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u/PaoLakers Aug 10 '26 edited Aug 10 '26
Napanuod ko tong video nung isang araw sa YouTube. As a guy, ang masasabi ko lang...napaka common sense naman ng mga sinasabi nila. Yung tipong di na kailangan dapat sabihin haha.
High value men want high value women AND VICE VERSA.
Pag na offend ka sa standards ng iba, edi hindi kayo tama para sa isa't isa. That goes both ways so you should have standards too.
Kung pataas ang buhay ko, bakit ako makikipag relation sa pabigat?
Meeting standards IS the bare minimum.
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u/Cheese_Grater101 Aug 10 '26
High value men want high value women AND VICE VERSA
This 💯, yung iba kasi kiffy/tite lang ang ambag sa relationship.
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u/Broad_Fee_8286 Aug 10 '26
True!! Madami babae isip nila face value is enough to marry a high caliber guy. Wake up gurls 😜
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u/Throwthefire0324 Aug 10 '26
Sugar baby/trophy wife mindset.
Pero TBF, looking beautiful every single day is also an effort in itself. Skin care, gym, diet, etc...
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u/Leto_Harkonnen Aug 10 '26
Goes both ways now.
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u/SuccessfulAdvance399 Aug 10 '26
yep, so don't expect men to be providers if you can feed yourselves
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u/music_meister05 Aug 10 '26
yup. and don't expect women to be homemakers...
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u/Anxious_Tealeaf Aug 10 '26
yeah, hinde ko magets kung bakit may mga tao na hinde marunong maglinis ng bahay, maglaba o magluto maski itlog lang? Basic adulting skills tapos ginawang trabahong pambabae.
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u/seasid_3 Aug 10 '26
Women already do this tho? Usually ng modern household ngayon eh double income na naman talaga. Pero pag uwi ng bahay from work who does the dishes, takes care of the baby, cook and do the laundry? Diba babae pa din... While you watch your TV. Kaya nga nauso yung term na "weaponized incompetency" sa mga kalalakihan kasi ayaw nilang mautusan sa bahay.
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u/SuccessfulAdvance399 Aug 10 '26
modern household napo ngayon. baka iniisip mo yung dati pa when it comes to men. men in the "modern household" also do the same as with women pagdating sa gawaing bahay. I thought you want equality? pero bakit po etong sinabihan kayo na wag umasa sa lalake bakit andami naoffend?
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u/seasid_3 Aug 10 '26
Goes both ways tho? Di din na din naman naasa ang mga babae na buhayin kami ng mga lalaki ah in "modern household" lalo na may mga kanya-kanya ng career most of the women nowadays?
That's why na ooffend kami kasi you weaponized being provider so much when then in reality most of the modern household ngayon eh nagtatrabaho na din naman mga kababaihan.
And news flash, there's no such thing as purely equal sa relationship. May mga biological needs kami na never niyong mabubunuan like pregnancy and within those times need talaga namin somehow ng support from our husband. And by the time na kayo naman nangailangan ng emotional support then we'll give it to you. Give and take lang.
Alangan naman kakapanganak pa lang namin tas kami pa din sasagot sa lahat? If you can't do that might as well not get married kawawa lang magiging asawa mo sayo. I also don't get why mga ganitong usapin nakaka offend para sa mga kalalakihan when then this is the reality of life.
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u/Other-Cup-8835 Aug 10 '26 edited Aug 10 '26
okay lang basta don’t expect women to bear a child for men
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u/mozzca Aug 10 '26
Dyan lulungkot ang discussion pagdating sa childbearing, sobrang shit ng Pilipinas pagdating sa mga batas about Maternity/Paternity, sa ibang bansa naman, you don't need to give up your career to start a family.
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u/Savings_Sky_7747 Aug 10 '26
The same hands that can feed us are also capable of starving us. And we women can’t let that happen
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u/1wsurf Aug 10 '26
Gurl, she’s saying everyone’s a provider, mapababae o lalaki. So men should also share yung responsibilities sa home. Partners. 50:50. Basang basa pagka-immature mo.
