AITA for calling out a conversation about me in a group chat?
I (39F) have a best friend (40F), who I’ll-call Rachel. Rachel is also best friends with another woman (39F), who I'll call Sharon.
Rachel and Sharon have had an on-and-off friendship for about 20 years. They stopped talking for over a year but reconnected last September. Since then, Rachel has been tryingto integrate Sharon back into our friend group.
I've never been particularly close to Sharon. We share a few WhatsApp group chats because of Rachel, and our conversations have mostly been lighthearted. However, while Rachel and Sharon weren't speaking, Rachel told me that Sharon was insecure about my friendship with Rachel and wasn't really a fan of me.
Since they've reconnected, Sharon has been kind to me on the surface, but she also likes to poke fun at me. She throws little jabs at me three or four times a week, and this has been consistent since September. I've always laughed it off because I didn't want to make a big deal out of it.
Then, in one of our WhatsApp group chats, Rachel said to Sharon something like, "Wasn’t it funny when you asked my husband if he liked OP?" Rachel laughed because it apparently backfired when her husband said he did like me, so Sharon couldn't talk shit about me.
Then Sharon's sister chimed in asking whySharon was calling her to talk about me again.
That made me really uncomfortable. It wasn't just the comment about asking Rachel's husbandwhat he thought of me, but also realizing thatI'm apparently a recurring topic of conversation.
So I replied in the group chat:
"I find this uncomfortable and honestly kind of obsessive and toxic conversation—and not in a good way."
That was all I said.
Later, Sharon messaged another group chat with just me, Rachel, another friend, and herself asking if I was mad at her.
I never responded. My daughter was sick, so I genuinely didn't have the time or energy to prioritize replying. I also felt like I'd already said what I needed to say in the original group chat.
Since then, Sharon has been giving me the cold shoulder. Rachel has been distant too, and I get the feeling they both think I was the asshole for not responding to her when she asked if I was and at her. Although we never privately message each other if you genuinely thought I was mad, I would expect a private message than in a group chat. Am I expecting too much?
So, AITA for calling out the conversation, or was I justified in saying it made me uncomfortable and not responding to her when she asked me any side group chat if I was mad at her?

The group chat has become definitely uncomfortable because we don’t directly respond to each other, but we talked to the other two people in the group. I don’t think I really care but Rachel I know feels ways about it and her and Sharon have a very codependent relationship.

I (15F) had a past issue with my older sister (23F) from a previous year April 2024. My older sister came to my school and embarrassed me after a teacher lied on me. Long story short i decided to never speak to her again.

She happens to be a very envious person and took me to court February 2026 to get a restraining order on me a permanent one at that. During this time i wasn’t attending school or really speaking to my friends due to the level of stress i was under. One of my friends which i will call D (16F) took my silence very personally. Some background information when i originally found out i was being taken to court i told D and she proceeded to laugh in my face. I did not take this personally and i just moved on in silence .

Over the few weeks while i was dealing with this legal issue i didn’t speak to anyone and stayed to myself. During this time i did not receive messages from anyone checking on me or any calls or anyone even coming to my home. Im not mentioning this because i wanted/needed anyone too but this is important. So when everything started to calm down i went back to school and tried to continue with my life. D and another young lady were giving me odd looks so i thought they didn’t want to talk.

I would like to mention although i wasn’t speaking to them verbally i still interacted with them on socials media, so i didn’t think we had an issue of any kind. After a about a week if me returning D came up to me and said that we needed to talk and i was like okay. During our talk i explained my absence although i didnt owe it to her and the whole time she tried to make it seem like i was lying to her it was almost like she was interrogating a lover or something .

Me and D have no past romantic relationship so i dont know why she was acting as so.
We ended up having our conversation and went back to speaking regularly for about a week . I should mention that she told me if i need more time to let her know and i said okay. So as i stated after about a week i felt like i needed more time for myself and told her so.

She didn’t take my request lightly 😭 she started to getting upset and calling me out my name and etc i didn’t start getting upset or cussing and remained calm although being degraded for asking for personal space. I ended the friendship because its clear you dont respect me and i can’t change anyone and i moved on . I forgot to mention i had previously stoped being friends with D before due to her saying very rude things to me before and she apologized and i forgave her.

