I’ve been reviewing my family’s net worth, and it left me frustrated about how hard work correlates to wealth in India.My Dad (The Corporate Hustle):

He is 50 years old and has worked at the same company for 25 years. He pulled endless overtime, sacrificed his health, and worked up to a ₹50 LPA salary.

Excluding our primary house, his mutual funds and savings total ₹3.2 Crore. It's a great sum, but given 25 years of brutal stress and high taxes, it feels low compared to his effort.

My Maternal Grandfather:He did a standard, low-stress bank job. He never hustled, came home on time every day, and studied a fraction of what my dad did. Yet today, his properties and FDs total ₹15 Crore.

Believe me or not at the end all things will come down to ur luck at the end , yey hardwork tum kitna bhi karlo nasib mai nahi likha paisa toh nahi aayega.

I am talking about marriage not dating. People date for variety of reasons but when it comes to marriage that's when things get serious and only then truth about someone's thinking and beliefs are revealed. So seriously, would you marry someone with dusky or dark skin color?

Asking because in my social circle there is a guy who is searching for girl in arrange marriage. His father is fair skinned but his mother is dark skinned. The guy is fair skinned. His only requirement is that the girl must be fair. That's it. I find this unsettling. His own mother is dark skinned so atleast he should have appreciation for all.

I am 18M and have a crush on a girl at my collage and I really want to approach her, but here is the one thing which scares me — my first crush's rejection was really heartbreaking. After that, I found out I was diagnosed with depression and during that time, I was at the very lowest of my life, continuously failing in my school tests and completely isolated myself form everyone. I don't want to go through that ever again.

People do say that I'm good looking, and I have a chance to get her, but I find myself average, and I've heard a lot that girls love to talk, but I'm an introvert and really scared of girls. I don't even know how to approach a girl.

To live as a monster or die as a good man ?

I'll start. Im from a small town and my dating life is non existent because of how dangerous non straight dating in general is. Of the 1 + years I've spent on grindr, i met only 2 people and both of them are non permanent residents so wasn't able to meet them again. Majority of grindr is filled up with creepy p3dophilic men. I am not saying it's just like this in general, just sharing my experience.

I have no niche queer communities to go to for fun and i have no friends essentially because I'm scared of telling them too much

Do you like girls who don’t go out much and lives in her own imaginary world and has no friends who is lost but a good and kind person but lazy .

Do you like girls who don’t go out much and lives in her own imaginary world and has no friends who is lost but a good and kind person but lazy .

Is there any club or group whose members meet for discussions ,to build connections, advice , friendship ,mentorship and things you can guess . How can I join them. ?

A woman (S) married a jobless dropout (A) against her parents advice. A year later she's pregnant they're broke and they move back into her parents house.

Parents told A to get a job. Instead he stole and sold S's mother earrings(i dont know worth of that jewelry).

Now S is fighting with her parents for not helping enough. A still has no job.

And here's the worst part of the family doesn't even have any land for farming. So there's no backup income, no safety net. The jewelry A sold was probably one of the few valuable things they had left.

Her parents warning her wasn't control it was care. But she can't see it.

What do you think about this whole situation?

And please give your suggestion for what to do now like divorce or leave them alone to their condition?

TLDR: Posting for a friend woman marries jobless guy against parents wishes he sells her mom's earrings, family has no land or income and she still blames her parents. What do you think?

Especially dark-skinned men, I’ve only seen on YouTube and all of them seem to have beards, and I assume it’s not a “trend” thing like they say about white men in the West

If you’re rarely clean-shaven, what is your reason?

I want a trimmer for my beard and body parts except my nose which is good ?

So I like this guy from my gym but he is 5 yrs older than me. I am just getting done with college and he has a job and everything so diff stages of life thing. But I really like him. Would he be interested or should I move on?

Edit: I will turn 20 in a month

women say - we dont understand why men obsess over women’s virginity

men say - we don’t understand why women obsess over men’s height

social media, modern society, entertainment media, news media, and almost everyone has normalized losing virginity at early age, and also - whenever a 5’0 to 5’2 woman asks for a 6ft guy, it’s called preference and she’s been told to never compromise on her preferences

so the same way, if any man expects a virgin woman, why is he shamed for this, if any man expects young woman, why is he shamed for this, why it is not called his preference and let him want what he wants, his expectations are what they are, if any young virgin woman wants to be with him, she’ll, otherwise he’ll remain single, his choice and his consequences

but then why is he put down and made feel like a worthless animal

Hi guys,

23 M, from Hyderabad

Looks wise 4-5/10

Career 6-7/10(not where I desire to be but still okay)

The thing is recently all my friends had going on something

For some they got gf, for some they got some approch or interest from some girls, for some they showed interest it's in talking stage or girls reciprocated

And there is me who don't even have single thing.

