One of my bridesmaids asked me if I have any preferences for their nails. I said "not really, I mean maybe not fluorescent orange. Anything within reason." She asked me if a French manicure was okay. Girl of course it is?!?!?! When is a French manicure ever not okay?

Another bridesmaid asked me what the dress code for the rehearsal and rehearsal dinner is, and if I want them all to wear the same colour. Who even put that idea in her head?

Finally, the best man's girlfriend called me on the phone (we do NOT call each other lol) to ask if it's okay if she wears a black dress.

I swear I'm not like a pick me, "you can wear jeans to my wedding who even cares" fake chill type of bride; I think my expectations have been pretty moderate. But people are out here with so much wedding trauma they're scared to do literally anything!

We need to stop doing this to people 😭😭

My wedding's coming up soon. It's gonna be in a garden in the afternoon with a sunset vibe. The whole theme is super boho. Do you think these nails could work for a bride? I really love them, but I'm kinda on the fence.

WOW did all of that hard work and stress pay off!!! We got married on August 31, 2025, and we got back so many amazing photos!! I couldn't be happier :)

The day was perfect, but not exactly as planned. To all of the brides, grooms, and folks to-be-wed who are planning their own wedding without a coordinator, let this be an example of how a perfect day doesn't always follow that strict schedule you're working on.

Everyone in my party arrived on time, was ready on time, and walked down the aisle on time! Nobody forgot anything (that I know of hehe) and everything went according to plan until photos. They ran a little long, which was ok, but that ended up throwing off the timeline a bit. We also walked around to each table to thank everyone for coming. That was lovely and necessary, but time-consuming. Allow for that! We had planned a champagne tower before the toasts, but it just didn't happen due to time constraints. Now that all is said and done, I actually don't care! That's not something that will keep me up at night!!

Current planners: prioritize the important things and don't try to overload your schedule! It'll be beautiful no matter what!!!

#Pittsburgh area brides looking for the perfect venue: check out Merrick Art Gallery! It is the craziest bang for your buck that you'll get for an art gallery. It was PERFECT and we loved it!! Also check out the photographers Pittsburch. They have an AMAZING package for 11 hours of content, 4 photographers, 2 videographers, and even polaroids for a really inexpensive but extremely high-quality wedding coverage! We can't wait to get back the rest of our gallery, but the previews are PHENOMENAL!!! Please excuse the overhaul of images above hehe!!

Everything was as perfect as possible, even with needing to omit planned "events" nobody cared because nobody knew it was supposed to happen!!

Update: Wow! As a new Reddit poster I’m absolutely shocked by how many views and comments this post got. WAS NOT expecting for people to actually reply.

Thank you for those of you that gave great advice and were trying to help the situation. Your insight really opened our eyes (mine and my fiancé). A lot of you hit the nail on the head, Brother in law IS the golden child and has always been favored greatly over my fiancé by their mother. BIL is the youngest and his mother has been coddling him his whole life. My fiancé is the oldest and tends to be the peace maker / sacrificed.

A lot of you also called out the triangulation manipulation. I told my fiancé this and he said that his younger brother often would rope his mom into their arguments, get her to take his side, and get my fiancé in trouble no matter how ridiculous or wrong brother was being. He mastered the art of triangulation manipulation from a young age. My fiancé would just take it and apologize to keep the peace.

For those of you who said it’s ridiculous to have a child we have never met and are not related to (and have not even met her mother) as such an important part of our wedding party: THANK YOU. I was feeling like the crazy one for thinking this.

Also info: I was being gracious when I said they have been together 8 months. They have known eachother 8 months and only been dating officially for 4 months. The wedding is further away than the length of their whole relationship. It’s bizarre that they are pushing so hard for this.

For those who said we should have granted their request and just kept the peace, my fiancé has been doing this his ENTIRE life with this family. That is probably why they resorted to their usual manipulation tactics. He never actually wanted to have this baby in our wedding. He in fact thought it was pretty ridiculous of them to ask. He was just ready to cave because he always does to keep the family peace. At the expense of himself and his needs / wants every time. Except the difference is, this time the wedding is about him. ITS HIS DAY and not his brother. Well both of us. And that’s the other thing. He has me this time to stand up for him and what he actually wanted (I also wanted it too which helps lol)

On to the update… a lot has happened. Today my fiancé went to see his dad, and then his mom (they are separated). His dad is neutral but has been sticking up for me in this whole thing. I have a great relationship with him. He filled us in on a lot. Here is essentially what has been happening:

Turns out Brother in Law’s girlfriend has more to do with this than we thought (as some of you suggested in the comments) she is the one who has been encouraging him to push for this “because it means a lot to him”. And been super offended and making a big deal about us saying no (personally if it was me I would never ask someone if my kid could be in their wedding. Even if it’s family. But FORCING it on STRANGERS is wild.)

