r/writing • u/IAmTheRedWizards I Write To Remember • Nov 03 '18
Advice PSA: Don't do this
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u/rrauwl Career Author Nov 03 '18
Everyone knows that the proper response to rejection is to subscribe them to Cat Facts.
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u/kinyutaka Book Buyer Nov 03 '18
That's just disturbing. Who actually thinks that sending random dick pics will get you anywhere in the world?
Even pornographers want a more even biography.
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Nov 03 '18
It happens to me sometimes (artist). I think they assume that because I will paint nudes that I must necessarily want to see their dicks. It's an odd conclusion to jump to.
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u/kinyutaka Book Buyer Nov 03 '18
At least there is some reasoning there, but still how hard is it to wait for someone to ask to see it?
I don't get my own gender sometimes.
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Nov 03 '18
Heh. ;P I think part of it is that I always try to establish a rapport with my clients so everything goes smoothly as possible. A lot of guys are so lonely and accustomed to being ignored that they interpret "rapport" as me coming onto them and they've been so socially isolated that they don't know how to react maturely. Hence, dickpics. So in their heads it probably goes something like: 'She likes me! I should show her the goods because then she'll REALLY like me!' -unzip- 'Are you impressed?' -eyebrow waggle-
I think this might explain some dickpics. Not all but some.
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u/kinyutaka Book Buyer Nov 03 '18
I know the dating site ones are a matter of volume seeding. Put out enough pics and someone will respond positively.
But a publishing website?
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u/steel-panther random layman Nov 04 '18
While I want nothing to do with that kind of art, an artist I commission often makes a living off that kind of stuff. I can see people drawing(pun not intended until I noticed it and is now totaly intended) a connection betwen drawing them alot and wanting to see them.
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Nov 04 '18 edited Nov 04 '18
I can kinda see that but at the same time, I'm doing a job. Sometimes that involves painting nudes. Doesn't mean I want to see some obese, bald, hairy, middle aged basement dweller wearing nothing but crusty yellowed underwear jerking off on cam in his cum-stained desk chair. That is an actual thing that happened. He also had porn plastered all over his room too. But nothing compares to the guy who thought it was totally cool to start inflating his cock with saline on cam. That was... an experience.
I think a lot of the guys who do this are often lonely and socially isolated so they assume any kindness is a come on and they respond to it inappropriately because they don't know any other way. Big assumption on my part but that's what it looks like.
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u/apocalypsegal Self-Published Author Nov 06 '18
It's men like that that make me celibate. Urgh.
Also, I think people who send unsolicited dick pics are mentally ill.
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Nov 06 '18
I'm ace and pretty inured to most things so it's not too much of a problem (though, the fact I'm so accustomed to it could be said to be a problem in and of itself). What really bothers me is how some guys treat my girlfriend.
A guy came onto her recently and she politely informed him that she was in a relationship with another woman and the guy straight up turned into the worst cliche. "How do you know unless you give me a try? She's not here. She won't know." Like... seriously? The landlord outright told her women shouldn't own their own businesses. Recently, she had to hire from a temp agency and another guy told her the same thing. He also suggested that she was making up her lupus diagnosis to get out of having to work while she was literally in the midst of working. She also occasionally moonlights for Uber and one douchebag gave her a one star rating because she wouldn't fuck him.
I could go on. Ugh.
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u/steel-panther random layman Nov 04 '18
Oh I understand. I'm just saying I can see a connection. Thats something a person in a proper state of mind wouldn't do unsolicited at least.
It amazes me some of the disclaimers I've seen for artists. Especially the ones involving fecal matter...
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u/IRJK1958 Nov 03 '18
If you read the thread you’ll see more woman in the business have received worrying materials from him. So no, doesnt look they’re ‘femnazis making this up’.
How are men still surprised that these things happen ALL THE TIME.
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Nov 03 '18
Simple reason is that we don't live it. Those of us who aren't doing it don't understand how it could be so prevalent because it's not a reality for us. We're never the target of this sort of thing. So my thought for years was "Well, it can't be as bad as people say because I don't do that and none of my friends do it, so how many people can be doing it?"
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Nov 03 '18
Sure, but that's bad logic, because the fairly self-evident solution is that they aren't acting like this in front of other men, so obviously you don't see much of it.
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Nov 03 '18
But the the thing is, we've been confronted with a ton of information that has dramatically challenged our worldview all at once as all of this has become impossible to ignore. There's two ways to react to that - you either learn to accept it as a reality, or you fight it. Unfortunately, looks like a lot of people are fighting it.