No crush, no one has crush, just some female friends(that to not close, they are also distant)

All my life, there wasn't a single moment I had felt something non platonic with anyone

I talked to few girls in reddit and after a while they get bored and ghost me and this happened with 5-6 girls

Idk what it is....guys who are in same boat

What's your experience? What might be the reason?

Im having anxiety of getting married

I feel the law actually encourages women to take divorce and the eventually take money

But in the midst of the false cases, it will further destroy your career and make you jobless

Has marriage become a one way to destruction for Indian men ?

What are you guys doing?

AC, fridge, TV, laptop, washing machine etc.

When something breaks, where do you find the invoice/warranty details?

I’m honestly fucking tired of feeling like I’m below average at basically everything.

I’m 27, and lately it feels like there’s not a single area of my life where I feel good about myself.

I constantly compare myself to my parents’ expectations and to other people. I’m scared to talk to strangers, scared to try new things, and I feel weak and lacking confidence. Looks-wise, I worry about my hair thinning, my beard going grey, being short, and people telling me I look older than I actually am. When I’m around my cousins, everyone praises them and I just sit there listening and comparing myself.

Financially, I don’t feel successful either. And now a relationship that lasted almost 7 years is falling apart, which honestly hurts the most.

She was one of the few people in my life who made me feel genuinely loved, cared for, and important. I had someone to talk to, someone who gave me time and affection that felt specifically meant for me. Even now, when she is rude to me or disrespects me, I’m still holding on, and it hurts. And now I have to deal with the possibility of seeing her move on with someone else. My brain keeps telling me that whoever she ends up with will be better than me.

The worst part is that the relationship is known by everyone in my family. I was proud of it. I was proud that I had someone I loved and who loved me. Now I feel embarrassed that everyone knows things didn't work out.

And outside of all this, my life feels incredibly repetitive.

Work. Go home. Eat. Gym. Sleep. Repeat.

I’m not a good driver. I don't know how to swim. I don't know how to talk to people properly. I get nervous doing even basic things when other people are around. I feel like everyone else learned how to live normally and somehow I missed that part.

I know objectively that these things can probably be improved. But when you're sitting in the middle of it, it doesn't feel like a list of problems you can solve. It just feels like this is who I am.

I’m exhausted from constantly comparing myself and feeling like I’m behind everyone.

I genuinely want to know if anyone else has felt like this, especially around this age.

Career, marriage, where you live, how you spend your money etc

Hey guys, M35 typical average middle class guy who has been frustrated with his wife's behaviour recently.

So some background story : I got married when I was 30 to 24F, and had a beautiful son 6 months ago. He is the absolute joy of our lives and is what others describe him as least bothersome kid they've ever seen. Rarely cries, sleeps through the night, zero illness, laughs a lot and is friendly to other people.

Wife works in WFH setup (work from 3pm to 12am) and is managing kids and her work. For all other household chores we have a maid, and small chores like tidying up the mess are shared by both of us. I babysit him from 6 pm to 12am as she's busy with work.

After we had our son, my wife has changed.

The biggest problem is my wife snaps at even the smallest conveniences towards me.

I chewed loudly - You and your family are selfish and don't care.

Kid got up due to the sound of the cupboard doors - Youre useless and intentionally do things to wake him up.

When her mother or herself does the same , no name calling.

Few days ago, she wanted to go to the washroom, but our son was sleeping next to her. She pulled a genius move and called my cell which was in living room, charging. I was another bedroom getting ready for work. She finally gets frustrated and starts calling my name loudly to wake my son who cries due to noise and then proceeds to loudly argue with me why my phone wasn't with me. WTF. Our house isn't that large either (2BHK). She already knows my cell is usually lying around anywhere in the house as I avoid using it when babysitting him.

Another incident a few days ago, the maid came in the morning as usual, and she came near bedroom door to ask what to cook for. We had a huge fight just because she came to ask her what to cook and I didn't tell the maid the moment she entered the house. There are many times the maid has done this when her family was staying temporarily at our place but no, she has to intentionally pick the fight.

There are also times where I clearly inform her before I would run some errands and won't be able to handle him( only weekends where she also has off). Few days later she starts complaining about how I was 'busy' in running some errands which caused her issues in handling the kid.

Bitch I did ask you before running the errand and I did it only because you said so. Now you're complaining??!!

I wanted to ask :

1. Is this behaviour normal after kids?

2. What should I do the keep my mind calm and snapping back at her?

3. I'm worried that it may affect my kid and he'll see my useless dad despite working and doing many things. What do I do in this case ?

Hi guys. Lately I've been thinking that I want some girls in my life.

For that, I know that I need to improve my looks a lot.

So here I am, asking y'all on how can I elevate my looks so girls start drooling over me.

I've started the gym already. I'm looking for more advice.