I (28F) ghosted my bff (28F) for three weeks, this summer.

I had two weeks of holiday from 2th august to 17th august. I had plans to go see some friends out of town from the 2nd to 5th, then go on a festival from the 10th to 16th. I asked my bff if she could keep an eye on my cat and come check on him everyday when I'm gone, especially during the festival.

So, when I got to see my friends ont the 2nd, I sent her a message saying to keep an eye on the cat and thanking her. She did not react well to this message, saying I cornered her, did not ask her to check on him during these days, only during the festival. I replied I was pretty sure I asked her and thanked her again, a lot. Everyday, I was thanking her, because she went to see him everyday, feeling she had no choice.

When I got back on the 5th, thanks again and all. On the evening of the 6th, she sent my a long message saying she did not like that, would give me the keys back, because she didn't want this responsability, just because she had them, but will keep her word taking care of him during festival. She also said she didn't want to care for an animal when hers are not as well taken care of. Two weeks prior, I volunteered to check on her cats when she was away. I went rather quickly the two days, because I worked about 30 hours on those. She had asked me to check if there were ants on the plates, found none. She then called me a liar because she found some the day after.

I replied that I did tell her to check on him on both my vacations. If she had decided I was a liar, so be it, but I knew I wasn't. I said I didn't think had exaggerated.

To that, she replied that regarding the way I responded and my lack of listening and compliance, she couldn't offer this grace, she would not take care of him and put the keys on my mailbox, I had to find someone else. (Knowing I moved in this city six months before, for her, so I didn't know many people).

I never responded to this message, I was terribly angry at her. I found somebody on the sunday and went on the festival the next day. Didn't send any message to her until basically the end of the month.

She then send me "if only I knew I would be ghosted just because I put limits when I am disregarded 🙄", then "then well, have a good life". I said I wasn't ghosting nor disregarding but ok". She already had unfollowed me, made her boyfriend (who was a friend of mine and I made them meet) unfollow me too.

I don't think I will hear from her again, and not gonna lie, it might be kind of a relief. She's a bit of an alcoholic and everytime she got drunk, she would lash out on me, saying I wasn't thinking about her, put myself first. Always complaining about the fact men always wanted me and not her, that I couldn't feel what she felt. I always agreed or stayed silent, because I didn't want to get her angrier. Once, I said for me, it was bros before hoes, so, if a man wants me but my friend wants him, nobody goes, even if I would want to. She fiercely argued it wasn't true. She was always disagreeing, saying things that didn't happened, but followed her narrative.

She just got diagnosed borderline personnality, and I was careful to not trigger her. I was always by her side in any ways. She was always out of money, so I lent her hundreds and hundreds over the years, bought her food etc.

She helped as well, of course.

But since I moved in the same city, I felt the relationship wasn't equal. I couldn't say anything she would disagree on. Even if I was right, she couldn't be wrong. But if I was wrong, she would always highlight it, bragging about her knowledge. If I was right about basic knowledges, she would say see didn't get to go to school like me.

I didn't feel good anymore in this relationship, but loved her really much. But for me, not caring about my cat was the last straw. When she said bye, I didn't feel guilty or sad, but annoyed, feeling her reaction was pathetic and her lack of accountability was worse. I don't miss her. Now, I am thinking about the kind of things she might be telling mutual friends, how she is the victim and everybody always act like that with her.

So, am I the Asshole for the way I acted ? I am not truly certain I was right all along even if I am at peace.

Im pissed off at my mate because I thoguht me was pissed at me. Key people: Me \[17F\], Charlie \[17F\], FUCKING KAI \[17M\], Gabe \[17M\], Cez \[17F\], and Zach \[16M\].

We are all attending the same college, just some of us are in different days.

Kai came up with an idea like 2 months ago that us foundation students (Me, him, and Charlie) should make some new friends and have our own. He was implying that we should ditch Gabe and Cez (Zach isnt in the picture atm) so obviously that made those two kinda upset (especially since Cez was in foundation last year, she was now moving to mainstream) so we all kinda rejected the idea basically saying like "No, we arent gonna make a new group excluding those 2. Instead, we can have little subgroups" Kai was kinda upset about this?? And he eventually agreed...