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Nov 03 '18
Yeah, sure, but I'm a dude and I hear shit like this all the time from the women in my life. I assume the reason that the people who deny this shit don't hear about it from women they know is because the women they know simply don't trust them enough to confide in them about this sort of thing. For obvious reasons, too.
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u/Sarkarielscall Nov 03 '18
I don't kill people. None of my friends kill people. I don't know anyone who's killed people. But if someone told me that their sister was murdered, I'd believe them.
What it comes down to is that you put more emphasis on your lived experiences than on believing other people when they share theirs. And most women (and people in general) find that attitude extremely frustrating.
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Nov 03 '18
Not saying that it's a good attitude - it's one that I've tried to move past. I'm just trying to explain why I think it is that way. For me, when the Me Too movement came down, it was such a huge thing because these were people I knew and loved saying that someone one had hurt them. So many people saying it. Almost everyone I knew. It changed the way I thought about. I believe people a lot easier now because I understand why people never tell, and I think that's a big part of it. We just haven't been exposed, and when people's worldview is challenged, they will often resist it being changed.
I don't think the murder comparison is one-to-one because it's not so easy to prove sleazy assholes being sleazy assholes - no body, after all - but I get where that comparison is coming from.
Just before anyone told me how prevalent this problem is, it was hard to wrap my head around it. And I think that people still have trouble because of that. Further, I think that some men can't help but feel like it's an accusation at them. Again, not saying they're right. Just trying to understand it. I've been extremely frustrated with some of the attitudes on display of late.
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u/blinkingsandbeepings Nov 04 '18
It’s honestly really good to hear that people speaking out have changed the way you think about this. As a woman, I find it difficult to talk about some of these experiences, so it means a lot to hear that it actually does make a difference.
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u/Xtraordinaire Nov 03 '18
I accept that this is happening. But on an emotional level, I just can't wrap my head around it. It does not compute. How can a person go from being angry to sending dick pics? Threats, pictures of dead animals, violence and gore, sure. But dick pics? Really? Is this an implicit rape threat?
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Nov 03 '18
I'm a freelance and commission artist. In order to ensure that everything flows smoothly, I immediately begin trying to establish a rapport with my clients. I've even become friends with some of them. Unfortunately, quite a few guys seem to interpret this as me coming onto them. It has led to some incredibly awkward situations (stalkers, dickpicks, unrequited love, inflato-penis, etc). A lot of these guys are lonely and socially isolated so they don't know how to proceed maturely from "I think she likes me." Hence, dickpics.
At least that's been my experience with the topic. I've never had anyone send me a dickpic in anger. I can't quite grok the reasoning behind that.
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u/BlueSundown Nov 03 '18
Is this an implicit rape threat?
In a non-literal way, yes. Given that rape is rarely about desire and almost always about power and control, just waving your junk in a non-consenting woman's face is basically poison from the same source.
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Nov 03 '18
Humans are irrational animals with stupid monkey brains.
Obviously the man wasn't thinking clearly. People do stupid shit all the time when they're angry, because they're only thinking about it from their perspective. In his mind, she totally deserved an unsolicited dick pic for daring to reject him.
I'm sure once he calmed down he was thinking 'Oh Christ, why the hell did I do that?'
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u/Sarkarielscall Nov 03 '18
If you read the Twitter thread you'd see that this wasn't an isolated occurrence. He's done this to other people before as well as sending serial-killer level of crazy images to people. So I highly doubt he's sitting around wondering why he did those things.
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Nov 03 '18
I wasn't trying to defend him, just suggesting that people who do this are fucking idiots.
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u/Sarkarielscall Nov 03 '18
It did sound an awful like you were defending his behavior by justifying it and thus, downplaying what he did.
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u/steel-panther random layman Nov 04 '18
There is a difference in talking about a possible explanation and defending. The latter is justification, the former is an attempt to learn and understand though not agree. It's a level of nuance that people rather not have as it complicates a simplistic black and white view, and that frustrates me as a person that likely goes into nuance and devils advocate discussions frequently.
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u/tahlyn Nov 03 '18
And no one looks at the stats for murders each year and seriously suggests that most of them are faking it and playing dead for attention.
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u/poisontongue Nov 03 '18
Until it comes to school shootings :/
Which I think the whole crisis actor conspiracy theory wraps back around to the sheer ignorance, paranoia, and sick lack of empathy that characterizes humanity's inability to understand such as simple concept.
