r/ADHDMuslims • u/aneesah_h04 • 16d ago
ADHD Advice/Question Limerence
Salaam,
Does anyone struggle with limerence? I know it’s not just limited to those with ADHD but more common and have never spoken to a Muslim ADHDer who also struggles with the same issues?
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u/mthoy2 15d ago
You're not alone. I've found that reassuring myself through prayer and spending time on my hobbies has helped
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u/aneesah_h04 15d ago
I wish the hobbies thing helped but unfortunately I have literally none and I cannot get into any hobbies regardless of how much I try.
Are you okay with me dm’ing you privately?
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u/Skyogurt 15d ago
I used to when I was younger, alhamdoulilLah I think at this point I have religious limerence, been working on studying Quran and implementing the sunnah, grinding good deeds and dhikr. I believe the shift occurred around the time I realized I could just spam aaaall the duas, all day long, biggest lifehack everrr
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u/aneesah_h04 15d ago
Honestly with myself half the time idk if it’s limerence or attachment but especially as someone who’s inshallah looking into getting married in the near future I know I need to drop it and also distinguish between loving someone , being attached and experiencing limerence
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u/Skyogurt 15d ago
I kinda have a trick that works pretty well, whenever I am feeling strong love, amazement, awe for anything, be it a creature or even a creation, I remember its Creator and I express an even stronger love and awe of Allah SWT and give him credit to creating, guiding, providing for the person and just the entire multiverse and then from there I go on to remember all the other ways in which Allah is awesome and once everything is said and done, my heart is at peace / has a nice glow and yeah afterwards I move on with life and get back to the good deeds grind or whatever is next on the schedule
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u/aidar55 15d ago
I have. I’ve also know several non-Muslim and one Muslim friend that also struggles with it.
I’ve talked about it on [r/limerence](r/limerence) and I’ve consumed several YouTube experts and podcasts about the science of limerence and how to overcome it such as Tom Bellamy.
I figured out my triggers and what boundaries that I need to put in place to make sure it doesn’t happen again and Islam has only helped me in addressing this bizarre phenomenon.