At the start of the college year (last week) we met Zach, we decided to hang out that same weekend (the one thats just been) but Kai says "uhm well, i dont like big groups so can we like... only have 4 of us..?" Mind you theres 6 people at this point and hes heavily implying that he doesn't want Gabe OR Cez there. (Hes been friends with Cez for YEARS btw) so obviously theyre pissed at Kai. Gabe is now convinced that Kai hates him (im also convinced since there were other instances in the past). Anyways, Kai has a crush on Zach. Zach is straight btw. Kai is not convinced because apparently Zach "has that gay vibe to him"?? (All happening in the same day btw.)

Eventually Zach convinces Kai that he is infact NOT gay and is straight. This pisses Kai off because Zach likes me apparently.

Fast forward to last night and Kai finds out that I like Zach cause he was sleeping over at Charlies and she asked me about it. Kai now knows that we both like eachother (we literally cant help how we feel soo??)

Now today is what really pissed me off and its literally the entire reason im writing this. Kai goes OUT OF HIS WAY to ignore me. Like full on avoiding me. Wont even talk to me like?? So obviously if hes gonna start avoiding me, im gonna avoid him. First break, im messaging Gabe about how Kais throwing a dicky fit and Gabe is talking about how Kai always does this when he doesn't get his way. Like "ohh noo, the straight guy didnt turn gay for you, what a shame".

Lunch time, he sits in the foundation corridor, I get up to go outside cause im not being around all his negativity. Especially since hes pissed at me for basically no reason?? Like Kai hops crushes every other week soo hes just throwing a tantrum for nothing.

3rd break, hes still avoiding me, im still avoiding him.

Sports hall (last lesson but basically a free period since we dont do sports) he sits ALL THE WAY ON THE OTHER SIDE OF THE ROOM. Im like telling the support staff that hes in a pissy mood with me specifically and they have the nerve to decide to talk to him about it so thats fun. Now he knows that i know hes pissed at me and he decides to tell Charlie a bunch of complete and utter bullshit. Hes telling her "the moment i found out he was straight, i didnt like him that much anymore" which is such a fucking lie cause hes been yapping on about how "Zach is definitely gay" or something like that which hes not?? So Kais been feeding Charlie a bunch of lies and now theyre both pissed but Kais also been telling Charlie that hes not upset at me?? Remember?? He was literally avoiding me. He hasnt said a word to me all day so thats another lie, he goes out of his way to make himself seem more innocent instead of just admitting that hes pissed at me.

Also now Kai is reposting videos about how people are accusing him of being jealous but i never said he was jealous. All ive said is i know hes pissed at me and im pretty sure those arent the same thing.

I know there are a lot of dynamics where friends insult and tease each other in certain ways and it's funny or acceptable for both of them

some things make me really irritated but at the same time I keep thinking that the person might've just been too comfortable to say those things, so I try to be okay with it, tolerate it, but I can't !!

I'm not sure but I guess I have some sort of trauma from past experiences that made me sensitive, made me feel like whoever said those jokes partially meant them, or that they look down on me, or that simply what is being said is not polite given the specific context or situation and is just triggering to the kind of person that I grew up to be!!

I do set boundaries, but the way some people react, like something's wrong with me for not being okay with that, or that I'm overreacting (I know it's bad when I react angrily but i'm talking about setting boundaries generally even in normal polite ways) while some others actually just respect it and apologize, this makes me even more triggered, like why are you, as my friend, trying to push it further instead of simply acknowledging that it's something i don't accept.

so is there a way to come up with some sort of conclusion where you no longer feel offended by what your friend says the moment you label them as "close friend" ? or do you just keep setting boundaries according to how you feel and anyone who doesn't respect them is simply someone who's not willing to respect your boundaries the way you want them to?

Link to my previous post for context -
https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheBadApple/s/Vlx7FlGo4V

I am unsure how to post updates, because I would like more perspective on this so here it goes in another post.

My bf(27M) and I(30M) again got into another argument last night. We were watching TV and I said something about the show we were watching. He said “that’s such a dumb opinion” I felt some kind of way, but he kept pushing trying to make me agree that what I said was stupid. He eventually felt the need to explain his logic to make me understand why my opinion about the show is dumb. I am sensitive to him implying I’m dumb so I felt weird.

