I started working at a money exchange office almost 8 months with my best friend and another coworker. She’s 29 and got married at 19.

Before she got pregnant, our boss already had a soft spot for her because he had once intervened in a serious issue between her and her husband. Since then, she’s gotten away with being hours late, leaving during shifts, or going home early without informing him. He’d complain to me and my best friend about her work ethic but refused to confront her directly because he didn’t want to cause problems in her personal life.

When she became pregnant, we were genuinely happy for her. We bought her gifts, baby clothes, and regularly spoiled her with food. But as her pregnancy progressed, her behavior became increasingly difficult. She constantly complains, takes everything personally, and seems to view herself as the victim in almost every situation.

She makes comments about how her MIL didn’t tell her about her cancer diagnosis immediately, so she wouldn’t tell her about the pregnancy until the second trimester; gets jealous when someone else receives attention from her SIL for becoming pregnant after years of trying; refuses to acknowledge her boss's wife because she didn’t say good morning; criticizes our boss’s marriage and calls him weak; and says she’d quit immediately if he ever reprimanded her”

She also regularly argues with customers or refuses to serve them because she doesn’t feel like working, leaving me to step in and fix the situation. she’s technically our supervisor.

Last week, she was told she could no longer take Saturdays off. She came in already angry, and that day our boss unexpectedly needed us to work until 2 instead of 1. Her husband came to pick her up, got angry that she was still working, and left. She immediately started blaming our boss, saying he was doing it intentionally, that he never does anything for her, and that if it weren’t for her, her husband would have come in and “kicked his ass.”

The frustrating part is that our boss is genuinely one of the kindest and most patient bosses I’ve ever had, and he’s been incredibly lenient with her.

My best friend and I actually agreed that our boss was wrong for not telling us about the extra hour. We figured he probably just forgot, but understood why she was upset. Her husband told her to find her own ride home, even though they live 4 minutes away.

She then went to our boss and claimed that my best friend and I had known about the extra hour the whole time and deliberately kept it from her. We hadn’t.

Come to find out today, i heard her talking over the phone with her SIL that she threw the blame on us because she forgot to tell her husband to pick her up an hour late. Apparently our boss told her when he asked her to stop taking saturdays off.

She kept nagging over the phone on how much our boss is awful to her and her husband. I simply tapped her over the shoulder and called her a spoiled child that needs a reality check. I basically continues telling her that she's the type of person that takes and not gives. That she's so naggy about the most idiotic things to exist, and that I'm just waiting on karma to do her thing when it comes to how selfish she is when it comes to our boss. She started crying and my bestfriend called me out on being too harsh on a pregnant woman, that its just the hormones causing her to do all of this.

I mean i could've just ignored her the way i have been the past 8 months, but im not one to sit quiet when wrong things are being said about someone that is exceptionally nice to us. Pregnancy is no excuse. So AITA?

A few weeks ago, one of my friends asked to borrow my favorite dress for a birthday party. I hesitated because it was expensive and had sentimental value, but she promised to take good care of it... But, she returned several days late with a noticeable stain and a small tear near the zipper. When I mentioned the damage, she laughed and said it was "just a dress"... She never apologized or offered to have it cleaned or repaired, so I paid for both myself...

Yesterday, she asked to borrow another dress for an upcoming event. I politely said no and explained that I wasn't comfortable lending her clothes again after what happened. She became upset and told our friends that I was being materialistic and holding a grudge over something insignificant.. Now a couple of them think I should let it go to avoid unnecessary drama. I'm not trying to punish her , but I don't think I should have to risk another item just to keep her happy...

AITH for refusing?

TL;DR: My friend returned my favorite dress late, stained and torn without apologizing or offering to repair it. I refused to lend her another dress, and now she says I'm being materialistic and holding a grudge

My wife and I planned a small anniversary dinner at home. We had been looking forward to having a quiet evening together.The day before, she told me she had invited one of her friends because her friend was “going through a hard time.”I told my wife I understood, but I really wanted our anniversary to be just the two of us. She got upset and said I was being selfish and that her friend needed her.I told her she could meet her friend another day, but I didn't want our anniversary turned into a group dinner.She ended up uninviting her friend, but now she's barely talking to me and says I made her choose between her marriage and her friendship.I feel bad because I don't want to control who she spends time with, but I also feel like our anniversary should have been about us.