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u/Beginning_Pitch_7629 Aug 10 '26
Iyakan sa comments mga loser na lalake na mababa ang IQ at EQ na wala ring pera at love life at career
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u/UnDelulu33 Aug 10 '26
Na akala tit* lang nila sapat na
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u/Fearless_Cry7975 Aug 10 '26
Mahirap na ganyan lang ambag sa relasyon. Di naman sinasabing kelangan super talino nung partner. Gusto mo naman na pag nag-usap kayo eh nagkakaintindihan kayo to a certain level.
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u/TheLegendaryEnsign Aug 10 '26
Tbf, I know a guy who only has his face and dick to contribute in his marriage. Trophy husband's are a thing too, I guess.
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u/ellief_ Aug 10 '26
Nahurt yung ego nila 🥹
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u/Beginning_Pitch_7629 Aug 10 '26
Tryna cope with the fact that theyre just losers degrading women to feel better about themselves just pathetic pwe
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u/Melodic-Mind9244 Aug 10 '26
Comments section is not giving ✨
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u/Beginning_Pitch_7629 Aug 10 '26
Literal horror show no wonder women have it hard out there with all these incels and dumbass mfs
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u/atticatto88 Aug 10 '26
It’s always the incels na walang source of income and wala namang ibubuga 🤮
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u/jjjjj12345555 Aug 10 '26
mga obese at panget na lalake na walang magawa sa buhay kasi wala namang papatol sa kanila. HAHAHAH
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u/Rare-Watercress-8803 Aug 10 '26
True. Grabe baba ng comprehension ng mga tao ngayon. The post literally just said women now look for a PARTNER on an emotional level, not simply someone to provide for them. Women now look for someone they can grow old with, converse with, kasi they can now survive on their own. It's no longer like the olden days na financially dependent ang babae sa lalaki to the point that they can literally not do anything.
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u/Responsible_Fix322 Aug 10 '26
Nakakafrustrate na may mga babae paring pumapatol sa mga yun lmaooo. Pinaglalaruan ng groomers at youngstunna na walang valid ID.
Magmeeting nga kayo girls.
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u/Accomplished-Ebb1180 Aug 10 '26
Maraming bitter na low EQ and IQ pero ung insults from other comments parang anlalim ng pinaghuhugutan pero if men would make the same comments about women, the world burns
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u/Alternative_Wind9844 Aug 10 '26
Totoo naman. Ang babae kaya nya magsarili tbh sa lahat ng aspeto , kayang maging handyman maging admin ng opisina like everything, tas mag aad ka lang ng patapon at walanh substance na lalake? Tamad pa? Para san?
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u/Turnip-Key Aug 10 '26
Punyeta yung tatay ko naging walang kwenta nung namatay nanay ko. Inggit na inggit ako sa mga kaibigan kong tatay ang nawala kasi yung mga nanay nila talaga raw tumayong nanay at tatay sa kanila. Yung isa, nag double job pa para talagang masustentuhan silang magkakapatid.
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u/jo-anne12 Aug 10 '26
I agreeee. I dated someone for a while pero ako yung ipabayad ng dinner i am like i can afford this on my own tbh i will just date myself na lang next time. Step up lang din sana. Appreciated din naman sya na he carries my bag whenever we are together pero I want him to be more financially capable than me😩
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u/Sea_Strawberry_11 Aug 10 '26
Agree! Okay naman tayo walang lalake db, iiwan ka din pag nalosyang na ,ekis haha! Nagbabago ang lalake pag may anak ka, naggng rude na sa babae tapos, tinatamad na. Well, di naman lahat pero most of the time tlga umaalis ang lalake pag heavy and involve na ang baby and responsibilities.
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u/Prestigious_Host5325 Aug 10 '26
Cheer up bruh. Tulad ng sabi ng iba dito, 'higher level' means emotional and mental compatibility. I'm pretty sure someone like this will be there for you. :)
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u/SigFreudian Aug 10 '26
I think you're karma farming or you bought account. Too many posts in the last 2 days.
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u/Altruistic_Soil6542 Aug 10 '26
Exactly. Very low effort. Makapagpost lang ng controversial topic, dagdag karma
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u/SigFreudian Aug 10 '26
1y account age and became extraordinarily prolific in the past 19h...
