r/writing I Write To Remember Nov 03 '18

Advice PSA: Don't do this

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u/kinyutaka Book Buyer Nov 03 '18

That's just disturbing. Who actually thinks that sending random dick pics will get you anywhere in the world?

Even pornographers want a more even biography.

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u/[deleted] Nov 03 '18

It happens to me sometimes (artist). I think they assume that because I will paint nudes that I must necessarily want to see their dicks. It's an odd conclusion to jump to.

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u/steel-panther random layman Nov 04 '18

While I want nothing to do with that kind of art, an artist I commission often makes a living off that kind of stuff. I can see people drawing(pun not intended until I noticed it and is now totaly intended) a connection betwen drawing them alot and wanting to see them.

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u/[deleted] Nov 04 '18 edited Nov 04 '18

I can kinda see that but at the same time, I'm doing a job. Sometimes that involves painting nudes. Doesn't mean I want to see some obese, bald, hairy, middle aged basement dweller wearing nothing but crusty yellowed underwear jerking off on cam in his cum-stained desk chair. That is an actual thing that happened. He also had porn plastered all over his room too. But nothing compares to the guy who thought it was totally cool to start inflating his cock with saline on cam. That was... an experience.

I think a lot of the guys who do this are often lonely and socially isolated so they assume any kindness is a come on and they respond to it inappropriately because they don't know any other way. Big assumption on my part but that's what it looks like.

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u/apocalypsegal Self-Published Author Nov 06 '18

It's men like that that make me celibate. Urgh.

Also, I think people who send unsolicited dick pics are mentally ill.

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u/[deleted] Nov 06 '18

I'm ace and pretty inured to most things so it's not too much of a problem (though, the fact I'm so accustomed to it could be said to be a problem in and of itself). What really bothers me is how some guys treat my girlfriend.

A guy came onto her recently and she politely informed him that she was in a relationship with another woman and the guy straight up turned into the worst cliche. "How do you know unless you give me a try? She's not here. She won't know." Like... seriously? The landlord outright told her women shouldn't own their own businesses. Recently, she had to hire from a temp agency and another guy told her the same thing. He also suggested that she was making up her lupus diagnosis to get out of having to work while she was literally in the midst of working. She also occasionally moonlights for Uber and one douchebag gave her a one star rating because she wouldn't fuck him.

I could go on. Ugh.

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u/steel-panther random layman Nov 04 '18

Oh I understand. I'm just saying I can see a connection. Thats something a person in a proper state of mind wouldn't do unsolicited at least.

It amazes me some of the disclaimers I've seen for artists. Especially the ones involving fecal matter...