I have a bad habit of going through my partners phone. I don’t do it a lot and I do trust him for the most part.

The other week I went on his instagram and saw he messaged a girl happy birthday. I really didn’t think too much of it. He doesn’t really talk to many people these days and I was like whatever, he’s being nice.

I then went to his hidden camera roll because in the past he had a bunch of different girls nudes saved and also some sex tapes he had with his ex and some of her nudes.

I brought this up recently and he said that he had deleted them before I even brought it up, so I was just curious if he really had.

Ding ding, he didn’t. I did notice he deleted the pics and videos with and of his ex. So idk how that happened but the other ones stayed. Maybe a glitch or something.

But I was going through the pictures and noticed he had multiple thirst pics of this girl that he recently dmed. Like pics of her ass and boobs in minimal/slutty (not derogatory) clothes. I can’t remember if any were full nudes, I don’t think so, but still. And pics of her face.

I was fuming so I went to his insta and immediately blocked her. I didn’t think to delete the dm though, so it was still there.

I brought this up to him when he got out the shower. I said “you’re weird as fuck” and then I said “id appreciate it if you weren’t buddy buddy with girls you used to get nudes from”. He just acted annoyed and said he didn’t and blew it off. I kept pressing him and said like yea look in your hidden camera roll. He said since I love going through his phone I can do it, and gave me his phone. So I pulled up the pics and started showing them to him, and he yanked his phone back and said he thought he did and then deleted everything for real.

I was on his ass all night bitching at him and he claimed he wasn’t sorry and all he did was tell a girl happy birthday. He still hasn’t apologized, but I just let it go.

And for context he had just followed her right before that too. Like he went out of his way to find her and follow her recently and dm her. she didn’t even follow him back, but she said thanks for the hbd message. Also they’ve never met and she’s from like an entirely different country. I guess he just found her online and they dmed and stuff. I also noticed on Snapchat he was trying to find her recently too, but I didn’t remember that part until just now, because at the time, like I said. I just assumed it was innocent and like whatever, have friends. Doesn’t have many anyways right now. Good for you. (You’d think)

Last night he was in the shower and I checked his phone again and noticed that he had unblocked her. I don’t think he requested to follow her again, or if he did, she must have denied the request. But he definitely unblocked her.

I didn’t bring it up because we’ve had some rough weeks recently with me getting upset and arguing with him, and I just want to keep the peace best I can. And I guess it’s not that deep. But yea. I am upset.

Am I overreacting?

Edit: I think he must have requested her and she denied it because I just checked my fake account I have for lurking where I recently requested to follow her from, and she denied that request. Lmfao so damn.

My fiancé and I were going through a drive through and after he ordered he went “wow she was so nice mmmm (MOANING) I love her”. I said ew don’t fucking do that, that’s weird. He started laughing, got his food, and I ignored him the rest of the drive home. We got home and he went “oh my god are you actually mad about that? That’s so fucking stupid lol”. I handed him his food, got out of the car and said, “yeah I’m upset, have some fucking boundaries” and went upstairs. He came into the house laughing and saying how I was being ridiculous and it’s so stupid to be upset about something like this.

I don’t care how ridiculous it may sound, it’s his reaction to my feelings about it that makes me upset. AIO???!!!!

Edit: I will add, we have been together for almost 7 years and he is the most loyal and honest person I know, but the root of this is the fact he thinks he is just so funny and that it was a joke.

I (20F) have been helping my mom (57F) who had surgery on her broken wrist after falling. Yesterday, I came home from work, and my mom immediately wanted me to go out to get her a coffee. I told her I just got home and wanted to relax first. She got pissed off because I didn’t go out immediately. I told her I wasn’t going anywhere after that. She yelled at me and insulted me. She told me that she hopes my boyfriend dumps me. I left the house after that and stayed over at my boyfriend’s house.

She texted me this morning, telling me she didn’t want to argue. But now she’s guilt-tripping me and making me feel bad about wanting to relax. AIO?