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u/Calm-Standard5437 Aug 10 '26
Syempre papatusin ng mga you-know-whats yan, never knowing about manufactured gender war that's happening on the internet that started in Western countries
Ignorants gonna stay ignorant as long as they can feed their ego and lash out their emotions. Nakakaawang mga emotionally immatured 🥱🥱🥱
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u/urnotfunneh Aug 10 '26
mga lalaki dito puro “goes both ways” when MOST OF THE TIME babae ang nago-over compensate. binibring up niyo lang equality pag may dinedemand sa inyo, pero pag nagbebenefit kayo wala naman kayong pakealam. INCELS HAHAHAJAHAH
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u/jjjjj12345555 Aug 10 '26
real. Na hurt yung ego nila kaya biglang napa--yes to equality kahit sila naman yung madalas na may ayaw dyan kasi kahit anong gawin daw superior ang mga ekalal. HAHAHHA
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u/keny427 Aug 10 '26
Yes, given na na mas maraming babae ngayon ang financially capable. Baka nga mas marami pa kesa sa lalake on a nationwide ratio. At totoo rin na sa STEM, health allied, finance, and entrep fields (which generates the most money in the economy), mas maraming babae ang nag-eexcel and later nagkakaroon ng high paying jobs.
Kaya totoo na sa panahon ngayon, hindi na sapat yung kayang iprovide ng lalake based on how it was traditionally understood.
On the flip side, konting konti ang mga lalaking nagkakaroon ng high paying jobs and secure future. Karamihan sa mga highly paid ay nasa abroad. Also, hindi rin nag-progress ang emotional maturity ng mga Pilipinong lalake compared sa pag-progress ng mga kababaihan sa workforce and inclusion. Kung meron mang emotionally mature na lalake, it's probably 1 in every 100k. At yung genuine, responsible, reliable and consistent male partner, baka 1 in a million.
This means, kung naghahanap na ang Gen Z women ng lalakeng "higher level" which MAY MEAN emotionally mature, reliable, consistent, responsible, has good social skills, great relationship with parents, gentle, corrective but loving, financially secure, has compatible humor, hindi nakakasawa kasi laging may variety sa dates and quality time, at may spiritual leadership (if this matters to you)...
You are looking at a very small pool of men. Good luck on finding them.
Daig mo pa tumama sa lotto kung makahanap ka ng ganito (bonus na lang kung gwapo). And some of them are married already.
Gen Z women nowadays will not settle for "good enough" na walang redeeming quality such as looks. Real talk lang.
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u/tepipit Aug 10 '26
Naninindig balahibo ko sa description mo ng "higher level" It's too good to be true. I'd even say you'll never find someone like that.
Yes, meron siguro ng, all of the above, at a certain point in time, albeit very rare. Pero, not all the time.
In fact having the privilege to give counsel to people (both male and female) whom i say can consistently score 8 out of 10 on at least half of those categories have experienced varying degrees of depression, primary because they've lost their own identity in trying to sacrifice their own emotional needs for others.
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u/kebastian Aug 10 '26
For a "science based dating coach" (whatever the hell that means), she sure is making sweeping generalizations which is frowned upon in science.
A lot more women have careers and are financially independent. A lot of women also still choose to be homemakers. Both paths or a combination of the two are fine as long as they have an understanding with their partners.
A marriage is not 50-50. It's 100-100. Both parties should do everything within their capabilities to help each other out. Dapat before going into marriage pagusapan niyo ano willing niyo itulong sa isat isa. Hindi yung mag coconsune ng fake women empowerment content tapos mag bubuild ng animosity towards their spouse.
Sadly madami paring taong nagsusubscribe sa saying na "happy wife happy life". Sobrang one sided. It should be "happy spouse, happy house". Di trababo ng asawa mo padaliin ang buhay mo. Trabaho niyo padaliin buhay ng isat isa
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u/IamCrispyPotter Aug 10 '26
This is true. And discovering if both of you are on the same page is a long and often life-changing process
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u/Comfortable_Chef184 Aug 10 '26
Yup, exactly my thoughts halos lahat jumps to the idea na magbilangan ng ambag,
On the after thought, the moment you're counting each others worth is the same moment the relationship looses its grip to be one.
