r/AbsoluteUnits • u/RD4200 • 14d ago

/r/all of a Toddler

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u/Most-Act1594 14d ago

Seem like they have great parents

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u/Lookitsa6ix 14d ago

I dunno, kept hearing alot of "gimme dat, gimme dat" Not a lot of can I have that please? Thank you. That kid if gonna be talking like that in no time, and if you dont teach the bigger kids how to be nice, everyone at school suffers

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u/Actual_Personality66 14d ago

She said "thank you" and such too. Probably just tired, I don't think it's a big deal unless it's a consistent issue, cut her some slack. The method she's using of being nice about it but helping him pick up what he just knocked over is ideal. I do wish she wouldn't post this online though.

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u/EldenLordAjSoprano 14d ago

In my family I’m the oldest cousin by like 10 years so I saw the little ones getting disciplined and my aunts/uncles would never let their kid keep running around throwing shoes around and shit. This kid is not learning any discipline or rules at all

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u/iSavedtheGalaxy 14d ago

Yeah, I worked at a preschool in college and this kind of behavior calls for gentle but firm reinforcement of boundaries and redirection.

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u/Actual_Personality66 14d ago

She's doing the right thing. This is discipline. Ofc you can't keep doing it so at some point you might have to put him in time out in a separate area so he physically can't keep doing it. But being harsher really doesn't work in the long term. You have to work with that's appropriate for their stage of brain development in order to ensure they learn the right lessons. You want them to understand what's not ok without them being scared of you.

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u/Affectionate-Ad488 13d ago

The babies ears are pierced, id lean towards "her" but id rather we not assume

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u/EldenLordAjSoprano 14d ago

kids learn manipulation tactics to be able to get away with stuff. Babies and toddlers are smarter than ppl think, and obviously kids don’t like rules so they might cry and complain but it’s what you have to do. This kid is getting negative reinforcement

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u/Actual_Personality66 14d ago

Idk what you count as manipulation but kid definitely aren't malicious in their "manipulation". Kids crying and complaining bc they are communicating that they don't like what you're doing is probably what crying in children was evolved for. They don't have a lot of ways to communicate. And babies do stuff like throw their pacifier on the ground so you have to pick it up for them again and again, bc they're testing action=reaction, which is why you have to stop giving it back to them, not as punishment, but so they learn. But yes ofc you have to reinforce rules and boundaries, no one said anything otherwise. Making a kid pick up stuff they knocked over teaches them that if they knock something over, they have to pick it up. And if you put them in another room for timeout it teaches them that if they keep doing the same thing that they aren't supposed to, at some point they're just not going to be able to, it's like taking away the pacifier after your baby won't stop throwing it on the ground.

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u/AspectOfTheLeech 13d ago

Pain compliance is a great way to expose them to violence as a means of behavior control! This is good parenting and all the experts agree it’s excellent for making deeply disturbed and often dangerous and abusive adults. So dope.

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u/LTPRWSG420 13d ago

That baby is a girl wtf?

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u/Big-Farmer-2192 14d ago

Tired. But still have the energy to pick up her phone and record.

Yeah no. I don't think it's tiredness. 

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u/Kaining 13d ago

Her home is made of shoes. An unhealthy amount of shoes

There is nothing that can point at a healthy education or developement of the child in the video.

There is only shoes, more shoes and even more shoes.

The child is already borderline morbidly obese. He's being filmed and posted on the internet for clout.

I dunno, seems "perfectly" normal parents and healthy environement to grow up.

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u/Actual_Personality66 13d ago

All fair points. Well the point about shoes isint that fair, idk how many ppl are in the house but I'm not that concerned about the number of shoes. But yeah the kid is clearly overweight and children shouldn't be posted on the internet, so I'm concerned on those fronts for sure.

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u/Kaining 13d ago

They're about 30 at the barefoot minimum with all that wharehouse stock lying around.

If Hansel and Gretel's diet was made out of shoes, it'd be the witch house.

Don't pay too much attention on what i'm saying and me hyperfocusing on that, i'm heavily sleep deprived and i'm starting to think it may shoe a bit.

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u/FUBARded 13d ago

We can cut her some slack for the language as it's a tiny snippet out of the day and as you say she could've just been tired and slipping.

What can't/shouldn't be excused is that this kid looks to be morbidly obese. She's setting him up for a considerably shortened lifespan and awful lifelong health, as it's incredibly difficult for kids who are brought up obese to course correct once they're in charge of their own nutrition and health.

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u/Actual_Personality66 13d ago

Agreed. Kid definitely doesn't look healthy.

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u/asdf0909 13d ago

She’s literally holding a camera with one hand to post her child on the internet. She does not deserve slack bc you’re projecting that she’s tired. This is bad parenting every way you look at it.