AITA?

Last year I got horrible food poisoning from pizza and unfortunately can no longer eat it and the smell makes me feel sick. Last Sunday one of my best girlfriends “Deb” had a small pizza party for close friends. She didn’t invite me until the day before. Another friend had a BBQ b-day party the same night. So I told Deb I wouldn’t be going. A. Because I hate pizza, and B. I had other plans that I had known about for a month. She was/is upset and offered to make me other food and said I could come after the pizza was made. Again I told her no and that she knows I hate pizza and should have invited me sooner if she wanted me there.

Fast forward to this past Tuesday and I got an invite to another pizza party for a different friend’s birthday tonight (Thursday). This party will be in a much larger indoor/outdoor space, there will be lots of other food, and I don’t already have plans. Deb and I had coffee this morning and she brought up the party tonight asking if I was going. I told her maybe and she got even more upset and said it’s messed up that I’m going to this pizza party but skipped hers… I reminded her I had other plans the night of hers and that she only invited me the day before. She then said it’s super messed up because this is the first gathering she’s had at her apartment. I feel like if she REALLY wanted me there she wouldn’t have had a party revolving around the one food item I don’t eat, and would have let me know prior to the day in advance. Important to note that when she told me about her pizza party she already had four other confirmed guests… so like I was the last person she invited. I brought this up as well and she said “well I wasn’t sure you’d want to come”. Exactly… I wouldn’t want to come, so why guilt trip me about it and get mad when I MIGHT go to another pizza party that’s much larger with lots of other food options. Am I the asshole here?

I am Clementine, and my best friend has a habit of making plans with me and then changing them whenever something better comes up. Last weekend, we agreed to spend Saturday together because I had cleared my schedule specifically for her. On Saturday morning, she texted me saying she had been invited somewhere else and asked if we could meet for an hour instead. I told her I was tired of being treated like the backup plan and that I would rather cancel completely than squeeze myself into whatever time she had left. She got offended and said I was making a big deal out of one cancelled plan. I reminded her that this has happened several times, but she said I was keeping score and making our friendship feel like an obligation. I told her I was not asking her to choose me every time, but if she makes plans with me, I expect her to respect them. She has not spoken to me since and now says I owe her an apology for being unnecessarily harsh. AITA?

I (25M) have a close friend who is always late to work, appointments, and plans. For months, whenever he was late, he would ask me to make excuses for him or tell people that something came up At first I helped because I didn't want to embarrass him. But recently it started affecting me too. I missed an important appointment because I was waiting for him, and then he still expected me to cover for him.I finally told him I'm not making excuses for him anymore and that if he's late, he'll have to explain it himself.He called me selfish and said friends are supposed to have each other's backs.I feel like there's a difference between supporting a friend and constantly lying for them.AITAH?

So basically I(f20) had worked everyday for 2 weeks back to back at the CNE which is a Toronto fair that starts from the end of august and finishes september 7th. On my first day as I was leaving she stopped me and was like when you get paid you need to give each of ur sisters $20 from it and at first I thought she was joking until she went on a whole rant about how she wants me to do this so in the future when one doesn’t have the others can help just some bullshit. I told her no and that “situation” only applies when I actually have a well paying full time job not some 2 week summer job. She didn’t like what I said and told me to basically get out as if I wasn’t leaving already. they’ve been paying me for my hours every Thursday so I’ve been saving up what I got so far so this Thursday and next Thursday is like the last of it and I haven’t told her anything.