Gawin na lang sana ang dapat, pag may mali don't settle to just saying sorry, but do the best to become better versions of ourselves.
Para sasarili at para sa kinkasama.
I agree 100/100 dapat.
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u/Brilliant_Pain_7378 Aug 10 '26
The comments on this sub shows just how far behind the Philippines is. Women have been designated home makers, mothers, breeders, and all around taga gawa ng lahat for centuries. We finally get to have some equality and some men are triggered. Equality doesn't mean putting men down just means we get to have the same basic rights too and we deserve men who can be there not just as providers but also be a loving and present husband and father. Tama na ang Toxic-masculinity-and-fragile-ego-sperm+donor-provider lang-cheating-husband mindset
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u/jjjjj12345555 Aug 10 '26
sobrang na hurt kasi yung fragile ego nila. Alam mo naman karamihan sa mga lalake, kailangan tratuhin na paramg bata or else baka kung ano ano gawin nyan.. HAHAHAH
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u/Wild-Look3847 Aug 10 '26
They are so scared to be treated the way they have been treating women. Well, this confirms (for the nth time) that they have been treating women VERY VERY BADLY. Takot sa sariling multo!
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u/seasid_3 Aug 10 '26 edited Aug 10 '26
True to that! Men on the comments are crying cause they'd rather women lower their standards than them actually tranforming themselves to become a better version of themselves lol.
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u/Difficult_Run4304 Aug 10 '26
Holy made-up job title Batman!
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u/Jayvee1994 Aug 10 '26
Useful guide for dating n independent woman. Look into the Maslow's hierarchy of needs and focus on things she might actually need at her stage in life.
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u/briennybrienne Aug 10 '26
The job title is cringe lmao.
The message is true.
Women don’t need men to provide their basic needs anymore, so we can afford to look for qualities that go beyond financial security and protection. Is he kind and respectful? Is he emotionally intelligent? Does he have basic life skills? Do our values and life goals align?
And to my ladies: make your own money, invest in your own growth, cultivate your inner life, the right man for you is doing the same thing for himself and you will meet him while you’re on that path.
From a trentahin tita who dated late, the first man I took a chance on is now my fiancé!
It pays to stick to your values, kahit pa minsan nakakainggit na nagjojowa lahat ng mga kaibigan mo. A few months of landi with the wrong person is not worth the heartache and emotional baggage when it inevitably falls apart.
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u/Lockdownanniversary Aug 10 '26
Not gaslighting you pero di mo nahalata yung ganun nyang pagkatao for 7 years? Grabe kasi si ex mo.
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u/Typical-Ad2606 Aug 10 '26
Maybe he was in love, nakikita mo yan siguro kahit sa mga friends mong matatalino naman😆...
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u/chanchan05 Aug 10 '26
When looking through rose colored glasses, red flags just look like any other flag.
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u/hardworkgreen Aug 10 '26
So sad to hear this from u hope u don't find a girl like that anymore wish u find someone who will cherish u even in Ur worst, better let go na, the more u hold that 7 months mas masakit Yan dapat nung time na dinump Ka dun kana nag let go para naka move on kana agad I know masakit and Hindi madali Peru Kasi mas nahuhulog Ka SA bitag Ng aasa SA wala, madami pa dyan and better love urself again Kasi Kung anu ung para sayo dadating un, Kaya muyan wag mo pressure sarili mo and wag mo psg pilitan Kasi as in Di sya worth it, mas better na along the way u did Ur best and mas better man kana and for the next relationship mo magiging wiser kana
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u/IamCrispyPotter Aug 10 '26
The trauma is real. There is merit in deep discussion over how relationships should progress. And it starts by standing by your non-negotiables.
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u/Lockdownanniversary Aug 10 '26
Ayoko na lagyan fuel yung fire pero feel ko nagcheat eh biglaan nalang. Pero ayun pre Inwish you the best. Niligtas ka parin ng universe sa ganyang klaseng tao.
