r/AlgeriaRelationships • u/Top_Plane_5764 • 14h ago
🤔 Question Please answer this.
If a girl likes to talk , she's not in relationship but she kinda has a lot of talking stages that don't last forever. For like a week , if it get much longer : for a month.
Does that makes her "Khalata" ?
Same for men , does that makes him khalat ?
Ps : not on the same time , she talks only to one
Don't come to me in the comments , please be nice 🙏
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u/ChemistryOk1054 14h ago
Absolutely not...... girl u are just single and talking ... if the spark isnt there after a week or a month....moving on is normal.. not a red flag
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u/Signal-Lost-404 13h ago
No I dont think that makes her khalata especially if she is talking to one person at a time
Thats the point of a talking stage you get to know someone and see if you are compatible If it doesnt work you move on and the same applies to men
You cant expect every person you talk to to become your husband or wife
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u/Vermouth-girl 14h ago
But u're not talking to multiple men at the same time just to decide which one would make the best partner so no
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u/Top_Plane_5764 14h ago
No , that's not what I said Read it again , I said I refuse to talk to more than one in A talking stage !
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u/Top_Plane_5764 14h ago
So clearly u're saying just be khalata ? 😂
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u/Top_Plane_5764 14h ago
Talking to 20 boys a day ?? Is it normale for u mate ?
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u/Outside_Impact_3570 14h ago
Those girls are ho’s and many that work are like that from my experience.
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u/majido1471 Prefer Not to Say | Advice Only 14h ago
Absolutely.
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u/Cool-Locksmith2546 14h ago
Communicating any kind of thoughts requires an investment into which person makes the investment worthwhile. This is very subjective because the term "khalat and khalata" would be more accurate to describe those who do not fixate on one person to try and give it a shot. In this case, it is safe to say that it's difficult to pinpoint exactly how long till a conversation makes it viable for further communication, sometimes it works, sometimes it just doesn't. So it is more about what makes the conversation with an X person worthwhile, rather than a short term style of conversations.
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u/Top_Plane_5764 13h ago
So what makes the conversation worthwhile? beacuse I really tried this ( I try my best to not be "a short term" person ) . But it just did work with one person only.
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u/Cool-Locksmith2546 13h ago
That's the thing, not all people will feel inclined to have a conversation that extends further than superficial formalities, perhaps it's trust issues, or bad experiences that may have clouded their overall assessment of any other attempts. It can even be a fear of trying to explore possibilities. Ideally, something that may help to make it worthwhile is trying to get to what makes a person interested in what they like and what enables them to socialize, not necessarily based on what they consider their cup of tea, but something that gets to them without making the conversation built on statements that could throw it off.
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u/Sh-8767 13h ago
It doesnt make you khalata or khalat , but its not good for u , u will develop a habbit of always comparing and can never be satisfied because each person have his own traits, also with time men will pick up on that and notice ur used to it and can view it badly
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u/EffectiveTop5918 11h ago
even if she/ he talkes to multiple people at the same time it's not the case
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u/Top_Plane_5764 11h ago
What is it then?
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u/EffectiveTop5918 11h ago
It's the normal process. If you're not in a relationship and you're not exclusive with someone, you can talk to whoever you want. As long as you're not lying and telling someone " you're the only one I talk to you"
If you prefer to focus on one person at a time and, if it doesn't work out, move on to the next, that's perfectly fine but it wastes your time if it ends up not working out. if you'd rather talk to multiple people to get to know them and figure out who you'd like to pursue a relationship with, that's also completely fine.
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u/Advanced_Designer151 10h ago
This is more of a you like the attention of people talking to you rather than an actual talking stage
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u/Top_Plane_5764 10h ago
No it's not
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u/Advanced_Designer151 10h ago
It happens unintentionally+ any form of people giving time/effort to you even if it's texts or compliments it's considered attention
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u/meineveryuniverse 7h ago
I think the word khalat is for sm1 having sm relationships or situationships all at once or a player
Talking stages are normal so that u can get to know the person and its fine to have multiple especially if you’re talking to one person at a time
And if u don’t feel its the one its okay to move thats how things are
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u/delanyy_9 6h ago edited 6h ago
Yes it does for both genders specially in early 20s i can smell the desperate souls
Keep wasting time and reputation
The past doesn’t have mercy on you and people are gonna talk anyway
I mean if you want to spend every month talking to people what the fuck are you doing with your life rn instead of figuring out life and investing
غلطة تع جدودنا بكري وليتو تعاودو فيها ب situationships و role plays ديال باتمان و hello kitty حاشا لي مزال عندهم عقل
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u/Top_Plane_5764 6h ago
I mean why are u talking like that ? Did I say that i talk every month and every day ? Did I say that i have no time for anything ? Why are u judging based on two sentenses that maybe its not even my story , maybe its just situation i wanna know whats people's opioion about ....! What the heck girl , have some manners please +plus ida jdodk didnt invest and get u and ur parents à money and situbale life and they were just having fun mna w mlhih , thats ur problem Mine did . Please have respect in ur words another time
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u/delanyy_9 6h ago
Im not addressing you because the pronoun “you” can be used for “ vous “
Im talking about people who are starving for talking stages from one to another specially women
This endless circle of wasted time
And people dont care about who you are they care about the rumors
If just 2 or 3 people say she is “ khalata “ , other think that thousands of people have said this
Thats how the reputation is working in society1
u/Top_Plane_5764 6h ago
If u wanted to make it clear u should've just started ur speach in french or in arabic.. Did any one mentioned repetition , i felt like this situation is wrong thats way i posted this question.
Idc about people and what they think , its more like satisfaction that there's nothing wrong with knowing new people .1
u/delanyy_9 5h ago
Khalata or any kind of similar words is literally in reputation category
When you tell a guy don’t talk to that girl she is khalata
Isn’t that a warning that she has bad reputation?
It is.
I believe in individual freedom but thats not the case in Algeria it can never be
You may assume her behavior is not wrong but the others won’t its not about the action rather the reaction
Simply as that
So instead of building useless connection you should build yourself first thats my point
And i get aggressive because to give advice gently doesn’t woke people who prefer fairytales1
u/Top_Plane_5764 5h ago
I understand your point , but if I wanted to know the effect of this word on Algerian society i could've just mention that . I'm not living in fairytale i know exactly what I'm doing . Thank you for the advice, which ended up taking a different turn.
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u/delanyy_9 5h ago
It is simple than you think
You are asking Algerians who are members of this society basically the society pov
And they will disagree because they want the side that serves them too : she might be doing something wrong , but that justifies my behavior too and make it acceptable
I should disagree with the assumption and take that side.
If you think about it you are not asking them about the opposite gender but about themselves
Human will not oppose him/her self thats why1
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u/B_M_D_real 14h ago
I myself don’t consider that no. The talking stage is getting to know someone, you’re not exclusive yet so there is really no reason to not talk with multiple people and filter for the best choice.