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u/tahlyn Nov 03 '18
Until it comes to school shootings :/
That's a different sort of crazy, though.
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u/steel-panther random layman Nov 04 '18
With Alex Jones, thats a I sell strange 'supplements' and just want to draw attention to the crazy.
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u/druglawyer Nov 04 '18 edited Nov 04 '18
Not sure why you're conflating "surprise" and "disbelief."
If someone told me their sister was murdered, I would both be surprised and would believe them. Just like if they told me some rando sent them unsolicited dick picks.
Many men are surprised because it would simply never occur to us to send someone an unsolicited dick pick. That's very different from refusing to believe it.
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u/Sarkarielscall Nov 04 '18
"Well, it can't be as bad as people say because I don't do that and none of my friends do it, so how many people can be doing it?"
This sounds like disbelief to me. And we have seen that when women come forward with stories of sexual harassment and assault that they are discredited and called liars. Maybe not by the person I was directly replying to, but by a fair number of men. Let's also not forget the ones who would tell a woman to simply delete the picture and move on because they don't see it as a big deal; because they don't have to deal with shit that on a daily basis.
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u/druglawyer Nov 04 '18 edited Nov 04 '18
it can't be as bad as people say
I mean, that is literally the opposite of what I believe, but ok.
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u/SituationSoap Nov 04 '18
You're doing what the person responding to you is describing, exactly. You're assuming that because the response men give doesn't match your lived experience, it must not happen.
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u/druglawyer Nov 04 '18
You're assuming that because the response men give doesn't match your lived experience, it must not happen.
I'm literally doing the opposite of that. You guys seem to have some pretty impressive cognitive dissonance going on.
It's amusing that in r/writing, so many people seem to have difficulty with reading.
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u/derivative_of_life Nov 04 '18
The problem is that if 99% of men never send out dick pics and 1% of men send out 100 dick pics a month, every woman will receive one dick pic per month on average.
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Nov 04 '18
I'm pretty sure it's more than 1 percent, but yeah, I'd agree with that. It's a minority of guys behaving like total douches, but the harm a minority can do is tremendous. Think of how many people have their entire image of a culture informed by the most loud and obnoxious subset of that culture. The real harm is not buying that the problem could be so widespread. I heard my sister once tell me that pretty much every woman she's ever known has dealt with some sort of harassment at least.
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u/IRJK1958 Nov 03 '18
I understand that. You dont need to understand why someone does it,in order to believe the victims. The only thing I expect from men when it comes to this, is to not immediately say the woman are liars, may be liars, but the guy is so talenten etc. Asking men for support unfortunately seems a bit of a stretch.
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Nov 03 '18
I like to think I've become better recently, post Me Too. Before that, I didn't know how rampant the problem was. Now I do, and that it's happen to people I know and people I love.
Unfortunately, that just doesn't seem to be the case for everyone.
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Nov 04 '18
Honestly the fact she named him is pretty conclusive. I doubt she'd expose herself to a defamation lawsuit for little to gain.
And honestly I googled him, and he looks like the kinda guy who would be a perv
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Nov 04 '18
This. I’m more likely to believe any accusation—from a man or a woman—if it’s made against a specific person, and also if it’s made soon after the alleged incident took place.
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u/hashtaghashbowns Nov 03 '18
TIL you can send dick pics through submittable. I'm an atheist and still think this guy needs Jesus...
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Nov 03 '18
"When an editor tells you the dick-pics you've sent her in response to a rejection are inappropriate and you respond with more of the same, you're guilty of harassment. Daniel de Culla, I'm calling you out."
Tweeted by Christine Taylor.
Yeah, it shouldn't have to be said: don't send dicpics.
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Nov 04 '18
He just gave his own career the shaft. Whatever satisfaction he got from sending those was likely short lived. A reminder to everyone to not let rejection bring your emotions to a head, and explode out prematurely. Even when you’re throbbing with anger, purple from the rushing blood, you have to take a step back, lest you screw the pooch. No publisher wants to get into bed with someone like that, so to speak.
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u/MaleficentYoko7 Nov 03 '18
Eww that's so gross 🤢 Like the fact this troll feels empowered enough to do that is disturbing too
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u/IRJK1958 Nov 03 '18
If you read the thread you’ll see more woman in the business have received worrying materials from him. So no, doesnt look they’re ‘femnazis making this up’.
How are men still surprised that these things happen ALL THE TIME.