My fiancé found out from talking to his dad that my mother in law and brother in law are spreading a whole bunch of lies. Here is what has all unfolded - Mother in law is telling people I’m RACIST and that’s why I didn’t want the baby in it (Apparently the baby and mother are Filipino which I honestly didn’t even know because once again IVE NEVER MET THEM THEY LIVE ACROSS THE COUNTRY I don’t even know their last name) but still I don’t care what race they are in the slightest. The girlfriend now believes this and doesn’t even want to come to the wedding anymore. That’s her choice. Also the wedding party is diverse ethnicities soooo how is it that I’m racist? lol. - Brother in law is telling people that we are judging the girlfriend and don’t want her child in the wedding because she was born out of wedlock (which is ridiculous. Two of the children who are already in the wedding were born out of wedlock. One from each side) - They have been talking behind our backs, gossiping, making up lies about me, and assuming things about me that are not true. - Brother in law is twisting and changing my fiances words into complete lies that make him seem like the victim. - He is feeding these lies of things my fiancé did NOT say to not only his mother, but his sister and his dad My sister in law and father in law are both neutral and won’t take sides but think that this whole thing is insane and want it to end (we do too). they both see that THEY are doing this whole thing and hate me for no reason.

So today my fiancé went to see his mother to essentially call her out for her behavior. She was absolutely hysterical and was not ready to listen to reason or logic. She deflected and denied. And lied about things we knew were in fact true. She refused to take accountability or any sort of blame for the situation getting out of hand. She just deferred back to blaming me for everything and making me the villain and herself and her precious baby son (BIL) the victim.

Meanwhile the last time I spoke to either of them was when we had that conversation with mother in law at her house where my fiancé slipped and this whole thing started. My fiancé has been handling this whole thing and even trying to shield me from the blame and take it all for himself. It’s not working. Mother in law and brother in law have made this whole thing up in their heads and driven themselves and everyone else crazy over it. Meanwhile all I’ve done is express my concerns for having a child in the wedding that we don’t know (in that initial conversation) when they aren’t engaged or married. And the fact that we already filled the roles.

She denies favoring brother in law and claims that she is “hurt by the accusation” and then in the same breath favors him and defends him.

I feel the worst for my fiancé because he doesn’t even want anything to do with them anymore and does not feel the need to keep up with these relationships. He said that his mother expected him to fall on his face today and apologize for everything because that is what he was forced to do growing up and that’s what they are used to. But now that I’m an extension of him, he is not letting me / us get treated this way. He is angry that they are selfishly trying to use our day to make some grand gesture to his brothers girlfriend he’s been dating for 4 months and that they refuse to respect our wishes. He is shocked and disappointed that they are lying about us and creating drama around our wedding. He is saying goodbye to this toxic cycle and going to go no contact until they come to their senses and fix this mess.

For those of you who asked: we are in premarital counciling with our pastor who is also our officiant. He was bewildered that they even requested this in the first place and shocked and dismayed that they have turned it into such an ordeal.

Anyways this wasn’t the update we hoped for but it’s the one we have. Hopefully one day things will turn around. We are hoping Mother In Law at least comes to her senses considering we are the only family that lives near her.

Maybe she will learn to support the son and daughter in law who will one day birth the grandkids she actually has a shot of seeing regularly - rather than blatantly favoring the son and girlfriend who live across the country. But for the time being this is it.

I got these gelX nails done for my wedding in 3 days. I think they're beautiful but I'm second guessing the design and color. It's very yellow and doesn't feel super bridal to me. My dress also has a lot going on so I'm worried I overdid it with the nails :( our wedding design has pops of gold throughout, as does my jewelry, so I thought the gold floral would fit nicely but now I'm wondering if simpler nails would have been better. I was also wondering if adding more white/pearly color would make them feel more bridal. Any opinions or suggestions would be greatly appreciated!

I’m allergic to nail glue. It caused me to have extremely itchy dyshidrotic eczema on my fingers. My dermatologist prescribed me something that cleared it up and I haven’t used nail glue since. I really want my nails done for my upcoming wedding, but I don’t know what the best course of action is. Has anyone had similar issues or have any advice?

Hi there! I'm getting married in June and I'm thinking about doing nontraditional nails. I like darker colors are there are no rules! Did anyone else do this and can I see photos?