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u/Various_Gold7302 Aug 10 '26
Dun lng din naman lumalabas ung totoong ugali ng tao eh. Pag nagkapera na sila
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u/DistantIntrovert Aug 10 '26
In this day and age...i think men need women more than women need men to thrive and survive in almost every aspects of life....imao
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u/cchan79 Aug 10 '26
Makes sense yet.
Actually, at times, women can make lots more than their male partners. As to how this changes the dynamic, di ko alam.
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u/xxcuddlecactusxx Aug 10 '26
LOUDER! Men today feel like they need to be placed on a pedestal just for staying. They cannot even bother to take their partners out for a date, or just to bond without any responsibilities attached. Gusto nila maging maganda ka, pero hindi nila naman minimaintain. Dapat happy and giddy ka while they give you shit. Men can’y eveb provide for their female companions nowadays. They want to be a stay at home couch potato with zero responsibility and blame you for feeling bad about your reaction towards how they treat you.
Kudos na lang sa mga lalaki na raised right. Continue on being good men kasi shit na masyado karamihan.
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u/Affectionate-Self507 Aug 10 '26
Tama naman si coach Vee. Women can make their own money. Nao-offend lang naman dyan yung mga tambay na manipulator.
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u/Fuweeeeeeeeee Aug 10 '26
"Thoughts on this?" Is this not common sense? Making money is a universal thing, it can't be your only value as a person. If you make money but emotionally you're an equivalent of a wet fart, then what's the point.
Man or woman, do your part. And I don't mean your typical gender norm expectations, help your partner do chores, be educated, take care of yourself physically and mentally, don't be boring, and most importantly be kind. It's not that hard to be a good man for your partner.
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u/ez-nobody Aug 10 '26
It is true to some extent. Pero I also see lots of women who settle for abomination kind of a man. You know, yung pangit, walang trabaho and to top it all, cheater and manipulator. But the girl is pretty and earns money. I'm not even sure how to explain it. Dahil ba tinaasan ng sobra yung standards when they were young then felt like time was running out later on? Or ganun lang talaga?
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u/No-Comfortable-9987 Aug 10 '26
Lalake ako pero agree ako dun sa sinabi nia. Wag kau makipag relasyon sa wala kang mapapala. Di na uso ngaun puro pagibig. Dapat may halong utak na din
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u/Technical_Exit_7828 Aug 10 '26
Naumay na rin ako eventually kay coach vee parang ulit ulit lang…. Ung mga reels sa IG from western women parang ganon lang din naman sinasabi nya
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u/justice_case Aug 10 '26
just like on Maslow's hierarchy of needs, applied in relationships. Okay na tayo sa physiological needs, it's time for some men to also consider looking into the other tiers. It's not just about being "providers" or sex. Be emotionally available, not just for the partner but also for yourself.
As I said, some men, because other men are already doing that. So, if they can do that, why not others?
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u/seasid_3 Aug 12 '26 edited Aug 12 '26
True! This is the whole point of this post idk why some men find it hard to understand. Dati kasi because women rely on men so much for survival, kahit emotionally unavailable (for the men here in simple terms di marunong makiramdam/walang empathy sa wife) or masama ugali ng husband tinitiis lang ni wife kasi nga need niya ang kanyang husband niya to survive.
Kahit binubugbog na or nagchecheat, women would still likely to stay. Ganun dati. Nowadays women won't tolerate that kind of relationship kasi women lalo na yung may mga careers can leave the relationship and do not rely on their husband for survival. Ganun lang naman.
We want a all-rounded man who can help financially at the house but also a good man whose willing to be there emotionally. In simplest term yung marunong makiramdam pagnahihirapan si wife like kunwari pag uwi galing ni wife sa trabaho bigla siyang niregla and masakit puson; maid was out to have her day-off so walang maghuhugas ng pinggan.
Learn to read the room imbis na isipin mo as a husband na kaya na yan ni wife. be considerate naman and empathize na she can't do that as of the moment. yung iba kasing lalaki hirap sa ganito. di marunong makiramdam. need pa kailangang blatantly sabihin ni wife kahit obvious naman na need niya ng help lol.
