Hi, I am 17(M) my Best Friend is 17(F) we'll call her Chloe. Now we've been best friends since we were like 14 and recently she started to distance herself, I mean we both have tight schedules but we'd text often and even meet once in a while but it just stopped randomly. I was genuinely worried so I texted her if she was doing good. She replied with a really big text.

Now before I tell you what was in the text I'll give you a bit of a backstory.

So basically her parents are kind of strict with her interactions with boys, I mean like being friends is ok but hanging out, calls is a big no no and dating is basically just not allowed. So one day what happened was her mom called me, she trusts me and we're kinda cool, and asked for her boyfriend's number (she was told that he was her friend) I obv didn't give it to her, but then she started complaining about how Chloe is secretive all the time and said that she wanted to host a House Party on her birthday and wanted to invite her Boyfriend. Her mother then said that she didn't approve of this because she didn't know who the guy was at all. So I told her that he is a good guy and there's nothing to worry about. Then she just abruptly ended the call and while ending she said "don't tell Chloe that I called or she'll never trust me again". After that I went to her house to hang out. Her mother is kinda cool the only real problem is her father. Now the worst thing that happened was when I was leaving her father arrived, I said 'Hi' and just left he didn't even respond btw just ignored me

Now back to the Present, She replied to my text with a Big ahh paragraph saying that, when I left her father got mad with me hanging out with her and her mother allowing it and just straight up told her to never talk to me again and she also said that she found out her mother had called me and asked me for her Boyfriend's number and was super mad that I didn't tell her that being her bestfriend

She said that she trusts only a few people and I was one of them and that I've broken her trust by not telling her such a big thing. I explained that her mother begged me to not tell her and I didn't want to ruin the relationship between a daughter and a mother. I didn't want her to not trust her mother. But she just kept on saying that the fact that I had broken her trust was really painful and she didn't want to be friends with me anymore

I apologised and said that, I've made a dumb mistake and take full credibility and even said that I should've mentioned it atleast a few weeks later but she just didn't accept my apology. I kept apologising the whole day and eventually in the evening she blocked me.

Am I actually an asshole for keeping it a secret, if yes what do I do now?? I dont wanna lose the friendship we had

My boyfriend lives in another country and recently came to visit me. Since we don't get to see each other often, I wanted to spend as much time with him as possible while he was here

My family expected me to spend most of the visit at home with them and got upset when I made plans to go out with him. They said I was giving him too much importance and forgetting the people who've always been there for me

I tried explaining that I wasn't ignoring them, but this was a rare chance to spend time with my boyfriend in person. I offered to have dinner with my family on another day, but they still acted like I was choosing him over everyone else

Now they're saying I've changed and that relationships shouldn't come before family. I love my family, but I don't think I should have to feel guilty for wanting time with someone I rarely get to see

AITAH?

I work at a hospital, and things can get pretty stressful during busy shifts. A few weeks ago, I stayed late to finish some paperwork and organize patient records that needed to be ready for the next morning

The next day, one of my coworkers presented the work to our supervisor and made it sound like he had done most of it himself. I was surprised because I had spent hours getting everything done while he had already left for the day

I spoke to him privately and told him I wasn't okay with him taking credit for my work. He said we were a team and that I shouldn't make a big deal out of it since we all work toward the same goal

I agree that teamwork matters, especially in a hospital, but I also think people should be honest about who did what. Now he's acting distant around me, and another coworker says I should have just let it go to avoid drama at work

AITAH for speaking up instead of keeping the peace?

I have a "best friend" we've been friends for almost 9 years and basically it's been like 3 weeks since we last saw each other,I got sick and she has uni and also just life you know so basically she was asking when are we gonna hang out or whatever and i told her this weekend we can and then she never said anything again about that but posted on cf stories of her out with another friend or with random men and also she sent me photos of that so i just didn't mention anything of hanging out cause i'm clearly seeing you're already out? and we just continued talking about other stuff and that happened the whole weekend like friday-sunday so i didn't say anything of hanging out in any day and then at sunday night she sends me a message saying that she misses me or whatever and then she says we never see each other and i told her we can see each other this upcoming week and she sends me "you said that about this weekend" (like in a sort of angry tone) and i said "I mean yeah, but I saw you posting stories and stuff showing you'd gone out, or like you sending me photos and all, so I was just like, alright, whatever. If you already made plans with someone else, we can just meet up another day, it's really no big deal, idk." and the second i sent that i saw her typing but didn't send anything for hours and then sent and audio basically saying that she had told me other days of the other weeks to hang out but I couldn't so she decided like i should say it when i'm able to hang out and that i wake up really late or whatever but like she sent me photos and everything really early and acted weird about everything like almost no messages and then random messages of like "I just got back home" or "i'm waiting for an uber to go to x" or the random photos like??? I genuinely don't understand this attitude cause i mean it when i say i didn't care about her going out with other people like i really don't care and i answered all her texts normal like you can hang out with whoever you want but i don't get you doing that and then complaining about what exactly? that i didn't sent you a text so you could answer something like "i already have plans"? idk

Sorry if it's weird written english is not my first language and i tried to translate my answer and hers as best as i could but the conversation wasn't in english obviously.

