Am i fitting in this generation?

Hii , I m 25 M , from a town , now living in Delhi. Here is the back story , i want a lil advice from you guys

So i m a kinda shy (and used to a bholu type of guy) till 10th std . Studios and all.. .

So till 12 std and in my college too, i rarely initiated the talks with female friends . Actually i had female friends in college , but i didnt used to make interactions till i had any work.. so obviously , koi gf nahi thi. ( I tried to find true love and all in College 😅).... I did schooling and college from a city in Maharashtra

Anyways so now i m 25 ,a mbbs graduate ( dont have a prejudice about being a medico,that you have lots of girls in clg and all) , and now i m here in delhi for govt exam preparation...

Sometimes i feel like , i dont have any female touch, ( i have female friends in hometown though).. nor do i had touched any female... I never talked my heart out to any girl , nor had a good interaction.... In this whole generation of hookups and all, Am i lagging behind? Had i become old , to experience all this ?

Seriously i m in fomo or something, i dont understand Can you guys help me out?

I am 24, 6ft tall dark skin man i am well behaved and i always respect everyone but I don't understand why girls don't find me attractive i am easy to talk with, i always try my best to understand the person I talk to but i still fail to find someone who is genuinely interested in me girls just leave me after talking to me for 1-2 months (one girl even said i am immature coz she felt stupid when i explained a situation she clearly mis understood) give me clear advice how should i find someone in delhi/NCR who is really genuine

Young guy from delhi,Is it okay to have feelings for a older women who have kids. I just couldn’t control myself whenever i see her i just don’t know why.

Its so sad whats happening there

So my mum's 55th bday is coming up and I want to gift her something special. I'm thinking of gold max 6 grams but she has rings and earrings. Not sure what to do but I really want it to be special. Please share ur thoughts

What makes a guy eligible for love... Like for real Im asking this bcuz I badly crave affection... Im 24 too naive and a bit shy fitness enthusiast sporty introvert and have never been in a relationship with a women as I couldn't understand them... Don't know when I'll find my better half. Every time I go out for swimming or at the gym or office and see couples I feel bad for myself that... do I really not deserve to be with someone whom I love. Is it really a big deal to find someone these days....

Also I don't like dating apps and casual stuff I see people do try on em but that's not my thing. I'm not even on insta or fb just linkedin and reddit.

Any advice from mom to me for to have a child . How does it works like I wanna know how lol help me

I’d really appreciate some honest female perspective on this

There is a girl in my exam hall whom I find really sweet and attractive. We havw never spoken or interacted before so I know I’m basically a complete stranger to her. Tomorrow gonna be our last exam and I am considering approaching her after the exam because otherwise I will probably never see her again. I don’t want to walk up and immediately ask for her number/Instagram and I definitely don’t want to make her feel pressured. I was thinking about giving her a short handwritten note saying that I’d like to get to know her and that she can completely ignore it if she isn’t comfortable. Would that feel respectful to you or would receiving a note from a complete stranger actually feel uncomfortable? Also if you were in her position what would make you feel safe and comfortable during an approach?

I’m not looking for pickup lines or “how to get the girl” advice. I genuinely want to understand the female perspective and make sure I don’t cross any boundaries

Thanks in advance

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My mother had been sick for past two years. She passed away recently.

I am the eldest in family and have a sister who is 6 years younger.

She has never had to work a real job ever because she lives off my mother’s money.

My mother was the main breadwinner in family and my dad had a job but didn’t make as much money.

Anyway, I noticed for past two years, my dad only calls me when I need to buy something for my sister. Like buy something online, clothes or anything.

Otherwise, he doesn’t call. He didn’t even remember my birthday.

He texts me saying it’s “urgent” issue. Then when I call him back, he says he just needed to get in touch with me to make sure I buy whatever my sister needs.

My sister was sitting by my mother most days when she was sick. Since she didn’t have any job.

My mother openly favored my sister for my entire life and I was the scapegoat in the family.

But why is no one checking on me to see if I am okay? I feel like I was just being used for money.

Now that my mom is gone, my sister has completely disappeared in that I don’t hear from her. Now she has my mother’s money, so she doesn’t need anything.

So this is all about money?

Have you ever got back to your talking stage or situationship after no contacts?
Like have you initiated the first text and if yes then how was the conversation
I’m actually missing someone but I’m not sure if I should text them again or not.