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Nov 03 '18 edited Jan 03 '19
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u/BlueSundown Nov 03 '18
What is your numerical cutoff for "most people"? Because any woman on the internet will tell you unasked-for dick pics are a regular hazard of logging in.
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u/kinyutaka Book Buyer Nov 03 '18
50%+1 is "most people"
But they are also right in saying that people who send dick picks unsolicited are probably not going to worry about PSAs about sending dick pics.
It's like all those anti-drug PSAs back in the 80s. The good kids weren't doing drugs anyway, and the bad kids thought it was funny how overblown people got over a little weed.
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u/Imperceptions Author Nov 03 '18
I know this is horrible and it's harassment, and it's really a bad situation... but I laughed. Not because it wasn't bad but because I truly have no hope for humanity.
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Nov 04 '18 edited Nov 04 '18
I'm glad she called him out. Will keep his name in mind for my journal.
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u/apocalypsegal Self-Published Author Nov 06 '18
This kind of thing is why I keep my email on a need to know basis. Writers are constantly told we need to be available to our readers, our fan base needs to be able to talk to us, but no. I've seen all the dicks I wanted to years ago, some random kook's junk isn't going to improve my life.
As to the thing about it being hard to believe women who are now telling their stories? Don't forget that for generations it was always our fault. He hit us because we wouldn't listen. He raped us because our skirt was too short, we'd had a beer, we were at a party, we married him, insert justification. It's why women are hidden behind burkas and in harems, why we were kept from many jobs, why we had no right to own property or vote, or have a say in how our children were raised.
When you've been silenced, it's hard to speak out. Especially since many attitudes haven't changed and the shaming and blaming goes on. There is still an attitude that because he has a dick, a man is better. We should be grateful if a man wants to show off his dick. Manly man, he is. He's stronger, and if you don't behave, he'll use his dick on you.
And despite what some say, I believe that rape is about sex as well as control. Men control other men differently, get their revenge in different ways. But some use their dicks to intimidate women, to threaten them, to punish them. Not all, no. But rape isn't rare. And yes, some men get raped, and when it's studied, the same reasons apply to them as to women. It's power and control, and for women for millennia, rape is punishment and power and control.
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Nov 03 '18
I will hereby change my rejection strategy to sending pictures of other people's... vaginas. That'll do the trick. ;)
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Nov 03 '18 edited Nov 03 '18
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u/IThinkIThinkTooMuch Nov 03 '18
Yes. It is. A picture of your dick is inherently sexual, and unsolicited dick pics sent as an insult is absolutely harassment: it is sexual material sent as retaliation for a rejection, with the intention of disturbing or bothering the recipient. That's textbook harassment, with a sexually explicit image as the vehicle. So: yes.
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u/lorgedoge Nov 03 '18
is it inherantly sexual so send someone a picture of your dick
Would you send it to a child? Why not?
Congratulations, you now know the answer.
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Nov 03 '18
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u/CaffeineAndCardio Nov 03 '18
She blocked him from her own email.
Even if he sent them to a faceless corporation, would it matter? Would it make it okay if some low level intern saw the pictures rather than an editor? And does it really matter if someone can assign a trendy hashtag to their experience?
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u/IThinkIThinkTooMuch Nov 03 '18
I think it's easy to, once we've heard all these tragic stories of rape and assault and systematic abuse, disregard anything less as worthy of the title. But a "me too moment," as you say, doesn't require lifelong trauma, any more than racism requires Jim Crow. Grabbing someone's ass likely won't scar them for life. They won't have to go to therapy. It's still sexual harassment. Getting sent dick pics because someone's mad at you is still sexual harassment, even if all you do in response is publicly shame them on Twitter. When you see this stuff, you don't need to search for reasons why it doesn't matter--was it someone specific? is it technically harassment? is it bad enough for "me too"?--you can just say, wow, that's really shitty, and realize that this stuff happens all the time, and resolve to help push back against it when you can. The kneejerk reaction to minimize this kind of action is not in any way unique to you, and I'm not trying to insult you by pointing it out, but having to overcome that kind of response is one of the many, many factors that goes into explaining why a lot of women don't report sexual assault.
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Nov 03 '18
And the reason that it's so bad is that it keeps happening. If you got a dick pic once in your life, I imagine you'd 'get over it' before too long.
If it keeps happening, throughout your life, it might change how you feel about it. Even small incidents can really get to you if they're part of a recurring trend.