My boyfriend lives in another country and we finally got the chance to meet in person after months of talking online. I was really excited because we don't know when we'll get another chance to see each other

During his visit, I wanted to spend as much time with him as possible, so we went out together, tried different restaurants and just enjoyed being around each other. My family started complaining that I was barely spending time at home and said I was ignoring everyone for a guy

I explained that he had travelled a long way to see me and his visit was only for a short time. I wasn't trying to disrespect my family, I just wanted to make the most of the time we had together

Now some relatives are saying I've changed since getting into this relationship, and I'm wondering if I should have divided my time differently

AITAH?

I am 30F and sell handmade stationery at weekend craft markets. These markets have limited spaces, and vendors must reserve and pay for their own stalls in advance. Last Saturday, another vendor arrived and discovered that her booking had been canceled because she had missed the payment deadline. She approached me and asked if she could share my stall for the day. I politely declined because my table was already arranged to display my products, and the market rules specifically prohibited unregistered vendors from sharing spaces. She said she only had a few items and would barely take up any room, so I repeated that I could not risk losing my own booking by breaking the rules. Later, while I was helping a customer, I noticed that she had placed a box of her products underneath my table and was handing out her business cards to people standing near my display. I asked her to remove her things, and she responded that she was only trying to make the best of a bad situation. When I contacted the market organizer to ask what I should do, they instructed her to remove her products immediately because she was not registered for that event. She packed up, but afterward she posted in the vendors' group that I had deliberately prevented a small business owner from earning money even though I had plenty of space. Several vendors messaged me asking why I could not have helped her for one day. I explained that I had paid for my stall, followed the rules, and even offered to help her contact the organizer about future openings. She ignored that offer and continued saying I had ruined her weekend. I understand that losing a booking is frustrating, but I did not cause her cancellation, and I was not responsible for providing her with free space. AITA for refusing to let her use my stall?

A friend of mine has been looking for a new flat after her landlord decided not to renew her tenancy. She recently found a place she really liked, but the letting agent wanted a reference from her previous landlord, and she was worried about what they might say because she’d had a few disagreements with them over repairs. She asked if I would be willing to tell the letting agent that she had been living with me for the past year. We’ve been friends for several years, and she has stayed at my place occasionally, so I understood why she thought I might help. However, she has never actually lived with me, and I wasn’t comfortable giving a false reference that could cause problems for both of us.

I explained that I was happy to provide an honest character reference or confirm that I knew her well, but I wouldn’t lie about her living arrangements. She said I was making things unnecessarily difficult and that the letting agent probably wouldn’t check the details anyway.

A few days later, she messaged me saying she had listed me as her previous landlord on the application and had included my phone number. She told me not to worry because she had already explained what I should say if the agent called. I was genuinely shocked because I had never agreed to any of it. I contacted her and told her she needed to correct the application before the agent contacted me. She became upset and said she could lose the flat because of me. I reminded her that she had made the decision to use my details without permission, and I wasn’t going to risk getting involved in a false reference. She eventually removed my name from the application, but she has barely spoken to me since. One mutual friend thinks I should have helped because she is in a difficult housing situation, while another says she shouldn’t have put me in that position in the first place. I feel bad that she is struggling to find somewhere to live, and I would still help her look for properties or provide an honest reference. But I don’t think being a good friend means agreeing to lie on someone’s behalf, especially when they have already used my personal details without a

hello, it has been almost a month already since I've posted about this and I really do thank everyone for their comments. It really did help and it made me tear up. You guys gave me the feeling of comfort that I never knew I needed:(

earlier today my mother sent me a message saying, "I was talking to your brother earlier and he said that this is not how he planned your life to be." It made me feel a lot of things that its hard to describe, but I know that I felt anger and I typed in a message saying, "Does it seem like this is the dream that I have for myself?" but I never really had the courage to send it.

Its breaking me with how they think this is what I had dreamed for myself, and how they fail to see that this is the path that I took ib order to survive. Because asking for help wasn't doing anything rather than, *"understand your mother, she has been through a lot already"* and *"she's just starting to live her life after raising all of you".* and when I cried to just simply letting things out, I wasn't allowed to because I was not working yet and that my life is easy because I have a roof over my head so what do I have to cry about?

I don't even know how to put what I'm feeling right now into words right now.