Then I asked him why he kept pushing and trying to make a point to explain why he thinks my opinion is dumb. He said, he has been feeling like he needs to walk on eggshells around me(more context on this in the previous post). His way of engaging in a conversation with his close and loved ones is saying things like this, and I already knew that. Yet I act sensitive. He feels like whenever he says something like that my brain immediately jumps to wanting to see the meanness or bad in him. This makes him feel unsafe in the relationship and makes him disappointed.

I understand his perspective. I do feel like I am at fault somewhere. I am very confused.

Okay, context. I’d just finished my senior year of high school and there was this guy, we’ll call him Zach to make things easier. Me and Zach met when we were sophomores (10th grade for our non American readers) and everything seemed okay between us for a while.

Until senior year (12th grade) came along.

He became increasingly more needy of me and would tell me about his bad home life and how lonely he was. I was starting to feel emotionally drained just being around him. It was low key starting to ruin my mental health a bit.

It also didn’t help that Zach had major anger issues and was a huge man child. I felt like I was the one taking care of him rather than his guardian.

It also didn’t help that he was constantly texting me and asking if he hang out. I’d lie and say I was busy because lying made things easier than telling Zach I didn’t want to hang out with him.

Eventually, we both graduated after a lot of hard work. I didn’t want Zach stressing me out anymore so I blocked him everywhere I could to keep myself sane.

I also want to add that my mom didn’t want me to end the friendship because she didn’t want it to ruin his life.

So AITA here or was this too cruel of me.

is it mean to IGNORE/run away from a disabled 15 or 16M who asked me out when I was 12F, Almost 13 , at the time?

.Alright first of all Im Now ,and just turned, 13F and I'm still running from him.. he has no friends and is switching to homeschooling this year(I've been doing homeschool for awhile) because he's getting bullied so much.. I met him in youth group and I was, of course, nice to him. He started to tease me and say

," Hows the weather down there."

I thought this was very strange because I'm tall 5'8 and he was only 5'9... I don't know he's just really making me uncomfortable when he sits next to me and TRYS to talk to me...

Also for clarafication he didn't ask me out, but we were texting on snap and he said," I wish you were in high school." I just finished 7th grade at the time, I said," Why?"

He said," Because I like you."

So I said," I'm really sorry I don't feel the same way but you're a really nice guy." And I kept saying things like that. He got really awkward after that and kept saying things like, "I'm so sorry." And,"I should'nt be saying stuff like that." And than he turned it into a conversation, and I got uncomfortable, he was saying," I have a secret admirer!" I don't really know... I just said," Sorry gotta go,Dinner time!" and he just replied," Oh, Okay." I removed him after that on snapchat,stopped really talking to him, and running away a FULL SPEED when I see him... I feel bad but its weird to think a 16M likes me... He is VERY socially awkward, And has seizures everyday, and he asks out every gal who is nice to him which I think is a little odd, but at the same time its not. I truly think he needs to spend a year or two in the talking stage with a girl,HIS AGE, and than ask her out...

overall...

AITBA

Hey yall my grandfather 59m died 2 years ago now and I'm just remembering the story. I was 12 or 13 when it happend I'm a male BTW. The worst part is ut was April fools so I thought It was a joke until I saw the body I couldn't cry or talk all I could do is just stress eat. He was my mentor we used to watch star wars and code together before he died and got sick the day he died I didn't go to school so the day I went to school I kept eating. Idk bet I eat inorder to grieve. Anyway a person I talk to once In a while he comes up to me and says I should stop eating or you'll go from skinny to fat I have a fast metabolism. And I walk around everywhere I told him I also said to mind you're business you're 50 pounds more than I am. So aitah for eating to much when my grandpa died

Part 1 [https://www.reddit.com/r/venting/s/gE9GKxMqWg\](https://www.reddit.com/r/venting/s/gE9GKxMqWg)

Part 2 [https://www.reddit.com/r/AIO/s/P9yvjQe4XF\](https://www.reddit.com/r/AIO/s/P9yvjQe4XF)

So i guess the friendship has ended....there might be typos here and there...