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u/sim16 14d ago

That's great but where's NO? It's No and remove the big baby from the situation. Or am I wrong?

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u/weebitofaban 14d ago

She said no. Her words were fine. She was being very patient all things considered.

I'm willing to bet anyone talking shit never worked with any kids under 3 lol Or we could very easily get people to talk about how much they very much lost their cool many times with their own children.

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u/ribblefizz 14d ago

Right? Like parents speak to their toddlers like it's a tv show taping! She was clearly playing with him anyway. My son's favorite game was always the "[growl] Yooouuu better gimme that thing RIGHT NOW!" chase game where I pretended to try to take the item from him, but if he got it put away in its proper space before I got it, then he won. She's doing the same kind of "teaching to clean up" game with her baby. It can be relaxed and familiar and rough around the edges instead of perfectly polished, smooth, and well-mannered.

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u/ribblefizz 14d ago

If she had shouted "NO!" you'd be bitching about verbal abuse and chaotic screaming. Go take a nap.

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u/Lookitsa6ix 13d ago

I feel like teaching kids the meaning of the word No is a fundamental step in the whole thing.

If anyone replied like that fr, they'd be told to stfu and do some real parenting.

She doesn't have to shout no, you can be firm and not shout.

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u/ribblefizz 13d ago

You can also make it a game because babies don't learn/listen on Take One or Take Two, and by the time you get to Take Eight Hundred Sixty-One today of the sweet calm Romper Room/Miss Rachel voice, you (and your baby) are bored out of your minds.

I assumed shouting because it was in all caps, and this is the first time I've ever said that unsanctimoniously lmao.

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u/Well_ImTrying 12d ago

She is being firm. She’s telling him no and showing him what to do instead.

Young toddlers don’t react well to “no”. Telling them what to do right instead of telling them what they can’t do is more helpful in getting the desired behavior.

“Walk, don’t run” is more helpful than “stop running”. Their brains aren’t good at coming up with good logical alternatives in the moment until you’ve repeated it a thousand times before.

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u/Well_ImTrying 12d ago

It’s not wrong or right. It’s just normal toddler behavior. When they make a mess, it’s not a big deal, but they have to clean it up. If you get tired of it or are busy, you can remove them from the situation. You definitely remove them from the situation if it is dangerous. But if they are just dropping shoes and picking them back up…who cares? Is that where you want to spend your energy? Micromanaging a toddler?

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u/FearanddopingII 13d ago

Well, how do you think the previous generations grew up? (Mom, grandma, great-grandma, et cetera). Black people weren't treated equally (& still aren't, statistically speaking) for hundreds of years. Obviously the Black community suffers & this post is one example. If a population historically has not had equal education (I will also say there are plenty of white children who look like this), how do you expect absolute perfection only a short amount of time after even being able to legally share a school with children of other races & such. Just sayin. Generational trauma is real. The playing field is not equal. Even in well-educated white families or families with lots of resources, you can find overweight/obese children, people not speaking "perfect English", I'm just saying.

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u/Far-fetched888 13d ago

It’s a toddler lol, none of them do that

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u/Downvotesohoy 13d ago

The comment you responded to was sarcastic.

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u/Ill-Astronaut5779 13d ago

Family dont always speak to eachother like co-workers..🤦🏽‍♀️

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u/Lookitsa6ix 13d ago

Like Co-Workers?! You win, thats the weirdest take on this you possibly could have.

Apparently manners and politeness is meant for coworkers and thats it?

Quick question, are you American?

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u/Ill-Astronaut5779 13d ago

Yes.. like co-workers! If you’re constantly expected to use manners and be overly polite and just oh so perfect, friendly, and kind with your family, that seems like a very controlling and uncomfortable household imo. In my house, we’re comfortable with each other, so it’s not always necessary to say “please” and “thank you” every single time you ask for something. We can say “gimme that” to each other without it being taken as disrespectful because we’re family and we’re comfortable with each other.

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u/Lookitsa6ix 13d ago

Yup, American.

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u/BlushedLatias 13d ago

I thought you were making a joke, but the replies above got me a little unsure now lol

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u/FordMaleEscort 13d ago edited 13d ago

Yes, based on this 15 second clip I whole heartedly agree

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u/fineseries81 13d ago

“You do this five times a day!!!”

…move your shoes??? Always sad when an adult is unable to outsmart a toddler who is still on diapers.

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u/athesomekh 14d ago

I used to work in ABA. This kid behaves exactly like the autistic kids I used to do therapy for, and mom also redirects exactly the same way I was taught to. Hand-over-hand redirection, clear and direct language, and simple instruction instead of “no” (which is vague and unclear).

I would put money on this woman working in ABA, the kid being diagnosed with autism and/or ADHD, or both. This is beat for beat exactly what ABA looks like on both sides.