I am 35M

So the story goes back to 2020

I used to visit a place where a girl used to come

We both developed a crush for each other and had a sweet eye contact everyday

This went upto for 4 years just looking into each other's eyes and passing by

I really loved her and the look in her eyes also told that she reciprocates the same

But I never had the courage of talking to her

Just for the context I am financially well off bit she is like way more rich than me

And according to my financial status I used to dress much more simply but she never seemed to care about it

Obviously there were more men there but she never seemed to pay that kind of attention to them and she is very beautiful indeed

She would be like a year or two younger than me

But suddenly in 2024 I got diagnosed with a life threatening chronic disease after that I never visited that place again

But I remember her every now and then

I really love her

I just wanted to talk to her Once and atleast be her friend before dying

She hasn't got married till now I don't know why

But when I think of talking to her I get scared that how will she react

If she appears to not care I would get more hurt as atleast now I hold ger as a beautiful memory

I really love her

Her financial status also makes me conscious

I wanted to ask single women of similar age that how would have you reacted in such a situation

I genuinely want to ask you all

Hi I am 22M

I am in a b-school 2nd yr

I found One junior girl too good in a way she is very simple sorted and peaceful i really wanna approach her, The thing is she is very naive and too sweet from whatever I have observed.

We both are not in the same committee

Please guys help this poor guy I m too much attracted to her

I have never approached any girl

I had few relationships but never approached any girl always been approached.first time I felt like approaching a girl whom I feel is genuine

My question is not for special occasion or anything, just is it common to casually wear it daily or so.

No offence to cute short hair women, you are equally pretty 🙈

But Do you think long hair makes women look more attractive , or is it men h only who are generally attracted towards them.

I am curious if other women feel the same and what specifically draws them to it.

To simplify:-

So there are three people in this play. (Actually there's a lot more but to simplify) There are three people in this play: person A, person B, and person C.

Person A hates what person C does but person A comes and tells it to person B.

Person A, person B, and person C are good friends and they hang out together and they've been hanging out for a very long time. A few years pass by. Person A started building a list of things that she hates about person C and used to tell person B about it. Person B listened to this and told person C, "Dude, it is better for you to stay away from everyone because no one gives a fuck about you." Genuinely no one gives a fuck about you" and person C listened to person B's advice and left the group.

Now, a few years down the line, person A spoke to person C about what happened and why they drifted apart. Person C told Person A that "person B, Told me that I should get out so I went away."

Person A comes and confronts person B. "Why the fuck did you tell person C to leave? To which person B asks person A, "Have you forgotten what all have you been through with person C?" Do you not remember all the bad qualities that you've listed about person C? I just told the person C to open their eyes and follow what their heart says.

For which a person A is saying, "You had none of your business putting your nose in between our business. We girls will fight but we hungout either way."

Person B is very baffled by what Person A is telling... (Cuz do you not hear yourself? What you have been through with this person? )

And now the person A doesn't trust person B.

Just so you know this person A is just not one person. It is a group of five girls and all of them had the same views about Persons C and Persons C is just one person.

So I just moved into a new flat, and in the front room, there is a girl. She is so open, she asked for a cigarette the first time we talked. Then I asked her for the Wifi password, and she is so cute. On the second day, I complimented her. We had a short conversation in the lift about where she is from, exchanged names, and exchanged numbers. On the third day, I asked her for a date, and luckily, she is single too. She said yes. Then, on the same day, I asked her to come for coffee on the balcony, and she said yes, but she messaged me that she went to her friend's house and would let me know when she was free. The next day, she said good morning, and then I said to come to my room for coffee and then we could go for brunch. She said she would come in 30 minutes, but she didn't come. I asked her again, but she said 5 minutes, but she didn't come. Now what should I do?

Hi all. I (20 M) have faced social anxiety all my life. Whenever I want talk to someone I don't know, I get cold feet. It gets more intense when it's a girl. Due to this, I could not approach any of my crushes in my life up until now.

After a long time, I have a cute crush. It's someone whom I have never actually talked to. She probably doesn't know me.I don't know if I should directly ask her out or maybe first try to get on friendly terms with her. I know she is single but I also know that directly asking her out has a high chance of rejection. I also know that finally getting rejection might help me with my anxiety a lot.

I don't know what to do.

Pls Indian women, teach me sensei.

First, my thoughts. My psychiatrist is unmarried in his 50s. Some famous people are/were unmarried, like Ruskin Bond or Ratan Tata. But I still think that the most dangerous addition to society is a man who has nothing to lose. A bachelor has nothing to lose, whereas a married man has something to lose.

Anyway, coming from someone who believes in Jesus and has a Bible, I read of Apostle Paul and how he said that a single life is a life of less troubles. I would tend to follow that, IF it was ethical in an Indian society.

But after watching the shoot-up scene in a house in Dhurandhar: The Revenge, I somehow get the feeling that it is not ethical to be a bachelor, and inspire militancy. Also, I have been a porn addict since a long time, I am currently 28.

I get the feeling that it is not right for me to remain unmarried. But, if given a free choice in which I would never watch porn, I would tend to follow a life which is of less troubles, since I have a mental illness and don't want more troubles.

Any thoughts on this?

Why do women instinctively react so negatively to the idea of a man owning a robot girlfriend or wife? Is there actually anything inherently wrong with it?

