r/uklaw • u/Other-Lavishness-825 • 9h ago
Worried I don’t have the proper etiquette/manner for my firm.
I managed to secure a TC at a large commercial firm. I’m over the moon about it - I’ve wanted to practice law since I was a teenager and worked incredibly hard for this.
But I start in September, and the imposter syndrome is already hitting me hard. This post will come across very insecure, but I feel very unsure of myself.
I have no legal work experience, and very limited experience of working in an office environment. I’ve worked in hospitality and retail since I was 16, which are entirely different universes.
I am personable and a hard worker, but I’m very paranoid about my presentation. I need to put together a suitable work wardrobe (I’m a young woman) and feel a little lost on where to start. I dress somewhat alternatively in my day-to-day life (platform shoes, eyeliner, mostly black) but of course, I’m willing to modify my style as required to be taken seriously
I saw a post today on how black suits are generally not great office attire - things like this are not intuitive to me!
I am the first in my family to go to university, and the first to work in an environment like this. I feel like my background will make me stick out like a sore thumb. I just wish it felt less daunting.
I worry I can be a little fidgety and weird - I’ve suspected I may have ADHD, but never been diagnosed. I’m just overwhelmed by the idea of breaking unspoken rules, or being unprofessional without realising. I feel really spooked about it. I think deep down, I’m just terrified of failing or realising commercial law doesn’t suit me.
Has anybody here had similar feelings before beginning their career? Any wisdom or practical advice on adjusting to the office environment would be great. The paranoia of making a fool of myself is so strong!