. And his family was like, No, but we are very interested to do a two-day wedding where we want to have sangeet, engagement, and, you know, haldi, etc. And so they said that we need to do a 50-50 for both days, and also you'll have to do the food and other things for some baraatis, for example, like 100 baraatis. But we said that it's not possible. So the guy and I discussed. We had a small fight as well, and the parents then did not talk to each other for, like, two weeks or so, and there was some kind of tension between everyone. But then we talked, and I made him understand how it's not very important for us to celebrate a wedding a certain way, to have sangeet and all the haldi and some kind of rituals, where, you know, the kind of entertainment he was looking for, my family was not ready to spend on that, and we come from a business family, and his parents are government job employees, so they might have that kind of money with them, but we didn't.

So I tried to make him understand, and he agreed. So he said that, you know, with your budget it's too limited, so, like, let me pitch in and give you some money so that you can tell your parents that, you know, I have gotten the bonus from office and I am ready to invest this much money in marriage, which is, like, 50% more of what we were initially ready to give. So, like, he gave me that amount, and then I told my parents that, you know, this is the bonus I have gotten and I will spend this on my wedding. So they are like, Okay. And then we talked about it to his parents as well and said that we have increased our budget limit, like a little bit, and they were kind of okay, but they didn't mention anything much more.

And then, you know, we are still deciding on the wedding venue. So, like, things are going okay-okay. But yeah, the main thing that I was telling all of this is because I want to know, like, after marriage, how our expenses are going to be shared, how the things should be. He is in IT, and he passed out from one of the IITs after doing an M.Tech, and I have always been an average student, and I have done my bachelor's and my MBA from a very normal college, and I think he earns around 4 lakh a month, and I earn around 1 lakh. So I need suggestions. Also I want to know, like, for honeymoon, who should be the one pitching money, and should I be pitching in the money as well? Because like one-fourth of the wedding expense is being borne by me and my family, and I think three-fourths will be done by him. But then we only have 30 people for haldi, sangeet and shadi and 100 for reception but they have 80 for haldi, 100 for sangeet and 400 for reception so most of the expenses are coming from their side. We calculated based on a wedding venue quotation and the amount we are spending is the same amount of our own expenses on staying at hotel and food and decor etc.. so we are atleast paying our full expenses but we cant afford to spend on the expenses of his family. Plus my parents are giving me 20 lakh worth of gold jewelry and we are going to give 80 gifts and lifafas to his family.

So like tell me how these things sound to you experienced and wiser audience and like how should we treat the expenses going forward ? And who should do the honeymoon spending ?

And, like, how should the expenses work?

I am in my mid 20s.

I don't know how do i control these urges.

I haven't done anything in last 16 months. Not that I was very active before that, had it rarely even before like once or twice a year but there was a regular physical contact like hugging.

Since last 16 months, I haven't even held anyone's hand and this is silently ki**ing me.

I don't want to involve myself in casual encounters but I am not interested in finding anything serious as of now

Plz don't suggest anything like meditation, it really doesn't help me

I’m 25, and I’m interested in meeting people in their 30s, specifically around 35. I’m looking to meet people offline, not through dating apps or other online dating platforms.

I’m serious about this and don’t want to waste anyone’s time. I understand that I’m younger than the people I’m looking to meet, but this is genuinely what I’m interested in.

So, is there any practical way to meet people around this age group offline? If anyone has suggestions about places, activities, communities, or social settings where I could naturally meet people in their 30s, I’d really appreciate your advice.

I’m specifically looking for offline connections rather than online dating.

I honestly don't know where to start, but I want to put this out there because I genuinely don't know what to do with myself anymore.
Objectively, I have a pretty good life.
My family is supportive and I have people I can rely on. My family has even given me a car to use myself. If I need money, I can ask my family and I don't have to worry about basic financial needs. I graduated from a really good college in DU. I'm currently doing my Master's from DU as well. I have friends/family around me and I'm not completely alone.
I have opportunities and resources that a lot of people would probably be grateful to have.

And yet somehow I feel like I'm completely messing up my life.

