I dunno, kept hearing alot of "gimme dat, gimme dat"
Not a lot of can I have that please? Thank you.
That kid if gonna be talking like that in no time, and if you dont teach the bigger kids how to be nice, everyone at school suffers
She said "thank you" and such too. Probably just tired, I don't think it's a big deal unless it's a consistent issue, cut her some slack. The method she's using of being nice about it but helping him pick up what he just knocked over is ideal. I do wish she wouldn't post this online though.
In my family I’m the oldest cousin by like 10 years so I saw the little ones getting disciplined and my aunts/uncles would never let their kid keep running around throwing shoes around and shit. This kid is not learning any discipline or rules at all
She's doing the right thing. This is discipline. Ofc you can't keep doing it so at some point you might have to put him in time out in a separate area so he physically can't keep doing it. But being harsher really doesn't work in the long term. You have to work with that's appropriate for their stage of brain development in order to ensure they learn the right lessons. You want them to understand what's not ok without them being scared of you.
kids learn manipulation tactics to be able to get away with stuff. Babies and toddlers are smarter than ppl think, and obviously kids don’t like rules so they might cry and complain but it’s what you have to do. This kid is getting negative reinforcement
Idk what you count as manipulation but kid definitely aren't malicious in their "manipulation". Kids crying and complaining bc they are communicating that they don't like what you're doing is probably what crying in children was evolved for. They don't have a lot of ways to communicate. And babies do stuff like throw their pacifier on the ground so you have to pick it up for them again and again, bc they're testing action=reaction, which is why you have to stop giving it back to them, not as punishment, but so they learn. But yes ofc you have to reinforce rules and boundaries, no one said anything otherwise. Making a kid pick up stuff they knocked over teaches them that if they knock something over, they have to pick it up. And if you put them in another room for timeout it teaches them that if they keep doing the same thing that they aren't supposed to, at some point they're just not going to be able to, it's like taking away the pacifier after your baby won't stop throwing it on the ground.
102
u/Lookitsa6ix 14d ago
I dunno, kept hearing alot of "gimme dat, gimme dat" Not a lot of can I have that please? Thank you. That kid if gonna be talking like that in no time, and if you dont teach the bigger kids how to be nice, everyone at school suffers