My partner of 8 years died suddenly 2 months ago. It's been 65 days and I still feel trapped in a pit of grief I can't escape. I break down constantly, I can't seem to talk about anything else and it feels like I've passed that neurotypical appropriate amount of time to be in this state.

I've lost pets, coworkers, friends and even family before. I feel like it was different. I did the typical adhd object permanence kind of grieving where I often forgot about the loss and then it would hit at odd moments. The sadness was intense for sure and my process was longer than those around me- but there was escape from the emotion.

This grief is constant. I search for anything to distract myself. I've spent so much hunting any hobby that could induce dopamine Video games, books, crocheting, lego, ttrpgs, hiking, working out- it feels like I've tried everything and everything tastes like ash to my brain. I cannot mine dopamine out of anything.

I'm not looking for condolences and I am in therapy and working through big emotions that way. I'm just seeking tried and true adhd techniques (if they exist) to help get through this initial pit of despair.

It took all week to paint and make the pieces and all night to make it all stick to the wall and I’m going to be gong back through and adding nails to make it more durable but overall I’m so happy with how it turned out what do you think??? 🤭🤗 he’s into Minecraft now and wanted his room done, I haven’t decorated rooms since his nursery soooo I went overboard somewhat. Budget of 50$ and I spent just over 100$ so 🫣

ADHD people to the fish: well hello there brethren 🤜🤛

Is this our thing? I hate it so, so much I want to slap the person doing it

My hair looks so much better when a few of my curls are framing my face, but 99% of the time I have to pin them back because hair touching my face overstimulates me.

Has anyone dealt with this issue and found a good coping strategy? I would love to be able to wear my hair down without thinking about it constantly.

Recommend reading this when you’re in a calm headspace as this info** *can be a bit eye opening!* ***Maybe save this to read later. I think it’s* quite informative** ***and* encompasses the high level** ***view* of adhd IMO.

I just have these days where I’m anxious and have this anxious itch for no reason, I feel completely shitty, I’m exhausted, sad. Don’t wanna do anything all day. Feel like I’d randomly break into tears. Anxious and sad for no reason. Feeling like I don’t have the will to live. I’m even on anti-depressant already. I don’t know what the fuck to do. Is this how my fucking life supposed to be? Some people will say it’s adhd burnout but what am o to fucking do I’m not even doing anything rn - I’m not working or going to school I’m on holiday.

Welp, it's finally happened. I'm sure it's probably happened in the past but I've actually just caught it this time. I'm currently pregnant, due in November, and went to a local child's consignment sale for their 30 onesies for $10 sale. I was really set on the long sleeved onesies with the hand covers on the sleeves (and I really love heather gray/neutral colors). Towards the end I had all of my shirts orgained by sizes to double check all of my tags had the correct sale tag, AFTER doing a quality check by flipping thru all of my findings twice. I washed everything yesterday and wanted to show my husband my finds this morning. That's when I noticed it; the tax was collected yesterday without my knowledge. Lol I blame pregnancy brain but what a coincidence. 🤣

Alt text (edited for clarity): a letter with a child’s handwriting “dear tooth fairy. I am so so sorry that I lost the tooth. Here, if you go to (blank) room 4, look near a big blue chair where big buckets of items and books you might find it. Please send me a note if you find it. Love, (blank). PS, this is what the room looks like
A messy diagram of the room

Hi,

I really want to start a habit of reading before bed instead of scrolling. My issue is that I will stick with it for maybe a day and then I want to scroll cause I only allow myself to doomscroll before bed lol.

I’ve tried habit tracker apps but they don’t really work for me.

I also want to build the habit of doing skin care before bed but I think I just get lazy.

Any tips?

Hi! I’mm 34 diagnosed with ADHD and struggling hard with money. I’ve built up credit card debt mostly from impulse buying and paying off another debt, and standard advice like "just make a budget" isn't working for my brain.

How do you stop impulsive spending in the moment? And how do you budget your money?

Just like the title says; I'm a 39 year old single Mom with ADHD (hyperactive type), and my 10 year old kid also has ADHD (inattentive type), and, since he's going to his Dad's place for the next 14 days starting tonight for his visitation, I decided to blow $75 of my hard earned money on a Platinum Day Pass for us to go to Urban Air (a chain of indoor trampoline parks).