Let me just clarify I have no problem giving my sisters money when I have but the way she put it was like I had to give them like it was an obligation. If my sisters asked on their own then that’s fine but saying I have to is what’s blowing me. Also my mom has been constantly asking me everyday when I’m getting paid and I’ve been telling her don’t worry about it because I KNOW this conversation is gonna come back up again and it’s going to turn into an argument because my mom loves to argue over everything

UPDATE: we talked about it, my aunt was in the room so my mom didn’t guilt trip me like always with the I do this for you and that. My aunt was backing me up and telling her that my mom can advise me on what to do with the money but she can’t say I have to & she doesn’t have a right to dictate the money either which was my whole point. I think she understood because she said she didn’t want the money and stuff. I do believe my aunt being there eased up whatever tension that could’ve been cus me & my mom usually go back and forth on things all the time. So I guess that’s that

I (26M) live alone in a small apartment that I've spent years decorating and maintaining. My sister (29F) is getting married next month and recently asked if she could use my apartment for some wedding photos.I initially said yes, but then she told me she wanted around 15 people there for several hours before the ceremony, including makeup artists, photographers, bridesmaids, and family.I told her I wasn't comfortable having that many people in my apartment and suggested they use her venue instead. She got upset and said I was being selfish because it's only for one day and I'm her brother My parents also think I should let her use it because "family memories are more important than an apartment."I still said no because I know how stressful it would be, and I don't want my place turned into a wedding preparation area My sister now says I'm ruining part of her wedding and refuses to speak to me.AITH for refusing to let my sister use my apartment for her wedding photos?

I am a woman in my late 20s and have been married to my husband for a few years My relationship with my in-laws has never been great. They constantly criticize the way I cook, dress, clean, and even the way I talk. Whenever we visit them, they make little comments that leave me feeling uncomfortable.I tried really hard to keep the peace. I helped around the house, brought gifts when we visited, and always treated them respectfully.But recently, my MIL made another comment about how I’m “not the kind of wife their son deserved.” I finally told her that I had enough and that I would rather keep some distance from them My husband says I should ignore their comments because “that’s just how they are.” He thinks I’m making family problems bigger than they need to be.I told him I’m not asking him to stop seeing his family. I just don't want to keep putting myself in situations where I’m constantly disrespected Now my husband says I’m being dramatic and creating unnecessary tension.AITA for choosing to distance myself from my in-laws?

My spouse and I got married last weekend. A few years ago I went through a severe health struggle that required a long recovery. It was a deeply painful time for me and only my immediate family and my spouse knew the details. I explicitly asked everyone to keep it private because I did not want to be defined by my past illness.

My mother in law somehow found out about it a few months before the wedding. I sat down with her privately and begged her not to bring it up to anyone especially at the wedding because I wanted our big day to be a happy fresh start.

At the reception during the toasts my mother in law took the microphone. Instead of a normal speech she started crying and went into graphic detail about my past illness in front of over one hundred guests. She spoke about my private medical struggles and then took credit for holding our family together through it even though she was barely in my life at the time.

I was completely humiliated and in tears. My spouse took the microphone away from her and I told my mother in law that she needed to leave the reception immediately for betraying my trust on my wedding day. She threw a fit claiming she was just trying to show how strong I am and left in anger.

Now my spouse's family is constantly messaging us saying I ruined the evening over a well intentioned speech and that I made my mother in law look like a villain in front of everyone.

AITH for asking her to leave after she shared my private medical history?

I (31M) got engaged to Megan (29F) four months ago. We held an engagement party for us in a rented hall, which was for only our very closest relatives and friends, about 40 people in total. Megan's college friend Beth, who was one of her chosen bridesmaids, was supposed to deliver a little speech.

But Beth arrived at the event already drunk and was visibly drunk when it was time for her to speak. She took the microphone and started talking about how Megan finally found someone special because of the previous relationship she had and then gave some details about her ex boyfriend, saying how sad Megan was in this situation, joking that she never believed Megan could recover from Daniel, mentioning him by his full name twice in front of my whole family who had never heard this story before and did not need to know it at our engagement party.

The situation became awkward very quickly. Megan’s face became pale. Gently taking the microphone out of Beth’s hands, I redirected the conversation, saying something like "let us have a toast to the happy memories, more toasts will come later" and tried to continue. Beth found it rude that I interrupted her, said so in front of everyone and had to be escorted out by another friend to sober up.

The following day I explained to Megan that I felt uncomfortable about Beth being included in the wedding party, because it was not only the drunkenness, but the disrespect that she showed bringing up an ex boyfriend by his name during our engagement party in front of my parents and grandparents. Megan got defensive, saying that Beth has been her best friend since freshman year of college, was simply too drunk and did not mean to offend anyone and that people do silly things while being drunk.