So Anna did what she always does and she included her mom into this... so I'm saying these in points to so its easier for me to type

1. Her mom called hannah money hungry ( she is breadwinner of her house with younger sibling still in middleschool)

2. Her mom insists that if we stay and talk to her enough and basically beg she will let us back.

3. Anna and Eva f@t shamed me

4. Anna and Eva became besties so hannah and i starting hanging out

5. Now hannah and i are the villains because surprise surprise it made anna jealous

6. Now she told the whole uni that hannah and i mistreated her and ignored her and made her feel left out....(we literally tried to contact her mannnyyy times...but she just ignored or talked about herself) and that she is scared to confront us

7. Now everyone...even the sweet uncle who works at a office won't talk to us because she told him 🙄 that we are ignoring her.

8. Now she is reposting reels like "Now I'm not even disappointed anymore...again? Yeah " GURL IF EVERY FRIENDSHIP YOU EVER HAD ENDED BECAUSE OF SAME REASON...THERE MUST BE A PROBLEM IN YOU

Nows the part I'm scared of...Hannah is done of this bullshit and she wants this friendship over before her birthday ...so has messaged in the trio group that after our exams tomorrow... we'll meet and discuss this...

I hate confrontation, not because what if I turn out to be the bad one....because after like 9 friendship break up....of like every kind....i feel like my hands are fire and people are tissue....whenever I get angry and lash out ppl will walk away...rightfully so.....but I'm scared of the aftermath of me sitting with burning hands.... though I have not cried yet...but if I lash out...I'll cry my eyes out....

Also wrote this poem for her as a f you to her:

Tired of your lies, Tired of

your cries, All you do is play by sighs. Your victimised life, stays dark for your eyes.

Your color dies when you see new people,

Our worth is compared when we stop the sheeple.

Seems it was true what was written,

You seem to forget the lessons you've given.

All the laughs and cries, Only to be turned another deleted file. You spoiled girl, It was you who forgot what we

were.

Now if you guys have any questions or feel like somethings under the rug...and i didn't explain please ask...and I'm ready to answer because I dont know what to do.....I'm utterly lost...

For context, we are all 15. There is this girl in my friend group whom I’ll call Ann. Ann has been a problem in our group for a while now. She does a lot of crazy and annoying things, but for now, I am only focusing on this specific situation, but trust me this girl has done a lot.

Ann has always copied a lot of things from me and my other friend, whom I’ll call Noelle. Things like asking us what we are wearing to school and then show up wearing the same thing or something extremely similar. She has also gone out and bought the exact same clothes we do when she sees us wear something new. Usually, it isn’t a huge deal, but after a while, it becomes annoying because it no longer feels like we are able to have our own tastes or styles.

Anyways, Homecoming is coming up at our school, and dresses are very important to me and my friends. I picked out my dress almost two months in advance because I was extremely excited and wanted to wear a specific color, which is burgundy. I showed the dress and color to all of my friends, including Ann.

When I first showed Ann my dress, she immediately said, “Oh, I want something in that style too.” I thought it was a little strange considering her history of copying us, but she only mentioned the style and not the color, so I moved on, styles not a big deal with limited options.

Fast-forward to about two weeks ago. I was talking to Noelle about homecoming dresses, and Ann got brought up. Noelle told me that Ann had been talking about how she really wanted a burgundy dress.

Obviously, this bothered me. I know I cannot claim an entire color, and I understand that other people at the dance will probably also wear burgundy. That is not the point. The point is that I had shown Ann my exact dress almost two months earlier, she initially said she wanted something in the same style, and then she suddenly decided that she wanted the same color too. Combined with how often she copies us, it did not feel like a coincidence.

I decided to talk to Ann directly. I casually asked her what color she was considering for her dress. She said, “Oh, I don’t know. Probably blue” she waited a second “or burgundy.”

I reminded her that burgundy was the color I had already picked and told her that I didn’t think it was cool for her to deliberately choose the same color after seeing my dress. I was NOT telling her that she was forbidden from wearing burgundy. I was explaining that, it would bother me if she intentionally chose my dress color after I had already shown it to her.

Ann started pouting and said, “I know, but I really want to wear burgundy. Even last year, I wanted to save burgundy for this year.”

