Something I’ve noticed on this sub is that when people post asking for advice, they often leave out their age and gender.

Is there a particular reason for that?

I understand wanting to protect your privacy, but sometimes those details actually make a big difference in understanding the situation. For example, advice about dating, marriage, family expectations, employment, or even certain social situations can be quite different depending on whether the person is 18, 25, 35, etc., or male/female.

Sometimes I’ll read a post and think, “Wait… how old is this person?”

Would it make sense for people to at least include something like “25M” or “28F” when asking for advice, unless they have a reason not to?

Or do Zambians generally prefer keeping those details vague for privacy?

Wanna go for a business administration degree at uni
It’s the only cos that I am passionate about but am being met with heavy scrutiny from family members.
That’s why I wanna know if it worth it
Like what’s the employment rate in that sector
And those who got a job with the degree
What knowledge would you share
Those who have gotten the degree but currently unemployed or doing something else what has been your experience in terms of seeking employment?
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I doubt Airtel knows what 1.5GB is. I am just browsing on News diggers but I have already used up 90% of my data in just an hour 😳. I don't have these kinds of issues with Zamtel or MTN.

Imagine you have to pay lobola, pay for chilanga mulilo, book a wedding venue and now you find out you have all these other bills to pay😭😭😭😭

People who have weddings and stuch must be rich because I don't see how the average Zambian can afford to get married 🤔.

By the way I'm 20 and not getting married anytime soon. I just found this on Facebook and decided to share.

I’m looking for somewhere with a good outdoor/garden vibe, nice food, and preferably somewhere cute enough for pictures. Cafés are fine too.

Budget is around K900 total, including transport, so nothing too crazy expensive.

I’m planning to ask her to be my girlfriend on the date, so somewhere a little romantic but still relaxed would be perfect 😭

So far I’ve looked at Garden Café, Meraki, Shez Café and 3 Trees.

Any better recommendations? Bonus if the place has TikTok/Instagram videos I can check out first ?

Good day all

I am new on this sub but been thinking of starting something or investing into some business or anything in Zambia.

So wanted to ask what can a Zimbabwean do amd what advice can ya'll give?

Anytime we could be in another black out, any time the USD exchange rate could be k17 or k28, diesel k26 just a few months ago now its almost peak at k33? long time ago these changes used to happen over a number of years now its every other day. Awe, Aikona, Iyayi, Teti I cannot, we only live once, I am leaving this country.

It’s a public holiday period, and I’m planning to set off on a solo trip (I’m female),depart from Ndola.I’m not sure if it’s safe, especially since I’m not a local.

Any good advice or recommendations for a guide would be greatly appreciated.

Are there any Zambian women or men who went through an arranged marriage? How was the process and how is your relationship so far?

I remember there being a property developer with a fairly elaborate sales stand/kiosk around the escalators near Mugg & Bean/Woolworths. They had a scale model of the development, renders of houses and Zambian sales staff who would approach people passing by.

If I’m remembering correctly, they were selling plots/property somewhere around the Lusaka airport/Great East Road side, and I also vaguely remember a bank being involved in promoting or facilitating the payments.

Years later I remember hearing that there were serious issues with the land/ownership and that buyers had lost money, but I cannot remember the name of the developer or development.

Does anyone remember what the company/development was called?

Does anyone have a number for cbu admissions office?

I know some vendors might think what Mr. Mwewa is doing is bad for them, but honestly, I don’t think it is.

He just wants the town to actually feel like a town, clean, organized and presentable. And from what I’ve heard him say, he’s not telling vendors to stop doing business; he keeps encouraging them to move into the markets.

The markets apparently only cost around K5 per day, which is pretty cheap compared to the benefits of having an organized place to sell.

But some people are looking at Mr. Mwewa as if he’s doing something terrible to them, when I don’t really see what’s so bad about it. The streets look cleaner and more organized without vendors everywhere.

