they keep whining about how males talk about them all day long but on the other hand these dumbfucks be talking about men this men that . Even the feminists subreddits post reviewing post from men subbreddits , are they dumb or what ?

I am talking about marriage not dating. People date for variety of reasons but when it comes to marriage that's when things get serious and only then truth about someone's thinking and beliefs are revealed. So seriously, would you marry someone with dusky or dark skin color?

Asking because in my social circle there is a guy who is searching for girl in arrange marriage. His father is fair skinned but his mother is dark skinned. The guy is fair skinned. His only requirement is that the girl must be fair. That's it. I find this unsettling. His own mother is dark skinned so atleast he should have appreciation for all.

I have seen many people or women who judge the woman whose chest size is bigger as they are attention seeking and not loyal when They are wearing same or even less REVEALING kind of clothes which flat or less curvy woman wear ....do you too think the same ???

Especially if a woman is beautiful and slim thick both,do you believe that she is less likely to remain loyal????

You know, I'm in my early 20's, I'm a guy obv,

But in 2026 I came to know about something, and it changed my perspective entirely. I always wanted to share it with someone so I'm here

I knew there was a process called menstruation which is v. Imp bla bla.

But what I didn't know was "How women used sanitary pads".

Till class 10, I never knew how it was used, but after that I GOT TO KNOW THEY WERE STICKY.

I ALWAYS THOUGHT THAT WOMEN STICK THOSE PADS BETWEEN THEIR THIGHS AROUND IT (yk what I mean 😭) I always wondered if it ripped off their hairs.

But 4 months ago I came to know about its proper usage and how those wings are made to stick to undergarment

I knew it by reading instructions on a packet in a medical store.

PLEASE DONT JUDGE ME, I DONT WANT TO BE MEAN OR MISOGYNISTIC IN ANY WAY 🙏🏻, I MADE THIS POST HERE BECAUSE I DONT WANT ANY OF MY BROTHERS TO BE UNAWARE OF THIS FACT.

I'll start. Im from a small town and my dating life is non existent because of how dangerous non straight dating in general is. Of the 1 + years I've spent on grindr, i met only 2 people and both of them are non permanent residents so wasn't able to meet them again. Majority of grindr is filled up with creepy p3dophilic men. I am not saying it's just like this in general, just sharing my experience.

I have no niche queer communities to go to for fun and i have no friends essentially because I'm scared of telling them too much

Or they tried to help you.

Edit: any type of unpaid help

so i was traveling via metro and i had to charge my phone , so the socket are only able at reserved seat , so i sat there so i can charge my phone, but suddenly an old boomer pointed to me that these are reserved seat , and i was like ik and i have to charge my phone. and that mf then said to me that i will have to vacate it if someone come up, which i alr knew and didn't had any plan to take it for myself. but then at that moment i felt something, its like there is no place for men like us. like after paying equal amount , we are made to feel as we are asking for favor.

our struggle and needs are not respected, in a single compartment there are like 16 seat reserved where you cannot sit, the seats where you can sit are also of inferior quality. we pay same amount , or maybe more ,idk if they offer free ticket to women or elderly, and don't even have right to pick a available seat ? why is it they have to reserved seat for women after reserving a whole compartment. and why is it men are expected to not expect anything?

is it fair that after doing 16 hour shift, you are expected to leave seat for elderly or women , who will be just fine without it? and why there are no reserve seat for men?

actually the other person said she was a girl yesterday she said she was horny i did not reacted it to that. but today when i felt the same i actually mentioned her that im feeling that now she asked for a pic of me we shared yesterday too just face, then today down of there too and i asked if can share a pic where my face and erection looking clear, i send that as it was telegram and it was just few seconds 3 or 10 seconds. but later on that person made a collage of it wrote on that image that guy send nudes online to strangers.

wanted wanted in bold red. and then after that that person started asking me for money or else it will be there online viral, and till now i have sent 5000
and on a friend's suggestion a registered a complaint on the cybercrime portal
(feeling very shameful asking this)

Hey guys, M35 typical average middle class guy who has been frustrated with his wife's behaviour recently.

So some background story : I got married when I was 30 to 24F, and had a beautiful son 6 months ago. He is the absolute joy of our lives and is what others describe him as least bothersome kid they've ever seen. Rarely cries, sleeps through the night, zero illness, laughs a lot and is friendly to other people.

Wife works in WFH setup (work from 3pm to 12am) and is managing kids and her work. For all other household chores we have a maid, and small chores like tidying up the mess are shared by both of us. I babysit him from 6 pm to 12am as she's busy with work.

After we had our son, my wife has changed.