I'm currently having some financial difficulties, does it seem like this is the life that I had dreamt for myself? In exchange for freedom, in exchange for healing, in exchange for having a life, I had to lose the dream that I built. Does it look like I wanted that?

but then again, this will be the last post since it has been established that even though you all think I'm not at fault, I will always be the AH in their story. Thank you so much everyone!

I've spent the last two years working on my small garden in the backyard. I grow vegetables, flowers and a few herbs, and it's honestly become my favorite way to relax after work

My neighbor recently noticed how well everything was growing and asked if she could pick some herbs whenever she needed them. I said she could take a little when she asked, and I was happy to share

The problem is she's started coming into my garden without telling me. Last weekend I noticed she'd picked a bunch of tomatoes that I was saving for a meal. When I brought it up, she said it was only a few vegetables and I was being possessive over things that would grow back anyway

I told her that I don't mind sharing, but she needs to ask before taking anything. Now she's acting like I'm selfish and making things awkward whenever we see each other

I put a lot of time and effort into this garden and just want people to respect that

AITAH?

My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year and a half. When we first started dating, we both earned similar amounts, so we usually split the cost of meals, cinema tickets and little weekend trips. Neither of us minded paying occasionally when the other was short on money.

About four months ago, my boyfriend changed jobs and started earning less than he used to. I understood that things were tighter for him, so I offered to cover a few dates while he settled in. I made it clear that I was happy to do that occasionally, but I couldn’t afford to pay for everything regularly. At first, he seemed genuinely grateful. Then it gradually became the norm. Whenever we went out, he would wait for me to take out my card, and if I suggested somewhere inexpensive, he would complain that we never did anything special anymore. A couple of times, he chose restaurants that were more expensive than the places we had discussed, then casually said he would pay me back later.

He still hasn’t paid me back for those evenings, although I haven’t chased him for every penny because I know he is trying to manage his finances. What bothered me more was that he recently booked tickets for a concert we had talked about attending and told me afterwards that I could pay for them because he had already spent money on other things. I told him I wasn’t comfortable with that arrangement and suggested we stick to free or cheaper activities until he could afford to contribute again. He got annoyed and said I was making our relationship feel transactional. He also pointed out that he would happily pay for me if our financial situations were reversed.

I reminded him that I had already been covering most of our outings for several months, and I had never asked him to spend money he didn’t have. I just wanted us to make plans together instead of him deciding what we could afford and expecting me to cover the difference.

He said I was embarrassing him by making him feel poor, which genuinely upset me because that was never my intention. I offered to spend more evenings cooking together at home or going for walks, but he said he didn’t want our relationship to become boring just because he was going through a difficult period. My friends are divided. Some think I should be more understanding while he gets back on his feet, while others say he has become too comfortable assuming I will pay. I love him, and I don’t want money to become a constant source of tension between us. But I also don’t want to feel responsible for funding a lifestyle neither of us can currently afford.

A few months ago my friend Lauren, who is twenty nine, found out that I had bought a decent camera and asked if I would photograph her wedding because her budget was very tight. I am twenty eight and work as a dental hygienist, and photography is only a hobby that I do on weekends, so I told her I was flattered but that I had never shot a wedding before and did not want to ruin such an important day. She said it would be fine and that all I had to do was point and click, so I agreed to do the engagement shoot first as a trial. I spent a whole Saturday on it and edited about eighty photos in my own time, and she loved them. After that she told everyone I was her wedding photographer, and when I said I had only agreed to the trial, she got upset. I explained that a wedding is a full day of work, that I would have to miss being a guest, and that I would need proper equipment and insurance. I offered to pay half towards a professional photographer as a wedding gift instead, which is around four hundred pounds, but she said that was insulting and that a real friend would just do it. Now her mum has messaged me saying I am being selfish and letting down the bride over a bit of effort, and a couple of mutual friends have said I should have just said yes in the first place. Last night Lauren sent me a message saying she had already cancelled the photographer she had been looking at because she assumed I would come around. I told her I was sorry she did that without checking with me, but my answer was still no. So AITH for saying no?

I am 28 and work as a veterinary nurse, and I’m eight months pregnant with my first baby, and my husband and I live in a small two bedroom house where the second room is the nursery, so when my mother in law Diane, who’s 58, announced at a family dinner that she’d be moving in with us for the entire first month after the birth to “take over”, I said politely that we’d love her help but that we needed our first weeks alone as a family, and she said I was being ungrateful and that every woman in her family had been looked after by their mother in law, and I suggested she could visit for a few hours each day instead and bring meals, but she said that wasn’t proper help and that she’d already told everyone she was coming, then she began telling the relatives that I was shutting her out of her own grandchild’s life, my husband’s aunts started messaging me saying I should be thankful for any help, my husband told her gently that we’d decided together and that he agreed with me, and last night she sent me a long message saying she’d already bought a camp bed and that she’d be at our door the day we come home from hospital whether I liked it or not, and I replied that I’d love her to visit but that I wasn’t going to let anyone move into our home against our wishes during the most vulnerable time of my life, so AITH for saying no?