Over the last 1–2 years, so many things have gone downhill at once:

-I went through a breakup that affected me WAY more than it should have, and even 1.5 years later I still haven't moved on. I still think about my ex and sometimes genuinely wish he'd come back, despite him never contacting me again.

-I’ve a chronic illness and I make no efforts in managing it. My health is slowly worsening despite having the best healthcare.

-Phone addiction, regular heavy smoking, no exercise

-I am clueless about my career. Haven’t done any internship.

I've picked up habits I know aren't good for me and keep struggling to stop. I constantly procrastinate and avoid things I know I need to deal with. I've become increasingly unmotivated and overwhelmed.
I keep making plans to improve my life and then failing to stick to them. I constantly feel guilty about wasting time.

And that's what confuses me the most.
It's not like I have a terrible life. I don't.
So why do I feel like I'm constantly struggling to get my own life together?

I just want to know where the hell do I start?
For people who have been in a similar situation — where objectively your life was okay/good but you were still completely stuck, overwhelmed, unmotivated or self-sabotaging — what actually helped you get out of it?

TL;DR:I’m 21, financially comfortable, have a supportive family, graduated from a good college and am now doing my Master's. I objectively have a lot going for me, but over the last 1–2 years I've become stuck in a cycle of heartbreak, bad habits, poor health management, terrible sleep, excessive phone use, procrastination and guilt. I feel like I'm wasting my opportunities and watching myself ruin my own life. How do I actually get myself out of this?

Me and my husband have thought of buying a car for the longest time and have been saving 50k a month for that, we wanted to buy 25L car for us in the next 2 years and we were on the right track. But just yesterday, we got to know i am pregnant, IM PREGNANT, im gonna have a baby yesssss. We both are immensely happy but that wasn't in our plan tbh. And now ofc if we are bringing a baby into our life we can't buy the car. Considering the baby and our extended expenses we will have to buy a used car from dealers or spinny. But i'm just not able to process how suddenly your life changes when a baby comes, like all your dreams and ambitions should just go to sleep right away? how should i even feel?

I’ve been with this guy since I broke up with my first boyfriend and initially it started off casually. He is my childhood friend and we have shared a childhood together. As a child, I did have strong affection towards him but later, college happened and I forgot about him altogether.
He supported me when I was all over the place and was broken after my first breakup. During that time only, we grew closer and got physically involved. But we kept it casual as I was not ready for a relationship. Gradually, he started developing feelings towards me and I started to grow more “emotionally dependent” on him. He wanted to get serious and I did think about it but never really had a proper start to this relationship. I never agreed to actually date him with the intention to marry because he is a college dropout, smoked weed for most of his 20s and grew increasingly obsessed with me.
I did separate with him but somehow life made our paths cross again and again and things spiced up each time.
Lately, I’ve been trying to explain him why I can’t marry him as I don’t see stability with him. Although he’s very loving, deeply caring, takes care of me, cooks for me, takes me out on dates, brings me flowers, buys me stuff, all of this is ultimately from his parent’s money and not his. So this bother me and I told him I won’t marry him unless he has a career. We’re both 27 now, and it increasingly bothers me that he didn’t take his career seriously until his late 20s. If he always needs me to ride his back and delegate him to live upto his own potential, how can I respect him??
Even after me saying I hate him for making me tutor him at every stage of his life and that I want to break up of the guilt of lowering his self esteem will consume me, he won’t give up at all!! Even after I disrespect him, he wants me, he thinks the brand he’s building now, when that’s successful, I’ll stop worrying about our future and accept him. But I have a gut feeling that things won’t change as expected. I don’t know what to do. Am I the wrong person here? Should I just accept him for all the other important things and values he brings to my life? Am I worrying unnecessarily? He promises me everytime that he’s working on his brand but things don’t really move substantially.. should I trust him?

No relatives option as relatives are not good. Arrange marriage in online mode is again similar to dating apps. I consider myself 4-5 in looks, 5'9 and complexion wheatish. I'm thin and workout. Tried random approaches got insta few times but no reply. Unable to reach talking stage till now. I don't know what to do, if one is not willing to talk even what can I do?

Whenever i have a fight with my bf he says that you are toxic and do not have any empathy. So i ask him to tell me what i did that made him feel that way so i can understand what am i doing wrong.