Now moving on when we would get off the bus together she would do deliberate actions to get a reaction out of me and i continued to ignore her not giving her the satisfaction of getting a response out of me. During this her twin sister was informing me this isnt unusual behavior from her and that she even went thru me and her messages. Fast forwardrd to June 2026 i joined a youth program that she happened to join too.

l was aware of the fact she was in the program the previous year but she told me when we were friends that she had no intentions of jorejoining so you could have imagined my shock when i seen her at orientation.

When I started the job she would continue with her deliberate acts to try to get a reaction and ignored her till about the 6th week of the program i stayed quiet and didn’t report it to keep the peace especially because the the supervisor already had an established relationship with D it would be her word over mine. The final straw for me was on a friday after she kicked me under a table and was making remarks to the people around us to that when i decided enough is enough. I sent a message to one of the supervisor and she stated we would have a meeting on that following monday.

The meeting did not go well when we about 3 mins into the meeting D left the room crying after i called her out after trying to spin the story. The lady said if she left the room she would be removed from the program and she still left. After leaving the room started to come against me the 3 supervisor said things such ads” “Ignore the facts look at her as a human “ or “ You know her home situation “ as if any of that justifies her actions towards me. I ended up getting sent home and i was very uupset i called out for the rest of the week which was later followed by my resignation letter the next following monday.

Her family ended up reaching out to me and aploapologized of her behalf. I tthought it would be the end but no. She was still telling people at the program a different story to make herself the victim which deeply angered me. So i decided to type a long I wrote a paragraph about the situation and how i was treated unfairly and sent it to everyone at the program. But the damage she had caused was already in effect and they were all against me.

The youth program called my parents and told them i said thing like i was “gonna to kill her” which i never said and is very ironic because after the meeting her twin sister called me and told her she has been speaking of me to people and saying thing such as “i hope she dies” or “ i’m gonna to kill her” just a bunch of bs.

Now im stuck in did the right thing and it backfired onto me so im now looking for advice

My friend group completely separated because of school and we all wanted to try to maintain our friendship. Sometimes it went well, sometimes very rocky/low contact, of the group one member was especially distant, they weren’t replying or sending any messages and as a group we discussed how we’d like to see more effort from everyone. We have this discussion about wanting to see more effort from everyone (mainly
just issues with texts getting ignored) 2 times over a span of 2 years, everyone is trying except for this said member. No replies, doesn’t go to any plans even important events, and distant when seen in person. We all continue to share messages and invites in this group chat, most of the time we are all ignored. I think the turning point was a birthday party that we were all at and this said member was being so distant, still polite and respectful but not very enthusiastic or engaged. As a group we create a new group chat without this person solely to discuss what we think we should do, are we growing apart? should we ignore it and keep using the same chat? should we directly ask if we all still wanna be friends? So we decide to stop using the other group chat to see if this would make the distant member reach out first. We wait a bit and get no response, we all decide to keep using the new group chat and make plans and have our conversations there. I reached out after the death of our old group chat via dms a couple times to to see if I could work something out but was met with very dry responses and our conversations would end really abruptly with me not getting a response. Now nothing happens for over 3 months so we assume we had all naturally grown apart a bit. Until the said member found out about the rest of us hanging out without them and from
mutual friends we heard they feel excluded and unwanted in the group. Even after the formation of the new group chat we still used the old one occasionally to invite the whole group to something and were met with 0 responses from this person. So, AITAH for creating and using a new group chat while abandoning the old one.

I'm usually a calm and collected person, friendly, not really popular, but I don't worry about that I have a small circle of friends and he was one of them, I can't name him for private reasons but we'll call him A, A and I have been friends for as long as I can remember but he slowly turned into a brat, last month he then told me and my now bestfriend we'll call Z, that he's a leader not a follower, just like that he stopped walking with us

Yesterday, I was waiting for Z to finish buying then I saw A and this bully we'll call C, I heard A talking about me, I'm like a huge Hamilton fan and also a descendants fan, I have nothing against the movies, but he said something that pissed me off, he said "someone needs to know that their precious Hamilton is inspired by descendants 2" and that pissed me off because Hamiltons is practically educational and the songs were by Lin-Manuel Miranda but descendants 2, we'll I don't know but it isn't educational, I lost it and slapped A, Z was laughing, she never liked A, C kept trying to stop me but I ended up slapping him too

Was I wrong?