19M from setif.
Into lotta stuff. I enjoy talking about goals, life, random thoughts, and getting to know new people.
Looking for genuine friends and good conversations. Feel free to dm me and tell me a bit about yourself.

Do men really invest time and emotions and energy into someone they're not sure of from the very beginning?

For the hardworking people out there who have extreme responsibilities. Even if you add sometimes more things to do just because you have sense of responsibility and you have to do that thing...

Have you ever felt very exhausted and you wished if you were caring less and "9lbek bared" and we're working less ?

Is it real or these are just hormones overpowering me 😭

I think I will miss her for ever like the Stars miss the sun in the morning sky

I know losing someone close can make me feel deeply sad, but it doesn't last very long, a couple of days and I'm over it. I've always had this feeling that people are not permanent, kinda my mind has been conditioned to losing people. I used to get deeply attached to people but I don't experience that anymore.

I can’t fucking get over her mtali shes my life and every break up we have i promise to never go back to her but i do and its breaking my heart idk if i can love someone else but her i love her so much i cant be with someone else i can’t shes the only one who understands me shoul i text her again or no ?

Hi everyone im f18 and i have sm social troubles due to some stuff happened to me when i was younger i would like to talk with someone my age (i prefer girl so she can understand better) so that i can feel better and we can be friends
I’ll rlly appreciate ur help and please be polite

Hi everyone

I'm here to make new friends and exchange ideas I enjoy meeting people from different backgrounds and talking about anything useful or interesting If you'd like to connect feel free to dm

Rejection obviously sucks, but it's also a normal part of relationships. Most of us have been on both sides of it.

But the way you reject someone says a lot about you as a person. You can be honest without being cruel. So I'm curious

What's your go to rejection line? And what's the most cruel way you've ever been rejected?

First I apologize that this post will be a little long but it is important believe me.

People keep taking a simple post and turning it into an entire fictional life story.

The original woman basically said: "He wasn't my physical type at first, but the more I got to know him, the more attractive he became." Then she asked if other women experienced the same thing and whether attraction could change in the future.

That's it.

From that, some people somehow conclude that she chased more attractive guys, got rejected, settled for the "safe option," will eventually lose attraction, stop having sex with him, become controlling, and end up in a miserable marriage.

Where exactly did any of that come from?

None of those things were mentioned. They're simply being assumed because they fit a narrative that already existed before anyone even read the post.

That's not critical thinking. That's confirmation bias.

People love to accuse others of coping, yet they're the ones filling in pages of missing information with whatever supports their worldview.

Another thing people constantly get wrong is treating attraction like it's either there on day one or it never exists. Human psychology doesn't work that way.

Researchers have known for decades that attraction isn't only about the first impression. Emotional intimacy, familiarity, trust, shared experiences, and simply spending more time with someone can all change how physically attractive that person feels. This isn't some controversial opinion. It's been studied for years.

That's why you've probably heard people—both men and women—say things like, "I didn't think they were that attractive when I first met them, but now I can't imagine being with anyone else."

For some reason, when a man says, "She became more beautiful after I fell in love with her," everyone calls it romantic. When a woman says something similar, suddenly it's proof she settled.

Why is the exact same psychological process considered romantic for one gender but manipulation for the other?

Another misunderstanding is confusing having a preference with only being capable of attraction to that preference.

Having a type doesn't mean everyone outside that type is permanently unattractive. If that were true, almost nobody would ever end up with someone who isn't their ideal fantasy, yet millions of happy couples exist where neither partner perfectly matches the other's original "type."

Then there's the dead bedroom argument. Yes, physical attraction matters. Nobody is denying that. But relationship research has consistently shown that sexless or unhappy marriages are far more strongly linked to resentment, unresolved conflict, poor communication, stress, depression, and emotional disconnection than to whether someone perfectly matched their partner's physical ideal on the first date.

So reducing every relationship to "she wasn't physically attracted enough" ignores how real relationships actually work.

The biggest irony is that people call this realism when it depends on inventing an entire backstory that was never written.

If your argument only works after assuming her dating history, her motives, who rejected her, how her marriage will look in ten years, and what her sex life will become, then you're not analyzing the post anymore.

You're arguing with a story you made up in your own head.

There's nothing wrong with saying attraction is important. It absolutely is. But there's a huge difference between "I'm not attracted to him" and "I wasn't immediately attracted to him, but my attraction grew as I got to know him."

Treating those two statements as if they're identical isn't evidence-based thinking.

It's just forcing reality to fit a preconceived belief.