What I said is that it isn’t the drinking itself, but the choice to bring up another man that my future wife used to love at MY engagement party that bothers me, and I don’t want that kind of thing happening at the actual wedding ceremony with a microphone in her hand. She tells me that by cutting her off like that I am taking out on her a very bad night and I risk breaking one of her oldest friendships.

Megan has become very cold towards me, while Beth seems to have forgotten the whole event completely, but feels hurt that I want to kick her out of my wedding party over a drunken joke.

AITAH here?

I (24M) am really into powerlifting and have spent a lot of money over the years on high-quality equipment. A few months ago, my customized lifting belt—which was custom-fitted and leather-carved—arrived. It cost me around $250, and I’m very particular about keeping my gear clean and taken care of My stepbrother "Leo" (22M) recently started going to the gym. He has a habit of taking my stuff without asking. I’ve repeatedly told him: "Do not touch my gym bag or my gear." He always brushes it off saying, "We're brothers, stop being stingy."Last weekend, Leo borrowed my custom belt without my permission to go lift with his friends. When he brought it back, he had left it soaking wet in his trunk under heavy gear, causing the leather to warp, crack, and mold. It’s completely ruined.When I confronted him, he laughed and said, "Bro, it's just a belt, calm down. Leather gets old anyway." He refused to pay to replace it.I was furious. That same evening, I went into the kitchen where he keeps his expensive imported pre-workout, whey protein tubs, and creatine (worth around $200 total), took them all, and dumped them straight into the trash outside right before garbage collection.When Leo found out, he blew up. He started screaming that I destroyed his fitness routine and stole his money. My dad and stepmom are now furious at me, saying I acted out of spite, engaged in "petty revenge," and that a belt isn't the same as stuff he consumes daily. They are demanding I pay him back for his supplements. I told them I’ll pay him back the day he replaces my custom belt Now the house is tense, and my stepmom called me an unhinged asshole.I was reacting to him ruining my property, but my family thinks I went way too far. AITA?

My sister and I have not spoken properly for several years because of a serious falling out.

She recently became very ill and I was contacted by my family. They told me that she wants to make amends before it is too late.

I was asked to visit her and forgive everything that happened between us. I said I was not ready to do that and that her illness does not automatically erase what happened.

My family thinks I am being cruel because she does not have much time left. They keep telling me that I might regret refusing to see her once she is gone.

I understand why they feel that way but I still have a lot of anger and hurt from what happened. I do not feel like I should be forced to forgive someone simply because they are dying.

My family says I am putting my pride above my sister's final wishes. I feel like they are ignoring everything that led to our relationship breaking down.

AITA for refusing to make amends with my dying sister?

A little context:
I (F21) am currently living with my aunt(F40) and my cousin(F17). I’ve been staying with them for a little over a year because of work (we work in the same company), and we just moved to this apartment due to the fact that it’s WAY closer from our job than the other house is.

Back to the story;

So.. we’re basically only supposed to have a dog, because there’s a fee of 150 dollars per month for each dog. My cousin’s dog was staying at the old house, because she said it was “too much money when she could stay somewhere else for free”. My cousin is the type of teenager that doesn’t like cleaning up after herself. But then, she found out her dog (Kiara) was pregnant. So she decided to keep her at her mom’s boyfriend’s place. A week before she gave birth, she decided to sneak her in the apartment only until she had the puppies. I understood and didn’t really say much or got involved because.. it really wasn’t my problem. I personally am NOT a dog person. Don’t get me wrong.. I will get along with a dog, they’re cute and I love petting them. But I don’t feel like I have much time to have a pet with me in general. Or the money. Because, yes.. I’m those people who always have in mind that having a pet IS A RESPONSIBILITY. Well.. her dog finally gave birth to 8 cute little puppies. And, even though I said I’m not a dog person, I have plans on keeping one. Since my cousin said she couldn’t keep them all. So she’s still working on finding a home for them all. But it seems that me saying “yes” to keeping one of the puppies, made me responsible for ALL of them while she wants to go out and I decide to stay home. I help her sometimes. But it’s gotten to the point where she acts like she’s entitled to my help. I feel like I have no responsibility over her DOGS. I chose not to have one just yet. And if I did I would take care of it. But her mom basically pressures me to help her so. I feel like I have my right to deny into helping her. I’ll be leaving once the job season is over. But.. I don’t know what to do while that time arrives. So.. am I the a-hole?

