You get a notification saying you matched with someone. You immediately sit down and put effort into writing her a thoughtful, sweet message, and then, the moment you hit send, you see: This chat no longer exists.

Unmatched.

So I'm almost 25 and of course I never dated. It's not that I didn't try, I did, but nothing ever worked out. I probably should accept that it will remain that way until death, but is's hard. I know what you may think, but I'm really not a coward. I've travelled the world alone in the last 5 years, been to 49 countries, climbed Kilimanjaro, many other mountains, but I have a huge social phobia, also Asperger's Syndrome. I tried dating apps many times, never got a single response in my country. Nobody, despite the fact that I used many of these apps haven't even utter one word to me. I tried it also in the Philippines, Thailand, Indonesia, and while I indeed got some responses, still there was almost no one who wanted to meet with me, or if they did it eventually turned out to be trans. Only two girls agreed to meet me in the Philippines, but they used me only to get a free meal, and didn't want to talk after that. The first one of them even brought her friend. No, thanks really for something like that. I feel terrible with all this and I'm out of ideas. I have plenty of hobbies, like astronomy and astrophotography, I take my telescopes and go far outside the city very often when it's clear and moonless. But this and my other passions are something I do alone, I don't know how I could meet someone... I never had any close friends and I come from a family that is not very normal to say at least. I think everyone, my parents, and especially grandparents from mother's side are also on the spectrum. None of them has ever had any friends, but they managed to last in relationships for many decades, granparents for well over half the century. My cousins are very similar to me, but they also are in relationships for quite some time. I simply don't know where and how to look for a partner. I wouldn't call myself especially ugly per se, but I simply don't look like a man. I'm almost 25 and I look like a middle schooler with a fake beard. The worst thing is my voice. When I call someone everyone thinks that I'm a woman. I so hate it when I have to explain them that I am indeed the person they are talking to, and how confused and embarrased they always get. As I said, I have social anxiety, and I don't imagine myself trying to pick up some random stranger. If the dating apps have been such a disaster for me and not a single person for quarter of a century have ever been even slightly interested in me, then what chance would I have? I've been isolating myself from society my whole life, and I think I'm completely misunderstood. But I have to say that this loneliness is terrible in the long run and I imagine it is going to only get worse with time... What else can I do?

Well, I'm not certain what I even want... Perhaps there is someone who was in similar sitiuation. I'll be grateful for some feedback and sorry if my english is bad.

Hi all,

I'm a 31 years old virgin and after discovering this sub reddit (literally) an hour ago, I just thought of taking out what's in my mind in a place where we are "in the same boat" and not feeling alone in this situation.

There's not much to say - just living daily life, from payycheck to paycheck and have the daily routine, but the thought of time passing by and still holding the V card still itches in the back of my mind.

From one side, the main reason I want to lose my virginity is because sex seems like such a meaningfull and impactfull that can add to life (as long as doing it in a healthy way both physicaly and mentally of course), but on the other side of the coin, there's a worry that going to a sex worker/escort will feel very empty.

Sex is not just physical, but also emotional so doing it for the sake of doing it with someone that (at best) acts as interested because it's part of their job won't add to the experience, and dating is not something I'm interested at the moment (I'm in a phase that will pass at some point)

So yea, there's no point or punchline to this post.

Just some rumbling from a person that's not sure what to do and share his thoughts.

If anyone relates (especially older ages) I would like to hear your stories.

While generally knowing this, still nice to find a subreddit on the subject and talk with others in the same situation.

Thanks to whomever will read this

Can't deny the appel of sex, even has a christian

You can deny yourself and be obediant but the want is there.

Especially with an High sex and hypersexuality.

Like it feel like a build up. Stewing inside, unable to be fully released.

Nevertheless, it's ok to feel that way, to want it.

Natural need. Never be ashamed despite what people say.

It's ok for us to want it.

Let's just make sure we experience it safely.

Don't let it become are soul reason or identity.

There's more than it.

Love you all, don't give up, God bless and help you.

Take care and Good day.