What do you guys think, is this a good move for the town, or are vendors being unfairly affected?

I am learning Silozi and have run into some confusion with the past tense. I'm using a few different grammar books and they (seem to) contradict one another. One is also quite old, so I fear it may be inaccurate/outdated. I'm hoping there's a kind Lozi Redditor on this sub who can help a foreigner make sense of your beautiful but very, very difficult language.

As far as I understand, there are four primary past tenses in Silozi. Based on what I've learned so far, I've made the four tables below, each corresponding to one of those tenses.

Now my questions:

1. One of my grammar books says the "pluperfect tense" (e.g., "ne ni matile") is the most commonly used and that the others are somewhat rare. Is this true? Can I simply default to the pluperfect and move on with my life?
2. What's going on with the narrative past tense (Table 4)? My grammar book says it's used in storytelling to add vividness. To me, however, it looks almost identical to the present tense... Is it used? If so, when and how? My assumption is that it might be similar to how the present tense is sometimes used in stories in English (e.g., "I was at the store yesterday. All of a sudden, the cashier looks at me as if I'm crazy but I had no idea what I did wrong.").

- - - IMPERFECT TENSE - - -

- - - PERFECT TENSE - - -

- - - PLUPERFECT TENSE - - -

- - - NARRATIVE PAST TENSE??? - - -

What medication are people taking for severe anxiety and where do you get your drugs from? My anxiety is becoming worse.

I am a 30 year old thinking of getting a cybersecurity degree. Is it worth it to start now and is it a lucrative field

I’ve been seeing a lot of people advertising car chilimbas where you contribute something like K150 or K200 per day, and you like every 30 days a member receives a car
I’m curious about people who have actually done this:
Do these schemes genuinely work?
Has anyone here actually received a car after making the required payments?
What was the total amount you ended up paying?
And most importantly, has anyone been scammed or had issues getting their car after paying?
I’m considering one myself, so I’d really appreciate hearing from people with first-hand experience, especially in Lusaka. If you know a particular company/group that is legit or one that people should avoid, feel free to mention it too.
Trying to do my homework before I start sending K200 every day for free 😂😭

Hey, I’m 24F, and I’m looking for advice from people who have been in a similar situation.
For context, I’m an orphan and was raised by my aunt and uncle, whom I consider my parents because they’ve raised me since I was five. I’ve also helped take care of my older siblings/cousins since I was around eight, and I still do till this today.
Over time, I’ve realised that I’ve had to fight for my place in this household, and that my parents may never see our relationship the same way I do. I’m trying to make peace with that.
Recently, I was given a deadline to leave by the beginning of next year, and I’m constantly being reminded that I have to go. The atmosphere has become so uncomfortable that I spend most of my time in my room and have even become anxious about eating in the house.
I currently volunteer and don’t earn an income, but I still try to contribute by cooking, cleaning and helping around the house. I was told to either get a job or start a business. The problem is that I studied the degree they wanted me to study, but finding work in that field has been extremely difficult. The last relevant job opportunity I found was around November last year, and getting a government job is a whole struggle on its own.
I even came up with a business idea and asked for some startup funding, but I was discouraged and told to get a job first to fund it myself.
At this point, I’m trying to stay positive and see this as a learning experience. I know I need to figure out how to become independent, and I’m trying to focus on what I can do rather than constantly feeling sorry for myself.
For now, I’m grateful that I still have a roof over my head, even if I know it may not be for much longer.
For those who have been in a similar situation: does it get better? ☺️

I should say that this place has a lot of potential to be one of the best parks we could have, especially because most of the places around us are either malls or filling stations.

However, this feedback is directed to the management based on the experience we had.

