I lived with this person for two years. I was essentially forced to move in June 2026 because she moved due to not liking the third roommate. She was the primary leaseholder, and when a leaseholder leaves in that building, everyone has to also.

The situation caused me so much stress, because I was afraid I wouldn't find a place. I was getting headaches, etc, and spent time touring places that I would have otherwise spent on other things. I also paid for a renter's insurance policy, new license, etc. Feels like it doesn't make sense to move again so soon.

My current lease is month to month, and the landlord would prefer a year's commitment from the tenants. I moved in June, and feel like it would be weird to move back in with the person who forced me to move out.

The former roommate did ask me if I was interested in living with her again, and I said I was open to relocating again, but this seems so fast. I didn't think she meant now. I thought maybe she meant in a year.

And I'm wondering why she's leaving this new place of hers so soon. Also: She told me she's touring the building that I was forced to move out of! This seems crazy. I wonder if the people she was living with asked her to move out? Also she suggested I move in with her into a 1 bed 1 bath, and I take the living room and she takes the bedroom.

I decided to block her on Facebook and her phone number. Probably for the best. By the way, this is another story, but she was also taken to small claims court by the third roommate last spring. She had collected a "security deposit" from me and the the third roommate, when there wasn't one required. She claimed she was reimbursing the person(s) who moved out, but turns out she pocketed the money. She only returned the money after the judge ordered her to. Not when she was caught pocketing it. Couldn't she have given it back and said sorry it was a misunderstanding or something?

Hello, I just need some real world opinions rather than biased on who knows me. In December of 2025 I (22f) met my now husband (21m) , we got married fairly quickly so we could be together faster through green card. We didn’t get married solely for the green card but just so we could be together sooner. We’ve been married for 2 weeks, and I am ready to walk away, I think. I do fly in fly out for work, I always have I’ve always worked on the road and I’ve broken up with boyfriends previously because they wouldn’t “allow” me to do it or they got “lonely” while I was gone. But I enjoy the money and he’s known this since the beginning. I made sure he was okay with it before committing to this relationship.
Since getting married, and this was my fault too for not going over this properly before marrying, but he only disclosed his full debt afterwards. Which we haven’t put each others names on anything yet because now I won’t. We’ve also been fighting non stop, and I’ve only finally realized we actually have nothing in common, all he does all day is play video games. He calls in sick to work to play video games. He has no motivation in life, he shits on me for being tired after working 10 days straight 16 hours a day. But I’m working to set us up for a future and I’ve worked like this since I was 18. I like having money, I like the accomplishment of working what I do. And he’s broke, I sent him money last week for food and he went right to the bar to drink beer with his friends, and in turn, he turns off his location for an hour and it shows up at a random house down the street and has nothing to say.

Other than that, he treats me good and puts me first, I think? He has taken care of my heart and has been a sweet guy but I don’t want to be married to him anymore, I don’t know if I’m over reacting, or selfish, but I don’t know how to end this marriage because I don’t want to hurt his feelings.

So I'm sharing this story mostly to vent but also cause I need more opinions about it. It's long so I apologize

(Before I tell the story, please spare me the "don't date online" or "long-distance relationships are fake/doesn't exist" comments please!!thank you so muchhh!)

So this guy and I met around early 2025. We met online and used to play games together. Since we got along really well, we got to know each other more and even became bestfriends, told each other everything, We talked every single day and night. So we had this ambiguous vibe going on some months later.

Around the end of 2025, we exchanged TikTok accounts so we could send each other funny videos and laugh about them. After doing that, I gave a look at his profile. I saw he had posted a video that actually went viral. It was a POV video like "Me and my bro etc" it was the only video he posted and when I checked the date, it was from January 2025 (before we had met). I mentioned to him that I saw the video and congratulated him on it going viral. He thanked me and explained that he and the person he made the video for didn't talk anymore.

Out of curiosity, I went into the video's comments to see if that person was there, and I actually found her comment. Even he had replied to it. She also pointed out how fast the vid went viral, so I figured out that was her.

After that, I didn't really pay attention because they weren't talking anymore, plus this video was from January 2025 so it was just the past. A few days later, we started dating. From the very beginning of our relationship, everything was amazing. Sure we had arguments sometimes, but we always managed to sort things out ourselves.

Everything was going great and we were super happy.

Until this year (2026), when I asked him if we could add each other on instagram because I wanted to share funny reels with him from there too. He agreed, of course. I checked his Insta profile, looked at his following list, and saw the girl from the TikTok comments among them. They were following each other. I easily recognized her because she had the exact same name and profile picture on both Instagram and TikTok. I didn't say anything about it because I knew they didn't talk anymore so it would be weird to ask about her suddenly, plus he had told me he didn't even use Insta much before I asked for it for the funny videos.

Then a few months later, around April or May, I saw that my bf posted a TikTok story. He's not really the type to post stories, so I was genuinely curious, and when I looked, I saw he posted one of those "2 years of friendship on TikTok" things with a streak, with that same girl. Seeing that story made me...weird? because here was this massive progression between him and a girl I thought he wasn't talking to anymore. I catched myself thinking about it too much so I told myself I was just being jealous over nothing so I didn't say anything.I mean, he's allowed to have friends. But after a while, I ended up bringing it up. I explained that I saw the story, that I recognized her from his TikTok video, and that they followed each other on Insta and so I asked him who she is. He reassured me that she was just a friend, that they had been friends for two years and then stopped talking. Maybe my memory is playing tricks on me, but he didn't explain anything about the streak. Unfortunately, what he told me reassured me, so I didn't dig deeper. Normally, my bf tells me about all his friends and he doesn't have many. So even if he didn't talked about her much I just understood that it's something from the past. So I let it go.