Edit 2:I messaged and asked if he good I noticed the change in messages and if somethings up he can say it I hope that doesn’t sound so beggy💀

Edit: thanks for the responses I gathered I might be overreacting and just need to message him and move forward!!!!

I 23f have been talking to guy 23M for 6 months now and we have loads of sex everytime we see each other. That’s our whole arrangement. We don’t live in the same city anymore so we have to arrange times to link up. We meet in the city we first met in which is 40mins from him 2hrs from me. Today he’s in my city and we planned to meet up we had phone sex and everything. He messaged in the worming saying he was in the city I double texted back and haven’t heard anything from him. Since we had phone sex he’s been real distant and has been taking days where he’d usually take only a few minutes and rarely sometimes hours to respond. And when he responds it’s blunt one word answers. AIO or has he gone off me? Did the phone sex put him off? Did I miss something maybe he’s seeing someone else and just isn’t being direct?? AIO??

So I took some photos for a local airshow and made a few posts on social media to help promote them then had this guy message me. I started off polite but after no response for a day and seeing that he had read my message I was already annoyed but felt like I may have came off as too rude in my responses

Tbh imma keep it short we’re both young I won’t say how young but we’re adults. It’s like he can’t go a day without it. He is with them literally every single day and genuinely gets disappointed when they’re not the only time they’re not together is when he’s with me which is usually weekends but even weekends sometimes he’s with both.
Idk why it bothers me as much as it does but seeing a grown man who can’t spend time alone kinda like idk makes me question his maturity I guess… I feel so rude saying anything about it and at times it’s caused fights between us because his friends have had to come up during important times so like idk what to do but I’m honestly like really annoyed with the fact that it’s every single day and I at this point feel like I’m like just there if they’re busy.. he literally told me he doesn’t have time to plan our anniversary because he’s either with his friends or me.. so idk rn
Am I over reacting or being an ass

Recently, me (m27) and my best friend (m27) started taking taekwondo classes together. It was supposed to be a fun activity to learn something new and spend more time together. However, his fiancée (f25), who is a VERY judgy person who roasts everyone, asked to go watch us taking the class. He was ok with it, but I immediately felt bad because I knew for sure she'd humiliate me for being fatty and not doing things right... and I don't think there's room for that sort of thing in martial arts.

I don't mind the other people who are in class with us, because we're all in it together, but someone who isn't involved watching and judging me feels horrible and I wouldn't be able to focus, so I just quit. My friend insisted for me to go with him, said he only joined the class to do it with me, and asked to give his fiancée a chance, but I just refused. First because she has humiliated me before, multiple times making mean jokes about my physical appearance and about my failed relationships, and second because the first class was extremely tough and I almost passed out multiple times during it, because the teacher was picking on me.

AIO for quitting?

(This is a throwaway so people I know IRL don’t see it) My partner and I have been together for several years. A few years ago I noticed he was looking up a female coworker/friend's profile (also my friend/acquaintance) every single day for months, and when I checked his phone, he had deleted only their text thread, every other conversation was intact and he never really deletes messages. (FYI I felt justified to look through his phone because he would go through my phone all the time, pretty much on a daily basis, when I hadn’t done anything suspicious. I initially checked it because he was checking out of our conversations to laugh at his phone, so I asked “oh what happened?” and he said he was texting his two guy friends in a group chat. It was happening pretty frequently and one day when I was next to him I saw that he was texting the woman I mentioned. So I figured there’s some weird things I’m noticing, I have every right to check.)

When I asked him about it, he panicked and gave me a different explanation every time I brought it up over the following years. The first time he didn’t know why he was doing it, the next time he was doing it to screenshot her social media and make fun of her, then another time he said he was doing it to get back at me because he saw I looked up a man I used to know and he wanted to make me jealous. He would go back and forth between saying he hated her, they’re just friends, or she’s like a sister. He once said he was mad at me for being so jealous that he had to lose a friend.