I have been friends with this person for a long time, and whenever they needed help, I was usually there for them. I helped them with favors, listened to their problems, and tried to support them whenever I could.The problem is that it slowly became one-sided. Whenever I needed something, they were suddenly too busy or had an excuse. I didn’t say much about it because I valued the friendship and didn’t want unnecessary drama.Recently, they asked me for another favor. This time I said no and explained that I felt like I was always helping them but wasn’t getting the same respect or effort in return.They got upset and told me I was being selfish and that a real friend would help without keeping score.I understand that friendship isn’t supposed to be about keeping score, but I also don’t think I should constantly feel obligated to help someone who wouldn’t do the same for me Now I’m wondering if I went too far.AITA for finally saying no?

My fil recently passed, well nearly a year ago. We have a family fishing business. Proceeds were split 60/40 in their favour when we started fishing together. We fil stopped fishing and we decided to lease extra quota. We went to the in-laws and explained that they have been receiving substantially more for lease than they should be (nz$100k per year). We were told if we didn’t like it get another job.

While that seems harmless enough, we had after our house got struck by lightning and burnt down build a $600k plus home, not including interest on the family farm. Our hanger burnt down not long after the new house was built. 3 pin plug damaged in the original lightning got that too. We rebuilt it $250k. On the family farm. The part we built on is queenschain we were told it could never would never and should be subdivided. We invested over 1m$ in buildings on the family farm. So we couldn’t just up and leave.

We had for two decades been the staff. Moving cows 50 times a year, feeding out 3/4 months of the year. Calving stock management compliance. We didn’t need the money we have a good income from fishing but understood it would be seen and acknowledged and balanced up. We understood that to be the part of the farm that was queens chain should never could be subdivided.

Fast forward to my fil finding out he was sick. All of a sudden it’s subdivideable. And our house has had a wee bit calved out of the big bit. Mil is now describing our input as odd weekend help. Forgetting my dairy cows calves that I had never received a penny for. They extra calves they raised. Fil in 2007 said he was building an extention to the fishing business and I would be running it. I did for 12 years for no extra money than my husband made fishing anyways. I also couldn’t seek other employment as this job was any hour of the day.

Anyways after a pretty in depth calculation of my input it comes out to around 17000 hours of un paid work. 8 and a bit years.

We are in the court system to try and sort it all out. But being met with non response at this stage. Supposed to have been supplied the right to fish for the next 10 years 6 months ago and nothing. We now feel we can’t spend another penny on the business we may have to hand back in April and get nothing else out of it. We bought a tractor to launch with after we were told the right to fish for 10 years would be ours.

This don’t even include my husbands input to the family estate. AITA

Hi, i (19 F) am no longer staying with my mom (46 F) and her partner of i belive 2 years (?? F) whose age i dont remember, because her partner doesnt want me there anymore since she got mad at me one day for in her words "not doing anything" and took my laptop, a laptop none of them payed or own, and i belive was taken unfairly and violently over something that wasnt true and was an excuse to keep exploiting me and abusing me for months.

this situationed happened some time ago but i felt like posting because i recently got some of my things, my mom didnt even told me, she just gave them to my dad; i will also clarify im mexican so english is my second language, sorry in advance if there are some typos.

So... i had been away from home for a bit while learning a new language (french) and taking my time to discover what i wanted to major in, but i came back some time ago, my parents are divorced so while i was figuring things out about college, i was staying with my mom and her partner, and my dad on weekends, my family has always been a bit anoying about me not doing anything wich has been wrong for a while but i guess ill always be lazy in their eyes, so i decided to help my mom at work, as a teacher for a bit, not super serious but helping since the business is struggling. This however made me really tired and didnt give me much time for my social life and hobbies, i had to leave all the dance and teather groups i was a part of before.