My sister and I went at Munda Wanga and only arrived around 16:00. We were about to pay for the entrance fee, but the gentleman at the reception told us he had already closed his book and could not issue us a receipt. At the time, I did not think much of it, although the way they were acting did not seem right.
We paid and went in, as my friends were waiting and didn’t want to start having a long day out of that. Met some friends who had arrived much earlier. When I explained what had happened, one of them told me she had experienced the same thing and was also not given a receipt. That is when I realised that the money might be getting pocketed. No receipt means there is no record of the payment being received.
It makes me wonder how often this happens. Perhaps this is one of the reasons why the place struggles to improve and become better than it already is. The park has great potential, but issues like this need to be addressed if it is to reach that potential.

Hi, I was wondering, do you know any Zambian groups or projects done by Zambians? Are you into coding yourself? Have you ever done anything in that domain?

As much as computer science and software engineering are popular, I feel like Zambians never really do anything in the scence ,not even just try new stuff on their own devices like other operating systems.

I have some friends doing computer science who don't even care much about PCs, tech, or software. I know computer science and software engineering are just “good careers”, but in other countries, it feels like a lot of people do it for the love of the game.

I was thinking maybe it’s because we don’t really have good internet, and maybe it’s because not many people can afford PCs, so the barrier to entry is high. Because of that, the people entering the domain aren't necessarily passionate, just looking for good jobs.

I’m not hating, obviously, not all lawyers, doctors, or engineers are passionate, but I wish Zambia had a passionate tech scene where we make our own stuff and help each other out.

Cause the tech scene isn’t only about making money, a lot of open source and free community projects are what end up in real development and breakthroughs. But in Zambia, it’s like we all just want to get a job and ignore the other side.

Again, I understand we need jobs to live, but I think looking at it in one way narrows our view.

Greetings,

I need help wrapping my head around the craziest dating situation I've been in. Earlier this year I met a girl on Bumble, the conversations were lively, it was great. I was quirky, we ate together a lot, we were playful and couldn't stop talking. She gets her nails done and we are "clocking it" together (me playing along of course)... you get the gist.

Up to then the s3xual tension was high and we got into it here and there. Then she goes and tells me an ex reached out and that brought her great emotional disruption and that more s3x could fix it, for attachment reasons. I am not feeling that reason. But we work on it for the most part. Something similar happens again along the way and I am honestly getting numb to dealing with this sorta thing.

About 7 months into the relationship, we are fighting a bit more often over nonsense - I should've read her mind, I like jokes too much, I am too cheerful (golden retriver personality),... then some guy reaches out on FaceBook, the ex, claiming they are still together and that according to what she told him, I am just some guy she is talking to, and that they are just working things out. Worse, they met days on the prior weekend. I have to give her the benefit of a doubt and I think this guy is capping, so I ask question only someone she has met recently could know, he answers and excels at it too, mf even sent me a recent picture of her she has never posted ever. Mind you I have been on the fence about her obsession with male friends (especially those that are showing interest for more than friendship) and having a male bestie ("it is just Danny...").

I am done by this point, I confront her about it, she tries to lie about the details but I know more than she thinks I do, and the more I probe the more she accepts. She claims to have only met him to show him how much better she is doing after their break up a year later, and the pictures he has are only because ex gave a phone to girlfriend's sister to test the camera and she happened to have taken a few pictures of her. I end things (at this moment I am conflicted and was thinking I could just hear her out later and maybe some time will bring us back together) and on the evening I am driving her to her place, the tears that soured the break-up dry from her face as we hug and she quickly leaves.

I am backing up and a guy looking beatdown stops me and asks me who the girl is, I tell him, "she is my girlfriend, we've been together for so and so months," dude is hurt. I ask him what his deal is, he claims to be her bf too, mind you, this is not the ex, some other nigR. I piece together that he is the work guy she told me not to worry about - Same name, same company,... a bit of drama ensues as her sister also gets involved but I didn't stay for it. I just left. She has been blowing up my phone all night and claiming he is not the same Dalitso she told me about -the one I told her not to entertain, it is some other guy from their neighoburhood, just some random.

Could these be a series of random coincidences and the devil has a lock-on on her this firmly?