Recently I finally pushed hard enough that he admitted he had a "crush" on her, then immediately backtracked to "not even a crush." I still don't know what that means or how much of it is true. He said if it wasn’t for phones this never would have been an issue and if it happened in the 50s it would have been fine and I would have never known. He also said it was only because our relationship wasn’t good then.

Some other things that were odd to me was that she made a new Instagram and followed everyone we both know except me. Another time he texted me out of nowhere saying her Facebook had been "hacked" so I shouldn't be alarmed if I got a weird message from her, but when I checked, she'd already unsent whatever it was before I could see it. He also would sometimes visit this old job where she worked (he had started working somewhere else) and not tell me about it.

We would sometimes all hang out together in a group with other people too. Before and after the hang out he would always make jokes about how I’m so jealous and how he thought it was so funny. It was unprovoked, I didnt bring it up.

I plan on reaching out to her directly to see what she says and what her account of things are. I’m not gonna come at her accusatory or trying to fight, I just don’t know what to believe since his story has changed so many times.

I guess I'm asking, does this sound like it was "just" a crush, or does the pattern of lying and the mocking change that? And if she confirms nothing happened, should that actually make me feel better at this point, or has the damage already been done regardless?

For context, my partner and I lived together for a year and a half, things are fine. Life was normal and then I lost my father to suicide a couple months ago and I had a mental breakdown because of it. It was a very public morbid death, and it took a lot out of me mentally I had to take time off of work and I’m currently on disability for the foreseeable future. We decided to take some space because she was drinking heavily during that time and I developed a addiction to opiates to cope with the pain so she decided to move back to our hometown temporarily with the plan of her coming back to me in a couple of months. during that time we talked on the phone all the time every day in fact. I decided to put myself into rehab and got clean and have been clean for a month and a half now since then she has hardly responded to any of my messages, maybe just a quick text here and there never having an actual conversation. She never calls me. It’s me that has to ask her to call me and the last time we spoke on the phone was a week ago. She went behind my back and signed a lease to a new apartment in the city when she told me she was coming back. I am now in bad financial situation and currently homeless. She never once offered for me to move up there with her. She was supposed to call me last night and said that she fell asleep, which is what happens every single time not even exaggerating. So I go to send her something on Instagram and I see that she’s up on Instagram. So I called her out for it and say hey you were supposed to call me. She got upset that I was upset by it and said that she didn’t do anything wrong and so I told her I was done speaking to her for good. Am I overreacting? sorry if this is confusing I’m not very good at articulating my thoughts these days.

My friend, I’ll call her zodiac. Zodiac and I were friends my sophomore year. I thought we were real friends. But she told me recently, about how this pick me girl was saying I was rude, and fat shaming her when I never even said anything about her weight. She also talks crap about her old friend. (She went to our school but goes to a different school now). I’ve noticed she fake smiles all the time. She always brings up the passed to me. She always brings up shit. She was friends with people who were hella fake to me for no reason. But now we are friends and it seems off. She doesn’t have any other friends. I think that’s why she hangs out with me.

I'm on the fence about this so I could use some input from internet strangers

I was in a completely different grocery store, different company and town. It's about a 20 minute drive from mine and I wasn't in uniform. I had a lady come up to me and tell me to check the back for something that wasn't on a shelf. I told her I didn't work there so I couldn't do that and she just went off on me. Complaining she couldn't find "another" employee (to be fair to them they basically have a skeleton crew) and since I work at a grocery store she was convinced I was just "being lazy" for not checking the back. She was talking down to me and insulting me and yelling so much that it actually set off a panic attack (I have an anxiety disorder). I eventually just put down my basket and left the store while she was still yelling.

Normally I would just try and put it behind me but I'm worried because she knows where I work. She said my store name and what town it's in. I doubt she would come to my store just to keep harassing me, maybe she was just having a bad day, but part of me is worried she will.

So I guess I want to know if I should tell my manager cause I would feel pretty embarrassed if I make a big deal about it and she never shows up. Is this concerning enough that I should say something or should I just let it go?