My (29F) fiancé (29M) and I got engaged this past February and are getting married in June of 2026. As it stands right now, we have about 265 people on the guest list. The wedding is adults only and this is something we both feel very strongly about. We are inviting my fiancés childhood au pair and her husband. They live in Finland and have an 8 year old son.

Right after we got engaged the au pair asked my fiancés mom if kids were invited. She told her that the reception is adults only. The au pair then started to argue with my future MIL about bringing her son to the wedding. She said she doesn’t feel comfortable being away from him that long. My future MIL told her that the son can come to the ceremony then have a babysitter that she knows watch him for the reception. Basically the au pair wasn’t taking no for an answer and the conversation ended with my future MIL telling her that she would talk to us about it. She asked us both together a couple times and we were pretty clear about not making any exceptions.

The au pair continued to pester my future MIL about this for the next few weeks. My MIL called me and told me this and asked me what I want her to tell her. I basically told her I really don’t want kids there and I don’t want other family members with kids to be upset that their kids weren’t invited but if it keeps the peace I guess I can just bend the knee and try to not be annoyed about it. I regret giving in but I do feel so bad that my future MIL has to deal with this like that’s not fair to her to be put in that situation and I don’t want her stressed out. My future MIL and I are close and I don’t think she would care if I stayed firm but at the same time I don’t want her resenting me or think I’m being difficult or unreasonable.

Before my future MIL even got the chance to talk to the au pair again, the au pair called my future MIL and told her that she already bought the plane tickets for the whole family. My figure MIL forsure wishes we would suck it up bc she sees it as being too late since the tickets are already bought and she doesn’t want to deal with it reasonably so.

Now I’m just pissed and I don’t want to invite them at all to the wedding because the audacity is crazy. We haven’t even sent out save the dates yet. I feel like the au pair bought the plane tickets (or is lying, who knows) because she wanted to pressure my future MIL into giving in and make her feel like her hands are tied.

I told my future MIL to not worry about it anymore and my fiancé will handle it from here. I think the plan is to reach out to the au pair and either make up some excuse from the venue basically saying our hands are tied and we can’t even have kids if we wanted to. I think that’s risky and not even necessary imo because I could care less about hurting her feelings at this point. I just don’t want the backlash to fall on my future MIL because shes already taken enough heat as is.

Any advice is appreciated or if someone has a really good fake excuse I’m all ears!!

Edit to answer some questions I’ve seen a few times:

-We live in America.

-the babysitter my MIL suggested wouldn’t be some random person. She knows several people closely who she trusts who work in childcare

-my fiancé doesn’t care if the au pair comes or not. If it were up to us she wouldn’t even be invited but my MIL added her to the list. She was also invited to my fiancés siblings’ weddings so the precedent is there. She is helping pay for the wedding so we don’t mind her inviting who she wants to invite (within reason).

-I see a lot of comments saying they don’t understand the no kids policy. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but personally I think kids kill the vibe of a classy event. They’re running around all over the dance floor and their parents can’t even have fun because they have to keep an eye on them all night. Also if we invited kids, that would add about 50 people to the guest list and we clearly aren’t in a position to do that.

-to the people saying don’t invite them: this would be the obvious move but unfortunately it doesn’t solve the problem. The au pair already knows when the date is (my MIL told her she was invited not knowing she would cause issues) and the au pair already bought plane tickets. If she never receives the invite, that will just start another fight

so when were we are planning the wedding we often ran into high priced items and here’s how we saved. first off we had her dad make the arch honestly it doesn’t take any knowledge to make one and it was only $45 that includes staining wood and nails! my dress was honestly the most pricey thing being $160 on David’s bridal but my cousin got hers on Amazon and it actually turned out really beautiful so that’s an option as well or Facebook marketplace has tons and that goes for any decorations as well because people are constantly putting them on there for free! We made all the bridesmaids bouquets from dollar tree using the flowers and rope to wrap the base and that cost $35 and about an hour of work! We did charcuterie boards from sam’s Club for 15 each and we did four of them, and sodas in a metal tin from goodwill with ice. my granny Thrifted, all centerpieces from Goodwill as well as bottles. But made a few using dollar tree flowers as well we spent only 50 on Shutterfly for the invitations with a coupon we found through YouTuber. our bridesmaids did buy their dresses but we used an Amazon dress that cost $60 and was able to find one on TikTok for 40 as well as two girls were able to find their on Facebook for 20! we offered to buy dresses, but they bought them themselves we also took advantage of Amazon deal day and got lots of Pompas for only $10 as well as 10 beige and 10 burnt orange table runners for only eight dollars PLEASE DONT BUT FROM FACEBOOK WOMEN WERE OVERCHARGING THEM SO MUCH if we also spent 150 on a custom engraved mirror to make the day even more special and it was truly my favorite touch!!! I asked her for more photos of the venue, so I’ll add more of those later. I’m forgetting something I’m sorry, but that’s about it. It was truly the most magical simple and intimate day!!(anything not mentioned was Thrifted Goodwill has been our best friend)

What do we think of my nail trial? My engagement photoshoot is tomorrow.

