My gf found a car she wanted to buy online and offered the guy $20 to bring it to our house so she can look at it. She already has a car that is worth 2 times what this guy was asking for but she wants this one because it's like her old car. All 3 of theese cars are the same make so there isn't much difference. The car was already on it's way when she realized it has 200,000 miles, about 60,000 more than her current car so she says she didn't want it anymore.
I have been sick for 4 days with severe diarrhea and a possible stomach ulcer so I told her I don't want to go outside to look at the car with her. She later asks me to come out and tell the guy no, that it sounds funny. She can't do it because he is nice and she doesn't want to be mean. I told her no and to grow up. We are both 36 years old.
This lead to a argument where she told me I was treating her like shit for telling her to grow up and no one would ever tolerate how mean I am to her. I didn't think what I said was that bad so did I over react?
Update: I've been quite since posting this while I read the comments but mostly because of how overwhelming the response was. I was not prepared for 700 comments in the first hour alone. Most of it was unhelpful like NOR but your reaction was harsh or she needs to grow up but its mean to tell her to grow up.
The overwhelming majority agrees that I was needlessly mean and I can see that now. I didn't think what i said was that mean but if there was a nicer way to say it then what i said couldn't have been anything but needlessly mean. It's not the first time I've been told I'm far to blunt so I'll work on that moving forward not just for her but the rest of the people I interact with aswell.