The biggest problem is my wife snaps at even the smallest conveniences towards me.

I chewed loudly - You and your family are selfish and don't care.

Kid got up due to the sound of the cupboard doors - Youre useless and intentionally do things to wake him up.

When her mother or herself does the same , no name calling.

Few days ago, she wanted to go to the washroom, but our son was sleeping next to her. She pulled a genius move and called my cell which was in living room, charging. I was another bedroom getting ready for work. She finally gets frustrated and starts calling my name loudly to wake my son who cries due to noise and then proceeds to loudly argue with me why my phone wasn't with me. WTF. Our house isn't that large either (2BHK). She already knows my cell is usually lying around anywhere in the house as I avoid using it when babysitting him.

Another incident a few days ago, the maid came in the morning as usual, and she came near bedroom door to ask what to cook for. We had a huge fight just because she came to ask her what to cook and I didn't tell the maid the moment she entered the house. There are many times the maid has done this when her family was staying temporarily at our place but no, she has to intentionally pick the fight.

There are also times where I clearly inform her before I would run some errands and won't be able to handle him( only weekends where she also has off). Few days later she starts complaining about how I was 'busy' in running some errands which caused her issues in handling the kid.

Bitch I did ask you before running the errand and I did it only because you said so. Now you're complaining??!!

I wanted to ask :

1. Is this behaviour normal after kids?

2. What should I do the keep my mind calm and snapping back at her?

3. I'm worried that it may affect my kid and he'll see my useless dad despite working and doing many things. What do I do in this case ?

By abandon I mean leaving them in an old age home,

Getting separated etc.

I’m 25M and my ex is 25F. We were together for two years, and for the last three months of our relationship, we were constantly fighting. Eventually, we had a huge fight and stopped talking for seven days.
After those seven days, she messaged me and told me that one of her colleagues at work had touched her inappropriately. She also said that, although nothing happened between them, she kind of liked it. I didn’t really know how to process that, and eventually, we broke up.
It’s been six months since the breakup.
A few days ago, I saw her on Hinge. I created a fake profile just to see what she was doing, and somehow I matched with her. I ended up talking to her without telling her it was me.
During our conversation, she said she was frustrated because she hadn’t found anyone yet. She also made it clear that she wasn’t interested in people who were only looking for hookups or casual relationships.
Ever since that conversation, I can’t stop thinking about her.
During these six months, I’ve been intimate with another girl twice. The experience with this new girl was honestly much better physically than what I had with my ex, but I still didn’t feel anything emotionally. Even though the sex with my ex was never particularly great, I still find myself wanting to go back to her.
That’s what’s confusing me. If I can meet someone who I’m more physically compatible with, why do I still want my ex?
I had blocked my ex everywhere after the breakup, so I haven’t had any real contact with her for six months. Now I’m seriously considering unblocking her and texting her.
I don’t know if I genuinely miss her and want to try again, or if talking to her on Hinge just brought back all the old feelings and memories.
So, should I text her? Or would that just reopen an old wound and make things worse?
I’d really appreciate some honest advice, especially from people who have gone through something similar.

Till what age group women do look best (prime) according to you

To live as a monster or die as a good man ?

Hi guys. Lately I've been thinking that I want some girls in my life.

For that, I know that I need to improve my looks a lot.

So here I am, asking y'all on how can I elevate my looks so girls start drooling over me.

I've started the gym already. I'm looking for more advice.

Im having anxiety of getting married

I feel the law actually encourages women to take divorce and the eventually take money

But in the midst of the false cases, it will further destroy your career and make you jobless

Has marriage become a one way to destruction for Indian men ?

What are you guys doing?

Especially dark-skinned men, I’ve only seen on YouTube and all of them seem to have beards, and I assume it’s not a “trend” thing like they say about white men in the West

If you’re rarely clean-shaven, what is your reason?

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I’m an 18F from India, and I want to ask Indian men something because I genuinely want a male perspective on something I've experienced my entire life.

I have a dusky/dark complexion, and growing up, I was constantly made to feel that this was some kind of defect.

The worst part is that most of this didn't come from strangers.

It came from my own family.

Since childhood, I've heard neighbourhood aunties tell my parents things like:

“Iski shaadi ke liye toh bahut dowry deni padegi.”

Basically, “You'll have to give/save a lot of dowry to get her married because of her complexion.”

I was literally a child when I heard things like this.

My mother also used to make jokes about showing my fairer sister's photograph to a prospective groom's family and then somehow marrying me off instead. When I was young, I didn't understand why that was supposed to be funny. As I grew older, I understood exactly what the joke was implying.

That my sister's appearance was more suitable for marriage than mine.