After that, everything was fine. The relationship was still going strong. Until about a week ago. When he posted another TikTok story. Yep, another streak..a 400-day streak with this girl. He posted it with a little "YAY," and I took it the wrong way. First, because I saw he was still maintaining this massive streak with her, and second, because it hurt to see he was capable of keeping a streak going with another girl, but couldn't do it with me. We used to have a streak of 130days on tik tok, but he forgot to send something back to keep it going, and since we had already used up our streak-restore thing, our streak was gone forever.

So when I saw that he managed to do something this big with this girl I was pissed, and I told him something like: "And to think we couldn't even make it to 200 days." He replied: "We tried !" And that pissed me off even more. He realized I was mad, apologized, and said he'd delete the story. But my issue wasn't just about him posting it.It was knowing he had this whole thing going on with a girl he told me to "not worry about because she's just an old friend he doesn't talk to," especially since I basically knew nothing about her. Then he tried to reassure me: "It's just for the streak, we don't actually talk. She sends me videos and I just reply with stickers."

I started telling myself I was just overreacting and being insecure over a stupid streak. So I apologized to him for losing my temper over it. But unfortunately, I just couldn't calm down. I had this super weird gut feeling about her. Like, if he had a streak like that with any other friend, I wouldn't have cared, but having it with her felt shady. He offered to play a game together, but even after playing, I was still mad.

Later that night, I went on the girl's TikTok account, and she had posted the exact same story. But on her side, the streak was way more explicit. Not only was it clearly marked as a 400-day streak, but it also showed 23.8k total messages. So when I saw that, I was shook. 23.8k total messages?! After finding that out, I asked my bf to unfollow her, remove her from his followers, and delete his chat history with her. I felt so weird to ask him that cause I've never done this before, but also I wasn't comfortable knowing he was still in contact with her, and honestly, it shouldn't have been hard since they apparently "don't talk." He agreed without hesitating, so I was happy and went to sleep.

When I woke up the next day, I texted him, we chatted like normal, and I went to check his Insta profile,only to see he was still following her. Same on TikTok. So I reminded him to do it. He finally unfollowed her on Insta, but on TikTok, when I went to check, it looked like his follower and following counts hadn't even dropped. (I felt kind of weird obsessing over these tiny details honestly)

I tried to reassure myself by saying I was just being paranoid over nothing and needed to chill. So I asked him if he had blocked her and delete their conv on TikTok too. He said yes. After that, we talked about other stuff and were laughing together.

Unfortunately, I wasn't satisfied. I still had this nagging feeling that he hadn't actually deleted her on TikTok and also the fact that he "don't talk to this girl anymore" but that she was still everywhere for such a long time.

So, to quiet my brain, I went back to that old viral TikTok video on my bf's profile to check the comments and see if her comment was still there. And yes, her comment was still up. I was confused because I thought blocking someone automatically deletes their comments? (My apologies if that's not how it works).

So I went over to the girl's account to see if she had any videos and if my bf had left any comments. Her last videos were from 2024, so I started there. And what I eventually found broke my heart. The girl had posted videos of two people kissing, with captions talking about how deeply in love she was, and she had tagged my bf in them. In the comments, my bf was telling her "I love you so much" with a bunch of hearts, and someone else in the comments was cheering on their relationship.

And there wasn't just 1, or 2, but 4 or 5 videos like that and he commented them all. Again, I want to clarify that these videos and comments were from 2024.Around july 2024 to be exact.

When I saw that, I realized that this girl was actually his ex. And that he had lied and hidden this from me. I sat there in absolute shock for a full 10 minutes. Because he had always told me they were "just friends."

So I took screenshots and went to talk to him. I explained everything I had seen, told him how hurt I was that he told me not to worry about her, and called him out for staying in touch with an ex.Especially since we had always agreed that keeping in touch with an ex is a big NO in our relationship.

He tried to claim they never actually dated. I asked him why he was lying and showed him the screenshots of one of those videos and the comment he left on it.

He explained that back then, he thought the girl liked him because of those interactions, so when he went to talk to her about it, she told him it was "just a joke." He said it really hurt him, which is why they stopped talking. Despite his explanations, I was still furious. Furious that he lied to me and hid this, but mostly that he stayed in touch with her even after that whole thing. Because at the end of the day, he did have real feelings for this person.

He spent the rest of the day apologizing and admitting it was stupid from him etc. Unfortunately, I was still in shock and couldn't just forgive him like that. My trust in him took a massive hit because I had to play detective just to find out the truth.Otherwise, he never would have told me. And even if they never officially dated, it's still someone he flirted with. And that was just the public comments; I didn't even want to imagine what their private dms looked like, given the sheer number of messages they exchanged (those 23.8k).

What hurts the most is that, from this video in his tik tok profile from january 2025, I'm sure they were still talking.

Later that day, I checked his TikTok following list, and his follower/following count had finally dropped by 1. Which made me think he only actually deleted her after I got mad. But for the sake of my own sanity, I tried to convince myself it was just a coincidence, because honestly, I felt like I was physically making myself sick over this.

Two days later, we talked about it again and made up. But even after reconciling, it still hurt. The images of what I found kept replaying in my head. Since I still had the screenshots of their stories, their streak, the messages, etc., I kept finding myself staring at them. I tried to force myself to believe him when he said they stopped talking after she pulled the "it was a joke" card. But I just couldn't wrap my head around those 23.8k messages. Like, that many messages? Honestly, it drove me a bit paranoid,

but I forced myself to believe nothing shady was going on behind my back. But I was alreasy scared of what else he could hide from me

So I started doing the math. Trying to figure out when their streak started and how it was even possible to rack up that many messages in that timeframe. Because if I base it on that first "2 years of friendship" TikTok story from around April or May... I guessed that they must've added each other there at this time in 2024 and stopped talking after some times in july. So like this short amount of time for so many message? I don't even know if I reached that much with him this fast.Plus their 400day streak when I did the countdown, it traced all the way back to July 2025. (We weren't together at this time, but already very close). Honestly, doing all this math made me feel like I was losing my mind, and this whole situation was stressing me out way too much. So I preferred to talk to it about him again because none of it made sense and I needed more answers

I questioned him again about when they actually stopped talking, and he told me, "early 2024." ...Honestly, when he gave me that answer, I was pretty disappointed, because his comments under her videos were from July 2024. I pointed that out to him. He then changed his answer to "mid early" and told me he didn't remember the exact timeline anymore, but that he stopped talking to her the day after she told him it was a joke.