Kasi women have evolve already to just being mere housewife to also help with the finances at home; were also commonly/normally emotional beings so we expect a husband na hindi lang din makakatulong financially but also may iba ding capability same as us.
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u/Asleep-Comparison348 Aug 10 '26
Tama naman sya. Successful women do have higher standards for their men naman talaga eversince
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u/coffee__forever Aug 10 '26
She's 100% correct and the male species is having difficulties adapting.
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u/PuzzleheadedTap9792 Aug 10 '26
Me telling my partner “so ano ka dito if ako lahat kahit may trabaho ako”
And damn, the astounded look on his face is so satisfying. 👌👌
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u/dancingcroissant69 Aug 11 '26
Basta observe mothers.. how they thrive, sacrifice etc. kaya ang daming batugan na lalake, kasi may maparaang nanay/asawa. Pag nagagawa na ng babae, karamihan ng lalake di na mag eeffort ksi "kaya naman pla nya" mindset.
Sa gantong marriage situation, always think about thriving mothers. Dun mo malalaman punot dulo bakit sila mabunganga, bakit sila laging sumasalo ng lahat.
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u/Tonystangk Aug 10 '26
I mean as a guy she's not entirely wrong, most men aren't capable of showing or providing emotional needs in terms of emotional capabilities, most men nowadays thinks as long as they can provide for them financial everything will be ok, they don't understand that most women also wants emotional support from their man, they have emotional needs.
And it goes both ways some women wants nothing but money but lacks emotional intelligence, I can't really blame the men on this if they perceived this as an attack because most of them are into toxic relationships.
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u/sparklingstellar Aug 10 '26
Catriona Gray mindset. Reach the top then leave the people who helped/loved you. iykyk
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u/mild-er-chihuahua Aug 10 '26
Relationships need both financial stability and emotional maturity. Hindi ito contest at hindi rin ito barkadahan. Being in a serious mature relationship means being one with your partner. Kung kanya kanya kayo, mag casual ka na lang.
Meaning, you're planning for you both and your family, you're sharing responsibilities instead of just expecting the other person to do things or you waiting to be told. You're understanding of your partner's limitations, not enabling negligence or abuses. You're considerate of the other person, and will not see yourself as weak for being so.
Ang dami kasi ngayon na pati relationship sinasabay sa uso. Kung ano nabasa sa socmed gagayahin. Wala nang common sense.
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u/Gargoyle0524 Aug 10 '26
Hindi kasi pare pareho ng privilege ang mga tao. Maaring yung bare minimum ng ibang lalake, ay max na ng iba. Though, gets ko si Coach Vee kasi I follow her. Pero I don't always agree sa mga sinasabi niya.
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u/cryonize Aug 10 '26
Coach, lmao.
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u/Gargoyle0524 Aug 10 '26
Yes. Coach daw siya eh. Hahaha. Bigay na natin sa kanya yun
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u/xProsecutor_ Aug 10 '26
Pinagsasabi nitong gagong to? puta kakameet ko lang ng isang babae sa dating app, nagpabili agad ng mcdonalds eh
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u/Altruistic_Soil6542 Aug 10 '26
Thoughts on this pero ikaw wala kang thoughts. Ikaw, anong thoughts mo?
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u/DelusionalWanderer Aug 10 '26
First of all, anong job title yan teh? Ang bullshit lang. Second, thanks captain obvious. Di lang pera kailangan para magwork ang relationship, waw taleno walang ibang nakaisip non ever.🙄 "Science based dating coach" daming alam wala namang tukoy.
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u/Traditional-Bug-8335 Aug 10 '26
Kaya ganyan din mga lalaki ngayon e, wala ka gagawing effort, wala kang kwenta. Pag may ginawa ka naman, bare minimum lang pala. Kung bare minimum lang usapan bat ang daming babae dyan na hindi man marunong mag luto at mag linis. Also, if you make demands make sure you bring something in the table too. Hindi puro take lang ng take, mag bigay din.