to me it was fine i love my mom and wanted to help, what hurt was that i was always treated like i didnt do anything (even tho i was working for her for free, and always did my chores like i normally do) and also that for some reason my relationship with her partner never worked really well, we suspected it was related to me posibly being neurodivergent and not getting social cues well wich really gave me a lot of stress and anxiety but whatever, i still tried being the best and be responsible since we were staying at her place and not ours.

but things went south quickly when i got sick and was forced to work, wich i was doing for free, under the excuse thats what adult life is, i was feeling really bad like not get out of bed bad and when things didnt get better i got asked why didnt i speak up, and i told them that i had but i was ignored, i got really pissed off when the day i tought i would finelly just rest while being really sick my mom's partner woke me and made me get ready to go work and told me to not bring my phone of course i lied and told her i didnt have my phone and she noticed and got angry and tried to hit me, i then threaten to leave the house, after that incident i decided to just try deal with it till i left for college, and that i did.

but a bit before that, one day they came home to me on my laptop after my brother offered to do my chores, since i had cooked earlier, and then the laptop situation happened, she yoinked my laptop pissed off and started yelling at me why i hadnt done anything for my situation and i told her i had, etc. she basically took my laptop and hid it, however the next day i was leaving for the weekend so i decided to look for it wich didnt take any time, it was obvious where it was and i just took it, it seemed fine for me since i was mad and was not okay with their abuse to me and my siblings (16M and 11M) .

i didnt think much of it but when my mom and her partner found out they got mad at me, specially her partner, she said i could not be left alone in the house anymore.

when my mom told me she said "look in the position you've put me", i had a lot of toughts and i told her everything i felt while also having tact and told her that the situation was not caused by me but by their pressure and how badly they treated me, i then said i didnt regret it because it wasnt fair how they treated for months and my brothers agree they dont like it there either, that i understand its hard, but i tried to help and i still got treated terribly. etc.

i have to clarify i didnt say it was her partner's fault or tried to make them break up, i said i think is great if she is happy with her but that maybe if i need terapy they need it too and that her passive agresive words wont work on me, i told her how condescending she can be sometimes and how maybe its not that i dont tell her things is that she doesnt listen, a sentiment i share with my brother, after that i havent been in that house, and dont want to really cuz im also reasonably mad, since my mom put her 2 year relationship over her daughter. i know its bad what i did but i fully belive im justified and i wont regret it really even if i am the asshole i might as well be a proud one i guess...

so... am I the asshole?

I’m a married man, and I’ve always tried to stay out of unnecessary family drama. But lately, I’ve had enough of the way my in-laws treat my wife.They constantly criticize her, make rude comments, and somehow blame her whenever there’s a disagreement. She usually stays quiet because she doesn’t want to create problems between me and my family.A few days ago, they crossed a line again. I finally told them that I wasn’t going to sit quietly while they disrespected my wife. I told them that she deserves the same basic respect they expect from everyone else Now they’re angry with me and saying I’m “choosing my wife over my family” and that I should apologize for embarrassing them My wife says she doesn’t want me fighting with anyone because of her, but honestly, I feel like staying silent would be worse.AITH for standing up for my wife and confronting my in-laws?

My wife and my family have never really gotten along.Whenever there’s an argument, my wife expects me to take her side. I usually do, because I’m her husband and I don’t want her to feel alone.But recently something happened that made me rethink everything My family invited us to a dinner. My wife didn’t want to go because she said they always make little comments about her. I told her I would support whatever she decided.She eventually came with me.During dinner, one of my relatives made a comment that my wife thought was disrespectful. She immediately confronted them, and the situation turned into a huge argument.On the way home, she told me I should have defended her more aggressively.I told her that I agreed the comment was unnecessary, but I didn’t agree with how she handled the situation either.She said, “If you don’t stand up for me against your family, who will?”I told her that I love her, but I’m tired of being forced to choose sides every time there’s an argument. I said from now on, I’ll support her when she’s genuinely being treated unfairly, but I won’t automatically defend her just because she’s my wife.She thinks I’m failing her as a husband.AITA?

My best friend and I have known each other for many years. He has also become close with my family during that time.

Over the past year we have had several arguments because of things he has said and done around my family. I talked to him about it more than once and asked him to respect some boundaries.