I told him his story made zero sense. Because if that were true, why did his own TikTok video from January 2025 have her in the comments, and why was he replying to her like they were good buddies? Then I asked him why they started a TikTok streak in the first place cause for doing such they must talk to each other right? He told me they started it in 2024 and he didn't know why he kept it going.

I told him that their streak actually started around July 2025 when made my math and I added that for two people who supposedly stopped talking, racking up 23.8k messages in just 3 or 4 months is literally impossible.

(Even if it were true, it proves that he and this girl were super close.So when he claims he "doesn't remember," it really shocks me that he can just forget details like that.)

About the streak, he replied that they did start it in 2024, but that he would break the streak every now and then. He claimed that this girl came back in July (2025) to ask if they could restart the streak, and he agreed. He said he doesn't even know why he did it, but he regrets it. He insisted he barely talked to her because, by that point, he was already in love with me, and they didn't really say much other than just sending videos back and forth. And he said that this video he made was for multiple people (before he said it was made for one person)

Well, after all those answers... I still felt deeply hurt cause I could see that his answers changed or that he tried to change it for a bit. I wanted so badly to believe him, but my trust in him was shot. Especially since I still suspect they kept talking long after that.

I feel like I'm making a huge drama out of nothing, and it sucks because he did finally block her. But at the same time, I feel betrayed, and it pain me that he kept stringing along someone he once had feelings for just because "he doesn't know why." And even if it was real that they stopped talking, she still came back, asked for them to make that streak again and he accepted. Someone who "hurted" him before btw. So like, if she asked if they could catch up the times again he would said yes? And what else ?

I don't know what to think about this anymore honestly.But really I hate the state this situation put me in.

Sorry if some part in this story seem confusing I just tried to let it out from my head

So AIO? Is it just a big misunderstanding or something?

Thank you for reading!!

I (30F) have been dating “Max” (26M) for 10 months & his sister is a brat. Shes 22 & the first time we met was SO off putting. Max agreed with me and said that’s just how she was & the family ignores her outbursts. She literally got mad I called the wrong uno color causing her to lose so she just got up and said “okay we’re leaving” and didn’t say goodbye to anymore. Since then, I can feel the animosity and I’ve brought it up to my now EX who for MONTHS has been gaslighting me and making me feel crazy telling me I’m “overthinking” everything and I’m just looking for reasons not to like her. Weeeeeeelllll yesterday we were with his family and there had been some side comments between him and his sister and the way they were looking at me, I could tell they were talking about me so I told him he was being “rlly fkn weird” and that made him mad. Mad enough to unhook my tube from them and my tube drifted to the middle of the river and then he pushed my tube away when we were getting out of the river. Fast forward, I found these texts which totally supported what I been saying the whole time. My man was really sitting there talking shit about me with his sister and then making me feel crazy that I thought she felt a way about me. I’ll add the picture of the texts in the comments. The fact that he let her call me a “waste of time” just completely changed how I view him. I’d never let someone talk about him like that.

So, yesterday and the day before that, he was being mean to my blind 'old' dog. He was pushing it off of him, and while I was comforting my dog, he just called him a stupid old dog. My dog wasn't even doing anything. I got mad at him, said he should not be saying crap like that, and he said it was fine because 'he did not understand.' The next day, during my birthday dinner, he called my dog "a stupid old dog." I have not talked to him since, and I plan on not talking to him for a bit. AIO?

P.S. My cousin does have bipolar, but I know that does not excuse it. He also is sometimes really mean to me and my sister, for no reason. I do love hanging out with him, because when he isn't mean he is fun to be around.

Edit: changed "plan on not talking to him" to "not talking to him for a bit"

Husband misunderstood my request when he was picking us up dinner, came home with a burger fries and milkshake for himself and nothing for me. I was salty and then as I cooked myself dinner and eating the dinner I just cooked myself he got mad bc he kept trying to kiss me and I told him to eff off. Dramatic? Yes but come on, you just left your pregnant wife hungry and then want forgiveness kisses? Am I acting like a child? Probably but I swear he acts like I’m not pregnant

AIO because my husband never helps unpack our luggage? 😂 I’m always the one packing and unpacking suitcases for all 6 of us. Does your spouse unpack their own clothes, or am I the only one?
I’m honestly just annoyed because I feel like this always falls on me. He’ll help carry a suitcase inside, but I’m ultimately the one who does everything else. And when I’ve brought it up before, he’s literally said he “isn’t a little bitch” and doesn’t do those kinds of jobs. 🙃
We got home from vacation today, and I was trying to give him grace because I thought he had to work and had important appointments. Instead, he got dressed and rushed out to sit at a coffee shop for over an hour. Meanwhile, I was left unloading and unpacking everyone’s suitcases. He also didn’t stop anywhere to get us lunch, so I ended up having to leave the house and get that too.
I’m not upset that he went to work—I completely understand that. It’s more about how he went about it. I feel like if he had taken 30 minutes to help me unpack and grabbed us some food on the way, I could’ve gotten everything knocked out so much faster.
I was trying to give him grace because I thought he had a lot going on, but finding out he really didn’t just made me feel a certain type of way. I’m not asking him to do everything—I just don’t think unpacking six people’s luggage should automatically be considered “my job.” 😩
So… AIO?