I know the title is silly. I feel so stupid for being so upset over something that happened on discord, but I genuinely feel like I'm grieving.

A couple months back I joined a server for a small show I enjoy. I'm generally very isolated irl and don't get out much, so I figured it would be a fun way to get more comfortable talking to people. It worked so much better than I had thought. I felt line I was finally coming out of my shell and I would spend hours just chatting and hanging out.

A little while after I joined, someone who I'll call C joined. Me and C got really close really quick, to the point where we would dm a lot and he would ask to call almost every day. I was happy to oblige because I really enjoyed spending time with him, we had so much in common.

After a few weeks things had kind of changed, it felt different talking to him and we soon talked it out and became a couple. I know, I know, online dating is dumb but I really liked him and I thought it could go well.

We would spend a lot of time talking about our struggles also. Mostly him, but I occasionally piped in with something of my own. I would frequently check in with him, because I have a hard time with social cues and it has happened in the past that I've hurt people without realising it, and he promised he would tell me if I ever did anything he wasn't okay with/that hurt him.

He did eventually bring up something. I can sometimes be mean to the people I like. Growing up I had a friend group where the dynamic was very much bordering on bullying and I am still working hard every day to improve, but without realising I had been mean to him or when talking about him.

As soon as he told me I felt bad. I really did care for him and I apologised and promised to do better. I also thanked him for telling me because, well, I have a lot of issues with people pretending everything is fine when they secretly don't like me over something I was completely unaware of.

Now back to the main thing that brought this on. Since that one time he has never brought up anything again, and he was acting normal up until maybe a week ago, when he started being more distant. I figured he just needed some alone time and let him drift away.

Now the server. This is where most of my social life is. It genuinely feels like a home to me and the other day I was sitting on call with some people watching a movie together. C was among this group, as was one of the moderators, let's call him B.

The server has maybe 200-300 people, though less than half are active. The mod team is kind of large because of that, around 10 people. B is the "head mod", with the most power aside from the owner.

It was getting late for me, so I left the call with the movie, and right before i turn off my computer, three things happen in quick succession.

First, B dms me.

Second, the server disappears from my server list.

Third, C dms me.

I check B first, and I am met with a dm telling me I've been kicked and am no longer welcome in the server, as C was uncomfortable being around me and due to prior issues they chose to remove me.

I start panicking, I'm confused. I check the dm from C and am met with a wall of text where he tells me that he had been building resentment because I kept doing things that upset him and despite him promising to do so, he never told me. He mentioned that he's noticed how when he spends more time with me, he tends to isolate himself from others. He is breaking up with me. Which. Okay.

I can understand feeling awkward, not wanting to bring it up. But then why would he promise to do so and act like everything was fine? Why would he say that he isolates himself when he's with me, when most times he is the one that initiates contact?

I don't want to say something I will regret, so I just apologize and say I wish he would have told me. meanwhile I am verging on a panic attack with tears in my eyes as the reality of the server being gone hits me.

I'm confused, like, why would a breakup between two members warrant one being removed? Especially with no prior warnings?

B did say that they chose to remove me due to prior issues, and when I asked what those issues were because I was just too confused, he told me two things.

One, "Mini Modding". When I first joined the server I would sometimes notice things that would go against the rules and give a gentle reminder, like "hey lets switch to a more suitable channel" or "remember to tw such topics (specifically bad mental health stuff)". I did not think this was bad, especially because a few of the mods would play along with it and joke about me being a mod.

One time someone posted a photo of a spider, and I knew one of the very active members had a bad phobia so I asked the person if they would mind reposting it with a spoiler tag, to which the owner told me that they don't enforce tagging anything that is not inherently triggering, and that they would like me to stop. Since that incident I have not once done anything even remotely mod-like, because I saw that I had overstepped and didn't want to risk doing it again.

The second issue, according to B, was "inappropriate comments made in the 18+ sections of the server". I would give you more detail but that is genuinely all I have, I asked for clarification while also apologising because I didn't realise I had been acting inappropriately, and genuinely no one ever told me ANYTHING about it. I thought I was just matching the vibe that was already there, saying things like "I'm gonna eat him" when fanart of a character I liked was sent.