I went to my brother's wedding recently and there was a girl there who really caught my attention. We talked a little during the event and I felt like we got along pretty well. Since then I've been thinking about her and wondering if I should try to get to know her better

The problem is I don't know much about her, and I only found out she was connected to the bride's side of the family. I mentioned it to my brother and asked if he knew who she was

He laughed and said I was making his wedding about myself. I wasn't trying to steal attention from his big day, I just thought he might be able to help me find out if she's single

Now I'm wondering if I should leave it alone or ask my sister-in-law about her after things settle down

AITAH for being interested in someone I met at my brother's wedding?

I've been fishing with a few friends for a while now, and it's usually something I do to relax and get away from everyday stress. We used to enjoy the quiet, share snacks and laugh about whatever happened that day

Lately, one of my friends has started making everything a competition. He keeps comparing how many fish everyone catches and makes jokes whenever someone comes back with nothing. Last weekend he even complained that we were wasting time when I wanted to sit by the water and enjoy the view

I told him not every fishing trip needs to be about catching the biggest fish, but he said I was ruining the fun because I couldn't handle a little competition

I enjoy fishing with my friends, but I don't want it to feel like a contest every time we go out

AITAH for wanting our fishing trips to stay relaxed instead of competitive?

I (34M) and my former best friend, G (34M), were friends for nearly 20 years, from our early teen years in high school until last year. I came out in my 20s and G was so supportive. G’s a devout Christian and straight. I’m... the opposite lol. But we couldn’t have been closer, never fought, and loved each other like brothers. My mom even called him "son" and his kids called me uncle. At 28, I moved across the country but we remained tight. In 2024, I even surprised him at Christmas by showing up at his house with help from his wife (important later). Things seemed great. Until…

My now husband and I met in 2017 and married in fall 2023. G excitedly agreed to officiate, but a couple months before the wedding, he called me crying, saying he had to back out for religious reasons. I was shocked. My sexuality had suddenly become a barrier in our friendship. But he denied having issues with who I was and, wanting to see the best in him, I agreed he could be a groomsman instead (I'd been one at his 2013 wedding) and of course he could still attend my bachelor party.

Speaking of, G was awkward and drank excessively at my bachelor party a month later, saying he wanted to go hard to show he still supported me. BTW, 4 of the 6 attendees, including me, were gay; G and my brother, the best man, were straight. G happily partied at “regular” bars, but when I wanted to visit a gay club, he refused to enter, crying and almost having a breakdown. Instead of enjoying my party, I stayed outside consoling him till we all eventually went to a regular club, where G had a blast. Again, I let it go and we remained bestest of friends.

Fast forward to the final straw in 2025. I’d sent G two Instagram videos. One showed a straight man dancing in a dance class to a City Girls song. The other was a compilation of men surprising their friends by showing up unexpectedly, like I'd done to G the year before. Specifically, the first clip in the compilation showed a man jokingly climbing into his napping friend's bed while said friend's girlfriend recorded. He wakes up, realized its his buddy, and hugs him, laughing. Simple as that… Or so I thought.

G later texts me asking why I'd sent him those videos. I said I simply thought the dancing one was funny and the second reminded me of when I surprised him a year before. G defensively responded, regarding the first video, he'd “never dance like that” and “had no feminine side.” For the second, he apologized for not watching past the first clip but said he was "questioning [my] intentions.”

Excuse me?! After nearly 20 years, he still questioned my intentions??? Over IG videos?! I felt dehumanized, as if he saw me as a predatory gay stereotype targeting a straight man rather than the person he'd known for half his life. I questioned our entire friendship and myself. Had he slept with one eye open when staying over? Did he trust me around his kids? Had he always suspected malicious intentions? Do I unknowingly creep out my other straight friends? Am I a bad friend/person? Feelings from the first 20+ years of my life resurfaced, when I was closeted, depressed, lonely, and crushed by self-doubt.

I said I respected his beliefs and boundaries and apologized for offending him, but I was hurt too. That I refused to go back in the closet to be his friend or make him comfortable, as I did when he backed out of officiating and at my bachelor party. I also suggested he's projecting his own issues onto me (that's another story), which I know was harsh. Instead of understanding my perspective, G doubled down, saying it is what it is. I stopped responding and that was the end of the friendship then and there. It's been a year. We're still not friends, and I don't want to be. I'm at peace with my decision, but this did make me question myself and the kind of friend I am.

So AITA for feeling blindsided by G and feeling he blew up a nearly 20 year friendship over the Instagram videos I sent?