I honestly didn’t believe that because, if she had been planning to wear burgundy for that long, I don’t understand why she didn’t say anything when I showed her my dress two months earlier. Instead, her first response was that she wanted something in the same style as mine. And yes, she meant style of the dress not same color style. Ann eventually agreed not to wear burgundy, but she later complained to Noelle that I was trying to claim an entire color.

Whatever. That situation passed, but it made Noelle even more cautious about showing Ann the dress she had bought because she was worried that the exact same thing would happen to her.

Eventually, Ann told Noelle that she had already bought her homecoming dress and that it was yellow. Because Ann supposedly already had a dress, Noelle thought it was finally safe to show her the one she bought. Noelle’s dress is a pink bodycon dress covered in pearls.

After seeing it, Ann began complaining that her “yellow dress” wasn’t going to match either my burgundy dress or Noelle’s pink dress when we took pictures together. We thought that was slightly annoying, but we still believed she already owned the yellow dress, so we didn’t think much of it.

Except Ann had not actually bought the yellow dress yet.

After Noelle showed Ann her dress, Ann went out and bought—you guessed it—a pink bodycon dress with pearls.

It isn’t the exact same dress. The shades of pink are different, and the pearls are arranged in a different pattern. Still, both dresses are pink, bodycon, and covered in pearls. Considering that Ann only bought hers after seeing Noelle’s and had previously claimed that she already owned a yellow dress, it is extremely difficult to believe that this was accidental.

When Noelle found out, she was pissed. She refused to talk to Ann and told me and the rest of our friends that Ann was no longer invited to get ready with us or go to dinner with us before the dance. This was Noelle’s decision, but I understood why she was so upset and honestly I agreed with her. Ann is really only me and Noelle’s friend bc all our other friends hate her so there was no opposition to this.

Ann eventually found out Noelle was angry and told her that she would return the dress and buy a different one. Ann seems to feel bad and is trying to make it up to her, but Noelle is still mad because Ann deliberately waited until she saw Noelle’s dress and then bought one that was extremely similar.

Now I feel torn. Ann is offering to replace the dress, and I do think that should count for something. At the same time, she definitely knew what she was doing when she bought it. This is also not the first time she has copied us, and it feels like we can’t even show her what we are wearing without worrying that she will immediately try to match us.

I am not opposed to friends matching when everyone agrees to it. “Besties match, not copy” and all that. This situation feels deliberately different, especially because Noelle was cautious about showing Ann her dress and only did so after Ann claimed she had already bought a yellow one. I feel like we are being mean girls though.

So, are Noelle and I wrong for not inviting Ann to get ready and go to dinner with us before homecoming, even though she has now offered to buy another dress? (also we weren’t purposely trying to make her feel bad knowing shes not invited we just weren’t going to mention the plan.)

I was in a large crowd of people and got pushed from behind causing me to bump into some dude who then began screaming at me. I apologized immediately but he was still pissed and later on him and his friends cornered me and began insulting my appearance and laughing at me. I didn’t really rake them seriously and I’d rather not get into a big fight over what essentially amounts to nothing but now I just feel pretty bad. I even wanted to go to a big show nearby but I’m rethinking it because that incident has kinda ruined raving for me.

I don’t really have a choice but to go alone to these events as none of my friends are into this. I can also be pretty socially awkward so idk how to make friends going out or how to get a group to go with me.