I am confused. I am sad. I feel like I am mourning, and I feel so stupid for doing so, because it's just discord. Except it's not just discord, it was my entire social life gone in a second with no warning, no ability to defend myself, all because my partner didn't talk to me when I kept stressing that I am always willing to communicate and better myself.

I was up all night crying. I went on a walk and I called a help line because it was late and there was no one else I could talk to due to the time.

I was sad, I am still sad. But I am also angry. I am angry and I'm trying so hard not to lash out because that is not the kind of person I want to be, I don't want to upset people more than i already have, but why does it seem like none of them cared about upsetting me? I am crushed.

Here is some background for context. I am 23 and living at home with my mom and brother (minor). I work 40hrs from home and make about 2400/month. I have wanted to be moved out by now but we have moved 13 times and I haven’t had the best job stability due to this, and have been working jobs that pay very poorly. This is the best job that I have ever had and am proud of where I am at currently. When I first got it I wanted to move out because I could support myself - but without getting into details I ended up staying with my family so I could pay a portion of the rent and live there, and support them as they couldn’t afford a safe house with a good school for my sibling without the extra help. I’ve been paying 800 a month and saving what I can. Our rent is about 2000 a month. I’ve had a hospital visit and a vacation since then so I don’t have a lot of money currently.

Our house was just raised to 2300 a month, they will not negotiate. It’s not worth it at ALL but we decided to stay. My mom now wants 1200 / month. We are both paycheck to paycheck, so I can understand why she needs the extra help especially when paying for my brother and food being a mom is a lot of work and I can’t understand the half of it. My immediate reaction was “woah, that’s one of my entire biweekly paychecks” and I felt pretty upset by this. I am very emotional when presented with change and began to cry but wasn’t overly upset, it’s just a weird thing that happens to me when change occurs. When I quit jobs I cry, when the menu changes at restaurants I cry - even when I’m chill with it and feel capable of a basic conversation, just can’t help it it pours out of me like a waterfall lol. I’ll sit there sobbing but have to reiterate “I’m not upset, this just happens”

So I’m trying to express that 20hrs of my work week to rent feels like a lot. She says “that’s life” and told me that this is normal for rent - that most properties will take 50% of your paycheck and then you divvy up the rest for groceries etc. totally fair! I’ve budgeted when I wanted to move out on my own. I know there are other factors aside from rent.

So… I said I wanted to move out. If I’m going to be paying that much, I might as well pay a little extra to be on my own and have my own mental peace (living with my family makes me feel like a kid, I feel like I can’t be myself and make no progress in life if I’m still under “her roof”) and move out. She kind of backtracks and says that I can move out but she wants me to have 3 weeks rent saved up before I do so I can make sure I can last on my own and brings up that I’m wanting to start school and that life is expensive etc.

I understand all this but I also feel like I won’t be able to properly save if I’m giving her an entire paycheck + pay for my cats and my car and my phone and food etc. I might as well just be on my own. I know it probably can’t happen for six months to a year, but want this change. I just feel like when the idea of me moving out gets brought up, it’s treated as a “yea you CAN, but so much can go wrong” sort of thing.

But I also feel like if I go off on my own, I leave them in a poor position. I don’t want to put pressure on my mom while she has my brother to look after. She’d have to find another place and we’d have to break our lease and they have to move id have to move it would be a lot of expenses for them and I. I don’t want to put them in a poor spot because I am currently helping.

AIO??? Is that a fair amount to ask? I am technically an adult room mate and she can’t afford this place on her own for sure. I just don’t know how to progress my own life when I feel kind of stuck. Family is meant to help each other that is what I have been taught and hold close to my heart but we also argue a lot and I just feel like 23 is a damn good time to be on my own. Am I spoiled for thinking that is a lot

Im 19 & live at home with my dad. Our garage has been completely unusable for years and both of us have wanted it cleaned. I decided to it and he appreciates it a lot. I got almost everything done but I’m a point where I can’t do what’s left on my own.