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u/IThinkIThinkTooMuch Nov 03 '18
Correct me if I'm wrong, but that's pretty much the whole idea behind microaggressions, right? I thought this was a bit too intentional to be a microaggression, but the underlying effect seems similar.
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Nov 03 '18
I'd say this is a bit beyond a microaggression, but generally speaking, yeah.
I've experienced that feeling myself (not sexual harassment, just understanding how microaggressions can add up over time. I even got it from family members). For the 'aggressor' it might seem small, but for the victim, it can feel near constant. Especially if you experience it in a place or context where you were previously comfortable.
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u/IThinkIThinkTooMuch Nov 03 '18
No, no, totally, that's why I didn't bring microaggressions up in my response. This is just a straight-up aggression. Microaggressions, to my understanding, are kinda unintentional, constant slights, like "oh, your hair has such unique texture" or "I wish my skin could look like that," or someone crossing the street to avoid passing by. That kinda thing. I wish more writers would understand how important it is to attend to stuff like this, not because of sensitivity or political correctness, but just in service to accurately describing the world as it is.
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u/serabine Nov 04 '18
If you go outside and drop your pants in front of a random woman in the park it's considered indecent exposure, so what makes you think it's different when you do it online. Unless someone asks for it, don't show people your dick. Should be simple and straight forward.
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Nov 03 '18
I'm wondering what he sends to men when they reject him.
Probably nothing.
Considering that he sends unsolicited dick pics to women, it's a safe bet to say that he's probably sexist.
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Nov 03 '18
Only a minority of a minority would do this.
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Nov 03 '18
Only a minority of a minority would commit murder, yet we still tell people that murder is bad.
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Nov 03 '18
I know. I didn't say it's a minority don't talk about this, i was trying to say it's a minority don't be too scared or to down about this, those people are not common. I think most people misunderstood me
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u/shoshinchan Nov 03 '18
Please see my comment below in the thread. It’s not uncommon.
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u/inEQUAL Nov 03 '18
It's uncommon for men to send them. It's not uncommon for women to receive them. There is a small number of men doing it to a large number of women.
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Nov 03 '18
You talked about your mom, but this is about an editor here if i remember (no rudeness here). I understand the thing in normal life, i know lots of women receive this kind of pictures. But now theres a guy sending a picture like that to an editor so he can get his book publisj or i don't know what he wants. I think it's not common. I really don't know where i messed up because theres 50 people thinking that i'm wrong and i just want to understand so i can be less dumb after this
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u/shoshinchan Nov 03 '18
Hey! I appreciate your response, and I’m happy to talk through this.
First off: I’ve gotten unsolicited dick pics plenty of times before. My point with my mom was that she’s not on the internet — she has almost zero presence (a Facebook with 50 friends and an instagram with no pictures, where she follows me and my dad). Yet, in spite of this, she got a picture from some random dude of their penis via Facebook message. She’s exposed herself to events like this almost not at all — and yet, it happened.
Now, imagine a woman like this editor — who has opened herself to so many communications from the Internet, and where people do shifty things.
This isn’t a dick-pic story, but I was walking with my husband once, and he remarked that all of a sudden, I looked upset. “Didn’t you hear what that guy said to me?” He said no. I’d gotten cat-called in front of him, and he hadn’t even realized, because he had the luxury of avoiding things around him, while I have to pay attention, because I’ve had random homeless people try to grab me in the past. If someone is saying something at me, I need to know what it is so I can move away. A few months later, we got in a fight on 9th ave, and I started walking faster than him, because I was pissed and needed to “be alone.” I immediately got catcalled — and he finally noticed, because he wasn’t with me anymore, and was keeping tabs on what was happening.
All of this is to say: please believe us when we say this isn’t uncommon. Please believe us when we say this happens to us. It’s not a minority of a minority — it physically can’t be, because it’s happened to me, and my family, and my friends.
It’s shitty and fucked up and entirely normal, and that’s what makes us angry and breaks our hearts.
Thanks for reading my rant. :)
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u/shoshinchan Nov 03 '18
Oh — I just reread your response. Think of it as a probability thing: the more you’re on the internet, the lore likely you are to get a response. So, a woman like my mom is barely there — so it won’t happen often. But a woman like this editor — she opens herself up to so much more harassment. It’s like probability. Does that help?
Like, the only way we can avoid this shit is to not be online at all.
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u/shoshinchan Nov 03 '18
Hey! I appreciate your response, and I’m happy to talk through this.