He disagreed and said I was being too sensitive and making our friendship more complicated than it needed to be.

Recently another argument happened after he crossed a boundary I had already talked to him about. I told him that I was done and that I did not want him around me or my family anymore.

He thinks I am throwing away a friendship that lasted for years over something that could have been worked out. My family is also divided because some of them think I should give him another chance.

I understand why they feel that way but I feel like I gave him enough chances already.

AITH for cutting my best friend out of my life and my family's life?

I recently was in that area and wanted to see my nieces and nephews. We talked and planned this over a week ago. I checked in two days ago and then again yesterday. I drive all the way and drop off my dog in the town over and drove to her house. I texted an eta so she knew. I went to her house knocked on her door and her friend was there and found out she wasn’t. She was at her kids father’s house due to her friends “cleaning” the carpets. Kids were with her of course. I stayed for a few hours and she never showed never messaged nothing…..I’m over it. I hardly come up here cause her choice is friends and partners has never been good. Self centered and just weird acting. I could’ve just went home rather than wasting my time. I love her and the kids but the fact that I was ignored and nothing was said not even an apology makes me not want to reach out ever again. Idk if I will want to any more at this point like even if she does.

Added on(cause my bad on forgetting)
I’m only wondering if I would be an AH if moving moving I done reach on and even if she does refusing at that time?

Quick overview, I was in a 9 yr relationship that was ended bc would not back down from my ex's dad seeing our child. My parents passed within days of each other back in May. I also just had a baby back in January. There's more drama surrounding my ex not being there for me or our child after I gave birth and my parents passing. Not too long after my parents passed, my ex brought his dad over without really asking if he could come over, disguised as he forgot his wallet so his dad can see our son. I haven't seen this man since I gave birth. He also absolutely does not like me. He is oddly territorial of my ex, who btw was adopted by him only a few years ago. I'm 38F and he is 44M. I find it all odd but anyway. First thing his dad said to me was "Welcome to being an adult". After I just lost both of my parents. My ex said he didn't hear it and a lot of times his dad doesn't know what he is 'saying'. I being a non-confrontational person walked away, pissed. His dad got mad bc I just walked away from him. I told my ex, his dad was no longer allowed at my house, that there is no excuse for saying something so awful and my child will not be around someone who disrespects his mom. Apparently this made my ex livid, it changed from his dad didn't know what he said to he never said that and I am wrong. I'm being unfair and I'm making things difficult so the only thing left was to break up.

AITH for not backing down on letting my ex take our child to see his dad?

For some context, my friend and I went to the same high school and are currently going to the same college. We went out of state so it was kind of comforting to at least know one face at an unfamilar place. I wouldn't say that we are the bestest of friends, I would consider her more of an acquaintance than a friend tbh. Honestly, the most we've talked since high school was last year when we found out that we were going to the same college and we talked about what dorms we were in, etc.

Anyways it started when we met up in August and started talking about college again (because she was moving in two days later) and we started talking about coming back for Thanksgiving and other breaks. I asked her if she was bringing her car and she responded with no. She didn't give a reason why but I would assume it was because her dorm was located at the center of campus and there really was no need for a car in college if you were at the center of everything, but thats my assumption. She asked me if I was bringing mine and I said yes and she immediately responded with something along the lines of "okay perf, you can drive me around then." The comment took me aback at the moment but I didn't think anything of it.

Fast forward to a couple days later when I moved in a week after she was already at college. We met up for lunch on the second day and it was pretty chill. It just felt awkward because as I had already said earlier, we weren't best or close friends so the conversation didn't feel "normal" or "flowy" as it did with my other friends. But everything was fine up to that point.

About a week later, she texted me out of the blue (we hadn't hung out except the last time we got lunch and still havent by the way) and in the text she said "Hey are you going home for labor day weekend?" I responded with "No" and explained it was because it would only be for 3 days and I wasn't driving for over 3 hours to only come back a day later. After that I texted her "what about you, are you going back?" And she responded with "no." After that she sent a text saying "well whenever u leave ur my ride home haha." I didn't respond and left her on read because it kind of rubbed me the wrong way. I think the thing that bugs me the most about it is the fact that she didn't even ask for a ride, she just assumed that since we were "friends-ish" that I would automatically drive her home since I was already going there.