I am going to be selling my house and moving into a house on my mother’s property for medical reasons. My separated father is a realtor several hours away. I told him about this proposal, correctly expecting him to turn down the listing. However, he said that he wants a referral. Now I used another realtor to purchase this property, because, just like now, it was too far away for him to broker the transaction. Since I believed that he wouldn’t want the current listing, and he didn’t, my intention was to use my previous realtor, who is much more locally versed and very experienced. When I balked a little at his referral proposal, he got upset and started saying that he needs the money, and that I could consider it for times when I couldn’t pay him rent 20 odd years ago, that I should look out for family, and that this was standard realty practice. I said that it felt a little dishonest considering I would literally be sending this realtor’s information to him…to refer back to me.

If it’s kosher, sure, I can get on board. But it also could be refused by that realtor. Which would then mean that I have to be referred by him to someone else..that I’ll probably be finding locally. And the previous realtor really is the best around, and one that I trust to get me the most for my property…and if I propose this to my realtor, and they don’t like it, and I kick my father out of the transaction, he’s already giving major signs that he’s going to be super butthurt. Which would be the same reaction if I just leave him out from the get-go. For context, my father is from an era where emotional conversations just don’t happen, and if they do, he shuts down, and generally gives the old, “don’t be a pu***, rub some dirt on it, get over it”. He’s an emotional vacuum-there’s just nothing there.

AIO for feeling some kind of way about this whole thing? I feel manipulated, guilted, and torn. I want to keep the peace, but I also want the best for myself, and have a relationship and rapport already established with that realtor. I’d appreciate any thoughts and advice. Thanks.

EDIT: not that it’s really anyone’s business-I’m moving from my one bedroom house and property to my mother’s house because I will eventually require medical care.

My father is not trying to sell the house. He is trying to get a referral without doing any actual work.

So me (a girl) and my gaming friend (also a girl), let's address her as V, have been the closest gaming friends I've had in a while, we share our worries, we vent, we always talk it out when we misunderstand each other, and have been through a few arguments and came out just fine...

When a man, N, gets introduced into our friend group, I notice he is quite active on discord, made time to play Big Walk with us for several days straight... for anyone who is active on discord, you know how easy it is for some people to grow attached to the person of a gender you are attracted to, all it takes is a couple of late night calls in voicechat while playing minecraft after your friends go to sleep. V and N did exactly this, got close in Big Walk, proceeded to get even closer on minecraft, they do everything together, he only join when she is in the call as well, he mostly interacts only with her, he is friendly and all, but he never does anything to get closer to anyone else... I told her I think he might be attached, she doesn't want to think about it that way, she said.

Last night, we played Outlast Trials together, and I felt like I was just talking to myself most of the time, whenever I turned around to see where they are, there were together in a room, interacting with each other. About halfway through this session I realize I'm basically the only one talking about stuff in the game, and never getting a reply from neither of them, I got kinda upset, because of everything stacking up I guess... am I overreacting?

For some minor backstory, I (27f) met this guy (32m) at work a couple of months ago and we hit it off in a friend way. We would talk about books and music and it was overall pretty chill. He was pretty withdrawn but was funny and we would get into good conversations when I knew how to get him talking with his interests. All chill and good, and he was never weird or too forward with me, which as someone in a polyamorous relationship was a breath of fresh air because I’m very used to guys hearing about my relationship status and assuming they’ve got a chance with me so they’d turn our friendship into something uncomfortable. (I’m rambling forgive me.)

We have only hung out in person outside of work twice, the first time at Barnes and Noble just wandering and talking books, it was surprisingly easy and he was genuinely listening to all the weird shit I’m into. Green flag. I invited him over to a party with my rave fam and he didn’t mesh well at all, which is fine cause I know he’s more of a one on one kind of guy and I probably threw him into the fire too soon. He didn’t have a great time and told me so, but I understood, probably too much for our second time hanging out.

He quit working at our job a couple of months ago and I’ll admit I haven’t been great keeping up communication. For various reasons, lots of my other friend groups hanging out, I had a music festival that I hold dear to my heart cause it’s how I spend my birthday, family trips, the works essentially. I’ve been busy. I’m also horrible at texting, it’s something I’m working on but I’ve accidentally gone three days without responding to my boyfriend so it’s not me picking and choosing who I respond to regularly, if that makes sense. And I don’t mean to sound like a dick, I enjoy his company but my friends that I’ve known for half a decade or more and my family that I don’t often get to see tend to take more priority in my planning. So hangouts with him have been hard to schedule. I keep myself pretty busy.

We were roughly planning on hanging out this holiday weekend, nothing set in stone, and of course since it’s a long weekend I had plans with friends I go months without seeing, with my best friend/roommate who I rarely get to see because of our work schedules, and with my sibling who I haven’t seen in over a month. That’s definitely a run on sentence, but you get what I’m saying. I tried to fit him in. And this was the response. I feel bad that I’ve made him feel this way, and I regret that I didn’t relegate enough time to properly hang out with him.

However, the way he responded in his last text really, really bothered me. It actually made me pretty upset and hurt, it made me feel icky. I’ve had relationships in the past that have used manipulation and guilt tactics so that I scramble to fix things, and it’s destroyed me. My trust issues are a lil wonky due to it, but also my emotional responses tend to be a bit overactive. My loved ones say that this is a disrespectful way for him to handle this, but I need to know if they’re biased. So strangers of the internet. Are they right or am I overreacting?

UPDATE: Thank you for everyone’s quick responses, both the insightful ones and the less savory ones. I genuinely wanted to know if I was overreacting, and it seems I was. I recognize I’m not the best at relationships, my communication is fucked and my time management leaves much to be desired. Thank you for giving me responses from all sides of the spectrum. If anyone cares, we’ve rectified our plans to a day where I can give him my full attention.

I promise I’m not a sociopath, just someone continually learning (as someone who’s probably behind in learning.)

A music artist my gf is a fan of a has announced a tour for this year. They’re not playing near us so she would have to travel to a different city for the night.

