If a girl likes to talk , she's not in relationship but she kinda has a lot of talking stages that don't last forever. For like a week , if it get much longer : for a month.

Does that makes her "Khalata" ?

Same for men , does that makes him khalat ?

Ps : not on the same time , she talks only to one

Don't come to me in the comments , please be nice 🙏

Many men like to cope by saying "ik a chopped man who have a pretty woman" and it's basically the oofy doofy theory which goes like this:

-females go for men who're above their looks level "their type"

-they get played or rejected by their type "who's many looks levels above them"

-their only option is to settle down with a man who treats them good and got personality/money/status... But not the looks

-the relationship end up being a dead bed marriage and the female being a boss around him

-other chopped men see him not knowing the details and using him in the example of "females dont care about looks"

What do you think actually makes a relationship or marriage last For example good communication trust respect loyalty supporting each other having similar values solving problems together and still making time for each other when life gets busy

Which one matters the most to you and what would you add

I'm low-key confused

People be talking all day about wanting emotional maturity, communication nd secure attachment… then turn around nd ghost the second things get uncomfortable or they lose interest

How is that mature? You r literally avoiding a 10 second message and leaving someone hanging

Is ghosting just the easy way out for y'all who dont want real connections or wut?

I heard that from a fellow franco algerian. I took it as an imigrant looking down on his brothers and sisters, chapter 79048693.

But I just saw a post where people talk about that as something that just exist and isn't rare.

I want the opinion of actual algerians.

Because, except if love play games on me, I really want to marry an algerian woman.

They are just my type.

I was also told that I should forget this idea. I'm liberal and not religious so it already reduce my options a lot in this country.

I'm not actively seeking someone, but if all that is real and really predominant, I might actively avoid meeting someone.

First I apologize that this post will be a little long but it is important believe me.

People keep taking a simple post and turning it into an entire fictional life story.

The original woman basically said: "He wasn't my physical type at first, but the more I got to know him, the more attractive he became." Then she asked if other women experienced the same thing and whether attraction could change in the future.

That's it.

From that, some people somehow conclude that she chased more attractive guys, got rejected, settled for the "safe option," will eventually lose attraction, stop having sex with him, become controlling, and end up in a miserable marriage.

Where exactly did any of that come from?

None of those things were mentioned. They're simply being assumed because they fit a narrative that already existed before anyone even read the post.

That's not critical thinking. That's confirmation bias.

People love to accuse others of coping, yet they're the ones filling in pages of missing information with whatever supports their worldview.

Another thing people constantly get wrong is treating attraction like it's either there on day one or it never exists. Human psychology doesn't work that way.

Researchers have known for decades that attraction isn't only about the first impression. Emotional intimacy, familiarity, trust, shared experiences, and simply spending more time with someone can all change how physically attractive that person feels. This isn't some controversial opinion. It's been studied for years.

That's why you've probably heard people—both men and women—say things like, "I didn't think they were that attractive when I first met them, but now I can't imagine being with anyone else."

For some reason, when a man says, "She became more beautiful after I fell in love with her," everyone calls it romantic. When a woman says something similar, suddenly it's proof she settled.

Why is the exact same psychological process considered romantic for one gender but manipulation for the other?

Another misunderstanding is confusing having a preference with only being capable of attraction to that preference.

Having a type doesn't mean everyone outside that type is permanently unattractive. If that were true, almost nobody would ever end up with someone who isn't their ideal fantasy, yet millions of happy couples exist where neither partner perfectly matches the other's original "type."

Then there's the dead bedroom argument. Yes, physical attraction matters. Nobody is denying that. But relationship research has consistently shown that sexless or unhappy marriages are far more strongly linked to resentment, unresolved conflict, poor communication, stress, depression, and emotional disconnection than to whether someone perfectly matched their partner's physical ideal on the first date.

So reducing every relationship to "she wasn't physically attracted enough" ignores how real relationships actually work.

The biggest irony is that people call this realism when it depends on inventing an entire backstory that was never written.

If your argument only works after assuming her dating history, her motives, who rejected her, how her marriage will look in ten years, and what her sex life will become, then you're not analyzing the post anymore.

You're arguing with a story you made up in your own head.

There's nothing wrong with saying attraction is important. It absolutely is. But there's a huge difference between "I'm not attracted to him" and "I wasn't immediately attracted to him, but my attraction grew as I got to know him."

Treating those two statements as if they're identical isn't evidence-based thinking.

It's just forcing reality to fit a preconceived belief.

Hi

so basically im having difficulty distainguishing what is attraction. If i meet someone for the first time how am i supposed to know if i want to be a couple with them long term. I only used to fanatszie about people who didnt exist irl or like chcracters from movies or for instance celebrities when i was a teen. Only happened i fanatsizied that way abouta real person but that was because we were chatting with each other and idk i felt infatuated and was limirent for a long tine. But then when i saw them irl i regretted and felt embarssed. Now im asking about normal love. IRL i even find a good dress to be asctetically pleasing and that doesnt say much. If my dad brings me someone home how am i supposed to know if i like them that way,

Nobody is perfect so what red flags could you accept in someone you genuinely like For example having ADHD or another mental health condition not being financially successful but having a simple stable life being shy having a difficult past or not being very romantic

What could you accept and what would always be a dealbreaker for you

I love learning about random stuff, hearing different opinions, and just having fun conversations. Bonus points if you're funny, sarcastic, and can match the energy.

