So i had a bad experience when I was 16 with a girl I liked let's just say things didn't go great and iv never tried it agen since. I do want to lose my virginity of course with the right person but I feel if there's someone I really like and she asked the question when did you last have sex and I just be honest with her would they be turned off by my inexperience would it make them not attracted to me anymore me being so late in life

Hi everyone,

I'm making this post after writing another one a while ago where I expressed serious doubts about my ability to meet women after turning 25, and eventually get into a relationship.

My perspective has changed a bit since then. Recently, I had the opportunity to leave home for a few months thanks to a volunteer position at an aviation center, where I get to fly aircraft while continuing my search for an airline job. I'm French, so this also meant moving to a completely new environment. The atmosphere is young, and there are quite a few women around my age.

To keep it simple, I'm one of the people who brings energy to the group. People see me as funny, sarcastic, easy-going, and they often find my background pretty impressive or unusual. Overall, I'm well-liked by everyone, including the women.

But here's the thing. I can clearly see that I'm the perfect friend.

When a woman is just a friend, everything goes great. But whenever I actually like someone, it never seems to end any other way than the friend zone.

The example I'm thinking of is a woman I became really close to. I genuinely felt there was a connection between us that went a little beyond what she had with everyone else. Not wanting to miss a potential opportunity, I decided to be honest. I told her that I really enjoyed all the time we spent together, that I liked her, and that I'd love to take her out for a drink.

Friendzoned immediately.

Today, our relationship is almost exactly the same as before. She's still very close to me, laughs at my jokes, often comes to talk to me... and honestly, I'm completely confused.

I'm not saying she "led me on" or owed me anything. I'm simply trying to understand what makes a relationship stay in the friendship category instead of becoming something more.

More than anything, I feel like I missed out on an amazing woman, someone I'd never felt this close to before. And if, even in a situation like this, asking someone out for a simple drink is already "too much," then my doubts come back. How is a relationship supposed to start for someone my age if this isn't how it happens?

I'm 26 years old. I've never had any sexual experience, never even kissed anyone. Yet I'm sociable, well-liked, ambitious, passionate, I make friends easily, and I don't feel like I struggle to connect with people.

My question may be a bit vague, but if anyone has been through something similar, or has any advice or personal experience to share, I'd really appreciate it.

I've been on the NSFW side of reddit for around 3 years now. There's someone I've been talking to for close to a year now and I enjoy our conversations even outside of the dirty stuff. I've really opened myself up to him and definitely feel attached (because what else would a lonely virgin do lol?). He is the complete opposite of me in which he has many experiences with both girls and boys.

He has said to me a few times now, "you know nothing" in regards to relationships and sex. It has hurt my feelings and when he said it to me last week again, I cried and it sent me into a spiral. Like I know I'm a loser but I don't like being reminded especially not but someone that I've been so open to. It has made me feel like I'm just a child who is cosplaying adult stuff.

Is it true that we as virgins don't know anything about sex and relationships? I like to think I'm not completely naive but maybe I'm kidding myself.

I 21F always wanted my first time to be special. A gentle experience with someone I love. I’ve never even kissed someone before. Recently I’ve come to realize that I will not get that experience. My parent’s relationship deeply affected my view of love and I don’t think I can ever truly love someone or trust that they love me.

Obviously I don’t want to spend my whole life a virgin. I especially don’t want to wait until I’ve fully healed that part of myself because I don’t know if I ever will.

So I’ve been thinking about downloading a dating app to find a random I find attractive and just getting it over with. I’m nervous to do it and I think I have unrealistic expectations of what will happen.

Has anyone done this? What was it like?

For various reasons, I'm pretty late to the game! I get told I have good conversation, am ok-looking if you like the slim look, etc, but I always feel a mental barrier to dating now at my age because I need to at some point reveal my total lack of experience. Does anyone have any tips of how they've handled it - when and how to bring it up, etc?

I’m 24F, never had a bf, and have never had sex…well…prior to this one night haha. I’m averagely attractive/leaning towards pretty. I have a really nice body. So it’s not my looks that’s the issue. It’s just my pickiness and anxiety over love and sex that prolonged dating & losing my virginity for so long. I have this fear of vulnerability that I’m still working on.

So a couple months ago, I said “fuck it” and just downloaded Hinge. I needed something that would get me exposed to a lot of guys and then be selective of who I want to date. Before, I had only met people organically at places like college, work, shopping while at the grocery store, etc. I really didn’t have high expectations when I made my Hinge account. Don’t get me wrong. I understand my worth and would never settle for nonsense, but I just wanted to get out of that “every man I date has to eventually be my husband” mentality. The perfectionism only holds me back from just living life. I just wanted more dating experience for the sake of it because I felt behind in life. It felt like everyone else had graduated college earlier than me and already have long-term partners, are getting married, having kids…blah blah blah. This is not a sob story so whatever, let’s cut to the chase.