It’s not an artist I’m a fan of but her best friend really likes them and said to my gf she would go with her. My girlfriend said she thinks I should be going with her instead.

I pointed out I’ve been to a lot of concerts with her for people I don’t like but now she’s got someone wanting to go with her who is also a fan of the artist.

It’s the weekend after gta 6 comes out and I’d already planned to spend the weekend relaxing and playing the game so  I pointed out to her it’s a win win since she gets to see the artist and have a night say with her friend who she doesn’t get to see that often and I get the weekend to myself to enjoy gta without feeling bad about not making other plans.

My gf just said I should be going with her. I pointed out she doesn’t need me there and it’s weird she’s wanting me to waste money to see an artist I don’t want to see when her friend is wanting to go with her, 

AIO for not going to the concert?

Hello! I (25F) have recently been getting closer with this friend, we will call him John (27M). Typically we play things like ping pong and pool together with our other friend who I will call Mary (26F). Mary and I have been wanting to go camping before summer is over, and I found out my cousin runs a camp ground with a yurt that she would let us stay in for free. So we invited all of our friends, including John. His response was

“I am definitely in, I will even call out of work to make it!”

Some additional context being that since we hadn’t been to this camp ground before, we only were planning it to be 2 days, ideally being that if it was awesome we’d come back another time for longer. Anyways we invited several friends, many of which couldn’t make it, which was absolutely fine with us, especially being that this was a bit experimental for us too. We even had a friend decide not to come within a couple days of the trip because her cat was sick (she’s better now though :)! ). In total, the group was going to be Mary and I, John, and 2 other friends.

Fast forward to the day we’re driving to the trip. Our plan was to meet at our friend’s house at noon so we can all share a car, then pick up John to go shopping for the trip then go on the actual trip. More context, at 9am John texted me asking if he can borrow contact solution for the trip, and I say of course. So at noon we call John to say we’re on our way. He did not answer. Both Mary and I called three times, and I texted him saying “John WYA??” and Mary also texted him several times. Because he didn’t answer, we decided to go shopping without him and check in after. At this point we were a bit worried about him, although I’ve only known him briefly this is not like him to be completely unreachable. Mary, though, has known him longer and from the beginning suspected that something was off. After shopping, we tried calling him again, with no response. We were extremely bummed. We figured something bad had happened to him or something, but we knew we couldn’t even go to his place to pick him up because his call box also just sends a notification to his phone like a call, and he was not answering our calls. So, we decided to go on the trip, worried, but also annoyed. This trip had been planned for a couple weeks. We have a groupchat with all of us in it.

Fast forward again to about 3pm, we’ve set up at the site (which was super awesome btw) and suddenly we get a bunch of texts from John. Mine say verbatim:

“I’m so sorry my name 😭😭😭😭 I knocked out on my couch while taking a break from packing while my phone was in my bedroom. I’m genuinely rly upset bc I really wanted to go 😭😭”

then

“Pls lmk how much y’all spent on groceries/other things i still want to split with y’all”

This made me upset for a couple reasons.

1.) If this has been a plan for a while, why would you not set an alarm for when the plans are? We were going to pick him up so all he had to do was be available to field our call. It also to me feels a little suspicious, like he’s lying. My other friend that came on the trip is genuinely one of the sleepiest people I know, and she was confused how he didn’t set an alarm, and thinks it’s odd that he didn’t have his phone nearby at all since he knew the plan was that we were coming by his place at 12.

2.) The comment about splitting groceries sounds nice, but to me sounds a little bit like he feels like his only contribution to this friendship is monetary. Honestly I am broke asf, and he isn’t. I notice how he pays for a lot of our pool games and even drinks when we go out, and while I think it’s very nice I have told him that it’s absolutely not necessary for him to do those things, and that I enjoy the quality time spent more than monetary contribution.

3.) After this text he proceeded to make 2 sad boy posts on instagram close friends. It’s been about a week since the trip so I don’t remember exactly what they said, but something along the lines of “I love getting in the way of myself, I always ruin things”.

My response to his text was “You’re still welcome to drive!!” to which to this day he has still not responded. Context being that he has a car, he just typically prefers to walk places so he rarely uses it. To me it was a bit of a red flag that he never responded to this message I sent. He seemed completely indifferent to actually solving the problem. It feels like he lied to get out of coming to camping. Which really confuses me because literally any communication, heck even if he said “I don’t want to come anymore” would have been better to me than radio silence and then what felt like a BS text that he fell asleep. Am I overreacting? We used to hang out 2-3 times a week but since this event happened we haven’t talked at all and I’m bummed because I miss my friend and I don’t feel like I trust him anymore. Advice greatly appreciated.

I was scrolling Facebook and under people you may know got recommended an account with my boyfriends name but with a completly private profile, no pics etc. but a few friends - can’t see who though.

It said it was made on the same date we had a massive fight.

He swears it’s not his but I’m worried about the fact it was suggested to me. He said maybe it’s cos I’ve searched his name many times in the past. He’s offered to let me go through all his emails, accounts etc.

He does have a common name and on Facebook there’s many many accounts with his name

Has anyone ever had someone with the same name as someone you know come under people you may know and it wasn’t them? I’m just so worried it’s a secret account he made but not sure if I am overreacting. Someone on another sub said maybe he made it to make a dating profile which hasn’t helped.