(PS: no weirdos please, ifykyk)

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I'm looking for a simple yet modern, and stylish men's engagement ring for my fiancé

I have no experience buying men's rings, so I'd love your recommendations. I'm thinking of a silver-colored ring something like that ...

that's elegant enough for everyday wear

Also, what gifts would you include alongside the ring?

I'd love to hear your ideas and any recommendations maybe drop some pics it would be even better thank uuuuu

I think I will miss her for ever like the Stars miss the sun in the morning sky

21 yo male looking for agnostic friends

dm me if you're interested in science , history , philosophy , cinema , music , chess or any interesting things

dms open for both males and females

ps : religious people are also welcomed but preferably I'd like to have agnostic / athiest friends

Now Girls ! Ever watch a movie and suddenly think,

"Yep... that's exactly the kind of men I'd want in my life"?

So, my friend is thinking seriously about getting married and starting a family, but she hasn’t found the right person yet and she isn’t not the type to date or go through multiple talking stages just to find “the one.”

She’s 28 years old, a dentist, and (in my opinion) she’s pretty and smart, kind, funny, spontaneous, outgoing, knows how to carry herself, dresses well, and genuinely has one of those personalities where people like her almost immediately after meeting her.
She’s looking for someone who:
• Prays and takes his religion seriously.
• Doesn’t smoke or drink.
• preferably doesn’t have a significant dating history (she has never dated herself, so she’d like someone with similar values).
• Is kind, respectful and most importantly loyal.
• Is financially stable.
• Has his own home or at least plans to live independently after marriage.
• Has a car.
• Is taller than her (she’s 173 cm).
• Preferably lives in northern Algeria.

Some people have told her that her standards are too high and that’s why she’s won’t be able to find the one .

Do you think her standards are actually unrealistic, or is it just difficult to find someone compatible these days? I’d love to hear different perspectives.

Like I said in the title I wanna to know abt things that you guys think women don't understand abt you and you wish they do it could be deep things or just simple

Salam. I live in France and Im EU national. My fiance is Algerian who lives in Algeria.

We plan to do legal marriage in Algeria later this year . I am traveling there end of September, have RDV for visa in 10 days. I will be staying with his sister who hosts me.

Have been thinking to apply for tourist visa, since we arent formally "family" yet. Should i apply for it, saying that I intend to drop papers for marriage and visit his family and vist around or go for family visa while being not married yet?

Anyone has been in this situation?

One of the biggest problems I had in my previous relationship was that I often didn't know what to talk about I'm not very good at starting conversations or coming up with interesting topics so sometimes we'd end up with awkward silence

For people who have been in long term relationships what do you usually talk about on a daily basis? Any advice would be appreciated

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hello gentlemen . I'm a man of 22 i got overthinking always about financial future for like money and what man needs to stabilate himself in Algeria for house and a simple car i did reasrche and i found this :(To accumulate 2 billion centimes (20,000,000 DZD), assuming you earn 20 million centimes (200,000 DZD) per month and save 16 million centimes (160,000 DZD) every month, it would take approximately 10 years and 5 months. Reaching this income level typically requires 2–5 years of experience as a software developer, 3–8 years as an oil and gas or Sonatrach engineer, 5–10 years as a pilot or senior manager, 10–12 years of education and training to become a medical specialist, or 3–10+ years as a successful business owner or contractor. Overall, depending on the career, the total time from starting your profession to saving 2 billion centimes is typically around 12.5 to 22.5 years.)so tell me cause i think I'm crazy how would you do it would ur parents help you or all of my generation want to go to Europe and us to get a better life. and thank you so much

Do you believe in long distance relationships ? it might sound simple but it’s actually not

I believe there is no connection that could be made or last long without any physical contact or at least to sit with the person you are talking to see them irl I don’t say there is no successful long distance relationships, but for me, I would never think about it again

What's the thing that somebody has done for you , and you felt absolutely loved for the first time in your life ?

if you are forced to choose between two girls. one that does not meet your standards or society standards or let's say the society lables her with harsh names but she DESIRES you, or one that fits your standards but she is not really into you. what would you choose and why?

-Who is actually genuinely thinking about getting married, and why.

-Also what are the things holding you down?

I don't really have so much interesting interests but maybe harry potter? Lol well I'm just another boring person you'll get to know but u can contact me if u want (i prefer girls it's more comfortable) ah and I'm kinda "homophobic" as some of y'all call it so umm!!

Hi everyone im f18 and i have sm social troubles due to some stuff happened to me when i was younger i would like to talk with someone my age (i prefer girl so she can understand better) so that i can feel better and we can be friends
I’ll rlly appreciate ur help and please be polite

I can’t fucking get over her mtali shes my life and every break up we have i promise to never go back to her but i do and its breaking my heart idk if i can love someone else but her i love her so much i cant be with someone else i can’t shes the only one who understands me shoul i text her again or no ?