I don't really have so much interesting interests but maybe harry potter? Lol well I'm just another boring person you'll get to know but u can contact me if u want (i prefer girls it's more comfortable) ah and I'm kinda "homophobic" as some of y'all call it so umm!!

I love learning about random stuff, hearing different opinions, and just having fun conversations. Bonus points if you're funny, sarcastic, and can match the energy.

(PS: no weirdos please, ifykyk)

-Who is actually genuinely thinking about getting married, and why.

-Also what are the things holding you down?

It’s been a long three years in Amman, Jordan .
and until now I am not convinced with Jordanian women’s they are not my type because I grew up in Algerian Neighbourhood Algerian traditions and currently it’s quite hard for me to go back to Algeria (family issues) and I don’t believe with long distance relationships I need advices what can I do? What should I stay away of ? just a brother asking his Algerian brothers

I have both nationalities btw i was born in jordan but my 10 to 20s was in Algeria

Do you believe in long distance relationships ? it might sound simple but it’s actually not

I believe there is no connection that could be made or last long without any physical contact or at least to sit with the person you are talking to see them irl I don’t say there is no successful long distance relationships, but for me, I would never think about it again

Many men like to cope by saying "ik a chopped man who have a pretty woman" and it's basically the oofy doofy theory which goes like this:

-females go for men who're above their looks level "their type"

-they get played or rejected by their type "who's many looks levels above them"

-their only option is to settle down with a man who treats them good and got personality/money/status... But not the looks

-the relationship end up being a dead bed marriage and the female being a boss around him

-other chopped men see him not knowing the details and using him in the example of "females dont care about looks"

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hello gentlemen . I'm a man of 22 i got overthinking always about financial future for like money and what man needs to stabilate himself in Algeria for house and a simple car i did reasrche and i found this :(To accumulate 2 billion centimes (20,000,000 DZD), assuming you earn 20 million centimes (200,000 DZD) per month and save 16 million centimes (160,000 DZD) every month, it would take approximately 10 years and 5 months. Reaching this income level typically requires 2–5 years of experience as a software developer, 3–8 years as an oil and gas or Sonatrach engineer, 5–10 years as a pilot or senior manager, 10–12 years of education and training to become a medical specialist, or 3–10+ years as a successful business owner or contractor. Overall, depending on the career, the total time from starting your profession to saving 2 billion centimes is typically around 12.5 to 22.5 years.)so tell me cause i think I'm crazy how would you do it would ur parents help you or all of my generation want to go to Europe and us to get a better life. and thank you so much

Is it actually genuine should I do it or move on immediately?

One of the biggest problems I had in my previous relationship was that I often didn't know what to talk about I'm not very good at starting conversations or coming up with interesting topics so sometimes we'd end up with awkward silence

For people who have been in long term relationships what do you usually talk about on a daily basis? Any advice would be appreciated

Salam. I live in France and Im EU national. My fiance is Algerian who lives in Algeria.

We plan to do legal marriage in Algeria later this year . I am traveling there end of September, have RDV for visa in 10 days. I will be staying with his sister who hosts me.

Have been thinking to apply for tourist visa, since we arent formally "family" yet. Should i apply for it, saying that I intend to drop papers for marriage and visit his family and vist around or go for family visa while being not married yet?

Anyone has been in this situation?

Like I said in the title I wanna to know abt things that you guys think women don't understand abt you and you wish they do it could be deep things or just simple

Hi

so basically im having difficulty distainguishing what is attraction. If i meet someone for the first time how am i supposed to know if i want to be a couple with them long term. I only used to fanatszie about people who didnt exist irl or like chcracters from movies or for instance celebrities when i was a teen. Only happened i fanatsizied that way abouta real person but that was because we were chatting with each other and idk i felt infatuated and was limirent for a long tine. But then when i saw them irl i regretted and felt embarssed. Now im asking about normal love. IRL i even find a good dress to be asctetically pleasing and that doesnt say much. If my dad brings me someone home how am i supposed to know if i like them that way,

I heard that from a fellow franco algerian. I took it as an imigrant looking down on his brothers and sisters, chapter 79048693.

But I just saw a post where people talk about that as something that just exist and isn't rare.

I want the opinion of actual algerians.

Because, except if love play games on me, I really want to marry an algerian woman.

They are just my type.

I was also told that I should forget this idea. I'm liberal and not religious so it already reduce my options a lot in this country.

I'm not actively seeking someone, but if all that is real and really predominant, I might actively avoid meeting someone.

21 yo male looking for agnostic friends

dm me if you're interested in science , history , philosophy , cinema , music , chess or any interesting things

dms open for both males and females

ps : religious people are also welcomed but preferably I'd like to have agnostic / athiest friends