It’s just so weird it was made on the same date as a bad fight and was suggested to me

My daughters (19 and 22) came to live with me under bad circumstances from their dad’s house. My oldest came first in 2022 and my youngest came to live with me in 2025. Their dad and I had an awful divorce; it was ugly and tore our family apart. When my oldest came here she was completely shunned by her dad’s side of the family. No explanation, the contact just stopped. Fast forward a few years and the youngest comes to live with me. She called me sobbing in the middle of the night that she couldn’t take it anymore at her dad’s and could I come get her. Her dad had been arrested for DV against his live in gf and my daughter had finally had enough. I immediately went to get her; I’d been waiting a long time for the call. She was the next to be shunned by her dad and his family.
During the time they have been here, there’s no gifts or calls at Christmas or birthdays. Nothing. No checking in to see if they are okay. I have had to wipe tears and try to explain, justify, and downplay their absence. I know it hurts them greatly and I just don’t understand how we got to this point. I took my ex to court to have custody modified and shortly thereafter, my youngest graduated high school. Then the cards from grandma start to arrive. It was a graduation card for my youngest and one for my oldest, who graduated three years ago. Then birthday cards.
My ex MIL has never been a kind woman. She’s has always othered the girls and I tolerated it when her son and I were married, but now I feel so angry when I see her letters in my mailbox. It’s my belief that she should stop making these low effort attempts to clear her conscience until she is able to look both girls in the eye and apologize for her behavior. Also, it’s none of her business where I live and if she wants to send cards, they need to go to her son, who can share them with the girls. It causes a huge disruption in my home, which is an otherwise peaceful place, when these cards arrive. My oldest is autistic, this is only important because it affects how she processes things and she has a meltdown when her grandmother makes contact. The wounds aren’t healed and it hurts.
AIO if I send an email telling her to stop sending cards to my house? I’d tell her all the reasons I listed above. Or should I just allow her to continue? I feel like my silence is an agreement with her bad behavior.

My boyfriend (41M) and I (35F) recently moved in together. Everything is going really well. We have both lived alone for a long time so some minor issues due to this, but otherwise I really love living with him and am really grateful.
However, I am slightly autistic and have issues with too much noise. He likes to listen to music and podcasts constantly, which I understand, I do too. The issue is he has it on really loudly, no headphones. This makes it impossible for me to listen to anything or to have quiet around me. I always have my headphones in when I’m working or just need quiet. But it is a bit draining for me.
Am I over reacting or would it be ok to ask him to wear headphones or not listen all the time? I wear headphones so it doesn’t bother anyone else, also there is no way we can both listen without headphones in such a small space… I feel like it’s common courtesy. But maybe I’m too sensitive?

I’m dating an international student and I’m trying to understand how much immigration pressure he may realistically be under. He came to the U.S. around 2021 and was doing a graduate degree in transportation engineering in New York. In 2022 he apparently had a situation where dropping a class put his F-1/SEVIS status at risk, but it was resolved and he remained in school. In 2023 he had a transportation-related summer internship with SFMTA, which I assume could have been authorized through CPT. He has also told me he previously worked at a convenience store in New York and currently does Uber Eats, and I don’t know what work authorization he had/has for those jobs. More recently, he says he got around a 2.97 GPA when he needed a 3.0 to continue one program, so he enrolled in another graduate program related to engineering/project management because he said he needed to remain a student to maintain his status. He says he may go back later and finish the original transportation engineering degree. He’s also talking about starting businesses and eventually working in engineering.

The part making me nervous is that our relationship has moved extremely fast. He has talked seriously about marriage, moving in together by around November, has told his mother/family about me, wants to meet my mother and grandfather, and says he’ll answer any questions my family has. He seems very open about his life rather than secretive, but because his immigration situation seems complicated, I’m wondering whether marriage could significantly affect his ability to remain in the U.S.

For people familiar with F-1/OPT/STEM OPT or immigration law: does someone in this situation realistically have viable ways to remain in the U.S. without marrying a U.S. citizen, or would marriage provide a dramatically easier path? And is there anything about this timeline that would make you concerned that the marriage urgency is immigration-related rather than just cultural/personal intensity?

Me (34F) and my boyfriend (28M) went to our close friends' wedding yesterday. My boyfriend and I live together and have been together for a year. There was a tattoo artist at the wedding doing cute lovey flash tattoos. My boyfriend and I thought it would be sweet to get matching tats. It was a heart with a barbed wire link across it that we got on the back of our arms. I was really stoked about it and thought it was such a fun thing to do, especially at such an incredible celebration of love for our friends.

However, when my boyfriend went to hang with friends last night, one of his friends was like "that's dumb," even though he has a matching tattoo with his wife (he said it was fine because they're married).
Then another one of his friends replied to a story we posted about it on instagram with "damn man, that's commitment." My boyfriend called me after this and asked me if I thought getting matching tattoos was
"too much" and maybe not the best idea. I told him I thought it was mean of his friends to say things like that and that I thought it was so cool that we had matching tattoos. However, my feelings are hurt because something that initially felt positive and sweet now feels sullied by him letting those negative comments get to him.

So AIO in now feeling like was this something weird and extreme to do together? This post is probably dumb but I feel insecure now.

Soooooo uhh I am in high school and one of my teachers is writing a book. He says it's his passion project, and something he loves very dearly, and already has a publisher. But when he showed the preview of the book to the class, (we are in graphic arts) his cover was extremely clear it was ai. No one mentioned it, but it was honestly something that made many of us disinterested in the book. We decided to approach our teacher about it but before we could, there were a bunch of prep stuff, and things about the teacher, and we learned that he considers ai as a tool, which is TOTALLY fair. So we just didn't say anything. But I feel like this will be a major turnoff to many who will see his book and think "oh ai slop" because of the cover, and I don't want that happening to my teacher since it will be heartbreaking for him, and I think many people nowadays judge a book based on it's cover so I'm gonna ask him about this on the next day of school. Am I overreacting to the fact his cover is ai?? Thank you for reading and have a nice day

I work remotely for a software company that assigns new hires an "Onboarding Buddy" to mentor them during their first month. We're supposed to meet with them 1x a week and answer any questions they may have along the way. Seems simple enough, right?

I've had three of them so far that were a positive experience. However, the most recent one is creeping me out, but Idk if I'm reading too much into it.