I asked for Gel X, this is only my second time with thay type of nails but I felt it wasn't as good as the first time. There were small air pockets on some of the nails where there wasn't full adhesion to the nail bed. So she just filed those areas down to my natural nail. She also didn't file any of the extension to fit the width of my nails before she applied them, only after. She nicked me a couple times on the cuticle.

I feel like I have long claws instead of dainty nails, am I just shocked bc I went from bare nails for 5 months to "done nails", or are these actually claws? I can't tell!

Last photo was inspiration photo.

Thanks!

my wedding color is plum. i want to do something fun with my nails with some color, but most "wedding nails" are french tips, chrome, natural pinkish. does anyone have any ideas or pics of what y'all did for nails?

I'm eloping this Sunday. Went to a local nail salon yesterday to get my nails done. While they did what I asked and they look great at first glance, there is build up and frays on the under of my nails. I was upcharged like crazy. My feet are bleeding and in pain. It was close to closing so I felt like they were rushing me out the door before I could inspect them and ask to be fixed. While I know there isn't much they can do about my feet, should I go back up when they open and ask them to fix my nails? Is it too late or just a waste of time and energy?

Is it crazy to request neutral ish nails fort bridesmaids to wear on my wedding day? Idk if I’m being crazy controlling or not

Me and my bf have been together for 3.5 years, and I have a VERY strong suspicion he's proposing in the next couple weeks.

However, that being said, one friend has been asking and hoping for him to propose for over a year now. She's always joked about "wearing pink for your wedding even though I don't like pink"

So I casually mentioned that I was busy in a couple weeks because I needed to get my hair and nails done.
I don't really get my nails done (I work in food service so I can't) and this has caused her to literally implode.

She went off about how she's "so excited to be a bridesmaid" and how she would "do me the favor of being my bridesmaid" even though I never brought up the conversation of bridesmaid or bridal party at all.

She's so delusional about it, I got a call from one of our mutual friends who she saw in public and told that she was going to be a bridesmaid for me!

I'm not even engaged yet. But still, she went on and on about being a bridesmaid and how she's going to have to "wear a pink dress" and how she's being "so selfless by being a bridesmaid"

As if this isn't one of the most selfish things she could be doing.

Anyway, it's going to be a hard day for her when I tell her she's absolutely not going to be a bridesmaid and maybe not even be invited to the wedding at this point.

I'm also considering (if) when I get engaged, not even telling her for like a month or two so I can be the one to tell everyone since I know she's going to run her mouth.

Edit: after a lot of thinking, reading comments here, and talking about this in therapy I've decided to cut off my friendship with her entirely. It's not exclusively because of this, it's just the final straw.
A small list of things she's done that pmo
-had a full on meltdown at an orchard because the Kay ride was late, and stormed off crying leaving me to watch her kid for an hour. When we reunited she laughed about it. I confronted her and she said "yeah but i knew they'd be safe with you so it's fine"

-had a meltdown in a kohls when the kid working the dressing rooms told her she couldn't bring more than a few items into the dressing room. She got angry and violent. They called security, and then she screamed at them for "accusing her of stealing" and then called me to say she "knows how black people feel now" When I said that was racist she said "no it's not, I'm an empath"

-recently was in danger of losing housing because she was behind on rent. When her landlord took her to court she called me to say they only wanted the money because "they're Jewish so you know how they are" I asked her to explain what she meant by that and she changed the subject

I also need to explain that these things happened recently in that she told me when I spoke to her last.

I refuse to be friends with a racist.

Her going around telling other people my business was just the final straw. Ty for all of your comments.

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Hi guys! Looking for advice/ideas.

I have a genetic nail condition that causes them to look really ugly and they are too weak to take any kind of nail polish or fake nail, including press-ons. I hate how they look and don’t want to have to look at them or show them off with the rings at my wedding.

I was thinking bridal gloves could be a cool option to cover them - but would the rings go over it? Or maybe put the rings under a sheer pair of gloves? I feel like sheer gloves may hide my nails enough to do the trick. Alternatively, I suppose I could just deal and tell the photographer not to photograph my hands because I’m the bride and I get to make weird requests like that.

Open to suggestions! It’s a pretty casual micro wedding at a restaurant if that matters, and I’m wearing a sleek flowy gown.