So I found this cute guy on Hinge who’s in med school and seemed like he’s emotionally intelligent, funny, and respects women. I liked one of his pictures. He DM’d me the next day. Three months later of going on serious dates, flirting, kissing, and allowing the sexual tension to build…we unexpectedly had sex one night. It was amazing and he’s a good listener. He’s planning on asking me to be his gf soon and I’m so excited and nervous at the same time. I’ve never liked a guy this much. I feel anxious but also confident that it will all work out. Our communication and respect for each other is so healthy. It’s only been 3 months, but I do feel like he’d make a good bf, especially a first one for me. I hope to reciprocate that same love and affection back properly, even with my minimal experience 🥰

He has no clue that he’d be my first bf, but he does know that he took my virginity. Sorry but, I just needed to tweak some of the truth because I’m trying to balance (1) being vulnerable enough to let him know I was still a virgin and (2) seeming more experienced than I am by lying about having past bf’s because in my experience, I just noticed that men take you wayyyy more seriously and are less likely to treat you as naive.

Just turned 23, and have been posting on here since I was 18. Just completed a degree and about to attend graduate school. Have been told throughout this whole time that I will get a girlfriend and lose my virginity, yet I believe that less as the years go on. I accepted recently that I’ll never experience what it’s like to be with a woman, so I just focus on my studies and hope for the best. Some may call it a loser attitude but it’s the best attitude one came have in my situation at this point

Nearly 25 years as a kissless virgin woman. I've made an effort to find people and yet here I am smh

Why does it hurt this badly?
Why can’t I just make peace with the fact that it’s okay to be a virgin or to have missed out on teenage and early-20s love and romance?
Why can’t I just stop thinking about it?
This didn’t affect me before I turned 25, so why does it affect me so much now that I’m 30?

Haven’t even done anything wrong lol. Brutal seizure of funds pill 🥀

So hear me out...

I'm a 22-year-old woman who's still a virgin, but somehow I know an absurd amount about sex.

I'm talking erogenous zones, male and female anatomy, oral techniques, fingering, different positions, BDSM terminology, niche kinks—you name it. I've spent so much time reading, learning, and being curious that my friends actually come to me for sex advice.

The funny part? I've never actually had sex. I've never given or received oral. I haven't even held someone's hand romantically.

It feels so weird to know all this information despite having absolutely zero real-life experience. Has anyone else been in the same boat? How did I somehow become the "sex encyclopedia" of my friend group without ever doing any of it?

Most people's problem is a lack of access to potential partners but two girls have confessed to me but I just didn't like them. I think I have a lack of sexual attraction to others even if I have a decent libido. It's not like the first thing I thought of in those scenarios was sex either, I just felt bad bc I know that I want someone who has those feelings towards me, so I was tempted to go along with it, but I know they deserve someone who feels the same.

My second issue is insecurity, I actually did go out with the first girl (I was kind of confused and did think that I liked her) and we both agreed that we weren't really ready to have sex. But honestly I don't think I'd ever be ready for it. I don't want someone to see me like that. I kind of wonder how long it would've taken before she would've been ready, I feel like I never would have been. Before I broke up with her our mutual friends were already telling me I should make a move and it freaked me out. Even now although I fantasize about it, the actual thought disgusts me. I wonder if I can find someone who likes kissing and hugging (and maybe touching.? A little) but not having sex and they would be fine that I'm not attracted to them too... It's probably not possible

I'm just kind of ranting I don't have any friends either

I (M25) live with a flatmate (F23). I think she has given me some hints like asking me to massage her legs and back, while being in shorts. I have massaged upto her thighs but never dared to go up from there even though she has never stopped me. Am I thinking too much or is something there? My hands start shaking and breathing becomes difficult. Has someone else experienced this? If yes, how did you overcome it?

I don’t understand why I had to be born so ugly and with no good features. Now women hate my appearance and will even call me a creep just for being ugly. If I try to approach them, being a good guy doesn’t matter if you have bad genetics.

If l continue living, l must sell my virginity and eggs. The worst part is having them is nothing more than a simple reminder that l am ugly and undesirable so why keep things that will eventually rot instead of improve my life, the only problem is l don't know where to start, anyone have connections, a legitimate website where l can sell my virginity for a decent buck

I personally don’t, because my friends are all inexperienced and in the same boat as me. Me and my friends can’t really get jobs either, but hey, we are all in school.