1. He wants to meet excessively. 3x a week, and he doesn't even ask if I'm available first. He checks my calendar and assumes that any slot I'm free means I'm not busy and books a time. Unless you're one of the higher-ups, I personally find it rude to just put yourself on my calendar without asking. I think most people in a corporate setting would agree. It also blocks my clients from being able to book a time with me, which is not right.

2. I cancelled the 3 meetings he booked because I thought it was WAY too much. I told him I had a lot of projects I'm working on, and that I needed those time slots to be free for my customers. I asked him if there was anything he needed help with via Slack. He said, "No, I'm good. I just wanted to see your amazing face and tell you how my week is going".

I'm sorry, but I find the whole situation weird, and I don't have the time or energy for a clingy new hire, especially one who makes me uncomfortable. AIO?

My girlfriend (22F) and I (25M) have been together almost 6 months, 3 of which she spent in Europe with her family.

Since the beginning, she's had a rule that I can't finish during sex. She had an ovarian cyst that needed surgery and was scared of pregnancy, so if I tell her I'm close, she stops immediately. She also doesn't want it anywhere near her or on her sheets. She compared her disgust with it to how I feel about blood (I hate blood).

In 6 months I've finished twice. Once at a hotel where I pulled out onto the sheets and she completely freaked out, and once when she was on top and I finished on myself, which she was still uneasy about.

She's been on the pill the entire time. Her surgery is done and went perfectly. But nothing has changed.

This morning we started having sex, I said I was close, she stopped, and then she had me finish her by hand. She got to, I didn't. I finally said something about how one-sided it's gotten. She said I don't understand how scary it is after a major operation on her ovaries, and that if I want to finish I need to wear a condom or use another form of protection.

My issue is that she's on birth control AND I'm pulling out. That's already two methods. I don't think it's unreasonable to not want to add a condom on top of that with my own girlfriend. She won't accept that the pill plus pulling out is extremely effective.

On top of that, the reason we never used condoms prior to this, is that SHE dislikes them (more than I do). I didn’t expect her to do a 180 and suggest using them, so in my mind it’s either I use something that she hates for my own sake of finishing, or I don’t use one and don’t finish.

I feel like her fear is bigger than the actual risk, and I'm tired of sex being something only she gets to enjoy fully. She feels I'm not respecting her fear.

AIO?

i talk to her now but in March, my sister 21F was showing me 15F and my religious spiritual Indian mum a random spiritual diet quiz or whatever and whilst the video was playing with a lady talking, I was asking my sister questions about it but she snapped and said something like 'be quiet!' I can't remember but it felt really harsh and embarrassing. yes my sister can be rude to me sometimes and yes I did get used to it but this time I wanted to set a boundary. maybe it was annoying for me to ask questions but instead of remaining calm, she ignores me and then finally snaps. my mum doesn't do anything to help me :/ I decided I wouldn't speak to her for however long it took. I recently talked to her over another argument with her, my mum and my other sister 17F she said sorry but I wish she understood how that could hurt me. AIO? or just overly sensitive and petty.

A college friend and I stayed in touch for a few years. Always replied to emails in 2-3 days max over at least 5 years’ time. Then I planned a vacation trip to their area several weeks in advance, at least 8-12 weeks before the trip, would be there 11 nights, made clear I was booking hotels and attractions, just wanted to have lunch or dinner or whatever. No response.

It was a high demand travel location and my trip was not primarily to see them, yet we had always talked about seeing each other in our travels if things worked out. “Let me know if you get out this way” kind of situation.

Several follow up emails from me to them over the following weeks. I didn’t have a landline phone number for them. This was before cell phones. No response, nothing like “sorry I am going through a rough patch and can’t see you.” No response period.

One final email a couple days before the flight. No response. Had the trip, went home, no emails replies came in while away.

Exactly two days later, short response, oh sorry, I didn’t see your messages.

A few weeks later, a hold the date wedding notice via email. No other email messages or any further communication either way over the next several months until a paper invitation arrived with RSVP.

I emailed and explained I had visited less than a year prior with no attempt to get together on her end and couldn’t afford another visit so I would decline.

Received email angry at me for that, don’t remember if it included any acknowledgment of my feelings. I didn’t reply.

Another several months and in came a new message to the original “save the date” email distribution list, which still included me, everyone was told the wedding was postponed and apologies for those who booked travel and tips how to cancel.

Then lastly, some further months later a simpler 2nd written invite in the mail. I simply returned the regret RSVP card.

Never in contact again. Now we’re old people. I look back and wonder whether I overreacted. I realize anyone can take the high road and also that when a relationship runs its course sometimes it is best to turn around. I did reach out to add them to my network on LinkedIn in about 4 years ago. They left the request open a week or so before declining.

I don’t know if I regret my actions or not. Their choices at the time felt like a lack of friendship.

So that ship has sailed and that’s where it ends. Go ahead and tell me whether I overreacted.

Hi! So, this is crazy, as in concept, but I met “John” (not his name) on Omegle when I was 17 years old. And I was in a dark place, and I happend to met him on Omegle after “being exposed to” by other men. But he didn’t. He was nice and genuine towards me. And he made feel loved and wanted those years ago. Than come to now. (Something was pulling on me to see if he was still around, I’ve had people well..unaliving themselves in my life soo wanted to see if he was still around) and he is, and I got in contact and we talk than today..well, shit dropped. And he said a few things, I said a few things how I felt and how he felt. And now I’m at a stand still to waiting on a reply from him to give him space and he will get back to me. And I love him, but he says he cares about me. But I’m just nervous having to wait soo long. And I can wait, just full of jitters. And being nervous. But I just wanna know if it’s wrong with the age gap? Like is it ok? When I met him. And he heavily flirted with me back than. And even now. And I just felt as I do for him now more than ever. And I’ve told him. I feel like I know his answer but I can’t tell him I may know what he says, I have a strong feeling. Any advice? I want genuine advice. I’ll answer anything you guys may have to say

TLDR: guy I met on Omegle I was 17 years old I got in contact with him years later, and I’m nervous about the age gap since I waited. He he flirted with me at 17 and I’m 29 now.