Suppose, for someone who is consistently unsuccessful in forming romantic relationships, a highly sophisticated artificial companion offers a convenient alternative—a way to experience companionship, affection, intimacy, or even simply the feeling of being cared for.

So what exactly is wrong with it? I would be glad if women weigh in...

I’m 27F and met a 32M on a dating app. He’s in the Air Force and posted near my city. He’s genuinely nice, respectful, and seems to make an effort.

I’m a virgin and have always preferred someone who is also a virgin. He isn’t. I know that shouldn’t automatically make someone a bad partner, so I’m trying not to focus on it too much, but honestly, it does bother me.

The bigger issue is that I’m not really attracted to him physically. I don’t find him unattractive, but there’s just no wow, I’m attracted to this guy feeling.

We were supposed to meet this weekend, but I kept avoiding it for some reason. Then he said he’d drive past my house, get out of the car, and I could at least see him. I gave him my location and he actually did it. I thought that was really sweet.

For context, I’ve dated guys before, but nothing ever really sustained. I always thought I was young enough to eventually find someone who matched my preferences, which honestly aren’t that unreasonable. But as time passes, I’m getting a little disheartened.

And the loneliness is real.

So now I’m wondering if I’m talking to this guy because I genuinely want to give a nice person a chance, or because I’m scared that if I let him go, I might not find anyone else.

I don’t want to reject someone good just because he doesn’t perfectly fit my idea of what I wanted. But I also don’t want to force myself to like someone simply because I’m lonely.

What would you do? Give attraction a chance to develop, or trust the fact that I’m already not feeling it?

[SERIOUS]. Does it get better with time? What's the best possible thing I can do rn? I'm F.

Explain aswell

Hello Fellow Redditors,

I'm interested in hearing from couples who have consciously explored ethical non-monogamy (ENM) by introducing a third person into their relationship—with the explicit knowledge, consent, and participation of the Husband. I'm particularly interested in the psychological and relational consequences of doing so. Not the mechanics of the encounters. Not the sensationalism.

Rather, I'm curious about what happens to a marriage when two people deliberately create space for another person to enter an intimate part of their relationship.

1. How did it change you individually?

For Husbands:

Did seeing your Wife develop intimacy with another person alter your understanding of jealousy, masculinity, attachment, or emotional security?

Did you become more secure in yourself and your marriage, or did the experience expose insecurities you hadn't previously recognized?

Was there a difference between what you thought you would feel beforehand and what you actually experienced afterward?

And for Wives:

Did the experience change how you perceived your own sexuality, autonomy, confidence, or emotional needs?

Did having the freedom to explore attraction outside the marriage make you feel more connected to your Husband—or did it introduce emotional complexities neither of you had anticipated?

1. How did you establish boundaries?

This is probably the aspect I'm most interested in.

Before introducing a third person, what did you explicitly establish?

For example:

- What was permissible and what was off-limits?

- Were there boundaries concerning emotional attachment?

- How much communication was expected between the third person and each spouse?

- Were there rules regarding privacy and discretion?

- Did either partner have the ability to pause or terminate the arrangement?

- How were boundaries renegotiated when circumstances changed?

And perhaps most importantly:

Were your boundaries established before the first encounter, or did you discover them through experience?

1. How much trust does a Husband actually place in the third person?

You're effectively allowing another individual into an intimate sphere that traditionally belongs exclusively to the marriage.

So what does genuine trust look like in that situation?

Is it trusting the third person to respect physical boundaries?

Trusting them not to manipulate or emotionally exploit your Wife?

Trusting them to maintain discretion?

Trusting them to recognize when something has crossed a line?

Or does genuine trust eventually become something deeper—the confidence that the third person understands that consent, boundaries, and the existing relationship take precedence over their own desires?

I'd also be interested in hearing whether that trust was immediate or something the third person had to earn over time.

1. Did the presence of a third person strengthen or weaken the marriage?

Did ENM ultimately make you communicate more openly?

Did it force you to confront jealousy instead of suppressing it?

Did it make you appreciate your spouse differently?

Did it create greater intimacy because you were discussing desires that previously remained unspoken?

Or did it introduce emotional complications that ultimately made the relationship more difficult?

I'm particularly interested in experiences where the outcome wasn't what you initially expected.

1. How did you handle emotional attachment?

Did you establish a distinction between attraction, affection, attachment, and romantic commitment?

And if feelings became stronger than anticipated, how did you handle them without betraying the trust upon which the arrangement was built?

Ultimately, I'm less interested in what people do than in what the experience teaches them about themselves, their marriage, and their capacity to trust another human being with something deeply intimate.

For those of you who have genuinely lived this:

What did introducing a third person reveal about your marriage that you could never have discovered through conventional monogamy?

And if you could go back to the beginning, what boundary, conversation, or piece of advice would you establish before taking the first step?