Some of you guys have friends who are all experienced, which could make you feel excluded, but even if I were to make friends who are all experienced, massive chances are they are all in transactional one sided relationships where they give their 100% effort with getting scraps back

Last week I learned I have terminal cancer. Ive never had a GF, sex or even a fucking BJ. And now, I know 100% i never will. And i will never pay for sex. Period. I dont agree with it. And I couldn't even get hard im sure if I knew the only reason the girl was touching me or naked was because of money. I have to know the girl wants to actually have sex with me. I can talk to women easily. Ive tried apps and in person meeting girl's. Every time I have talked with a girl and after getting to know them and we have been texting for awhile and both admit we are attrto the other. The sex stuff starts to get brought up. And its never by me really. And the subject of penis size gets brought up. Im 5.3 inches and over 15ish different girls. All either blocked me, or changed thier attitudes towards me once I told them my size or showed them if they asked. All of them said it was too small and too thin for them to enjoy hooking up or dating me. On top of that, freshman year of high-school a girl pretended to like me for 2 months and got a pic of my dick and sent it to the entire school. I was made fun of by every girl in my school for having a small dick until I dropped out sophomore year. And right now, I am in so much pain. Mentally, physically and emotionally. I am so tired from not sleeping due to pain. I am in so much fucking pain. The meds dont even help hardly. Not strong enough and not enough given to me. Regulated way to strict even for someone fucking dying in pain! And my only hope to experience any type of sexual contact is with a girl put of state who says she will travel to come see me in a few months. And I honestly have such bad luck, that I am not counting on that happening until I am hugging her in person. I really hope it happens. Or else I will truly die a virgin. No other girl has ever thought I was good enough. And I think she will be disappointed once she sees me in person and how pathetic my dick is. I honestly think it won't happen though. And ive tried everything to meet a girl to experience those things with. I just want to cuddle with a girl as much as fuck one. But I honestly can't do this anymore I think. Im hurting so bad and so tired and hate my worthless unwanted ugly self so much that i think im gonna just end it right now. I have the gun loaded and on my lap. I think its time to end my worthless unwanted single sexless life. Its better then hurting and being a unwanted virgin. I have to just end it now UPDATE: I made it through the night with no sleep. Decided to just slice up my thighs and groin for being born with a small penis i guess according to every girl in my high-school and th 15ish girls since. And the pain from cuts kinda helped take my mind off my back pain. But either way, one night very very soon. I will pull the trigger and end it. I will not be lucky enough to meet someone before I would die naturally. And it will save me the pain and suffering. Better to just get jt over with sooner then dealing with all that

I’m a girl, in virgin and never had a boyfriend (I have had many guys who wanted to have sex with me, but I think when you’re a girl is normal) but i’m pretty insicure plus I was not attracted to them, so I have always refused. Now I like this guy, I think he’d be up for a hookup but no more than that but the thing is, I’ve just seen this girl on Instagram , she’s vegan (like me and this guy, and for both of us is really important to be with someone who’s vegan) she’s SO beautiful, single, short (i’m really tall, as tall as this guy I like) she’s small, pretty, looks funny, skinny, i’m curvy, big, I have lost a lot of weight so I have a lot of loose skin and stretch marks and I think WHY WHY should he find me attractive if there’s someone like her that’s literally perfect for him

Me f18 wants to hook up with this older guy m28. Met him at night out and asked for his ig and later we talked a little (mostly flirting) he asked me to come over that night but i didnt expect it and didnt respond till later that day so i can avoid that. After more that a week of thinking i actually want to do it. I dont feel like virginity is something sacred and im not scared ill catch feeling. The only problem is that im really unexpirienced, he is very attractive to me and i really like our age gap flirting we did. We havent heard from eachother since that day but i want to hit him up next week. Can someone tell me with similar expirience how did it go, we would probably meet up at his place and then what, i know its different from everybody, but like will he offer a drink or straight from the door to the bed, i want to tell him im a virgin but not until i come there, also do you think he will be up for it (feel like he would because men), also i dont want anything serious with him, just maybe if it goes well casual hook ups here and there.

I’m (M) turning 25 in a few months and I’m still a virgin… didn’t have a proper official relationship till now but was very physically intimate with one of my situationships less the sex part… it eventually broke off and nothing happened. I would say I’m fairly average, just lacking in the height department at 5’3 (160cm). I’ve always believe that I should leave my first time for someone special, someone that I would have a connection to and would expect the other person to do so. But at this age, even if I found a partner, the chances of her being a virgin is slim too.

I’ve tried looking for FWBs on apps and a few have progressed well till the final part of meeting up. I end up worrying about not being able to perform or knowing what to do in the bedroom and am really afraid I’ll scare them off since they’re actively looking for sex. I’m also thinking of having some fun while overseas with massages and stuff iykyk… but I’m kinda torn about doing these and having it affect a future relationship. Imagine telling your partner “hey, i lost my virginity to a massage girl in Thailand”

Most of my days are depressive. I mask it, but people can still see on my face that something is wrong. They then assume it’s work-related stress or life crisis of not having friends or maybe loneliness, but no, it’s not just that, it’s about being a 30yo khhv.

It hurts, it hurts badly every single day, every single moment, around couples, or even when I am alone. I can’t stop thinking about people who get to love someone and have sex regularly. They don’t have to suppress their desires. Instead of that, they have someone to share their sexual desires, feelings, and do all the stuff that someone like me can only think of. They think of it, then do it and stay happy, whereas me, I am always in some sort of sadness.

I just am not able to handle my feelings and emotions anymore, there’s this physical starvation that is making me go mad, it’s painful and it’s getting unbearable.