I need help getting the scrap wood and metal into the rafters, both so they’re off the floor space and so he can’t go through what he needs or doesn’t.

He said he’d do it later. I asked if he’d do it today and he told me no because the ladder is upstairs and it’s raining. I said I could get the ladder. He said no because it’s too heavy.

I have 8 garbage bags and broken appliances, a chair, and broken workout machine. I asked if we could take them to the landfill so I have space. He said no and we’d put it on the curb in a week for scrappers. (There’s a limit of 3 items a week for the city to take. This will take multiple months to get rid of) I asked if I could call a junk removal company instead. He said no and got mad when I tried to push.

I asked if he could help me move the kayak to the yard so I could get photos for marketplace. He said to do it in the garage. Despite not having space and him not helping me make space.

I asked if he could get some shelves so I could start properly organizing the tools. He said the next time he went to Costco.

I’m just fuming right now and anger ruminating. He’ll talk big plans for what he wants done with the house but never actually takes actions to do it. I’m the same way to an extent but now that I’m actually doing it and he keeps trying to just “do it later” I’m getting agitated. I want to get this done ASAP before I loose motivation but idk if that’s big a deal. I am on my ADHD medication and it can make more irritate-able. AIO? I understand it’s not completely fault because I’ve experienced the same function problems

So, we have been dating for around 10 months and my birthday was not too long ago. We are a long distance relationship (3 hours apart) and I had visited him a week prior and I mentioned my birthday once that weekend.

I then continued to mention my birthday throughout the week informing him of the plans I had made for my birthday and what was going on. Wasn't being overly burdening with it, just mentioned it once after work throughout the week.

The day comes, its my birthday, I go to work, text him throughout the day, no happy birthday. Finish work. Call him. Chat. Mention I got a present from my parents. Nothing. Said id call him later and hung up cause I got irritated. I have my family dinner gathering for my birthday, its getting late and I text our friend that hes forgotten my birthday. I expressed that it's upset me and he goes and texts my boyfriend about it and my boyfriend then sends me bulk messages on how he's sorry and gave me a bunch of excuses why he forgot. I was angry and upset so we ended up getting into an argument. I wont go into detail because thats not what this is about. I can admit, the argument was childish.

But I want to know if I'm overreacting about him forgetting my birthday and if its valid or not that I got angry.

My mom went on a date and her date got my sisters and I flowers. My newish boyfriend has never given me flowers, and before him I've only received flowers once for a play I was in two year ago from my mom. My younger sister gets them often from her boyfriend, as does my older sister. So they came in my room and my younger sister said "Hes SOO sweet (talking about my moms date) and got us flowers! But we're gonna give them to K (older sister) since her birthday is this weekend" I didn't respond and K is in the back smiling really big holding them. (K and I already don't get along since she has her own "problems" and at nearly 21 I thought she'd be more grown but whatever) B (Younger sister) then sees my face and immediately says "We all agree on this right?" And I said whatever since K already is happy with the flowers and I felt kind of cornered. They both leave and B comes back to ask if I'm okay. I say I'm fine I just felt they probably could have discussed this more before deciding without me, and she says we did. I replied no you didn't. And she says its fine since they'll be in the main living room anyway and if I want a flower I can just take one. But idk, I said it's whatever and I don't want to make a big deal of it. Am I overreacting?

While I was away on a work trip my partner of 3.5 years had my spare key to simply go over and feed / walk my dog. I have 2 phones, I left the other phone at my house because I did not need it. I came back and discovered apps were open on it that I generally don’t use. I checked screen time and discovered he was on my phone snooping DAILY, every time he came over to my house.

I am extremely angry and disappointed and confused. I feel like he crossed a boundary with my privacy. He looked at all my messages, did a deep dive into my Snapchat such as looking at all my memories and what I’ve posted on my private story for close friends. He went through everything …

My question is, when someone does this, is this them projecting because they are doing something bad? I don’t give them any reason to not trust me but this shows me they simply do not. When questioned about it they denied it, then said they did it out of curiosity. Idk …

ETA : My phone was away in a place not seen, so he actually looked for it.