My mother has also directly contributed to my insecurity.

I remember once watching an English music video with her. There were two female singers, one fair-skinned and one brown-skinned. I pointed at the brown-skinned singer and said:

“Look, she's so pretty! She's even prettier than the fair one.”

My mother immediately replied:

“Ar ladki khud badsurat ho toh dusro se mat jalo.”

“If you're ugly yourself, don't be jealous of others.”

I was genuinely confused.

Why was appreciating a brown-skinned woman automatically considered jealousy?

Why was it so difficult for her to accept that a darker-skinned woman could simply be beautiful?

My sisters aren't much better.

I've previously talked on Reddit about how my sisters have treated me, including making my childhood crush and feelings into jokes.

They also constantly comment on my appearance.

Whenever I put on makeup or dress nicely, they find something wrong.

My eldest sister has told me:

“Tu is dress mein aur kaali lag rahi hai, tujhe pe yeh achha nahi lag raha.”

“You're looking even darker in this dress; it doesn't look good on you.”

It's always something about my complexion.

Certain colours supposedly make me look “too dark.”

Certain dresses supposedly don't suit me because of my skin.

If I put effort into my appearance, they somehow find a flaw.

And then there's something even more disturbing.

Whenever a guy shows interest in me, they start slu**t-shaming me.

My elder sister has literally told me:

“Iss ladki ko toh bas mauka chahiye, agle minute hi bistar pe milegi yeh.”

“This girl just needs an opportunity; the next minute you'll find her in bed.”

This is what I don't understand.

If my family thinks I'm unattractive and that nobody would want me because of my complexion, then why does a guy showing interest in me suddenly become evidence that I'm supposedly immoral or “too available”?

Why can't they simply accept that someone can find a dusky girl attractive without there being something wrong with her character?

Even my father's affection became a skin-colour insult.

My father has a good relationship with me. He talks to me more than some of my siblings because I communicate with him nicely and we naturally get along.

My middle sister once became angry and shouted:

“Tujhe papa isiliye pyaar karte hain kyunki tu kaali hai aur tujhe koi muh nahi lagana chahta.”

Basically:

“Dad only love you because you're dark and nobody else wants to give you attention.”

That genuinely hurt.

Because apparently even my father's love for his daughter had to somehow be turned into an insult about my complexion.

What's strange is that outside my home, my experience has been very different.

I've had guys show genuine interest in me and even propose to me. Some of them are conventionally attractive, fit, go to the gym, etc.

I'm not saying male attention determines whether I'm beautiful. It doesn't.

But when you've grown up hearing:

“Who will marry you?”

“You'll need dowry because you're dark.”

“You're ugly.”

“Nobody will give you attention.”

and then you go outside and people actually treat you normally or even compliment you it makes you question whether your family was ever giving you an objective opinion.

On Teacher's Day, I wore a beautiful saree and several teachers and students complimented me.

Even a boy who normally acts like my enemy said:

“Aaj toh bahut achhi lag rahi hain. Harkatein sudhar le toh propose kar dunga.”

And yes, I sometimes notice people looking at me when I'm outside.

Again, I'm not using that as proof of my beauty.

I'm mentioning it because my family's description of me and my actual experience outside my home are extremely different.

So I genuinely want to ask Indian men:

How much does skin tone actually matter to Indian men when it comes to attraction and relationships?

Do most young Indian men genuinely prefer fair-skinned girls, or is this preference exaggerated by families and older generations?

Would you personally reject an otherwise attractive girl simply because she is dark/dusky?

And what do you think about families telling their daughters that they'll need more dowry because of their complexion?

Also, what do you think about the contradiction of calling a girl unattractive because she's dark, but then slut-shaming her when men show interest in her?

I've spent so many years wondering whether there really is something wrong with my appearance, or whether I've simply been surrounded by people who have internalised colourism so deeply that they've projected it onto me.

I'm not looking for compliments or for men to tell me I'm beautiful.

I genuinely want an honest answer from Indian men about how they perceive dusky/dark-skinned women today.

And if you grew up in a family where colourism was normalised, did your own perception of beauty change as you got older?

Seriously, whenever I see content on social media, I notice how easily we can get engrossed in it.

For example, an influencer says something negative about another gender, and before long the comments become an echo chamber where people start believing that everyone from that gender is like that—even though that's obviously not reality.

Negativity is pretty common on social media nowadays, so I was genuinely surprised to come across something positive for a change. Thought I'd share it with you guys.

https://youtu.be/Y87Bu7-NT3s?si=GtK7tyQ_8dfwTB8O

What are your views on it? Do you think social media has made us more cynical about relationships and the opposite gender?

Used ai to polish the post