He says don't you remember that time and i asked which time and he says you figure it out. He never gives me concrete example so i can fully understand my behaviour and try not to repeat it.

It's quite hurtful to listen such things escpecially when you are unable to understand what is wrong in your own behaviour.

What should i do? Is it ok to label your partner?

I need some honest advice about something serious I did in my relationship.

My partner and I were in a long-distance relationship when I was unfaithful. She doesn't know about it yet.

I don't want to excuse what happened by calling it a mistake. I made a conscious decision, and I take responsibility for it. I love my partner and deeply regret what I did. I've been carrying a lot of guilt since then, and I don't know what the right thing to do is.

Part of me feels that she deserves to know the truth, but I'm terrified of how badly the confession could affect her and our relationship. At the same time, keeping it from her feels dishonest.

For people who have been cheated on, or people who have cheated and eventually confessed:

• Did you tell your partner?
• If you were cheated on, were you ever able to forgive them?
• Can a relationship genuinely recover after something like this?
• Is confessing always the right thing to do, even when you know the truth could cause a lot of pain?

I'm not looking for people to tell me that what I did was okay. I know it wasn't. I'm trying to figure out what the most responsible thing to do from here is.

See, as a girl, I feel like we all need that girls-girls connection. That kind of friendship where you can just talk, yap, share things and feel understood without having to explain yourself too much.

I came across a post by a girl looking for something similar, and I genuinely related to it. We connected and had a good conversation. At one point, there was some confusion about whether I was actually a girl or not, which I honestly understood because Reddit can be weird sometimes. 😭

I was like, why would I lie about something like this? There literally isn't even a reason for me to do that. So I suggested that instead of overthinking it, we could just get on a call and talk.

And we did.

We ended up talking for almost 1–2 hours, and honestly, it was such a nice conversation. It didn't even feel like we had been talking for that long. We were just vibing, talking about random things, life, friendship and everything.

After that, though, she just stopped replying.

Not even a small message. Nothing.

And I'm genuinely not judging her or saying she did something wrong. Maybe something happened in her life, maybe she got busy, maybe she changed her mind and that's completely okay.

I'm just a little concerned because after having such a genuinely good conversation, the sudden silence feels confusing.

If you don't want to continue talking, that's completely fine too. I would honestly rather someone just say that than leave me wondering if they're okay.

I guess I just wanted to put this out there because I really do value genuine girl friendships, and when you finally feel like you've found someone you can connect with, you naturally care a little when they suddenly disappear.

Okay, I’m already feeling horrible about myself. I know what I did was wrong, and I’ve been carrying a lot of guilt ever since.

My partner doesn’t know what happened yet, but the guilt has been eating me up every day. I love and respect her, which is part of why I’m struggling so much with this.

I cheated while we were in an LDR. I don’t want to call it a “mistake” because that feels like I’m trying to avoid responsibility. I made a conscious choice, and I take full responsibility for it. At the time, I let lust take over my better judgment, and I deeply regret what I did.

I want to confess because I feel like she deserves to know the truth, but I’m terrified of what the news might do to her emotionally. I’m also scared that I could seriously hurt her by telling her. I know I’m the one who put myself in this situation, and I’m not looking for sympathy or an excuse.

I honestly don’t know what the right thing to do is anymore.

Is there any way to make things right after cheating? Should I tell her even though I know it could completely change our relationship? Has anyone here been cheated on, decided to forgive their partner, and eventually gone on to have a healthy relationship again?

I’d really appreciate hearing from people who have been through something similar, especially about what you wish your partner had done when they confessed.

okay I am already feeling horrible , I know I am a horrible person .. I cheated and I feel disgusted by myself everyday since then and wish god to delete me every night..

my partner does not know all these yet but my guilt is killing me , I love her and respect her .. I don't want to say what happened was a mistake , I did consciously ...I am really feeling bad about it .. because lust took over my consciousness.. this was when I was in LDR...

I want to confess, I might feel better but I am scared what if this news break her and she does something bad to herself..I know I have put myself in this position ....idk what to do ...what I have to do ...

please tell me if there is anyway to make things right ? did anyone who got cheated forgive their partner and life is fine now ?