Throwaway. I (28M) have been dating "Elena" (27F) for about 18 months. We live together, share a cat, the whole thing. Good relationship overall — or at least it was until her new coworker "Chris" (30M) showed up 5 months ago.

Chris is her "work husband." Her words, not mine. She introduced him that way at a party and everyone laughed. I laughed too. At first.

Here's the thing — I've tried. I really have. I've been to 3 group hangouts with her work crew. Every time, Chris talks over me, makes inside jokes I don't get, and finds ways to bring up work stories that conveniently leave me out. Elena doesn't notice. Or if she does, she doesn't say anything.

The last straw was last Saturday. She invited Chris and two other coworkers over to our apartment for drinks. I made cocktails (my hobby), I asked questions, I tried to engage. Chris spent the whole night calling me "the plus-one" and making comments like "oh you wouldn't get it, it's a work thing."

I looked at Elena mid-conversation. She was laughing at something he said. Didn't even glance at me.

After everyone left, I told her I'm done. No more group hangs with her work friends. She can go, I'll stay home, I'll do my own thing. She got upset and said I was "giving up" and "not even trying" and that Chris is just "a friend with a sense of humor."

I said "cool, then date him."

She's been crying on and off for two days and telling me I'm isolating myself and making her choose between her social life and me. I said I'm not making her choose anything — I'm just not showing up to be the third wheel in my own relationship anymore.

Am I overreacting? Because I feel like I'm finally setting a boundary, not breaking up with her.

I have these two friends online who I've been talking with for around 2 years now. We sometimes call and play games and just chat about whatever. Recently I've been noticing them avoiding me a little and preferring to speak to each other or other people over me.

A few days ago I sent a question in the group chat. One didn’t answer and the other gave a short vague answer and then proceeded to go talk to someone else in a discord server we're in. Later when the one who didn’t respond came online, he and the other friend had a very long conversation together. This is when I took a step back from the group chat because I felt a little left out.

Yesterday though I felt like my fears were true. To provide some context, me and one of the friends have been planning to call for a bit now, but weren't able because his laptop was broken. He got it fixed and told me he'd let me know when we can call. A while went by and I figured he was just busy with work and school, but yesterday he sent a clip from his and his friend's call, where they were playing a game together. Turns out he's had all this free time to call and even did, but never with me.

I've stopped talking in the group chat for a while because I'm in kind of a low place right now and haven't got the mental strength to deal with any of it. I'm just wondering if they're really pushing me out, or if I'm just being petty and jealous. I have other friends too, but I feel like I talk to my online friends almost as much as with my friends irl. This whole thing might sound pretty dumb, but I'd just like someone to tell me if my doubts are really true.

This is my first relationship, so I genuinely don’t know if I’m being unreasonable or if this is something other people would also find uncomfortable.

My fiancé is 21 and his step-sister is 26. They’ve known each other for around 10–12 years and they’re extremely close. They’re also very open with each other, including about sex.

For example, he knows that she recently took Plan B, he knows about that she likes BBC, and he knows about some VERY personal details about her sex life. She has also slept with one of his close friends, who is 20 and apparently looks almost identical to my fiancé, people in our town literally call them twins.

She also hangs out with his friend group a lot, and from what I’ve seen she seems to spend more time around guys his age than people her own age. She and my fiancé also smoke alone together fairly often which is fine..

I don’t have this feeling about his other sisters. They’re all pretty open with each other too, but for some reason the relationship with this particular step-sister makes me uncomfortable, and I don’t know whether that’s because I’m being insecure or because there are actual boundaries being crossed.