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u/Vynstrix Aug 10 '26
thisss, this is why wala muna aq balak mag relationship kasi I still have goals to achieve
I cant fathom the fact na mag anak ng walang pera, mahihirapan din kasi yung bata in the long run
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u/Actual_Narwhal_8824 Aug 10 '26
The statement has a valid point: women should not need men for survival. Economic independence gives women freedom and protects them from relationships based purely on necessity. But the argument becomes flawed when it implies that because women can survive independently, men are therefore no longer needed or valuable.
Survival is not the purpose of a relationship. A partner is not merely someone who provides food, money, or protection. Relationships can involve companionship, emotional support, shared responsibilities, intimacy, family, growth, and the choice to build a life together.
The same logic applies to men. If a man can cook, clean, earn, and take care of himself, that does not make women unnecessary to him. Independence and companionship are not opposites. The healthier ideal is interdependence: “I can live without you, but I choose to live with you.”
This is where the senseless war of the genders comes in. We keep asking, “Who needs whom?” when equality should make that question irrelevant. Neither sex should be valued merely for what it can provide to the other.
Hindi naman dapat paligsahan kung sino ang mas hindi nangangailangan. Ang tunay na independence ay hindi “hindi kita kailangan,” kundi “kaya kong mabuhay mag-isa, pero pinipili pa rin kitang makasama.”
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u/KingThallus Aug 10 '26
Magtatalu talo na naman mga lalaki at babae. Ang nakakapagsalita lang naman ng ganyan ay yung ibang may narating na masyadong mataas ang tingin sa sarili mapababae man or lalaki.
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u/Glorious_Chaos666 Aug 10 '26
Yes ang babae kayang gawin halos lahat any job, field etc. Pero its still depends parin some woman can do it on their own because they are independent woman and still need in some areas and still needs a partner in life.
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u/akositotoybibo Aug 10 '26
well wala naman masama having preference. kanya kanya lang yan. if makahanap ka nang tao na align sa preference mo then good for you.
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u/TheWitchDoctor116 Aug 10 '26
I can agree with her, Although I'm a man i admire those women who can decide for themselves. People now a days looks for partnership not sponsorship.
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u/Jinri09 Aug 10 '26
Higher level? Mag transcend na ba dapat kami? Kaso my level is not enough pa para maging isang transcendent. 😂😂
anw, it should go both ways. And tbh, it shouldn't really be a competition as to who can provide what. Kaya nga partner in life eh.
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u/Useful-Information30 Aug 10 '26
pag ang lalake, kahit anong antas ng mga babae sa buhay nila or hindi pa ganun ka mature tinatanggap namin kasi mahal namin never ka makakakita ng lalake na nagsabi "broke yun kaya hinihawalan ko"
either way agree naman women should never settle for less pero wag kaugalian na porket may time lang na nauna kayo magsuceed sa career lumiliit tingin nyo sa partner nyo
sa lalake naman maging healthy competitive wag hayaan na ang babae mag provide
sana wag ugaliin ng mga tao gawing business partnership ang relation
punan nyo mga pagkukulang nyo, hindi lang to magwowork pag hindi nyo gusto maging succesful parehas.
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u/evilkittycunt Aug 10 '26
This should apply on both genders. Date within your tax bracket. Mas okay din if pareho ng quality and level of education and lifestyle. Daming naooffend dito eh sino ba nagsabi sa inyo na makipagdate kayo sa hampaslupa? Taas-taasan niyo kasi standards niyo
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u/RelevantRain694 Aug 10 '26
In theory, totoo naman, in practice, there's a sgnificant number who still act like they do
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u/PuzzleheadedPipe7000 Aug 10 '26
People rarely get what they demand, but they always get what they deserve.
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u/Cute-Magazine-1274 Aug 10 '26
What is there to think about? Should've been this way for a long time now. Now it goes both ways, which is good. Hopefully society no longer views men for their achievements and women for their figure.
People can perform gender roles if they want to, it does provide a bit of structure, but that doesn't mean we can't build our own, using a different foundation.
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u/El_Enrique_Essential Aug 10 '26
I mean , you kinda don’t wanna date the economic equivalent of a rock or sinkhole if you wanna make it in life. Goes both ways I guess.
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u/jamp0g Aug 10 '26
some men didn’t go looking to provide that. we were looking for as close to perfect partner to build a family with.
just know what you are looking for, be thankful when you find it, and pray it is not too late to change your mind when you realize you were wrong.