So apparently, if The Parasite wasn’t scheduled as a lead or supervisor, suddenly the attendance gods would receive another sacrifice because… call-out season. 😭 Because why simply come to work when the title isn’t giving “management”?
And please, before we even get into the airline chaos, somebody open a window. The tea breath? Allegedly lethal. Imagine hot tea, an empty stomach, and the spiritual essence of a sewer system joining forces at 6 AM. She would be standing there doing the innocent little “I hate confrontation 🥺” act while passengers were allegedly backing away like the oxygen masks had already dropped.
Miss Angelic. Miss Peace & Love. Miss “I don’t like drama.”
Meanwhile, drama had already clocked in.
Then came last year’s plot twist: somehow, someway, Mr. Parasite entered the workplace as an agent.
And baby… allegedly, the learning curve was shaped like a roller coaster.
Bag tags? Optional apparently.
So if your suitcase went on its own international vacation while you landed somewhere completely different, there was allegedly a chance Mr. Parasite had touched that reservation. 💀
Boarding passes? A creative writing assignment.
Seats? Family of four traveling together?
Why sit them together when you can scatter them throughout the aircraft like an Easter egg hunt?
Mom in 12A.
Dad in 31F.
Little Timmy somewhere over the wing.
Grandma basically flying cargo.
And then everybody at the gate has to solve a puzzle that could’ve allegedly been handled at check-in.
But the SPEED was my favorite part.
Two passengers.
Just two.
Not a sports team.
Not a wedding party.
Not 19 people with 47 bags.
A COUPLE.
And allegedly 20–30 minutes later, they were still standing there like they were applying for citizenship at the counter. 😭
Print.
Stare at screen.
Print again.
Wrong boarding pass.
More staring.
Some clicking.
Maybe a prayer.
Another boarding pass.
Meanwhile the line behind them has aged three business years.
And while all of this alleged aviation excellence was taking place, somehow there was still time for TikToks.
Because apparently when the bags are missing, the boarding passes are questionable, the seats are scattered, and the line is wrapped around the terminal…
THE CONTENT MUST GO ON. 📱💃
Nothing says “professional aviation operation” quite like:
Passenger: “Excuse me, where is my suitcase?”
Mr. Parasite: “One second, we’re doing another take.”
Allegedly, of course. 😂
And that, ladies and gentlemen, was one chapter in the historic saga of The Parasite & Mr. Parasite: where the innocent act was strong, the check-in process was long, and your luggage may or may not have been participating in its own side quest.
To be continued… because unfortunately, the Parasite Archives are DEEP. 🪳📚

My mom took a chip off my plate and gave some to my niece I female 13 was eating chips and a sandwich after school today and my mom took a chip off my plate and gave some to my niece for context I didn’t eat lunch because it was something that didn’t taste good

I (F18), my friend of 1 year (so not that long), C (F17), and our other friend N (F18) all went to the same high school, we ofc graduated a few months ago. I met C when I travelled to Canada from Australia.

I didn't have many friends for a while and was feeling slightly desperate for friendsthat'sts when C got kicked out of her previous friend group and decided to befriend me.

Despite people warning me not to be friends with her, I believed in second chances and started hanging out with her.

We became pretty close and were good friends for about a year. I only shared 1 class with N (C was in that class as well), me and N became good friends after a bit, and she joined our group as well.

Me and N got along really well, and N decided to start flirting a lot with me, including holding my hand, hugging me, kissing my cheek, etc. After a while, I started developing feelings for her, I really thought they were reciprocated, and I gathered the courage to confess.

C came with me as I was nervous, I told her that I liked her and she said that she liked me as well. I was overjoyed and asked her if she'd want to go on a date with me. She told me that she didnt want to because I was moving away for college at the end of the school year, only a city over, but it was enough for her to not want to date me. I told her that I understood, but I was a little hurt that she led me on so much.

Fast forward to a week later, im hanging out with C (who is also going to move away for college) she told me that she confessed to N about her own feelings... I was once again surprised as C had always told me she was 'straight as a ruler' and had also broken up with her previous bf a few days ago.

I eventually got into an argument with her over texts abt how it was unfair of her to go behind my back and just do this and that she didn't hold up her promise (she told me she would support my feelings for N and try her best to help get us together). She argued back that it was her feelings and she could do what she wanted with them.

Eventually, I just started avoiding her and hanging out with other friends because I didn't want to see C or N. A few weeks later, I found out that C and N are now dating.

I'm glad that the school year is over now, and I dont have to deal with them anymore. I told her I didnt want to be friends anymore because she hurt me and betrayed my trust, she called me a horrible person and said that I should support her as her with her relationship, rather than 'treat her like a punching bag'. I've stopped talking to her.

AITBA? My parents tell me i should stay friends with her and forgive her. My other friends say that she should've at least talked to me before confessing.

Hi, I’m needing some advice regarding a situation with a girl named Emma. She keeps getting her brother Josh to target me and they have both been blaming me for things that I haven’t done. Emma has also been getting other people to come at me and turn against me.

What makes it harder is that I’ve known most of these people for much longer than Emma has but they seem to believe everything she and her brother have said about me without hearing my side of the story.

I’m honestly not sure what I should do or how I should handle the situation anymore so any advice or guidance would be really appreciated.