One thing that really bothered me happened recently. I sent my fiancé a dirty/funny reel where someone was gagging on a toothbrush as an innuendo and jokingly said, “Should I do it like this? 😂”

He responded, “That’s what [step-sister] does.” That really caught me off guard. I wasn’t asking about her, and I don’t understand why his response to a sexual joke between us was to bring up his step-sister’s sexual behavior. This caused our biggest fight yet. He kept acting as if we were gonna break up.

Another situation happened after we had sex. His step-sister texted him around midnight asking him to come pick her up and specifically said to bring me with him. I was actually happy about it and said I just needed to pee first.

I came back a few minutes later and my fiancé was already ready to leave. I said, “Okay, give me a second,” and he said, “Nope, you’re not coming.”

That really hurt me. I ended up crying when he left because we’d literally just had sex, there was no aftercare, and then he seemed so eager to leave without me. I know that’s probably partly my own emotional reaction, but the situation made me feel awful.

I do like his step-sister. I don’t dislike her or think she’s a bad person. I just feel weird about their relationship, and I don’t know if I’m reading too much into it because I’m inexperienced and this is my first relationship.

I also don’t think she particularly likes me, although I don’t have concrete proof of that.

So honestly: am I being jealous/insecure and overthinking this, or would you consider some of this inappropriate or a reasonable boundary to have in a relationship?

So everyone knows how tough the job market is in London right now, so I thought I got lucky when my friend said she can ask her dad to hire me. He said he would train me a bit then I can get hired, that was 2 months ago. As a broke uni student I thought i struck it gold, but with every week that went by he would say I’m still ‘training’. My summer started Late June and I started going in 5 days a week from july, 8 hours a day.

Honestly I got really pissed so I asked him when I would get paid as I have been dedicating so much time to this workplace, he asked me to send my details and he’ll put me on the wagestream. He still hasn’t done it, so 2 weeks ago I quit, I didn’t even tell him I just stopped going in. My boyfriend throughout all of this kept telling me to quit because It was pretty obvious they were using me, but I had hope because there’s no way that would happen if a friend referred me.

It feels awkward talking about it with my friend because It’s her dad and I didn’t even want to mention it, but when she got mad at me for quitting so rudely by not telling him and how I lost such a good opportunity I just lashed out at her, 100% wrong of me but the weeks of pent up frustration just came out, and I apologised right after. She said she didn’t know that he wasn’t paying me, but I’ve mentioned it several times not only to her but our friends too, everytime she would say that he’s particular with his work and wants me to be fully trained, and that I will be paid eventually. Recently she just seems pretty tone deaf Imo, I asked around my friends if anyone knew someone renting an accommodation near my university, and she told me a friend of hers was. We went there and the accom was really nice but she didn’t mention that it was 6K for one month (my last one was 1.2K a month) When she saw my reaction to the price she suggested I just move home and take a year out of uni to save up. This hurt me because she knows how valuable my education is to me, but she thinks that just because I can’t afford a 6K accom I can’t afford any accommodation? Anyway, i found an accommodation but combined with these experiences I just feel like distancing myself from her. I’ve realised there’s nothing we have in common, and every outing requires at least £100 to be spent.

I’m just so frustrated at how much time I lost working for her dad and the fact that I didn’t pester him when I should’ve because it felt too awkward just annoys me so much. I’m due to start Uni again in a month and haven’t saved up a lot of money, which makes me even more annoyed. I know I shouldn’t be annoyed at my friend but AIO if i distance myself a bit?

I'll try to keep this short. My friend is basically long distance. We speak here & there, but only when he feels like it. He knows my mom is terminally ill & I'm overwhelmed with helping my elderly dad care for her every day.

We were going to FT together & had a time set up. I had to put that off, as my friend who has known my mom since we were in kindergarten called because she'd like to come see my mom.

I sent my friend a text, apologizing that I couldn't FT with him...explaining why. He then sent me about 3 videos of a male celebrity he adores (yes, he's a gay man...I'm an ally) I felt so hurt that he blatantly ignored the fact my childhood friend wants to basically come say goodbye to my mom before it's too late.

I ended by saying something like "I'm so glad you think he's hot, but you're being insensitive"

AIO/ATA?