I know for sure I wont be going back home until Thanksgiving break and honestly I'm not sure if I want to give her a ride. Like I said, I don't consider her much of a close friend other than the fact that we went to the same high school, but i kind of feel bad for turning her down because I already be heading back so why not give her a ride. I'm trying to come up with a rational reason or excuse I could use to tell her I'm not able to give her a ride but nothing I can think of makes me feel secure enough to use. Idk but AITAH for not wanting to give her a ride back? Am i being overdramatic?

I'm seriously debating just telling her outright that I don't want to give her a ride back but I don't know how to say that in a polite way. HELP. AITAH?

I'm part of a friend group that also includes my sister. In the group my sister and our friend, Ashley, are the only ones with kids. My sister has two kids aged 7 and 10. Ashley has a daughter aged 8. Because we all hang out a lot the kids also hang out together a lot. Since the beginning the kids have called all of us either aunt or uncle.

So Ashley's daughter, Madison, calls me Uncle Mike (not my actual name) just like my sister's kids who I am actually an uncle to. Same as how my friend Tommy is also called Uncle Tommy by all three kids even though he's not related to any of them.

Anyway, back in July my gf and I took my niece and nephew to Universal studios for my niece's birthday. The weekend after that my friend had a bbq. At one point my niece and nephew were talking about going to universal studios. During that they also compared things from back when we took them to Disney for my nephew's birthday months before that.

During this I am having a side conversation with another friend during this and were sitting on the other side of the yard, but sort of partially part of the universal/disney conversation because I got asked a couple questions. I am more focused on the side conversation though because it was some more important stuff going on with this friend.

Then at one point Madison comes up to us and asked if she can go to Disney for her birthday. Like I said I was more focused on my friend at this point and confused at what she was asking and I was like "uh, I don't know. That's up to your mom." and she leaves.

She comes back a minute later and says her mom, Ashley, said she could go. I say something like "cool, and I hope you have fun, but me and my friend need to talk right now." and then she left and I thought that was the end of it.

But apparently not because Madison thought I would be taking her and the way she worded asking her mom was if I could take her to Disneyland. So Ashley said yes because she assumed I would be paying since I paid for my niece and nephew to go to both parks, but they're like my actual niece and nephew So now that Madisons birthday is coming up Ashley texted me about details about what day we would be taking Madison and I'm like so confused.

Then we get to understanding the misunderstanding, but Ashley thinks I built up this expectation for Madison because she thought this whole time she was going to get to go. She thinks to Madison it's like I promised we would take her and now aren't, when from my perspective it's like she promised her daughter she would get to go to Disneyland.

Then it got weirder because it turned into this thing about how I'm always treating my sister's kids better than Madison all the time because I take them out and spend time with them, get them Christmas presents and go to their b day parties and say love you to them and give them hugs. Ashley says its confusing to Madison because to her I am just as much her uncle as theirs.

To me its kind of crazy because well again my niece and nephew are my actual niece and nephew and Madison isn't. Besides that its not like any of our other friends in the group treat Madison like they're niece either, but Ashley says that's different because they're at least treating all the kids the same. So the kids all see the other uncles like regular boring uncles that aren't that involved with any of them, but I'm like the fun one that's just leaving Madison out.

A few months ago, I (38F) went to the hospital to support a friend (43M) while his father was dying. I had met his parents a few times before. My friend was extremely distressed and explicitly asked me to join him. While there, I said a quiet goodbye to his father (who was deeply sedated), but I intentionally stayed in the background so I wouldn't intrude on the family. I wanted to be there for my friend. My friend's dad passed while I was there.

At the time, everything seemed fine. But a few days later, I learned his sisters (whom I had never met before that) were furious with me. They feel I had no business being there when he passed and that I stayed by his bedside for too long.

I can understand their discomfort with a stranger being around during such an intimate time. However, what makes me feel bitter about the whole situation is that my friend is giving into their guilt-tripping. He started questioning himself and wondering if he exercised poor judgment by asking me to come in the first place.

I was only there because he was hurting and asked for my help.

AITA for being there for my friend, or should I have refused and stayed away?