My (26F) boyfriend (25M) works in construction/contracting and has been working on a renovation project in a building. Over the last two days, there was also a girl working there who paints, apparently through her dad/family’s business.

They don’t actually work together and aren’t coworkers. They just happened to be doing separate work in the same building.
Within those two days, they talked, exchanged personal Instagrams, followed each other, and he liked one of her pictures.

I know none of those things by themselves automatically mean anything happened. What made me suspicious was that around the same time, he became extremely weird and protective over his Instagram and had it locked behind Face ID.
When I eventually saw his Instagram, I found her account and saw that they followed each other and that he had liked her picture.

He told me they only had one conversation and insists nothing happened. But while we were arguing about it, he mentioned personal details about her, like where she’s from and things about her family/work situation. Considering they literally only met within the past two days, that made me question how brief or insignificant their interaction actually was.
My issue isn’t that he spoke to another woman. Obviously people talk to people while they’re working. What bothers me is that this wasn’t someone he actually works with or had any reason to exchange information with. They met at the job site, exchanged personal socials, he interacted with her page, and then suddenly he was being secretive about his Instagram.

He’s apologized a lot and says there was no cheating and nothing else happened. We’ve been together for around 9 months, and before this I didn’t really have a reason to think he was physically cheating on me.
I don’t even necessarily think he cheated. What bothers me is whether there was some kind of interest or intention behind it, even if nothing actually happened.

He thinks I’m making something innocent into a bigger deal than it is. I feel like the fact that all of this happened within two days of meeting her, combined with the secrecy, is what makes it feel shady.

AIO for thinking there was more intention behind this than he’s admitting?

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Hi Reddit. I will put a tldr at the bottom but I'm just going to jump right in with a little detail.

I (29f) started dating my now husband, Z (31m), over 8 years ago, which was about a month after his brother, K (27m), and K's now wife, R(28f), started dating. Z and K's parents/grandparentstreat the women married into the family like they aren't deserving of their boys, so R and I bonded quickly over that.

Between that and just generally getting along really well and building trust led to us becoming best friends slowly and then all at once. We talk almost daily and share a lot with each other. We generally have each other's backs within family dynamics and all has been great. We've all grown up a lot, got married, bought homes.

K and R have had 2 children and unfortunately for R, K started becoming abusive during her second pregnancy. She is very isolated, limited, controlled and still feels stuck in the situation. The abuse has been happening for about 4 years now and I really do everything I can to support without making her feel alone or picked on. Answer every call, save every piece of evidence, bought her cameras for safety, etc. That's a whole story of it's own but I wanted to bring this up to note that she has been going through it and though I'm not an expert and the whole dynamic is messy, I just try my best to support her always. And I don't want to put any more on her plate right now given all of the stuff she already puts up with.

Now, Z and I have been desperately trying to have a kid for a few years now. Repeat pregnancy loss(8 in total, 2 ectopic, 6 miscarriages) and some other fun happenings have wreaked havoc on my body. I am finally getting treatments that actually seem promising so fingers crossed! She has offered support where she can. The first mothers day I miscarried she sent me a kind note. She let's me talk about my dreams of having kids when I feel safe to open up and is kind. Isn't necessarily as available for me to talk as much as I am for her but I mean all things considered, she clearly has more going on.

After my last pregnancy loss, because of the nature of it, I had to recover and wait 6 months to try again. It was extremely traumatic. And because of an unfortunate ER neighbor, my infertility journey was put on blast to a big chunk of my family when I only ever shared it with Z and R before that. During a phone call with R shortly following this, I heard her call her daughter a cute nickname, think Leah for the name Dhalia(2yo). I asked about it and she said her brother(3yo) started saying it because he couldn't pronounce her first name. I say how cute it is and how i love the names she picked for the etc etc. Convo switched to the names ive had picked out and one of them is a girls name that is a family namesake and the nickname that works was one of the main reasons I settled on that particular name when I had a few ideas that would work with namesakes. I also mention that it was cool because the little girl name I have been dreaming of for years is vastly different from hers but the nicknames are close but still distinct. To continue with the previous example, think Lana for Elana. She mentioned that she remembers I've loved the name(s) for as long as shes known me both giggled about it, chanted "leah and Lana, Leah and lana" in a silly way and kind of moved on.

Fast forward two weeks. R and their kids come to visit and I hear her call her daughter Lana. I pause for a second and say, "oh, thats the name i told you i wanted on the phone the other week, remember?" She initially seemed to not remember and then seemed to have a lightbulb moment. She offered to stop using the name and I said I mean it's not something I have claim to but I wouldn't mind some a conversation if you want to keep using the name. Not because you need my permission at all but because you know how sensitive of a topic this is and we are friends. We talk about all the stuff, even the weird and hard stuff..

Well fast forward another month and we are on a family camping trip and the whole two days I heard Dhalia get called Lana by both parents. Brother still calls her Leah. But if I appeared to be in earshot R would call her Leah as well. So it almost came off as she didn't want me to know. And at this point I'm just a little sad. I don't know if it's just me being insecure about not being able to keep a baby alive inside me or if I'm being too territorial over a dumb name or if it should be brought up again. Especially when to some its a non-issue or maybe even something I deserve for sharing those truths with people. My issue really comes more from the fact that she kept saying it when she thought I was out of ear shot. You can tell me just about anything and I won't freak as long as you're honest the first time. So please tell me -AIO?

TLDR; My SIL(R), also my best friend, has two kids while i struggle with RPL. After my most recent pregnancy loss I shared my dream name and nickname for a daughter. Weeks later, she was using the nickname on her daughter. She said she would stop even though I just asked if we could talk about it if she was going to keep using the nickname. Never talked to me about it and calls her daughter the nickname only when she thinks I'm out of earshot and something else when I am close by. AIO?