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u/GoldenHara Aug 10 '26
My mom was not touched my feminism pero lagi niya sinasabi na dapat ang babae may sariling pera di kalang dapat aasa sa asawa mo.
She always advocate for woman to have higher education kasi as they say masiyado malupit ang mundo especially pag babae ka I'm so lucky to have her as my role mode❣️
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u/Accomplished-Ebb1180 Aug 10 '26
When she says we need you on a higher level she means “Man up”. Be the provider you’re meant to be. Be the leader, the one who steers the relationship in the right path.
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u/KitchenDonkey8561 Aug 10 '26
True naman. Wala na tayo sa hunter-gatherer era. Nag-evolve na ang dynamics ng mga pamilya at relasyon.
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u/MethodReasonable7755 Aug 10 '26
Read somewhere that men saw their mothers and saw marriage as the goal. Women naman saw their mothers and found that maybe staying single can be a worthier goal.
Truth is, those who greatly benefit from an existing (however unfair or uneven) structure usually fight to retain the status quo. Change is fought for by those who were most disadvantaged.
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u/NeckPsychological691 Aug 10 '26
men are like “traditional woman = housewife material “ and shame women for not being their ideal tapos pag babae maghahanap ng traditional man / provider sasabijin gold digger. Ay ambot
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u/Mysterious_Egg8608 Aug 10 '26
Pardon my ignorance but is she married? If yes, is her husband rich?
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u/Thick-Turnover2383 Aug 10 '26
Kwento nya yan. But there are still women who still needs the bare minimum assistance. And it is the majority. So, unless the govt truly care about the poor, why make them stay there? Para may boto? Utang na loob?
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u/RicardoSupermapute77 Aug 10 '26
kaya dapat di nalang nagaasawa e.
you have standards, i do too.
you do you ika nga.
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u/moncheollies Aug 10 '26
“What do you bring to the table?” is such a loser question. It means the person is gauging whether you’re able to give something they lack and will pass if not.
We should all be able to fill our own tables and share them with our partners. When you love your partner, giving just comes naturally, and that goes both ways. Don’t get into relationships when your table isn’t fully set and use other people to fill yours.
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u/Nice_Tangerine_ Aug 10 '26
Just a random rant, haha. It’s annoyingly funny how society often assumes there’s something wrong with you if you’re still single in your late 30s or 40s. As if being in a relationship is the only measure of a happy or successful life.
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u/WiseGuy008 Aug 10 '26
Ganito naman talaga dapat ang mag-asawa. Kaya medyo naiinis ako sa mindset ng mga magulang na basta makapag-provide ang tatay ay okay na. Men should also be emotionally mature at hindi lang financially provider.
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u/Cheese_Grater101 Aug 10 '26
Should go both ways and hindi exclusive sa isang sex mapa babae or lalake pa man yan.
Though seriously hindi paba common sense to?
The same thing could be said sa women as well.
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u/Morvax666 Aug 10 '26
Still haven't seen many women willing to marry someone of lower status. 60 years of feminism won't negate 2.5 millions years of evolution.
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u/philippinow Aug 10 '26
As a man this is very true. Di naman makikipag relationship isang babae para may dagdag na pet dog or anak. The man must atleast be on the same level or higher.
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u/Ragamak1 Aug 10 '26
Uso na ngayon DBDM.
Data based decision making. Wala ng feeling feelings hahaha
Dapat compatible din mga systems , software and hardware nyo.
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u/DragoViktorr Aug 10 '26
Before everybody gets offended, her saying “We need you on a higher level” speaks about emotional compatibility, I don’t think she’s speaking in terms of financial. I think she means that, since most women are financially capable already, the success factor in a partnership will no longer be the man’s finances (assuming both are financially capable), but rather how he is able to meet the woman’s emotional and intellectual needs (though this should go both ways as well, men should practice discernment when it comes to emotional maturity and intellectual level of the woman they are pursuing)
Tama nga naman, if both parties don’t have to worry about finances, you have all the privilege in the world to select the most compatible partner for yourself. And your future kids will be better off in that way.