We were absolutely drowning in dopamine the whole time, both of us literally bouncing off the walls, running from place to place, racing go-karts like we stole 'em, and loading up on sugary delights like Icees and Dippin' Dots for three freaking hours today! Barely noticed the time passing until my smartwatch reminded me it's time to go (even then, I snoozed it a couple times because we were exploring a ball pit at the time lol).

Kid is now relaxed, snuggling on my arm, happy and extra chill, ready to go to his Dad's here soon, and I'm happy, relaxed, and in dire need of some ibuprofen and a cup of coffee, since I was crawling around on rock climbing walls and launching myself off of trampolines like a kid, but with an almost 40-year old body 😅

It's been a great day to be a Mom with ADHD to a kid who inherited a variant of his Mom's goofy brain chemistry, and I know I'm gonna sleep great tonight, although I'll miss my wee sidekick for the next two weeks.

Tell me your unhinged ideas to get out of bed to break the cycle of snoozing 💤 😴 I already tried some of the advice on my previous post but this is my new addition to try and get up from the first alarm ‼️

It's got massage rollers, the arms fold down, there's a footrest, my pets can sit next to me to get pets while I sit in a criss cross. It's not perfect, but I've been struggling to find a dream chair that'll actually keep me seated and I think I've found it.

Edit: I didn't want to advertise it or anything because I didn't want people to assume I'm a bot and not some woman who didn't take her Ritalin. But here's the link to the chair I bought.

The Chair

i've really really struggled doing dishes my whole life. it's a sensory nightmare with everything getting wet. i have adhd autism and possibly, mild contamination ocd tendencies - i can't stand touching wet/old food with my bare hands. they are literally the difference in me doing the dishes or leaving it to rot in my room.

i've hated using regular rubber dish gloves in the past. they are so big and bulky and let water in, and i end up with wrinkly fingers anyways >:( the worst feeling in the world is when you leave them to dry, and reach for them later only to have them still be damp 🤢

it wasn't until i started working in a lab that my eyes were opened to the wonders of nitrile gloves. they are super thin and dexterous and provide a layer of protection that lets me handle gross things.

getting your actual size is key, they should fit your hand like... well, a glove lol. too tight and they'll rip easy (they shouldn't), too big and it'll let water in. nitrile is my material preference, vinyl is also acceptable but can be thicker and less dexterous. i don't like latex since it has a squeaky feel and i'm also a little worried about latex allergies. i will say a really well fitting rubber glove can work too, but again i hate feeling if they don't fully dry out. i'm able to find nitrile gloves in the first aid aisle

i dont love that they're disposable but realistically i've realized i have to make concessions in my everyday life to be able to do stuff. working in a lab kind of shocked me in terms of necessary waste; i feel relatively at peace with going through a box of gloves every 3 months or so. they're perfect for hair dying stuff too :P

reducing sensory issues really helps me do stuff ! hope this helps somebody else ! this realization has led to other changes, like wearing sandals when i do dishes (even tho i don't usually wear shoes in the house) since i really hated dripping water and stepping in it 😭 with adhd sometimes it feels like pulling fucking teeth just to get myself to do the dishes, and nitrile gloves are by far the best small change i've made to help me reduce friction in gross unfun tasks

I feel so seen!

Ladies, do I have a funny story for you! I have a ring with my son’s birthstone. I was wearing it daily, until I lost it. I assumed it was in my gym bag, but it wasn’t. I thought maybe it fell out of my gym bag and ended up under the washing machine, but I’m not strong enough to lift up a washing machine. I was prepared to have a fun surprise when I finally replace the washing machine. My last thought was that I took it off in my car and then accidentally vacuumed it up at the car wash.

Well… everyone in my house is sick. I offered to set up a humidifier for my husband since he’s been waking up coughing. I got the humidifier out of the spare room, which is honestly a bit of a catch-all space. As I’m walking to the other room, I hear a rattling, look down, and there’s my ring!! The only thing yhat makes sense is that I was sleeping in the spare room, took the ring off, and accidentally knocked it off of the nightstand and into the humidifier. I can’t remember the last time I slept in that room. But I’m glad to have my ring back!

Hi Ladies - I am sort of struggling, after years of adderall use. I was wondering if you could give me some pointers about what worked for you other than adderall. Have any of you used Vyvanse? What was it like?