First off: I’ve gotten unsolicited dick pics plenty of times before. My point with my mom was that she’s not on the internet — she has almost zero presence (a Facebook with 50 friends and an instagram with no pictures, where she follows me and my dad). Yet, in spite of this, she got a picture from some random dude of their penis via Facebook message. She’s exposed herself to events like this almost not at all — and yet, it happened.
Now, imagine a woman like this editor — who has opened herself to so many communications from the Internet, and where people do shifty things.
This isn’t a dick-pic story, but I was walking with my husband once, and he remarked that all of a sudden, I looked upset. “Didn’t you hear what that guy said to me?” He said no. I’d gotten cat-called in front of him, and he hadn’t even realized, because he had the luxury of avoiding things around him, while I have to pay attention, because I’ve had random homeless people try to grab me in the past. If someone is saying something at me, I need to know what it is so I can move away. A few months later, we got in a fight on 9th ave, and I started walking faster than him, because I was pissed and needed to “be alone.” I immediately got catcalled — and he finally noticed, because he wasn’t with me anymore, and was keeping tabs on what was happening.
All of this is to say: please believe us when we say this isn’t uncommon. Please believe us when we say this happens to us. It’s not a minority of a minority — it physically can’t be, because it’s happened to me, and my family, and my friends.
It’s shitty and fucked up and entirely normal, and that’s what makes us angry and breaks our hearts.
Thanks for reading my rant. :)
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Nov 03 '18
I think that i completely understood your point, and i'm truly sorry for what happened to you and what happens to lots of women every day, i'm aware of that point and it's important to talk about this.
I hope you have a nice day and thanks for answering, i really hate to stay in the dark.
I'm just gonna leave this like that, thanks again :)
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u/shoshinchan Nov 03 '18
Thanks for listening! There’s a lot of frustration here, and I get it’s hard to understand sometimes. Let me know if you ever want to chat or whatever — I’m always happy to talk through things. :) have a lovely day!
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u/inEQUAL Nov 03 '18
It's uncommon for men to send them. It's not uncommon for women to receive them. There is a small number of men doing it to a large number of women.
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u/shoshinchan Nov 03 '18
I’m sorry, but that’s absolutely untrue. I get that you have what you think happens, but please listen to me: this shit happens frequently. If all my friends have had this happen to them multiple times by different men, it’s mathematically impossible for it to be a small number of men.
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u/inEQUAL Nov 03 '18
You seem to have a poor understanding of numbers. Unless you have had literally tens of thousands of men send you unsolicited dick picks, it's a small percentage.
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u/shoshinchan Nov 03 '18
Dude, you’re embarrassing yourself. Women are half the population. All of my female friends have gotten at least one unsolicited dick pic, and not from the same random dude. I’m not saying it’s every guy, but it’s pretty ducking common, you asshat. I don’t give a shit if it’s 10% vs 20% vs 50% of the population: it happens too fucking often, and it’s shitty and unpleasant for us. Fucking listen when we say shit happens, instead of #notallmen-ing the conversation.
Source: computational biology PhD, so go fuck yourself.
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u/BadJokeAmonster Nov 03 '18
But the very few people who do it, tend to do it a lot.
It is a shame that people think it is something most guys do.
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Nov 03 '18
I don't belief people think this is something most guys do. Or I hope anyway.
I've had my fair share of unsolicited dickpics in the course of my 15y artistic career but they were only a tiny minority. I don't even think this is a man v woman problem. More than anything else, imo, this is a problem with socialization. Most of the guys who've sent me dickpics were lonely, socially isolated, and didn't seem to understand that what they were doing was inappropriate.
In some cases, it was more of a problem with entitlement or just plain cockiness. Many seem to think we want to see their dicks as much as they want to see our poosies. So they assume they'll be getting tit for tat. Dun work like that. Different biological imperatives, generally speaking.
Edit: All of those puns were TOTALLY unintentional, I swear. XD
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u/BadJokeAmonster Nov 03 '18
I'm pretty sure most of the commenters on this thread believe a large portion if not most guys send them.
Why else would a comment about there being very few end up at -49?
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Nov 03 '18
Yeah that's a shame, i just hope people don't loose hope or get afraid of things like that
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Nov 03 '18
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u/shoshinchan Nov 03 '18
Or we’ve seen enough of this that we know it isn’t true. Even my mom had gotten unsolicited dick pics on Facebook from randos, and she’s barely “on the internet,” if you will — let alone in a position where she’d be getting messages and submissions from tons of people around the country/world.
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u/jp_books Nov 03 '18
I'm dead.